Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

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Marriage Helper
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Want help for your real-life relationship problems? We address issues that couples face every day and provide tools to deal with: affairs, limerence, sexual rejection, lying, communication issues, and much more. If you want to know how to make your relationships stronger - this podcast is for you. https://www.MarriageHelper.com

  1. 3d ago

    Affairs, AI, and a 30 Year Crush – Reacting To Unhinged YouTube Comments

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You leave the comments. I read them. This week I'm going straight into the ones that made me stop scrolling. The bold ones. The angry ones. The ones that questioned everything I teach. A woman still carrying a crush from 30 years ago, wondering why it still hurts. A commenter convinced that saving a marriage means forcing two miserable people to stay together. Someone who swears you could never ask your spouse what makes them feel loved and actually get an answer. A person certain that once a cheater, always a cheater. And one comment about AI that I could not let go of. Here's what I keep coming back to. The future doesn't have to look like the past. But only if you're willing to fix what was actually broken. You can walk away and start over, but if you never deal with what pushed the other person away, you carry it straight into the next relationship. That's the push and the pull. The things you do that make your spouse feel seen. And the things you do that quietly make them feel like you don't love them. Most of us are moving too fast to even notice the difference. Then there's AI. I'm not scared of the technology. I'm scared of what happens when people turn to their phone at 2am instead of to God, to a friend, to the hard and vulnerable conversation with the person sitting right in front of them. I'm scared of a generation losing the skill to actually be a good husband or a good wife. Rant included. Hope included. Because there is always hope. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  2. Jul 10

    How To Identify A Limerent Affair

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You're convinced nobody has ever felt what you're feeling right now. I understand why. But I've sat with hundreds of people who felt the exact same thing. The obsessive pull toward someone who isn't your spouse.  The daydreaming that swallows most of your day.  The spiral when they don't text back fast enough.  The certainty that this one person is the only thing standing between you and a happy life. It has a name. Limerence. It feels like the deepest love you've ever known. It isn't. It's a spike. A chemical high wrapped around a fantasy you've built in your mind, one where you can't see their flaws and they can't see yours. And here's what nobody in the middle of it wants to hear: it ends. Every time. In this video, you'll hear the story of a man who was sure he was the exception. He walked away from his marriage, his family, all of it, because being with her felt like the only thing that mattered. Three years later he was back, trying to rebuild the life he'd torn apart. Limerence draws people together. It was never built to keep them together. That takes a different kind of love entirely. If you're in the early stages, deep in the thick of it, or trying to pick up the pieces after it, this one is worth your time. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  3. Jul 3

    "My Husband Paid Me $2000 To Marry Him" – Answering Listener Questions

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You made a commitment. But you're not sure you'd make it again. That's where a lot of people are. And in this episode, I answer their questions honestly. One woman has been married 41 years. She loves her husband. She's just never been in love with him. She's asking if it's too late, or if this whole thing was a 41-year mistake. Another asks the thing most separated spouses are afraid to say out loud. If we're both doing fine apart, if we're both becoming our best selves, what would ever bring us back? And one man wants an answer to something bigger. Does God change hearts? Or has his wife's decision already settled it? Here's what I keep coming back to. Love is a choice. But it's also a process. Follow the path and you can fall in love with almost anyone. Stop following it and you can fall out of love without ever meaning to. PIES is where it starts. Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual. But it's the first step, not the finish line. Becoming your best self doesn't pull someone back on its own. Two people don't fall in love just by standing side by side as their best selves. There has to be a lean in. There has to be acceptance. A safe place where someone is finally allowed to be who they are without being asked to change. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  4. Jun 26

    How to Get Your Spouse to ACTUALLY Talk to You Again

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What to do in the first 72 hours after your marriage crisis: Watch Here 👉 https://bit.ly/4wgrNiq Most conversations with your spouse aren't going anywhere. They're stale. They're tense. Or they've stopped happening altogether. Every time you try to talk, it turns into the same fight. You go in circles. And somehow you land worse than where you started. Here's the shift: stop circling. Start looping. A circle erases. Every fight burns down whatever progress you made and resets you to zero. Sometimes below zero. A loop builds. You lay one track, you save it, you build on it. Layer by layer, day by day, until you look up and it's a real marriage again. In this video, I'll show you how to do it. The first track you always lay down (hint: it's not the problem you think you need to solve). How to bank a win instead of tearing it back down with your very next sentence. And the six loops you move through in order, because you don't get to pick where you start. You earn your way up. Same couple. Same conversation. Two completely different outcomes. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, and for 14 years I've helped people save marriages everyone else said were over. If you're tired of having the same fight on repeat, this is where you start. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  5. Jun 22

