Purfect Sunday

Monti Wheeler

The Purfect Sunday Podcast is a weekly self-improvement podcast for women who are done playing small and ready to become the main character of their own lives. I'm Monti — I'm not an expert. I'm a woman who pays attention. And what I keep noticing is that the thing standing between you and the life you want usually isn't the situation — it's the frame you're seeing it through. So that's what we do here. We change the frame. Every Sunday morning, I bring you a real story, a lesson I learned the hard way, and one thing you can actually take into your week. This is a self-improvement podcast for women who want real talk on confidence, mindset, self-respect, money, relationships, and the small daily habits that change how you show up in the world — no clinical language, no diagnosis, no hustle-culture grind. Here's what this show believes: no matter what hand life dealt you, it's yours to build from here. Every woman is capable of it. This isn't a podcast about unpacking what happened to you — it's a podcast about what you do next. Confidence without the credentials. Mindset without the therapy-speak. Self-improvement that actually feels like your friend telling you the truth on a Sunday morning. Mindset and looks both matter — and both are built the same way: one small, self-respecting choice at a time, until you're so in love with yourself and your life that nothing can disturb your peace. New episodes every Sunday morning. Settle in, hit subscribe, and get ready to become the main character of your own Sunday. — Monti

  1. 3d ago

    30. You Don't Have to Be the Strong One | How to Stop Pretending You're Fine

    When someone asks how you're doing, how often do you say good before they've even finished the question? This episode is about stopping the pretense that you're fine, especially if you're the strong one everybody leans on. In this episode, Monti argues that being honest about how you're doing is part of being strong, not the opposite. She walks through why we pretend, what holding it in can do to your body, and six small steps to start telling the truth to the people who care about you. You'll walk away with simple, honest answers for the next time someone asks, and one small way to let someone show up for you this week. Take what's useful and leave the rest. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Why we say we're fine — and why it usually isn't lyingIf you're the strong one — why people stop checking on you, and what to do about itWhat holding it in does to your body — the research linking stress and autoimmune diseaseHow to stop pretending — six small steps you can start this weekWhat to actually say — honest answers for the conversations that usually end in "good"Be someone's safe person — how to make it easier for the women in your life to tell you the truth Mentioned in This Episode When the Body Says NoThe Body Keeps the ScoreBaina Bath Robe  This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge Let someone show up for you this week. The next time your person asks how you're doing, and you're not fine, tell them the truth. Even one sentence counts. Or the next time someone offers to help, say yes and tell them exactly what you need. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    30. You Don't Have to Be the Strong One | How to Stop Pretending You're Fine
  2. Oct 18

    29. The Personal Curriculum | How to Learn Something New Before the Year Ends

    What would you learn if it didn't have to be useful? Not for work, not for a side hustle, just because you're curious. That's the whole idea behind the personal curriculum trend, and this episode is all about how to build a personal curriculum of your own before the year runs out. In this episode, Monti walks through six simple steps to pick your topic, plan it week by week, and keep going even when life gets busy. You'll walk away with a topic you're excited about and a simple plan to learn it by New Year's. Take what's useful and leave the rest. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What a personal curriculum actually is — and why it's taking over TikTokHow to pick your topic — the three kinds of learning and how to choose yoursA goal you can picture — what to aim for by New Year's, with no grade at the endWriting your syllabus — why you should only plan a few weeks at a timeMaking the time — the scheduling trick that makes it stickWhen you fall behind — what to do the week you miss This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge Pick your topic and write out just week one. One topic, one source and one session on your calendar. You can plan the rest next week. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    29. The Personal Curriculum | How to Learn Something New Before the Year Ends
  3. Oct 11

    28. How to Dress Like You Actually Like Yourself | Finding Your Personal Style This Fall

    Ever stood in front of a full closet and felt like you had nothing to wear? It's almost never a shopping problem. It's a style problem, and the good news is you already have more of a style than you think. This episode is all about finding your personal style and making getting dressed feel easy again. In this episode, Monti walks through eight simple steps to figure out what you actually like, build your fall wardrobe around it without starting over, and wear it with confidence even when it feels like a bit much. You'll leave with three style words, a closet that works together, and a shopping plan that stops impulse buys. Take what's useful and leave the rest. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Why you have nothing to wear — and why buying more never fixes itThe two-week trick — how to spot the style you already haveThe three-word method — the viral stylist tip that makes every outfit decision easierThe closet edit — what to keep without throwing everything outHow to look put together on a budget — the cheap fix most women skipWearing it anyway — what to do when you feel overdressed This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge Pick your three style words. Two for what you already love wearing, and one for how you want to feel. Then get dressed by them one morning this week. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession YSL Lash Clash Extreme Volume Mascara. Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    28. How to Dress Like You Actually Like Yourself | Finding Your Personal Style This Fall
  4. Oct 4

