ILLUMENATE

Chris Tidrick

ILLUMENATE tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. This podcast will be the real stories of men’s lives — their influences and role models and how they’ve worked to develop themselves. The podcast will be a video interview format, where guests will share their stories, highlighting their backgrounds, the ways they are thriving, the pivotal points along their journey, where they find faith, hope, and belonging, and the places they still struggle. More information at https://illumenate.substack.com/

  1. Episode 2.11: Purpose, Healing, and Reinvention with Zach Millimet

    15H AGO

    Episode 2.11: Purpose, Healing, and Reinvention with Zach Millimet

    In this episode of ILLUMENATE, Chris sits down with Zach Millimet, a newly retired CIA officer who spent 20 years in the Directorate of Operations with assignments in Eastern Europe, the Middle East, and South Asia. Zach shares the arc of his life from growing up without a father, to finding purpose through service, to navigating a major career transition into government affairs for a climate tech startup in Minnesota. The conversation opens with Zach’s “why” — his lifelong drive to make a difference and help others — and quickly becomes a powerful reflection on identity, family, and meaning. Zach speaks candidly about the pivotal experiences that shaped him, including 9/11, his early struggles with anger and self-understanding, and the formative role of his grandfather, stepfather, wife, and children. He describes how becoming a father changed him, how marriage and parenthood forced him to grow beyond ego, and how his wife’s support helped him learn what healthy partnership and parenting can look like. He also shares the challenge of balancing a demanding career in intelligence with family life and the emotional toll of years spent abroad. The discussion goes deeper into the moments that pushed Zach toward transformation: his return from Afghanistan, the impact of the pandemic, and the immense strain of his daughter’s health battles. Through those hardships, Zach describes a process of healing that included therapy, increased emotional honesty, and a renewed commitment to showing up for his family. He also talks about his Buddhist practice, the spiritual rupture he experienced during his daughter’s illness, and the ongoing work of rebuilding a practice that fits who he is now. The episode closes with a candid conversation about masculinity, vulnerability, community, and growth. Zach makes the case that being a healthy man is not about control or performance, but about compassion, emotional awareness, generosity, and service to others. He and Chris reflect on the limits of online connection, the importance of real community, and the need for men to seek help and stay open to change. This is a thoughtful, honest, and hopeful conversation about deconstruction, resilience, and the possibility of becoming a better human at any stage of life. ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    57 min
  2. Episode 2.10: Walking Beyond Our Limits with Micah Sam

    APR 19

    Episode 2.10: Walking Beyond Our Limits with Micah Sam

    In this deeply reflective episode of ILLUMENATE, Chris sits down with Micah Sam, Director of Teaching, Learning, and Research Technologies at East Carolina University. Micah’s professional work centers on bridging gaps between people and systems, but it’s his personal journey—shaped by profound loss, resilience, and intentional growth—that takes center stage. From his early career in oncology to navigating leadership and fatherhood, Micah reveals how pivotal life moments have reshaped his understanding of purpose and connection. Micah opens up about the experiences that transformed him, including the death of his father from a rare disease, the birth of his daughter, and the influence of mentors and his wife. These moments pushed him from a life driven by fear and anxiety into one grounded in empathy and human connection. His story of volunteering in hospice care after his father’s passing is particularly moving, illustrating how suffering can become a bridge to compassion rather than isolation. A central theme of the conversation is what it means to be a “healthy man” today. Micah challenges traditional notions of masculinity, advocating instead for emotional openness, balance, and authenticity. He speaks candidly about the internal work required to unlearn harmful patterns—what he calls “maladaptive strategies”—and the grief that comes with letting go of parts of yourself that once felt essential. His metaphor of the tiger pacing a cage long after being freed captures the difficulty—and necessity—of breaking out of old mental constraints. The episode closes with a powerful exploration of leadership, vulnerability, and community. Micah shares how creating space for honesty—even admitting when he’s struggling—has reshaped his leadership style and team culture. His advice for men navigating today’s complex world is simple yet profound: be who you are, fully and unapologetically. It’s a conversation that invites listeners to reflect on their own patterns, embrace vulnerability, and step beyond the “rectangle” into a more expansive, authentic life. ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    42 min
  3. Episode 2.09: Grief, Growth, and Brotherhood with Steve Reiter

    FEB 25

    Episode 2.09: Grief, Growth, and Brotherhood with Steve Reiter

    In this episode of ILLUMENATE, Chris sits down with Steve Reiter—broadcast veteran, podcast co-founder, and nonprofit founder—for a conversation that spans professional reinvention, devastating loss, and the quiet power of loving well. Steve, whose career has included leading production for internationally syndicated programs and helping launch what became the largest rollout in radio history, begins by sharing the three words that anchor his life: create, connect, and grow. Those words, shaped in part by the influence of his late wife Elizabeth, have become a compass guiding his work, relationships, and personal evolution. Steve recounts the pivotal seasons that formed him—from moving to Colorado on a leap of faith to building a high-profile broadcasting career, only to be fired during a season of intense professional strain. But the heart of this episode centers on Elizabeth’s serious health issues, and the crucible moment when doctors warned she might not live to see their youngest son graduate. Determined to live without regret, Steve made a daily commitment to love her to the best of his ability. That resolve was tested in 2020, when Elizabeth was hospitalized during COVID-era visitor restrictions and ultimately died alone after weeks in isolation. Her death became the catalyst for Steve’s advocacy work to secure visitor rights for patients—so no family has to endure what his did. The conversation turns tender as Steve reflects on single fatherhood, raising two teenage sons through grief, and redefining what healthy masculinity looks like today. He speaks candidly about apologizing to his boys when he falls short, modeling emotional growth, and the vulnerability of loving children who are “the last pieces of her left on this planet.” From grief counseling to anime nights and track meets, Steve shares how intentional presence—and humility—became his blueprint for fatherhood. Finally, Chris and Steve explore faith, deconstruction, and community in a polarized culture. Steve describes refining his beliefs down to a simple core: love God, love yourself, and love others. He also shares the transformative impact of “Holy Smokes,” a global brotherhood built around friendship, conversation, and authenticity. At its core, this episode is about choosing connection over division, vulnerability over anger, and love over fear. Through heartbreak and rebuilding, Steve’s story is a testament to the power of listening, the necessity of brotherhood, and the lifelong work of becoming a better man. ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    1h 11m
  4. Episode 2.08: Authenticity, Honor, and Service with Jonathon Jacome

