Pursue YOU with Pat Smith

Pat Smith
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Pursue YOU is a faith-centered personal growth podcast for women who feel like they’ve lost themselves in the roles, responsibilities, and expectations of life. If you’ve ever looked up and wondered, How did I get here? — this show is for you. Hosted by Patricia “Pat” Smith, Pursue YOU explores identity, healing, resilience, purpose, and the courage to rebuild from within. Through vulnerable reflections and powerful conversations with leaders and faith voices, Pat creates space for women navigating life transitions, rediscovering themselves, and redefining who they are beyond the labels. If you’re ready to reconnect with your identity, confront fear, and step into your next chapter with clarity and confidence — It’s time to Pursue YOU.

  1. Oct 14

    14: When Marriage, Dreams & Plans Don’t Turn Out the Way You Thought

    What happens when the life you imagined no longer looks like the life you’re living? In this special Best of Pursue YOU episode, Pat Smith revisits some of the most honest conversations about grief, divorce, disappointment, faith, and finding hope when life doesn’t unfold as planned. Through conversations with these guests and a deeply personal reflection from Pat herself, this episode explores the losses we often struggle to name, such as the end of a marriage, the dreams that never happened, the seasons that changed, and the future we thought we were guaranteed. Together, they unpack what it means to grieve the life you expected, release shame around your past, rebuild after failure, and learn to embrace what is in front of you without giving up on what is still possible. KEY POINTS  6: Grieving Loved Ones, Divorce & the Life You Thought You'd Have | Pat Smith & John Onwuchekwa 9: The Power to Persist: How to Build Resilience After Failure | Dr. Lamell McMorris & Pat Smith 2: Who Are You When Your Roles Are Gone? | Pat Smith on Pursue YOU Podcast 12: Learning to Let Go After Divorce: Forgiveness, Motherhood & Rediscovering Yourself with Joanne Yurich) 7: When Faith Makes You Feel Shame: Rethinking What We Were Taught with Dr. Delman Coates RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  2. Oct 7

    13: Who Am I When My Roles End? | Finding Yourself Beyond Marriage, Motherhood & Expectations

    Who are you when the roles that defined you begin to change? In this special Best of Pursue YOU episode, Pat Smith revisits powerful conversations about identity, self-worth, and the expectations that shape who we become. From marriage and motherhood to friendship, achievement, and constantly being the person everyone depends on, these conversations explore what happens when we realize we’ve spent years showing up for everyone else, but have forgotten how to show up for ourselves. Guests explore confidence beyond accomplishments, let go of perfection, build a healthier relationship with themselves, and find the freedom to embrace every version of who they are. Remember, your roles may change, but your identity was always bigger than them. KEY POINTS  9: The Confidence to Become Who You Were Always Meant to Be: Finding Purpose Beyond Success & Expectations with Dr. Delatorro McNeal 10: The Cost of Being the “Perfect” Wife & Mother: Learning to Put Yourself First with Mariana Devereaux 4: The Relationship I Never Built With Myself: Learning to Love All Parts of Me with Ludmila Woodruff (Part 1) 8: The Cost of Always Being the Strong One: Learning to Make Space for Yourself with Millicent 3: The Friendships That Carry Us Through Every Season: Love, Loss & Becoming Who We Are with Donna & Cara RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  3. Oct 5

    What I Said to My Ex-Husband’s Affair Partner After Infidelity

    What happens when you finally say what you need to say to the woman involved in your marriage’s betrayal? Joanne Yurich opens up about the difficult email she sent to her ex-husband’s affair partner, the boundaries she needed to set, and why honesty, accountability, and grace can coexist—even when the hurt is still fresh. GUEST RESOURCES  Joanne Yurich RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  4. Sep 30

    12: Learning to Let Go After Divorce: Forgiveness, Motherhood & Rediscovering Yourself with Joanne Yurich

    What does letting go look like when the people connected to your deepest hurt are still part of your life? In this Part 2 episode with Joanne Yurich, Joanne opens up about the complicated aftermath of divorce, infidelity, and watching her ex-husband build a new life with the woman he had an affair with. She shares how the experience affected her children, why she finally wrote a deeply honest letter setting boundaries, and what she has learned about choosing peace without pretending the pain is gone. Pat also reflects on her own experiences navigating divorce, blended families, forgiveness, and relationships with the women who became part of her children’s lives. Together, they explore motherhood, accountability, co-parenting, friendship, and the difficult work of accepting life as it is, and not as you thought it would be. KEY POINTS  00:00 — Betrayal can create more than one trauma. 01:31 — Letting go means refusing to live in constant frustration. 04:34 — Divorce reshapes the kids’ trust, too. 09:39 — Motherhood means showing up, even when it hurts. 15:44 — Boundaries can be part of healing. 17:08 — Name the facts, the feelings, and what you need. 22:40 — Boundaries can change as healing changes you. 29:22 — Grace does not mean it stopped hurting. 37:21 — Healing is accepting life as it is, not as you imagined it. QUOTES  “I certainly feel like I am, and I still have a long ways to go, but I have so much to be thankful for in life.” – Joanne Yurich “The first trauma was finding out about the affair. The second trauma was finding out that he didn't want to be married to me anymore after he said he was recommitted. So it was like two traumas that I had to deal with.” – Joanne Yurich “Just because I'm being graceful and trying to do the right thing for my kid, it doesn't mean that it's easy.” – Joanne Yurich GUEST RESOURCES  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  5. Sep 28

    The Trauma of Betrayal, Infidelity & Learning to Trust Again

    After discovering her husband’s affair, Joanne Yurich faced the devastating reality of betrayal, a shaken sense of trust, and the question of whether her marriage could be rebuilt. She shares the emotional trauma of that first discovery, why she chose to fight for her family, and what it took to begin trusting again. A deeply honest conversation about infidelity, marriage, forgiveness, and the complicated road back to yourself. GUEST RESOURCES  Joanne Yurich  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  6. Sep 23