    27. Get Out of the House | Your Fall Bucket List for 2026

    How many things on last year's fall list did you actually do? If the answer is two, you're in good company. Most of us save the pumpkin patch pictures, mean every word, and then watch the season close before we ever leave the house. These fall bucket list ideas are built to fix that. In this episode, Monti shares the ten outings she puts on her list every fall, from the classics to the slow, cozy ones, plus the simple system that gets a bucket list off your notes app and onto your calendar. She also makes the case that planning your own joy isn't frivolous, especially in a heavy year. You'll walk away with a list you can start this weekend, the timing for each item so nothing closes before you get there, and a plan to book the ones that sell out. Take what sounds fun and leave the rest. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Why a fall bucket list isn't silly — and what planned joy gives back when life feels heavyHow to actually finish the list — the three moves most people skipThe classics, done better — when to go so you skip the crowds and get the best pickThe outings that get your heart rate up — including the one that sells out weeks aheadThe slow ones — easy, cheap fall date ideas that barely need planningThe item to prioritize most — the one you'll be glad you did years from now This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge Do one thing this week. Open your calendar and put one item from the list on it with a real date. Not a maybe. A date. If it needs a ticket, buy the ticket this week too. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Mason Pearson Hair Brush Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    27. Get Out of the House | Your Fall Bucket List for 2026
  5. Sep 27

    26. Fall Has a Cheat Code | How to Romanticize Your Life This Season

    The pretty version of fall is easy to want. You save the pictures in August, you think about the sweaters and the candles and the long, cozy evenings, and then somehow it's the middle of December, and you can't name a single day of it. That's not a discipline problem. Nothing in the beautiful version ever had a day attached to it. In this episode, Monti breaks down ten small sensory rituals that turn three months into a season you'll actually remember — grouped into your house, your days, and your nights. None of it is a project, most of it is free, and every single one is something you were going to do anyway. The difference is being there for it. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What romanticizing actually means — the plain definition, and why it has nothing to do with buying anything or making it look good for a photoThe four-minute kitchen ritual that makes an entire house smell like October, with the exact ingredients and one safety noteThe rule that changes a room faster than anything you could buy — plus the sleep research that explains why you can't settle in the eveningThe purchase that exists for no reason at all — and why doing one pointless thing a week makes the whole season feel lighterWhy the afternoon is suddenly the best part of the day, and the window that closes the first week of NovemberThree ways to spend an evening that aren't a screen you're only half watching — including the one Monti saves for last, because it's her favoriteHow to spread ten rituals across twelve weeks so you're still enjoying fall in December instead of being over it by HalloweenThis Week's Self Improvement Challenge Do one thing this week. Pick one ritual from the list—whichever one you were already picturing yourself doing—and do it before next Sunday. If you can't choose, start with the simmer pot. It takes four minutes to set up, everything you need is probably already in your kitchen, and it's the one that changes how your whole house feels for the least possible effort. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Waterproof Travel Pill Pouch  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    26. Fall Has a Cheat Code | How to Romanticize Your Life This Season
  6. Sep 20

    25. Undo What Summer Did | Your Fall Glow Up for Hair, Skin and Body

    Summer is rough on a body, and September is when you find out. The hair that feels like straw, the legs that go dry two minutes out of the shower, the congestion and breakouts showing up on a face that was fine in June. That's not you falling apart. That's three or four months of sun, chlorine, salt water, and air conditioning finally adding up to something visible, and right now is the window to deal with it before dry cold air piles on top. In this episode, Monti goes head to toe: what summer did to your hair, skin, and body; how to undo summer damage while it's still easy; and what needs to change in your routine now that the season has turned. Real products, real reasons, no chemistry lecture. Plus one thing at the end that belongs on every glow-up list and never makes it onto one. On this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What summer really did to your hair — and the cheapest fix that makes the biggest differenceThe congestion that shows up in September — why it happens, and the routine that cleared it fastWhy your July moisturizer stops working — the one thing that changes about the air in fallEverything from the neck down — the parts that age fastest and get the least attentionThe part nobody puts on a glow-up list — the fall habit that lowers your stress hormone and shows up on your faceHow to do all of this without spending three hundred dollars This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge Book the haircut. Or the facial. Or block out time for a hair mask, a DIY skincare night, or a serious exfoliation session. Nothing here has to be a big money or time commitment, unless you want it to be. Start taking small steps toward your glow up, because it's the small things, the right things done consistently, that create a noticeable difference. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession  EradiKate 3% Sulfur Foaming Cleanser  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    25. Undo What Summer Did | Your Fall Glow Up for Hair, Skin and Body
  7. Sep 13

