You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Billy Garton Jr.
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A podcast designed to inspire a deeper sense of belonging, to self, others and the world. Through intimate dialogues with leading psychologists, self help gurus, and world leaders in business and sport, we explore the nature of consciousness, the psyche and its role in human potential, and why we’re really here. With the chief aim of equipping you with tools to consciously choose a more empowered, aligned & purpose driven life.

  1. 1d ago

    Master of Creativity: How to Create Meaningful Art - IN-Q - #026

    I left this conversation more inspired, uplifted and connected to the texture of my existence than I have felt in a long time.IN-Q is an emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, and best-selling author.This is an intimate window into his creative process, the perspective he adopts to create meaningful art, and a live demonstration of a few poems, both his and mine, that have touched the lives of many. It was a pinch me moment to have the opportunity to sit across from and read poetry to a man who has been the core icon I have looked to for inspiration when translating my world into words. I believe you will be touched by this conversation, and if you are, please let me know. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that offer you a deeper sense of belonging to yourself and the world. It is an honor to have you tuning in. You belong here. - Billy xFollow IN-Q: https://www.instagram.com/inqlife/?hl=enFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow You Choose Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters:0:00 Intro2:05 Having an Alias Gave Him Courage5:09 Inside Out vs. Outside In Creativity6:43 Write What You Wishe Someone Had Said8:26 Finding Flow9:24 Curiosity, Then Passion, Then Purpose12:28 What Does It Mean to Be Human?13:21 Math and Magic: Three Rounds of IVF16:37 The Duty of Finishing a Poem21:23 IN-Q Performs "Life Is All About You"24:36 Is the Art More Important Than the Artist?25:34 Do You Have to Suffer to Create?27:08 Why You Have to Learn Some Lessons Twice28:51 The Nine Breakup Poems30:53 How Your Art Becomes Your Mantra32:15 You Can Tell the Truth and Still Be Lying36:21 Anchors vs. Kites: Family and Success38:35 What a Good Mentor Actually Does39:35 Why Society Looks Up or Down, Not At41:47 IN-Q Performs "Right Before I Die"46:07 How a Single Idea Becomes a Poem48:47 Where "Life Is a Game" Came From50:35 How Long a Poem Takes to Write55:51 Don't Make It Great, Make It Honest57:07 Billy Performs "Darkness"1:02:33 IN-Q Performs "Life Is a Game"1:08:07 Why Being a Mom Is a Revolutionary Act1:11:33 How Fatherhood Changed Who He Is1:14:05 How to Detach From the Outcome1:15:50 How to Reach the Creative Space More Often1:17:07 Why More Can't Be the Goal1:20:31 What Play Looks Like as a New Dad1:23:36 Inspiration vs. Assignment

  2. Oct 7

    "Lock In" Masterclass: The Full Protocol For Men To Level Up - Santa Cruz Medicinals (Brendan Ruh) - #025

