You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Billy Garton Jr.
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A podcast designed to inspire a deeper sense of belonging, to self, others and the world. Through intimate dialogues with leading psychologists, self help gurus, and world leaders in business and sport, we explore the nature of consciousness, the psyche and its role in human potential, and why we’re really here. With the chief aim of equipping you with tools to consciously choose a more empowered, aligned & purpose driven life.

  1. 4d ago

    #017 - Peter Crone: Dissolving 20 Years of Fear in 97 Minutes

    I’ve never been this vulnerable publicly… 3 years ago I sat in my local library feeling deeply lost. My life seemed to be crumbling before my eyes and I felt confined to a world I was no longer choosing. I made a declaration that day that there was one person I would be coached by, and I’d find a way to get myself in the room with him. Well, 3 years on, having consumed virtually all of his content, invested in his life altering mastermind and shared his work and words with everyone in my life, it is an absolute honor to share this conversation I had with Peter Crone. Widely known as ‘The Mind Architect’, Peter is globally recognized for his ability to help someone reveal the deep, subconscious constraints that have laced their life, and support them in freeing themselves from the mental prisons with which they’ve been confined, so they can lead a life of freedom, love, abundance and possibility.  Today, we revealed the primary prisons I’ve been living inside of, how the world is not set up to see us succeed, how to break free from what he calls the “1.0 world” and step into his world of 2.0, how to upgrade your human operating system, the toxic male influences laced throughout culture, the difference between care and worry, where true energy is derived, and the one message Peter would leave behind for generations to come that would serve as a catalyst for both personal and universal change.  I would bet, being that you watch this show, that you’re committed to your spiritual evolution. Let me tell you, nothing touched my life more than Peter’s Mastermind. I have invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into coaches, mentors, retreats, books and programs, and the greatest catalyst for inspiration, energy, and true transformation was the 3 months I spent sitting at the feet of this man and soaking up everything he has to offer. The link to learn more about it is below. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.  I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.  Chapters: 2:12 What True Freedom Actually Means 6:21 The Qualities You Were Born With 7:08 The Ten Prisons of the Human Mind 8:21 The Quote That Has Saved Lives 10:13 How Losing Both Parents Shaped Peter 13:17 Turning Grief Into Direction 15:19 Why Divinity Follows the Free 19:28 Stop Seeking, Start Removing Barriers 21:16 The Shame That Won't Let Go 23:53 When Love Comes With Conditions 25:19 Panic Attacks No One Explained 29:02 The Ego Is a Boa Constrictor 30:07 The First Lie You Tell Yourself 32:47 You've Never Done Anything Wrong 36:22 What "Wrong" Actually Means 39:19 Why Risk Doesn't Exist 42:50 Escaping the 1.0 Operating System 44:15 Why You Project Your Parents Onto Everyone 48:08 Guilt Disguised as Accountability 50:49 The Power of Your Words 52:57 Welcome to the 2.0 World 54:50 The Lie That It's Not Safe to Be You 57:34 The Worst Prison a Human Can Live In 1:01:44 Watch the Breakthrough Happen 1:03:36 You Can't Get Enough of What Almost Works 1:06:19 The Difference Between Care and Worry 1:08:31 For Men Afraid of Caring Too Much 1:09:41 Why Love Must Include You 1:12:42 The Truth About Toxic Male Influences 1:15:32 Nothing to Hide, Nothing to Prove 1:17:10 Build a New Model, Don't Fight the Old 1:19:12 Why Longevity Seduces the Ego 1:20:45 Integrating the Two Lies 1:24:36 Instructions for Visiting Earth 1:27:04 Peter's Message for the Planet 1:29:51 The Real Role of the Ego 1:32:41 Advice for Anyone Chasing a Calling 1:36:08 What's Next for Peter Crone Peter's Mastermind: https://www.petercrone.com/mastermind Follow Peter: https://www.instagram.com/petercrone/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  2. Aug 4

    #016 - Laird Hamilton - The King of the Ocean Opens Up on What it Takes to Live an Extraordinary Life

