Thriving with DBT

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What does it actually look like to learn Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills? In Thriving With DBT, TheraHive takes you behind the closed doors of 1-on-1 coaching sessions. Each season, we follow one real student as they navigate a full module of the TheraHive Adult DBT Skills program. Hosted by Dr. Alicia Smart and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein, these episodes provide a rare, fly-on-the-wall look at the hard work, "aha" moments, and practical applications of DBT skills in real-time. Whether we’re exploring the foundations of Mindfulness or the nuances of Interpersonal Effectiveness, you’ll see the human side of behavioral change. Join us as our students move from feeling stuck to thriving, one skill at a time.

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  1. Episode 1

    Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 1

    Conflict avoidance feels safe until it starts costing you. In Week 1 of the Interpersonal Effectiveness module, Dr. Alicia Smart and Edward discuss the hidden barriers to genuine connection, including communication myths and the pull toward people-pleasing. Together, they dive into one of the hardest parts of relating to others: balancing your goals, your relationships, and your self-respect without letting any of them collapse. Takeaways Myths and Belief Systems Around CommunicationBalancing Objectives, Relationships, and Self-RespectAssertiveness vs. Conflict AvoidanceNegotiation and Asking for HelpMental Health Stigma in Interpersonal ContextsPrioritizing Relationship Stability Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness05:31 SMART Goal for Interpersonal Effectiveness23:11 Challenges in Interpersonal Communication29:02 Overcoming Self-Reliance and Seeking Help35:31 Balancing Objectives, Relationships, and Self-Respect42:33 Conflict Avoidance and Assertiveness48:08 Prioritizing Relationship Stability

  2. Episode 2

    Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 2

    The conversation begins with a mindfulness exercise and reflection, leading to the introduction of the Dear Man skill for interpersonal effectiveness. The discussion progresses to the preparation for using the Dear Man skill, followed by a breakdown of the skill's components: Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Appear Confident, and Negotiate. The conversation concludes with a deep dive into the challenges of assertiveness and the impact on personal and professional interactions. Edward and Dr. Alicia Smart discuss the fear of making requests, the outcome of the Dear Man conversation, reflections on the Dear Man technique, and conclude with acknowledgment and gratitude, transitioning to week 3 of interpersonal effectiveness. Takeaways Mindfulness can aid in preparing for tough conversations by setting clear intentions and goals.The Dear Man skill involves specific steps for effective communication, including describing the situation, expressing feelings, making clear requests, providing reinforcement, maintaining confidence, and negotiating. The impact of past experiences on making requestsThe importance of structure in communication Chapters 00:00 Mindfulness and Interpersonal Effectiveness05:01 Introduction to Dear Man Skill14:47 Describe and Express20:38 Appear Confident and Negotiate26:32 Overcoming the Fear of Making Requests36:26 Reflections on the Dear Man Technique48:39 Conclusion and Next Steps

  3. Episode 3

    Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 3

    The conversation delves into the GIVE skill in interpersonal effectiveness, emphasizing the importance of validation and self-validation. It explores the impact of invalidation and the challenges of self-validation, highlighting the need for compassionate understanding and acceptance of one's emotions. Takeaways The GIVE skill is a powerful tool for effective communication and relationship building.Validation and self-validation play a crucial role in emotional well-being and interpersonal dynamics. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness05:50 Applying the GIVE Skill in Challenging Conversations13:30 The Power of Validation in Relationships20:20 Understanding Validation and Recovering from Invalidation30:52 Self-Validation and Recovering from Invalidation38:27 Challenges with Self-Validation and Seeking Help

  4. Episode 4

    Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 4

    The conversation begins with a mindfulness exercise and self-reflection, leading into an exploration of interpersonal interactions. The FAST skill for self-respect effectiveness is introduced, followed by its application in work scenarios. The discussion delves into struggles with the FAST skill, the impact of apologizing unnecessarily, and concludes with a reflection on personal struggles and improvement. The conversation explores the use of the Dime Game as a tool for clarity in interpersonal communication. It delves into personal scenarios, analysis of Dime Game results, challenges and growth with assertiveness, and the reconciliation of personal struggles. The discussion concludes with closing thoughts and takeaways for the listeners. Takeaways Mindfulness and self-reflection are essential for exploring interpersonal effectiveness.The FAST skill, particularly self-respect effectiveness, requires a balance between being fair to oneself and others, avoiding unnecessary apologies, and sticking to personal values. The Dime Game provides clarity in interpersonal communication.Assertiveness and self-respect skills are essential for maintaining healthy relationships. Chapters 00:00 Mindfulness and Self-Reflection05:20 Exploring Interpersonal Interactions08:19 FAST Skill: Self-Respect Effectiveness11:13 Application of FAST Skill in Work Scenarios19:10 Struggles with FAST Skill and Self-Respect21:25 Impact of Apologizing Unnecessarily22:28 Reflection on Personal Struggles and Improvement23:28 The Dime Game: A Tool for Clarity28:18 Using the Dime Game in a Personal Scenario32:08 Analyzing the Dime Game Results36:12 Challenges and Growth with the Dime Game39:56 Reconciling Personal Struggles with Assertiveness42:47 Closing Thoughts and Takeaways