    Brendan, the founder of Santa Cruz Medicinals, may be the most influential voice in the world for young men right now. He walks down the street and cars pull over so kids can yell "Santa Cruz!" out the window. He funds his own content, he doesn't take the gambling money, and he shows people exactly how he lives. I didn't sit down with him to talk about supplements. I wanted to talk about the inside of a young man's life, because I believe that's where the real crisis is. The loneliness. A dating world that feels rigged. A brain so cooked by the scroll that it feels nothing and everything at the same time. We spoke about larping, looksmaxxing, mogging, mewing, monk mode, rage baiting, sexual market value, AI girlfriends, sports betting and the manosphere itself. A few of his answers surprised me! If you're a young man who feels stuck, lonely, or like the game is rigged against you, this one is for you. And if you love one, send it to him. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. This episode includes a conversation about those who contemplate taking their life. If you're struggling, you are not alone. In the US, call or text 988 to reach the Crisis Lifeline. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists free support near you. The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Follow Santa Cruz Medicinals: https://www.instagram.com/santacruzmedicinals/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Chapters 0:00 Mental and Physical Health Are The Same Thing 1:23 Why Gambling and Alcohol Run the Internet 4:29 The Biggest Crisis Facing Young Men 6:09 Black Pill Crowd 7:30 Why Dating Is So Hard Right Now 8:54 How Short-Form Scrolling Blunts Your Dopamine 12:26 Men Need to Get Closer to Rejection 13:14 The Best Dating Advice 14:35 Get Your Health Right 15:38 Happiness Is the Wrong Goal 18:05 You Need Hobbies Rooted in Nature 19:00 Homies, Health, Hobbies 19:27 What Women Are Actually Attracted To 23:24 Influencers, Parents, and Personal Responsibility 25:23 Why Manosphere Creators Are So Popular 27:19 The Hard Truth About the Dating Market 28:20 What Makes a Man Attractive 32:32 Billy on Being the Unattractive Kid 37:45 Control Your Breath 40:39 Tell Someone WHat You're Going Through 42:00 "Nobody Cares", and That's Good News 49:38 The Three-Minute Morning Routine 51:20 The Evening Wind-Down Routine 53:32 Labelling, ADHD, SSRI's 59:55 Why Cutting Recess and PE Backfires 1:06:50 Larping: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:12:22 Sexual Market Value: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:13:46 Looksmaxxing: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:21:33 Mogging: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:23:39 Mewing: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:25:12 Monk Mode: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:26:30 Rage Baiting: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:29:59 AI Girlfriends: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:35:27 Sports Betting: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:38:45 The Manosphere: Healthy or Unhealthy? 1:40:11 No Friction, No Fulfillment 1:48:43 What Losing His Dad Taught Him 1:55:28 Why Friendship Comes Before Everything 1:57:35 Lock In for 30 Days

  3. Sep 30

    Identity Shifting Masterclass: Start A New Life In 9 Months- Charlie Rocket - #024

    You are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday. These are Charlie Rocket's recipes for reinvention. Not many are more qualified to speak on this than Charlie. He got fired twice in the music business, then went on to manage 2 Chainz. At 29, he was 300 pounds with a brain tumor. Nine months later, he was a Nike athlete. He then left that world behind to build a multinational charitable organization called the Dream Machine Foundation, where he travelled the country making people's dreams come true. He has since established himself as a global speaker, and in this episode talks openly about his next phase of reinvention: becoming a NYT Bestselling Author. He is a testament to the power of delusional optimism, as well as the profound humility to begin again, time and time again. His life is vibrant because he has been willing to choose again when his spirit longs for something new, and this conversation invites you into the 'how' behind it all. Enjoy :-) Follow Charlie: https://www.instagram.com/charlie Follow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr Chapters: 0:00 Why Charlie Rocket Calls Himself Crazy1:56 The Recipes Behind Every Reinvention4:31 Having a Brain Tumor, 300 Pounds, and Total Loneliness6:40 Why Everything Wrong With You Is a Gift12:18 The Alter Ego Effect14:39 The Science of the Batman Study16:26 The Golden Circle of Identity18:37 Dress the Part, Becoming CEO Charlie22:39 Why Success in Music Left Him Empty27:31 Becoming a Nike Athlete33:13 How Your Reticular Activating System Filters Reality35:18 The Winning Streak38:52 The Backwards Manifestation Method48:41 The Law of 6258:12 The 20 Hour Rule1:02:04 Why Imposter Syndrome Means You're on Track1:07:20 Tell No One or Tell Everyone?1:15:37 Abracadabra: Speaking Nike Into Existence1:20:22 People Treat Your Dream How You Do1:22:27 The $10 Million Dumpster Test 1:28:30 How to Make Embarrassment Your Fuel1:31:10 How to Utilize Your Ego1:32:59 Train Your Ego Like a Dragon: Feed, Aim, Tame1:40:55 The Art of Quitting1:42:19 Finding Your Purpose: Progress Before Purpose1:49:42 Faith Is Just Imagination1:58:55 The Wow Method2:06:20 Take Field Trips to Your Future2:12:49 The Domino Method and Pin Action2:23:07 Money as Energy2:26:57 Every Rebirth Takes Nine Months2:30:43 The Airport Rule for Feeling Too Late2:37:27 The Art of Disappointing People: Avicii and Dylan2:45:17 Why the Hero Must Look Like the Villain