    Everyone is trying to hack, optimize and comfort their way to a better life. Laird Hamilton says the opposite is true: that comfort is the trap, that fear is intelligence, and that the closer you get to death, the more alive you become.Laird Hamilton is widely regarded as the greatest big-wave surfer of all time, the pioneer of tow-in surfing and hydrofoil boarding who redefined what's possible in the ocean. He is the co-founder of Laird Superfood, husband of volleyball legend Gabby Reece for 28 years, and father to three daughters.He explains:◼ Why the closer you are to death, the more alive you feel◼ How a lifetime in the ocean convinced him that God exists◼ The one thing he believes is worse than dying◼ Why fear is intelligence, and how to harness it instead of avoiding it◼ Why parenting is like building a samurai sword, and why it's for you, not your kids◼ He opens up about growing up poor, fatherless and an outsider, and how that pain fueled everything he builtThe views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.Chapters00:00 Why You Shouldn't Live For Your Kids04:05 What Really Fueled Laird's Success08:23 How Laird Turned Pain Into Power09:45 The Ocean Gave Laird Everything10:54 The Ocean Taught Laird the Existence of God22:19 How to Never Lose Your Curiosity28:11 Why Nature Always Wins32:01 Why Fear Is Actually Intelligence34:38 Why Laird Is Addicted to Fear37:00 Why Nothing Matters Without Consequence40:16 The Closer to Death, the More Alive44:30 The Simple Code Laird Lives By50:08 Are You Living or Just Surviving?51:22 Why Laird Would Rather Lose His Life55:16 Live Every Day Like Your Last58:23 The Life-Changing Power of Telling the Truth1:05:08 What Three Daughters Taught Laird1:08:01 The Samurai Sword Theory of Fatherhood1:12:19 What Living With Four Women Taught Laird1:17:14 The Secret to a 28-Year Marriage1:24:05 Why Laird Refuses to Use AI1:30:47 Why Laird & Gabby Schedule Sex1:34:58 Why Laird Threw Away His Wearables1:39:22 The Hawaiian Test of Character1:48:04 Never Use Your Kids as an Excuse1:54:09 The #1 Thing Holding You Back1:58:34 Why Most Men Are Harmless, Not Peaceful2:03:38 The Sayings That Shaped Laird's Life2:11:22 We're All in the Same Boat2:13:06 What's Next for Laird

  3. Jul 28

    #015 - Jeremy Jackson - Former Baywatch Star Opens Up on Fame, Meth, Prison and the Pursuit of Self Love

    Strap in for this one folks!At nine years old, Jeremy Jackson beat Leonardo DiCaprio for the role of Hobie Buchanan on Baywatch — the most watched television show on the planet. A billion people knew his face before he could drive. What followed was two decades most people don't come back from: addiction, meth, arrests, facing up to 35 years in prison, and a public collapse narrated by everyone except him. Today, Jeremy is sober, a recovery coach, breathwork facilitator, and spiritual mentor who walks into the rehabs and jails he once occupied — carrying the message to the people still lost in the places he came back from.One line that stuck with me: "If you want God to write the love story of your life, stop taking the pen out of his hand."This conversation goes somewhere neither of us expected. Jeremy speaks for the first time at length about the marriage that gutted him deeper than anything in his life — deeper than the abuse, the kidnapping, the arrests — and the moment he chose to see the person who hurt him most as a suffering addict instead of an enemy. We talk about why fame at fourteen cost him the very authenticity he was chasing, why authenticity is a higher frequency than joy, and why the men who have been broken by life make the most glorious men. He shares the golden keys he lives by, the three words tattooed on his arm that carried him through hell, and what it means to stop being so full of yourself that God can't hand you anything.Enjoy :-)Oh, and if you do, like, subscribe, comment. It really supports in our ability to bring you the best conversations. Chapters1:24 From Baywatch to prison3:24 When the mask drops4:58 The masks he still wears6:39 Owning the loser narrative7:34 The message in the mess10:32 A poem from rehab13:07 Becoming childlike again14:21 Fame at fourteen18:41 Defining authenticity19:53 The highest frequency21:15 More haters than fans22:40 Breaking his silence27:58 A public marriage28:29 Ignoring the warning signs31:57 Seeing her on the street33:57 Softening his heart34:59 The intervention attempt38:35 When helping falls apart40:45 The deepest heartbreak43:01 Jails, institutions, or death43:44 Why addicts refuse help44:45 Why he said yes46:39 Singleness of purpose48:52 Giving God the pen51:04 The rock we're chained to53:17 The golden keys54:27 What are you feeding59:41 How God speaks1:00:42 Full expression of life1:03:28 The fear of being seen1:09:17 The best men are broken1:14:57 The code of self-acceptance1:16:14 The hollow bone1:23:23 Trauma is past tense1:28:42 Everything happens through you1:31:49 Why he came backFollow Jeremy: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyjackson/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  4. Jul 22

    #014 - Timmy the Dreamer - Charlie Rocket's Former Manager: Porn, Ayahuasca, and Why I Left LA