    24. Playing Small Isn't Free | The Hidden Cost of Shrinking Yourself

    Playing small is one of the most expensive habits a woman can have, and almost nobody can see themselves doing it — because every single instance of it comes with a perfectly good reason attached. You weren't being cowardly; you were being polite. You weren't hiding; you were being realistic. This episode is about learning to spot the habit in real time, and about what it has quietly been charging you for. In this episode, Monti walks through the ten most common ways women shrink themselves — from the words you pad your sentences with to the way you sit in a room to the things you've decided to call realistic — then breaks down the three costs nobody hands you a bill for, and four things you can actually do about it starting this week. Fair warning: this one is uncomfortable in the best way, and most women recognize three or four of the ten immediately. Why you're picturing the wrong woman — playing small has nothing to do with being shy or quiet, and some of the women who shrink themselves the most are the loudest ones in the room. The reason "just stop shrinking yourself" content never works — you're not doing this because something is broken in you. You're doing it because at some point it worked; you were rewarded for it. The words you put around everything you say — there's an actual name for it, most women do it dozens of times a day without hearing it, and it's the one habit on the list you can start breaking in the next five minutesThe one that surprises everyone — how much room you take up is a conversation your body is having all day, whether you're listening or not; what people pick up on without knowing it, and the good news about which direction it runsDressing so nobody looks at you — the difference between a minimalist style you love and an outfit chosen specifically not to be seen, plus the much bigger version of the same move that can quietly eat years of your lifeWhy the money one compounds — this isn't a one-time number, and the reason it gets more expensive every year you don't fix it is the part most women have never had explained to themThe rooms you'll never hear about — the meanest cost of all, because you never find out it happened. How people actually end up on the short list, and why excellent work done quietly doesn't get you thereWho you turn into if you do it long enough — the point where it stops being something you do and starts being who you are, and what it does to the things you're even willing to wantFour things to actually break the habit — no confidence required, because confidence isn't the thing that comes first. Pick one, start this week The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Haus Labs Color Fuse Longwear Hydrating Glassy Lip + Cheek Blush Balm Stick. Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    24. Playing Small Isn't Free | The Hidden Cost of Shrinking Yourself
  8. Sep 6

    23. The Great Lock In | How to Plan Your Winter Arc and Finish the Year Strong

    The great lock-in challenge is what's replacing New Year's resolutions this year, and the timing is the entire point: there are 117 days left in 2026, which is a lot more runway than "the year got away from me" makes it sound. September first through December thirty-first, head down, no waiting for January. In this episode, Monti breaks down what the trend actually is, how to set yours up so it survives past week two, and how it's different from the winter arc you're also seeing everywhere. You'll get the clear definition of the great lock in and why the four-month window works when a twelve-month resolution doesn't, the four questions to answer before you pick a single goal, how to shrink a goal that's too big for this window into one you can actually finish by December, the hard cap on how many goals you get and why more than that guarantees you finish none, the one rule that keeps a missed day from turning into a quit, and exactly how the winter arc differs from the lock in — including what to do with the three weeks in between. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What the great lock-in actually is — the viral challenge taking over your feed explained in plain language, why it's the last real shot at your 2026 goals, and the one way it's deliberately different from rigid challenges like 75 Hard.The four questions to answer before you pick a goal — starting with the one almost nobody asks themselves first, and why answering it in order is what keeps you from copying someone else's lock in instead of building your ownWhy three is the ceiling, not the target — what happens to your follow-through past the third goal, why one is a completely valid number, and how to tell which of your goals actually deserves the effortHow to shrink a big goal so it fits in four months — the difference between a goal you'll abandon in October and one you'll finish in December, with real examples for writing, fitness, and paying down debtGoing after your goals without burning out by week three — the money mistake that quietly sends you right back to the credit card, how to scale a fitness goal week over week instead of all at once, and why small actions repeated are the ones that compoundThe only rule worth keeping when life gets loud — why one missed day is nothing and two in a row is the actual danger, and how to stop a bad day from turning into a story about whether the whole thing is ruinedThe bad-week version of every goal — the ten-minute walk, the one paragraph, the stretch instead of the workout, and why you have to write these down today, while you're calm, instead of trying to invent one at nine o'clock on a WednesdayThe great lock in vs. the winter arc — the ninety-day version starting October first, why you haven't missed anything if that's the one you've been seeing, and how to use the three-week gap so October first isn't day one for you The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Conair InfinitiPRO Infrared Thermal Brush Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    23. The Great Lock In | How to Plan Your Winter Arc and Finish the Year Strong
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The Purfect Sunday Podcast is a weekly self-improvement podcast for women who are done playing small and ready to become the main character of their own lives. I'm Monti — I'm not an expert. I'm a woman who pays attention. And what I keep noticing is that the thing standing between you and the life you want usually isn't the situation — it's the frame you're seeing it through. So that's what we do here. We change the frame. Every Sunday morning, I bring you a real story, a lesson I learned the hard way, and one thing you can actually take into your week. This is a self-improvement podcast for women who want real talk on confidence, mindset, self-respect, money, relationships, and the small daily habits that change how you show up in the world — no clinical language, no diagnosis, no hustle-culture grind. Here's what this show believes: no matter what hand life dealt you, it's yours to build from here. Every woman is capable of it. This isn't a podcast about unpacking what happened to you — it's a podcast about what you do next. Confidence without the credentials. Mindset without the therapy-speak. Self-improvement that actually feels like your friend telling you the truth on a Sunday morning. Mindset and looks both matter — and both are built the same way: one small, self-respecting choice at a time, until you're so in love with yourself and your life that nothing can disturb your peace. New episodes every Sunday morning. Settle in, hit subscribe, and get ready to become the main character of your own Sunday. — Monti

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