    11: Can a Marriage Survive Infidelity? What Happens After You Decide to Stay

    In Part 1 of this deeply honest episode of Pursue YOU, Pat Smith sits down with her longtime friend Joanne Yurich to talk about the reality of rebuilding a marriage after infidelity. Joanne opens up about the moment she discovered her husband’s affair, why she chose to fight for her marriage and family, and the trauma that followed even after he promised to recommit. Together, Pat and Joanne unpack betrayal, trust, therapy, intimacy, parenting through marital crisis, self-esteem, and the complicated decision to stay when the future you imagined suddenly feels uncertain. KEY POINTS  00:00 — Introduction: The Woman Who Always Had It Together 06:51 — Feeling Unseen Inside a “Great” Marriage 11:43 — The Affair That Changed Everything 24:23 — The First Trauma: Finding Out About the Affair 27:42 — The Second Trauma: When Recommitment Wasn’t Enough 30:44 — The Impossible Question: How Do You Trust Again? 33:23 — When the Kids Know Something Is Wrong 40:36 — When Trust Makes You Question Everything 48:16 — When Marriage Starts Affecting Your Self-Esteem 53:33 — The Comparison Trap After Betrayal QUOTES  “When I first found out, I thought I'd be done. I thought if I ever found out I'm a strong woman, there is no way I would let a man disrespect me like that or my family. There's no way. But that is not at all how I reacted.” – Joanne Yurich  “When I went through a really terrible cheating situation with a boyfriend, that also chipped at my self-esteem.” – Pat Smith  “This is not who I am. I am either going to trust you again, or I'm not.” – Joanne Yurich  GUEST RESOURCES  Joanne Yurich  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  7. Sep 21

    I Spent 18 Years Styling Women... Then I Saw the Insecurity Clothes Couldn’t Fix

    After nearly two decades helping women feel confident in what they wear, Mariana Devereaux realized her purpose was shifting from how women look to how they feel. In this segment of Pursue YOU, Mariana shares why she’s pivoting from fashion and styling into health and wellness, what her own health journey taught her, and why she believes taking care of yourself from the inside out can change so much more than your appearance. Pat and Mariana explore insecurity, nutrition, metabolic health, gut health, and what it looks like to pursue a new purpose in a new season of life GUEST RESOURCES  Mariana Devereaux M.Ed. Licensed in Nutrition & Health Website | morewithmari.com/  Health & Wellness coach 214~729~5529 IG | @morewithmari25 RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  8. Sep 16

    10: The Cost of Being the “Perfect” Wife & Mother: Learning to Put Yourself First with M]ariana Devereaux

    What happens when being a “good” wife, mother, daughter, and friend has always meant putting yourself last? On today’s deeply honest and enlightening episode of Pursue YOU, Pat Smith sits down with her longtime friend Mariana Devereaux for an honest conversation about perfectionism, self-sacrifice, motherhood, health, forgiveness, friendship, and learning to care for yourself without guilt. Mariana opens up about the beliefs she inherited around serving others, the pressure to appear perfectly put together, and the realization that “being good” had quietly become tied to doing everything for everyone else. She also shares her decades-long struggle with bulimia, the family patterns that shaped her relationship with her body, and the slow process of learning to approach health from a different place. Together, Pat and Mariana explore menopause, sleep, boundaries, gratitude, aging, and what it means to enter a season where your children are grown but the guilt of choosing yourself can remain. Their conversation also turns deeply personal as Pat admits why she tends to isolate when she is struggling and the two reflect on the accountability, forgiveness, and grace that have sustained their friendship for more than 25 years. KEY POINTS  00:00 — Introduction: Learning to serve yourself after years of serving everyone else. 03:00 — Letting go of perfection and choosing balance. 06:44 — How family and culture shaped Mariana’s instinct to put others first. 10:17 — Why guilt can linger even after your children are grown. 12:45 — Forgiveness, family wounds, and the power of acknowledgment. 19:01 — Mariana’s pivot from fashion and styling into health & wellness. 27:24 — Mariana opens up about her 20-year struggle with bulimia. 34:30 — Pat shares her experience with menopause and asking for help. 52:26 — What long-term friendship requires: honesty, grace, and accountability. 59:12 — Pat on learning to stop defending herself and own her mistakes. 1:01:33 — How losing her sister changed the way Pat thinks about resentment. QUOTES  “It’s not about being perfect; it’s about balance.” — Mariana Devereaux “I used to get so defensive when I did things wrong. I didn’t want to be wrong.” — Pat Smith “I still have a little guilt that sometimes creeps up on my shoulder that I should still be doing more for everybody else.” — Mariana Devereaux GUEST RESOURCES  Mariana Devereaux M.Ed. Licensed in Nutrition & Health Website | morewithmari.com/  Health & Wellness coach 214~729~5529 IG | @morewithmari25 RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

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Pursue YOU is a faith-centered personal growth podcast for women who feel like they’ve lost themselves in the roles, responsibilities, and expectations of life. If you’ve ever looked up and wondered, How did I get here? — this show is for you. Hosted by Patricia “Pat” Smith, Pursue YOU explores identity, healing, resilience, purpose, and the courage to rebuild from within. Through vulnerable reflections and powerful conversations with leaders and faith voices, Pat creates space for women navigating life transitions, rediscovering themselves, and redefining who they are beyond the labels. If you’re ready to reconnect with your identity, confront fear, and step into your next chapter with clarity and confidence — It’s time to Pursue YOU.

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  • Creator
    Pat Smith
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    27
  • Copyright
    © 2026

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