  5. Episode 5

    Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 5

    The conversation begins with a mindfulness exercise and transitions into a discussion about dialectics in DBT. It explores the application of dialectics in practice, the role of distress tolerance and the middle path, and the concept of acceptance and change within dialectics. The conversation delves into the practice of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and its impact on interpersonal relationships, emotional regulation, and self-perception. It explores the art of compromise, the role of self-respect in communication, the concept of dialectics, non-dialectical communication patterns, emotional vulnerability, compassion, non-dialectical self-talk, and the power of dialectics in resolving conflicts and fostering connection. Takeaways Mindfulness and dialectics are interconnected practices for managing interpersonal effectiveness.Dialectics in DBT involve understanding and applying the concept of accepting two seemingly opposite truths simultaneously. The importance of compromise in communicationThe impact of dialectics on emotional regulation and interpersonal relationships Chapters 00:00 Mindfulness and Dialectics06:18 Understanding Dialectics in DBT09:31 Applying Dialectics in Practice13:26 Distress Tolerance and Middle Path19:29 Acceptance and Change in Dialectics22:42 The Art of Compromise23:13 Self-Respect and Apology24:10 Understanding Dialectics25:33 Non-Dialectical Communication27:39 Emotional Vulnerability and Misunderstanding30:02 Compassion and Connection40:50 Non-Dialectical Self-Talk45:04 The Power of Dialectics

  6. Episode 6

    Interpersonal Effectiveness Week 6

    Dr. Alicia Smart begins the conversation with a mindfulness exercise and focuses on gratitude. The discussion then transitions to behaviorism and reinforcement, where Edward shares his positive reinforcement strategy for calm and direct communication during stressful situations. The conversation explores measuring effectiveness, unintended consequences, role play, and troubleshooting interpersonal effectiveness. It concludes with a discussion on expressing needs and self-doubt. The conversation delves into the impact of invalidation on emotional vulnerability, the challenge of seeking help and support, the toll of compromising in a relationship, the long-term impact of dysregulation, the need for self-validation and self-care, the incompatibility of communication styles, the impact of invalidation on sharing and vulnerability, the role of emotional vulnerability in relationships, troubleshooting interpersonal effectiveness, improvement and practice in interpersonal effectiveness, and reflection and acknowledgment of personal growth. Takeaways Mindfulness and gratitude can positively impact emotional well-being.Positive reinforcement and effective communication strategies can improve interpersonal interactions. Invalidation can have a significant impact on emotional vulnerability and well-being.Self-validation and self-care are essential in navigating challenging relationships and seeking support.Improvement in interpersonal effectiveness requires practice and reflection. Chapters 00:00 Mindfulness and Gratitude04:49 Behaviorism and Reinforcement08:00 Positive Reinforcement Strategy11:01 Measuring Effectiveness and Unintended Consequences16:09 Role Play and Troubleshooting22:23 Expressing Needs and Self-Doubt27:13 Invalidation and Emotional Vulnerability28:12 The Impact of Invalidation on Emotional State30:01 The Challenge of Seeking Help and Support31:15 The Toll of Compromising in a Relationship32:26 The Long-Term Impact of Dysregulation34:22 The Need for Self-Validation and Self-Care35:15 The Incompatibility of Communication Styles36:43 The Impact of Invalidation on Sharing and Vulnerability39:09 The Role of Emotional Vulnerability in Relationships47:06 Troubleshooting Interpersonal Effectiveness49:27 Improvement and Practice in Interpersonal Effectiveness52:40 Reflection and Acknowledgment of Personal Growth

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What does it actually look like to learn Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills? In Thriving With DBT, TheraHive takes you behind the closed doors of 1-on-1 coaching sessions. Each season, we follow one real student as they navigate a full module of the TheraHive Adult DBT Skills program. Hosted by Dr. Alicia Smart and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein, these episodes provide a rare, fly-on-the-wall look at the hard work, "aha" moments, and practical applications of DBT skills in real-time. Whether we’re exploring the foundations of Mindfulness or the nuances of Interpersonal Effectiveness, you’ll see the human side of behavioral change. Join us as our students move from feeling stuck to thriving, one skill at a time.

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  • Creator
    TheraHive
  • Episodes
    13
  • Seasons
    2
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 TheraHive
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