    Have you ever been honest enough to rate yourself as a man?Timmy Bishop — known to the world as Timmy the Dreamer — spent three years living what looked like the dream: managing one of the biggest philanthropic movements on the internet, working alongside Mr. Beast and Oprah, living in a Hollywood Hills content mansion. Then, in December 2023, he got in a boat and rode two hours down the Amazon River to a ceremony that dismantled his entire life. He has never told this story publicly. Until now.A few lines that stuck with me:"If everything I did in private could be seen by everybody in public, would I still be who I say I am? The answer was no.""Not even the medicine could make me release. That's how disconnected I was from being able to feel.""In order to be ready for a queen to walk into your life, you must first make yourself into a king."In this conversation, Timmy shares — for the first time — the ayahuasca ceremony that told him to leave his dream life in LA and move back in with his parents in Minnesota at 27. We talk about the night he rated himself a four out of ten as a man and what he did about it, the addiction to porn that 95% of the men he knows quietly carry, quitting every vice cold turkey and crying every day for a month, redefining authenticity as truthfulness rather than consistency, telling his Christian family he'd left the faith, and the five initiations he believes turn a boy into a man. Three years after the jungle, he rates himself an eight — and he'll tell you exactly what happened in between.Chapters:0:00 The two lives of Timmy Bishop3:31 Why living the dream is a state of mind7:41 The case against shaming your past self11:32 How you can be lonely with hundreds of friends14:51 The day the dream job felt empty17:29 Why your darkness needs to be seen18:48 The gift hidden inside sensitivity21:51 The real definition of authenticity27:47 Telling his Christian parents he left the faith32:48 What happens when the highs stop working34:53 The story he swore he'd never tell35:18 The boat ride into the Amazon38:15 The cleanse his body refused41:45 Inside the ayahuasca ceremony45:19 The visions that made him vomit up LA47:08 The battle between his inner child and warrior49:00 How the shaman knew before he spoke50:46 Trading Hollywood for his childhood bedroom53:04 The month he cried every single day54:52 Quitting porn, weed, and caffeine cold turkey55:23 Why porn is the vice no man admits58:19 The one question that breaks the addiction59:29 What his friends said when he relapsed1:03:03 Proof you can feel deeply and still perform1:05:00 The question every single man should ask1:08:17 The poem about the man in the glass1:10:14 The night he rated himself a 4/10 man1:12:49 Why you must become a king before finding a queen1:14:44 The moment he finally became a man1:17:33 The orange tree theory of growth1:20:12 The five steps from boy to man1:24:00 The power of four months of saying no1:26:24 The three circles every man needs1:28:16 Why a real man serves1:32:14 The closing poem for anyone feeling lostFollow Timmy: https://www.instagram.com/timmy.the.dreamer/Book Timmy to speak: https://dreamerstate.com/dreamologytourFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  5. Jul 14

    #013 - Alaina Booth - The Death of Fun: Why Your Life Feels So Boring (And How to Come Alive Again)

    When did your life start feeling so boring? Alaina Booth has built a following by pointing her camera at something the internet keeps telling us no longer exists: proof that the world is still good. She is a director, videographer, and storyteller whose found-footage videos of strangers, community, and everyday human connection have reached millions — including a series about six generations of women who all lived in the same college house, and a caption that accidentally started a war in her comments: "But what if most people are good?" A few lines that stuck with me: "Courage is a moment of decision where you say, I'm going to trust myself and try something new." "There is no amount of good energy that is ever wasted." "The easiest way to connect with someone is to expect nothing from them." "Never compromise who you are to get closer to the top of the mountain." In this conversation, we explore why life starts to feel boring the moment we automate the play out of it, why the top of courage is simply being seen trying, and what it takes to keep your childlike spirit alive in a world that punishes you for it. Alaina breaks down strangermaxxing, whimsymaxxing, and the difference between someone being unsafe and simply being different. We talk about the Honey House and why people keep finding her videos, why you can automate your entire life into total isolation, the discipline experiment that made her miserable, her Ten Commandments for living, and the Mary Oliver instruction she can't get out of her head: pay attention, be astonished, tell about it. Someone has to dance first so the rest of us remember we can. Alaina is that person. Chapters 0:00 A season of change is coming 3:09 What makes you feel most alive 4:23 Your spirit leaves before your body 6:25 Alaina's thesis on life 7:25 You should try more 9:12 What courage actually is 11:02 Raised by a single mom 13:30 Watching an adult give herself grace 14:46 Let yourself be new at this 15:09 The courage to do it bad 16:57 Whimsy maxing explained 17:49 The stranger maxing formula 19:17 Not safe vs just different 21:38 Life maxing is internal 23:06 Keeping your childlike spirit alive 24:44 The business baddie surprise 26:27 Make room for spontaneity 27:23 The discipline experiment that failed 28:08 The longevity scam 28:45 You never arrive at healed 29:47 Where is the line of enough 30:31 The oil on the spoon parable 33:15 The Honey House story 36:00 The video that went viral 38:31 Why we feel so alone now 41:19 The formula for connection 43:13 The 8 Mile secret 45:01 Stop being a chameleon 47:19 Code to download into humanity 49:34 The middle school sweatshirt 53:02 What if most people are good 55:51 No good energy is wasted 58:30 Integrity as the top value 1:01:28 Alaina's Ten Commandments 1:04:33 Pay attention, be astonished 1:08:54 Inspired by the real world 1:10:30 Keep joy visible Follow Alaina: https://www.instagram.com/lainabooth/ Read Alaina's Substack: https://substack.com/@alainabooth Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast

  6. Jul 7

    #012 - Blu of Earth - The Disease of Distraction: Why You Can't Hear God (And How to Finally Listen)

    What would you do if you woke up tomorrow and the world had gone silent? Eight months ago, that's exactly what happened to Blu. After 34 years of hearing, she went deaf overnight — and instead of becoming a victim of the experience, she calls it the most sacred teacher of her life. Blu is an artist, mystic, and storyteller. Alongside her creative partner Lily Ashwell, she spent three and a half years hand-crafting "Heavenly Bodies Tarot" — a tarot deck of 78 original artworks made entirely by human hands, in a world drowning in synthetic noise. She is also the host of the Deja Blu podcast. A few lines from the conversation that stuck with me: "Comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul." "The most sacred thing is what is." "We're running ourselves dry, getting ourselves sick, and wondering why we can't hear God." "It's really inefficient to be an a*****e." and...my overwhelming favorite: "The only disability is that of a bad attitude" (original quote from Scott Hamilton) In this conversation, we explore what it means to turn your greatest challenge into your greatest gift, why comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul, and how to tell the difference between synthetic and authentic in the age of AI. Blu shares the story of sending telepathic apologies from a treehouse in the Amazon jungle — and receiving two replies. We talk about why time isn't real, how ritual turns the mundane into magic, why the goal was never to be high vibe but to be honest with what's most alive, why all judgment is a confession, and what it actually takes to live a meaningful life. She went deaf so she could teach the rest of us how to listen. Enjoy! Chapters 0:00 Living with your soul wide open 3:31 Going deaf overnight 5:37 The most sacred thing is what is 7:00 Comfort is the death of the soul 8:46 The only disability is a bad attitude 11:39 When a sense gets taken away 12:38 Synthetic vs authentic 15:36 Three years making a tarot deck 18:27 Telepathy and the Amazon jungle 21:41 The two apologies arrive 26:10 Lazy or built into a system 27:44 Time isn't real 32:01 The hungry ghost inside you 34:08 Ritual and the bed making competition 36:44 The universe gives you who you are 41:39 Silence is psychedelic 43:42 Who you spend time with matters 48:59 The goal isn't high vibes 49:59 Grieving her old life 55:53 It's inefficient to be an a*****e 57:17 How to be angry and graceful 1:00:55 Blu's relationship with embarrassment 1:05:24 All judgment is a confession 1:06:25 Jealousy is a roadmap 1:10:25 Creativity and the God pocket 1:16:39 No one is just talented 1:19:24 The demon Mother Mary painting 1:22:09 Your job is your joy of being 1:28:54 What a meaningful life means 1:37:11 Where to find Blu Get Blu's tarot deck "Heavenly Bodies Tarot": https://www.weareheavenlybodies.com Follow Blu: https://www.instagram.com/bluofearth/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  7. Jun 30

    #011 - Ryan Moresby-White - Nice guys do finish last, no one trusts a man who can't say no and women as a man's greatest initiation.