  4. Sep 22

    The Art of Being Ruthlessly Authentic - Grayson Hart - #023

    Grayson Hart had the life we're all told to want. Professional Rugby player, founder of a company worth millions, a wife on the cover of magazines...and he burned it all down in the name of truth.This a public sharing of what years of devotion to truth, authenticity, and the courage to be who you are will afford you.It won't be comfortable, but comfort is never what your soul wanted anyway. Comfort is why you're deeply uncomfortable. As the age old saying goes: The truth will set you free.I KNOW this conversation will touch many people, as it did me. There is nothing more important to a fulfilling life than honoring what's true, even and especially when that truth hurts to admit.Enjoy, and let us know by subscribing and commenting if you do :-)Follow Grayson: https://www.instagram.com/graysonjonhart/Check out Hart Workshop: https://hartworkshop.com/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters:0:00 Introduction1:35 We Are Not Separate 2:55 The Paradox of Belonging5:05 All You Have to Do Is Be True7:17 Whatever Falls Away Is a Blessing8:25 The Dolphin on the Beach13:17 Reframing the Ten Thousand Hour Rule15:15 Billy on Athletes Who Look Too Relaxed21:15 Conor McGregor and Israel Adesanya26:17 Your Own Being Is Your Home27:08 The First Step to Being True Is Being Fake29:33 How Do You Know What's True?30:12 Truth Is a Knowing, Not a Belief33:51 The Myth of Personal Responsibility40:28 Crazy Story About Boarding School44:30 How Grayson Became Untouchable48:13 Words Are the Least Purveyor of Truth51:47 You Don't Have to Change Anything54:46 Choosing the Hard Truth After 8 Years of Marriage1:00:02 Let It Be a Possibility First, Then Decide1:02:13 Inauthenticity Often Gets Rewarded by the World1:06:51 Be Your Whole Self, Unapologetically1:12:51 Life Will Show You the Answer1:16:15 The Illusion That Love Lives in Another1:19:37 How to Be Charismatic While Inside a Committed Relationship1:21:12 Stop Giving Your Energy Away1:30:52 Making Love to the Universe1:32:00 Billy on Flirting With the World1:34:55 Nothing Is Worth More Than Freedom of Truth1:35:44 Be Like Jesus on the Cross1:37:56 Can You Trust a Man Everyone Likes?1:40:24 The Note He Wrote While Meditating1:41:20 Giving Yourself Away Is Not Love1:42:19 Dermot Kennedy's Lyrics1:46:30 Forgiving Everyone That Hurt Him1:50:16 Why Forgiveness Protects Other People1:54:32 The Most Personal Is the Most Universal1:57:20 Billy on Not Needing to Be Understood1:59:41 The Worst Thing God Could Do for You2:06:43 Hart Workshop and the Heart Behind It