    Our Counselor Told Us To Divorce... We Saved Our Marriage Instead

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Everyone told Scott to walk away. The affair. The lies. The cold distance that built for months. On paper, this was the marriage other people would tell you to end and not feel bad about it. He didn't walk away. Not because he was naive. Not because he excused anything. Because he still loved his wife, and he could not live with never having tried. In this conversation, Scott takes me back to 2019, the year his marriage came apart, and walks me through how it came all the way back. He found out at 4 in the morning. The phone going off. His wife not in the bed. The search he ran to figure out who was texting her is the thing that led him to Marriage Helper. What he learned there changed how he showed up. He stopped reacting. He stopped trying to control her. He stayed calm in the exact moments most people detonate. By the time his daughter pulled him aside and asked if he knew, he was already further into his own healing than anyone around him realized. Here is the part people argue with me about. "You're letting the cheater off the hook." "Once a cheater, always a cheater." We see it in the comments every week. Scott answers it head on. He never permitted anything. He was powerless to control someone else's choices. Accepting what you cannot control is not the same as excusing it. For a year, they were divorced in every way but the judge's signature. She moved states away. The settlement was nearly done. Then she came home. One year to the day after the workshop they attended together. Today their marriage is stronger than it was in the first 24 years. Scott coaches on our team now. His wife leads breakout groups at our workshops. If your marriage is the one everyone says can't be saved, this is the story to sit with. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  6. Jun 19

    What To Do When You're Stuck In A Sexless Marriage

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You think it's a sex problem. Most of the time, it isn't. When the spark is gone and one of you is always "too tired," the instinct is to fix the bedroom. Buy something. Try harder. Schedule it. But the bedroom is almost never where the problem started. Up to a third of couples are living in what researchers call low-sex or no-sex marriages. You are not broken. You are not the only ones. And you are not stuck. Here's the part nobody tells you. A fatigued woman cannot get aroused. That isn't an attitude problem. It's physiology. So if she's running on empty all day and you're waiting for her to come alive at night, you're working against her body, not with it. Real intimacy is "into-me-see." It's what happens when the relationship outside the bedroom is healthy enough to follow you into it. Everything outside affects everything inside. And everything inside affects everything outside. This video walks through what's actually driving the distance. The exhaustion. The resentment. The slow drift where your passion quietly moved toward the kids, the job, the to-do list, and away from each other. It also covers what this won't fix. Physiological issues need a doctor. Past trauma needs a trained counselor. Those are real, and they matter. But if the problem is the relationship itself, that's the good news. Because that's the part you can actually change. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  7. Jun 15

    Am I Wrong For Questioning My Marriage After What My Husband Told Me?

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Watch the video about our 7 step process here: https://bit.ly/3QfOjsj He sent me a message. He said he wants to work on his mistakes. He wants to move forward. He doesn't want our kid raised in a divided home. She read it and printed divorce papers. Her question. Is that even communication? Or is he just asking me to forget everything that happened? Here's where almost everyone gets this wrong. She thinks he's gaslighting her. She keeps a record of every conversation so she can prove she's not crazy. She feels unheard, dismissed, blamed. But I don't think he's gaslighting her at all. I think they're talking past each other. Two different worldviews. Two different ways of processing the same fight. And the record of wrongs she's keeping to feel grounded is the exact thing pushing him further away. In this video I read Reddit posts and respond to three real marriages. The husband with a female best friend he just handed 25% of his business. The husband who can't hold a job. And this one. He's trying. She just can't hear it yet. I'll show you what it actually takes to fix a marriage like this one. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

  8. Jun 12

    The 4 Things That Make Your Spouse Want to Come Home

    Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Your spouse wants to leave. Okay. Let them. But here's what nobody tells you. Even if they walk out that door, there's still one person you're left with. You. So you might as well become someone you actually like living with. And here's the secret most people miss. That's also the one thing most likely to bring your spouse back. In this video, I teach you the framework I call the PIES. Four areas of your life. Four ways you become the most attractive version of yourself. Physical. Intellectual. Emotional. Spiritual. And I teach it while making an actual pie, because every ingredient matters, and so does every part of you. Physical isn't about a magazine cover. It's sleep, movement, food, and the energy to handle a marriage in crisis. Intellectual is becoming a fascinating person to talk to again. Emotional is being the sugar, not the salt. The compliments, not the complaints. Spiritual is living in line with what you actually believe. Here's the part you have to hear. This only works when you do it for you. Not as a tactic. Not to manipulate them back. People don't leave what they have unless they believe what they're going to is better. So be the better. I'll show you how. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Want help for your real-life relationship problems? We address issues that couples face every day and provide tools to deal with: affairs, limerence, sexual rejection, lying, communication issues, and much more. If you want to know how to make your relationships stronger - this podcast is for you. https://www.MarriageHelper.com

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