    Something is wrong with men. Not in the way the culture keeps telling us. Not too aggressive, not too dominant, not too much. Wrong in a quieter and far more devastating way. The boy inside never grew up. And nobody noticed. Nobody held a ceremony. Nobody said, that chapter of your life is over, this one begins now. So he kept going. Built the career. Got the girl. Accumulated the evidence. And still woke up every morning feeling like something essential was missing and having absolutely no language for why.Ryan Moresby-White noticed. And he has spent the last decade doing something about it.Born in South Africa, raised in Australia, Ryan walked away from a successful construction career after a breakup cracked him open in a way he didn't expect and couldn't ignore. What he found on the other side became his life's work. Today he has sat with thousands of men at the edge of themselves and helped them cross a threshold they didn't know they needed to cross.You'll hear:Why men keep sabotaging the women they love most. Why the nice guy always ends up alone. Why you can't speak your truth if you were never given the space to discover it. Why it is very easy to be secure when you're single. Why the most powerful men are not the most polished. And why the woman in your life is not the obstacle to your growth. She is the initiation.Chapters03:00 to 09:00 Why men never truly grow up09:00 to 11:10 The difference between trauma and initiation11:10 to 15:30 Why shame runs every male relationship15:30 to 20:00 How shame from childhood shows up in your adult relationship20:00 to 22:00 Ryan's story. The bathroom floor in Bali.22:00 to 25:20 How Ryan let the grief finally bring him to his knees25:20 to 28:00 You can't biohack your way around your grief28:00 to 31:30 Run clubs are just men running from their grief31:30 to 38:00 Ryan climbed to the top and his father still wasn't there38:00 to 41:30 Every man in prison is a hurt little boy41:30 to 44:00 The boy never wanted healing. He wanted holding.44:00 to 48:00 Why your woman is your greatest initiation48:00 to 52:00 Attachment vs authenticity. Why men lose themselves.52:00 to 55:00 The nice guy always loses the woman he loves55:00 to 59:37 No one can trust a man who can't say no59:37 to 01:05:00 What it actually means to be a safe man01:05:00 to 01:12:00 It is very easy to be secure when you're single01:12:00 to 01:18:00 Why men sabotage the love they want most01:18:00 to 01:24:44 Good Will Hunting and the wound that runs everything01:24:44 to 01:32:14 The four archetypes every man needs to integrateWatch Ryan's Documentary "A Rebirth Of The Safe Man":https://youtu.be/BKK9B0o6OAU?is=ozkBqHIMCacJlzjmFollow Ryan: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  8. Jun 24

    #010 - Cory Richards - I Risked My Life In Order to Save It. What I Learned About Creativity, Belonging, and Living a Meaningful Life.

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now. It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Cory Richards is a National Geographic photographer, world class mountaineer, and the first and only American to summit an 8000 meter peak in winter without supplemental oxygen. He was diagnosed bipolar at 15, dropped out of high school, placed in a psychiatric unit, and put on the street with nothing. He went on to build one of the most celebrated careers in adventure photography the world has ever seen. He also almost lost everything multiple times along the way. And a month and a half before this conversation, he didn't leave his bed for days.Is this a meditation on madness? A masterclass on creativity? A loving interrogation of every label, diagnosis, and story you have ever told yourself about who you are? For me, it was all three.One line in particular has not left me since we recorded this. Cory said that being buried and being planted are often the same thing. Sit with that for a moment.There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. I am grateful to Cory for his radical honesty, for the poetic precision with which he sees the world, and for being willing to go to places in this conversation that he told me he has never gone publicly before.Get ready to hear about why the wellness industry is in Cory's words also quite sick, what your diagnosis is actually giving you and what it is quietly taking away, why you cannot optimize your way out of a lonely life, what belonging really means and why most of what we call belonging is just manipulation with better branding, the story behind the avalanche selfie on the cover of National Geographic and what Cory has never said about it until now, why certainty kills creativity, where God lives in a life like Cory's, and the only thing in the human experience without a duality - love.I left this conversation with eyes more acutely attuned to the color of everything.It was a gift for me. I hope it serves you well. Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Inspiration vs Compensation08:30 to 17:50 Living madly in order to escape madness17:50 to 23:28 Your ideology is not your identity23:28 to 29:15 Men are in profound struggle right now29:15 to 33:53 Biohacking is bulls**t33:53 to 46:12 We are pathologically self obsessed46:12 to 53:18 What belonging actually means53:18 to 01:02:32 Certainty kills creativity01:02:32 to 01:09:00 Cory was depressed a month ago01:09:00 to 01:23:27 Being buried and being planted are the same thing01:23:27 to 01:33:55 We are all actors playing roles01:33:55 to 01:42:53 Science saves the world. Art makes it worth saving.01:42:53 to 01:47:52 There is only one thing without a dualityBuy Cory's Book for Yourself or a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Color-Everything-Journey-Quiet-Within/dp/059359679XFollow Cory: https://www.instagram.com/coryrichards/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

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