  5. Sep 15

    The 3 RULES for getting EVERYTHING You Want - Koa Smith - #022

    This may be my favorite conversation we've had on the show so far. Koa Smith is a professional surfer who made a name for himself chasing the biggest and most beautiful waves on earth and capturing them on camera. His career and life was dramatically altered when a collision with a reef caused a traumatic brain injury. He lost his memory, sense of self and fell into a deep depression. This is a conversation on identity, on intimacy, and on integrity. It's about learning to feel again, dissolving the illusion of separate between you and another, but also between you and everything you desire. There aren't many people more equipped to talk about death, about discovering inner peace amidst chaos, and about learning how to find purpose in life again. We talk about 3 rules for life that were given to him by a shaman, 2 words that keep you from having what you desire, and 1 way of being (Hint: trying to figure it out) that keeps us in endless suffering. We also deep dive on the modalities that have changed his life, Transcendental Meditation, Psychedelics, Joe Dispenza...and the most important one, CHOICE. I am reminded that the tools are only as effective as we choose to be with the information that is revealed. That is why life is the ceremony, and the rest are just companions supporting our awareness. After awareness always comes choice, and we must CHOOSE differently if we wish to witness new and better circumstances for our life. Enjoy, and if you do, please subscribe to the show. The chances are, if not subscribed, you will miss future episodes that, I will assert, are life altering. I am grateful for all the love and support. Follow Koa: https://www.instagram.com/koasmith/?hl=enJoin Koa's Community "Spaceship to Many": https://www.skool.com/spaceshiptomany/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bioFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters0:00 Introduction1:51 Koa's Brain Injury2:11 Facing Identity Crisis without Surfing4:50 Surfing Can Be a Dangerous Addiction5:30 Being Raised by the Ocean7:20 A More Empowering Relationship to Life8:48 Koa's Relationship to Death13:13 Fear Is the Greatest Illusion17:16 Billy on Losing His Own Career18:15 Strip Away Every Vice21:25 Meditation Became His Secret Weapon22:19 The Thought That's Holding You Back24:37 Transcendental Meditation Opened His Eyes25:24 Healing Depression in One Experience28:03 Seven Days With Joe Dispenza30:02 Koa on Learning to Feel His Heart32:34 Fear Is in the Thought34:40 The Two Words That Keep You Separate35:48 The Moment He Felt He Belonged38:56 Humans Longing For More41:26 Crisis Is God's Whisper Getting Louder43:35 How to Hear Your Intuition45:05 Koa's Business, Spaceship to Many47:24 Nine Months Without Alcohol49:14 Billy on Faith, Money and This Show52:07 You Can't Engineer Belonging54:24 The Only Way to Experience True Belonging56:52 Koa on Not Fitting In1:01:59 What's Blocking Your River1:03:08 Challenge Nobody Does1:07:03 The Lesson that Changed Billy's Life1:09:02 The 3 Rules for an Extraordinary Life1:15:17 Turning Down the Noise1:19:41 This Perspective Will Free You to Truly Live1:23:26 What's Next for Koa

  6. Sep 8

    #021 - Elliot Bewick - 21 Year Old Atheist: "There is a Rise in Performative Christianity"

    Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus? If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention. Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor. Follow Elliot - https://www.instagram.com/elliotbewick Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr CHAPTERS: 0:00 Why He Hid the Bible 1:28 Why Gen Z Is Flocking to the Pews 2:34 We Have No Blueprint Anymore 4:17 The Two Questions That Give Life Meaning 8:33 What If There Is No Meaning? 10:29 What Happens When You Kill God 11:58 Is Being an Atheist Good for Marketing? 13:15 Christianity Would Be Better for Marketing 14:46 The Rise of the Performative Christian 16:58 "Try Harder. You Don't Love Jesus." 20:27 Nobody Ever Knows That God Is Real 21:14 Faith Is the Whole Point 22:15 Ram Dass and the Insane Asylum 24:31 What Is Love Without God? 24:50 How Many Women Are on Antidepressants 25:42 Nobody Knows What Depression Is 26:19 The Chemical Imbalance Was Invented 29:23 His Friend, the Meds and the Breakup 32:24 19 Yr Old Girl DM's Elliot About Zoloft 33:18 She Couldn't Feel Anything 34:09 Where Most Sexual Dysfunction Comes From 36:55 We Live in a Culture of Too Many Labels 41:02 The Day at the White House 42:40 Who the Girl in the DM Actually Is 45:01 What Filled the Last Gap in His Faith 46:52 Love Is a Choice, Not a Feeling 51:37 The Information Age Promised You a Recipe 52:55 Just Do 53:39 "I'm Confused as F*ck Right Now" 55:26 Gen Z are the Victims 56:39 The Blame Game Has No Solutions 1:00:52 The Girl Who Sued Meta and Won 1:02:00 Your Problem Isn't Doom Scrolling 1:05:00 Compartmentalise Your Scrolling 1:05:31 The Science of Getting into Flow State 1:08:18 Breaking a Social Media Addiction 1:09:38 What a Monk Taught Him About Impulse 1:10:43 Willpower Is the Wrong Frame 1:12:13 Our Generation's Worst Habit 1:13:17 Put Down a Vice, Don't Pick Up a Virtue 1:19:43 Comfort Creates a Numbness to Life 1:24:21 The Study on Choosing the Wrong Answer 1:25:14 What Does It Mean to Belong? 1:29:46 Loneliness Is Not About Other People 1:31:01 The Global Village Problem 1:33:24 Elliot's Sponsor, Shift Your Phone

