Help Me Be Me

I’ve listened to many episodes, really tried to metabolize some of the advice, but I just don’t? It just doesn’t stick the way other creators have for me. I think it’s the talking in loops, repeating but not in a helpful way, and weirdly/unnecessary (in my opinion) organization of the information makes it come off informational while actually being personal. Also, might just be a me thing, but my b.s. detector goes off quite often with her personal anecdotes or examples. Also hard to take advice from anyone in as privileged as a lot in life as she is. Unrelatable

SMB has saved me many a time; not with groundbreaking concepts, but the often fun and no-clinical bs she puts on them. Not to mention, how candid and generous she is with her own story. It’s not writ in stone, it’s responsive to the real world and that’s what I really appreciate. The confidence and training is there, but the pedantic ‘I know best’ is not. You’re excited about discovering this wild self and social world, all the while being able to step back - with here encouragement too- and say, ‘Is this right for me?’

You lost me today with your description of the importance of working really, really hard. This is workaholism. As a Buddhist I am reminded of the idea of not being so forceful. Of course in life we must sometimes work hard but we must also give ourselves grace. I did not hear you mention the fundamental concept of noticing our needs today. What I heard was an attitude of accomplishing over caring for ourselves. Also describing your involvement with a "very famous actor / athlete makes me uncomfortable; isn't this considered unethical for a therapist? And last, your mantra of "don't forget to smile" this is an activating concept, especially among women. I cringe every time I hear it. How about a mantra that involves giving ourselves grace, or sitting with life's discomfort? I do appreciate the work you but these are deal-breakers for me. Thank you.

This podcast has helped me so much. I have listened for years and try to share it with everyone I know who could benefit from it. The latest episode about anxiety was so helpful, I would love to share it with my husband who suffers from chronic anxiety, but he is an atheist and I already know, the use of the word "god" even with the trigger warning, and the invitation to fill in the word that works for you--- it would be an automatic turn off for him. I don't want anyone to ever filter themselves. And just like she says in the podcast, what would it feel like to say what you want without worrying about what anybody else thinks? She used to not use the "god" word as much and I just feel like it can be alienating. I wish others were more open minded and that would not be a turn off for them. There are so many people I know this could benefit but who I already know will dismiss it as soon as they hear that. Thank you for being my therapist when I haven't been able to afford to see one, much love and gratefulness and sorry for giving any type of criticism, and these are obviously things that are wrong with the listener and not the content creator.