Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

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Want help for your real-life relationship problems? We address issues that couples face every day and provide tools to deal with: affairs, limerence, sexual rejection, lying, communication issues, and much more. If you want to know how to make your relationships stronger - this podcast is for you. https://www.MarriageHelper.com

  1. 2d ago

    Our Counselor Told Us To Divorce... We Saved Our Marriage Instead

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Everyone told Scott to walk away. The affair. The lies. The cold distance that built for months. On paper, this was the marriage other people would tell you to end and not feel bad about it. He didn't walk away. Not because he was naive. Not because he excused anything. Because he still loved his wife, and he could not live with never having tried. In this conversation, Scott takes me back to 2019, the year his marriage came apart, and walks me through how it came all the way back. He found out at 4 in the morning. The phone going off. His wife not in the bed. The search he ran to figure out who was texting her is the thing that led him to Marriage Helper. What he learned there changed how he showed up. He stopped reacting. He stopped trying to control her. He stayed calm in the exact moments most people detonate. By the time his daughter pulled him aside and asked if he knew, he was already further into his own healing than anyone around him realized. Here is the part people argue with me about. "You're letting the cheater off the hook." "Once a cheater, always a cheater." We see it in the comments every week. Scott answers it head on. He never permitted anything. He was powerless to control someone else's choices. Accepting what you cannot control is not the same as excusing it. For a year, they were divorced in every way but the judge's signature. She moved states away. The settlement was nearly done. Then she came home. One year to the day after the workshop they attended together. Today their marriage is stronger than it was in the first 24 years. Scott coaches on our team now. His wife leads breakout groups at our workshops. If your marriage is the one everyone says can't be saved, this is the story to sit with. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    37 min

  2. 6d ago

    What To Do When You're Stuck In A Sexless Marriage

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You think it's a sex problem. Most of the time, it isn't. When the spark is gone and one of you is always "too tired," the instinct is to fix the bedroom. Buy something. Try harder. Schedule it. But the bedroom is almost never where the problem started. Up to a third of couples are living in what researchers call low-sex or no-sex marriages. You are not broken. You are not the only ones. And you are not stuck. Here's the part nobody tells you. A fatigued woman cannot get aroused. That isn't an attitude problem. It's physiology. So if she's running on empty all day and you're waiting for her to come alive at night, you're working against her body, not with it. Real intimacy is "into-me-see." It's what happens when the relationship outside the bedroom is healthy enough to follow you into it. Everything outside affects everything inside. And everything inside affects everything outside. This video walks through what's actually driving the distance. The exhaustion. The resentment. The slow drift where your passion quietly moved toward the kids, the job, the to-do list, and away from each other. It also covers what this won't fix. Physiological issues need a doctor. Past trauma needs a trained counselor. Those are real, and they matter. But if the problem is the relationship itself, that's the good news. Because that's the part you can actually change. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    19 min

  3. Jun 15

    Am I Wrong For Questioning My Marriage After What My Husband Told Me?

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Watch the video about our 7 step process here: https://bit.ly/3QfOjsj He sent me a message. He said he wants to work on his mistakes. He wants to move forward. He doesn't want our kid raised in a divided home. She read it and printed divorce papers. Her question. Is that even communication? Or is he just asking me to forget everything that happened? Here's where almost everyone gets this wrong. She thinks he's gaslighting her. She keeps a record of every conversation so she can prove she's not crazy. She feels unheard, dismissed, blamed. But I don't think he's gaslighting her at all. I think they're talking past each other. Two different worldviews. Two different ways of processing the same fight. And the record of wrongs she's keeping to feel grounded is the exact thing pushing him further away. In this video I read Reddit posts and respond to three real marriages. The husband with a female best friend he just handed 25% of his business. The husband who can't hold a job. And this one. He's trying. She just can't hear it yet. I'll show you what it actually takes to fix a marriage like this one. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    23 min

  4. Jun 12

    The 4 Things That Make Your Spouse Want to Come Home

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Your spouse wants to leave. Okay. Let them. But here's what nobody tells you. Even if they walk out that door, there's still one person you're left with. You. So you might as well become someone you actually like living with. And here's the secret most people miss. That's also the one thing most likely to bring your spouse back. In this video, I teach you the framework I call the PIES. Four areas of your life. Four ways you become the most attractive version of yourself. Physical. Intellectual. Emotional. Spiritual. And I teach it while making an actual pie, because every ingredient matters, and so does every part of you. Physical isn't about a magazine cover. It's sleep, movement, food, and the energy to handle a marriage in crisis. Intellectual is becoming a fascinating person to talk to again. Emotional is being the sugar, not the salt. The compliments, not the complaints. Spiritual is living in line with what you actually believe. Here's the part you have to hear. This only works when you do it for you. Not as a tactic. Not to manipulate them back. People don't leave what they have unless they believe what they're going to is better. So be the better. I'll show you how. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    21 min