  7. Sep 1

    #020 - Adam Jackson - Why Most Men Can't Love One Woman Fully

    If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this. There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline. Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming. There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man. Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships. This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in their life. If you listen all the way through, you'll leave with clear tools for a more empowered existence. Enjoy! CHAPTERS:0:00 Intro0:04 The Violence Already Exists4:19 The Men Who Don't Fight, Fight in Other Ways10:44 The One Thing More Important Than Honesty15:13 It All Comes Back to Mom17:01 "I Don't Know If I Trust Men"20:58 The Harm Is Happening Inside Your Own Home24:40 Why the Uncles Have to Be Cool29:15 Billy: "Part of Me Is Stuck in Boyhood"30:42 You Cannot Initiate Yourself38:18 Why He Tells His Brothers to Have More Children41:39 They Don't Stop Loving You45:48 Protect Your Children From Yourself49:40 What a Child Actually Needs From a Father53:52 The Way Back to Your Father Is Gratitude55:59 The Age of Ancestral Amnesia59:32 The Moment He Repeated the Pattern1:02:18 The One Message Men Need From Women1:05:39 Love One Woman Completely1:08:00 Choose Wisely Follow Adam - https://www.instagram.com/adam___jackson Sacred Sons - https://www.instagram.com/sacredsons Sacred Sons events - https://sacredsons.com Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr

  8. Aug 25

    #019 - Jules Horn - You Can't Think Your Way to Peace. Here's How to Actually Find It

    If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you. Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him. Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage. He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair. Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin. Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him. We also shine light on the dysfunction of the modeling industry, what he was really chasing and how he has transitioned from an endless pursuit of external validation to a love like no other, not from the world, but within himself. If you have been trying to think your way into peace, this episode is the other door. It's free, it's always with you, and you have the opportunity through this conversation to touch a felt sense of peace like never before.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.
 Chapters:

 0:00 Intro 0:12 The Perfect Breath 2:45 The $150,000 Hyperbaric Chamber Mistake 7:11 Running Half Marathon Nose Breathing Only 10:16 God Is Whispering, the Ego Is Yelling 13:00 A Decade of Modeling and Shallow Breathing 14:00 Growing Up Without Feeling Loved 16:17 Chasing One Campaign for a Decade 17:33 Billy: Four Foot Eleven With Cystic Acne 20:50 Modeling: An Industry of Power and Control 23:20 Blackout Drunk Every Single Weekend 26:02 What You Seek Is Already Looking at You 34:01 A Bird in a Golden Cage 35:53 The Day it All Changed 37:17 "You'll Never Work as a Model Again" 43:40 The Truth Behind Aging 45:48 The Energy of Desperation 49:15 How to Release Your Jaw Tension 53:55 What to Ask the Monster Within You 56:11 Rage, Anger and Suppression 1:00:20 Catholic Altar Boy to a Relationship with God 1:04:12 God Spoke to Him in a Psychedelic Ceremony 1:07:01 Most People's Version of Prayer is Begging 1:12:21 Seeing His Dad in His Son 1:17:19 The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Child

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A podcast designed to inspire a deeper sense of belonging, to self, others and the world. Through intimate dialogues with leading psychologists, self help gurus, and world leaders in business and sport, we explore the nature of consciousness, the psyche and its role in human potential, and why we’re really here. With the chief aim of equipping you with tools to consciously choose a more empowered, aligned & purpose driven life.

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