  5. Jun 5

    The Ultimate Guide To Saving Your Marriage When You're The Only One Trying

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to get the Save My Marriage Course or learn about out Couples Workshops: https://bit.ly/4vzEaps You can't control whether your spouse fights for the marriage. You can only control whether you do. That's the hardest part of saving a marriage alone. You're pouring everything in while they've checked out, filed, or already walked away. And every instinct you have right now (the pleading, the chasing, the trying to make them see) is most likely pushing them further away. In this video, I break down the three things you can start doing today, with or without your spouse on board. How to calm down so you stop reacting out of panic. How to spot the behaviors that are quietly driving them away. And how to start becoming the person they fell in love with in the first place. I've lived this. I was the one crying on the bathroom floor, convinced my husband was the whole problem. Two things turned out to be true at once. He was doing things he shouldn't have, and I was contributing to where we ended up. Owning my part is what changed everything. You can get halfway there on your own. Here's how to start. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    1h 17m

  6. May 29

    Stop Asking Your Spouse To Work On The Marriage – Part 1

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to watch part 2! https://bit.ly/4dLDJRu Asking your spouse to work on the marriage isn't working. Because they don't want to work on the marriage. That's the whole problem. Stop asking. Nobody wants more counseling. Nobody wants another conversation about "us." Nobody wants to be handed a printout of what's wrong with them on Halloween night. They need a different reason to walk through the door. In this video, Amber and I break down how to actually get a resistant spouse to a Marriage Helper workshop, even when they've filed, even when there's an affair partner, even when they've already said it's over. The shift: Stop selling the marriage. Find what actually motivates them. Take "us" off the table. Treat it like a business agreement. Your job is to get them through the door. Our job is the next 3 days. That's how marriages get saved, not by convincing your spouse to love you again, but by getting them in the room where the work actually happens. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    24 min

  7. May 22

    How To Choose Between Yourself And Your Marriage

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to sign up for coaching →  https://marriagehelper.com/coaching ---------------------------------------------------- You don't have to pick between yourself and your marriage. That's the lie that keeps people stuck. Stay and shrink. Leave and grieve. Endure the mistreatment or end the marriage. Those aren't your only options. In this video, Nathan breaks down the difference between pain and damage, and why getting this wrong is the reason so many marriages either dissolve or destroy the people inside them. Pain is what makes you stronger. Damage is what breaks you. One you push through. The other you stop. And most people can't tell them apart. He walks through two real client stories. Both women were hurting. Both were asking the same question. "Do I keep showing up, or do I walk away?" But the right answer for one was the exact opposite of the right answer for the other. One needed to lean in. The other needed to put up boundaries. And the moment they figured out which was which, everything changed. Not just for them, but for their marriages too. Because here's what nobody tells you: What's best for you is often what's best for the marriage. You don't have to choose. But you do have to know the difference between the pain that's making you stronger and the damage that's slowly killing you. That's what this video is about. How to tell which one you're in. What to do about it. And how to stop walking on a broken leg in the name of saving your marriage. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    12 min

  8. May 15

    I've Been Teaching This Marriage Principle Wrong For 14 Years...

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Take The Free Marriage Crisis Assessment Here → https://bit.ly/4nD2kfW ----------------------------------------------------------- I've been teaching this marriage principle for 14 years. And I've been getting it wrong. The principle: your spouse's perception trumps your intention. It's true. But it's only half the story. Because perception can be weaponized. "He scheduled a reminder to send me flowers... if he really loved me, he wouldn't need one." "He spent $60 on roses and didn't even put them in water." "He moved my stuff again." That's not perception. That's negative sentiment override. And it'll kill your marriage faster than the original hurt ever could. In this video, I break down what I missed for 14 years... the push-pull dynamic underneath every interaction, why your spouse's good intentions still land as wounds, and how to respond without weaponizing your perception against the person trying to love you. Grace is needed on both sides. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

    14 min
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Want help for your real-life relationship problems? We address issues that couples face every day and provide tools to deal with: affairs, limerence, sexual rejection, lying, communication issues, and much more. If you want to know how to make your relationships stronger - this podcast is for you. https://www.MarriageHelper.com

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