    FEB 12

    Episode 2.08: Authenticity, Honor, and Service with Jonathon Jacome

    In this episode of ILLUMENATE, Chris sits down with Jonathon Jacome, a college undergraduate who operates at the intersection of business, engineering, and community impact. Despite his young age, Jonathon brings a depth of reflection shaped by family, mentorship, and lived experience. From the very beginning, he makes it clear that his motivation is rooted not in conventional success, but in legacy—opening doors for others, creating access to education, and helping people believe that opportunity is within reach, especially for those who are too often left out of the conversation. Jonathon shares his personal journey growing up as the oldest of three brothers in Chicago, a role that instilled in him a deep sense of responsibility early on. He reflects on formative moments with his family, elders, coaches, and mentors that shaped his worldview, including lessons about leadership, accountability, and humility. A major turning point came when a diagnosis of appendicitis ended his path toward college football recruitment, forcing him to let go of an identity he had built for years. That disruption ultimately redirected him toward the Gies College of Business, entrepreneurship, and a clearer sense of purpose centered on education and service. Throughout the conversation, Jonathon offers a thoughtful definition of what it means to be a healthy man today—one that balances physical discipline with emotional awareness, confidence with kindness, and ambition with integrity. He speaks candidly about emotional intelligence, setting boundaries, and the importance of communication, accountability, and presence in relationships. Drawing from his Latino heritage and lived experience, Jonathon emphasizes the power of language, culture, and representation in helping others feel seen, valued, and capable of imagining a future for themselves. The episode closes with a reflective lightning round that reveals Jonathon’s core values: authenticity, honoring family, and service. He discusses the challenge of letting go of a “Superman mentality,” the necessity of slowing down, and why there is no rush to greatness. His advice to other young men is both grounding and hopeful—protect your character, take your time, embrace the hard work, and remember that everything truly worthwhile takes patience. This conversation is a powerful reminder that leadership isn’t about status or speed, but about impact, consistency, and showing up for others along the way. You can learn more about and connect with this episode’s guest at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonathon-jacome-5b6400250/ ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    58 min
  5. Episode 2.07: Raising Boys with Empathy, Courage, and Hope

    JAN 23

    Episode 2.07: Raising Boys with Empathy, Courage, and Hope

    Four mothers share honest reflections on guiding boys through identity, emotion, and manhood in a complex world. In this special episode of ILLUMENATE, host Chris Tidrick widens the lens on masculinity by inviting mothers into the conversation. Joined by Frida Daniels, Dayspring Fowler, Sarah Leino, and Nicole Rhea, Chris explores how boys experience growing into men long before they can articulate it—and how mothers uniquely witness, shape, and protect that development. Rather than assigning blame or responsibility, this episode centers on listening, learning, and honoring the lived experience of raising boys in partnership with families, fathers, and communities. Each guest brings a distinct perspective shaped by geography, culture, and family structure. Frida shares her experience immigrating from Venezuela as a single mother, rebuilding community while raising an emotionally expressive and empathetic son. Dayspring reflects on parenting three boys at different developmental stages, navigating confidence, comparison, and resilience. Sarah speaks candidly about divorce, small-town community support, and watching her sons grow into independence. Nicole offers insight from raising teenage boys while balancing work in social media, single motherhood, and the critical influence of coaches and mentors. The panel dives deeply into the hopes and fears of raising boys today—especially around empathy, confidence, emotional expression, and social pressure. Conversations touch on middle school challenges, bullying, standing up for others, and the pervasive influence of social media. The mothers discuss setting boundaries around technology, fostering open communication, and modeling values rather than enforcing rules alone. Throughout the episode, a recurring theme emerges: boys thrive when they feel seen, trusted, and emotionally safe. Ultimately, this episode is a testament to hope. From small acts of kindness and advocacy to moments when sons echo the values they’ve been taught, these mothers reflect on what reassures them that their boys are becoming thoughtful, grounded men. Moms of Boys is a powerful reminder that masculinity is shaped early—not just by cultural messages, but by daily conversations, consistent love, and the courage to let boys feel deeply while growing strong.Note: Due to connectivity issues, Nicole was unable to connect for the second half of the episode. ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    1h 2m
  6. Episode 2.06 Finding Joy, Gratitude, and Purpose with Howard Milton

    JAN 14

    Episode 2.06 Finding Joy, Gratitude, and Purpose with Howard Milton

    In this episode of ILLUMENATE, Chris sits down with Howard Milton, Chief Development Officer for Fighting Illini Athletics, to explore a life shaped by gratitude, generosity, and deep reflection. With more than 26 years in philanthropy and over $500 million raised in support of higher ed athletics, Howard shares how his personal journey—from growing up in a working-class, single-parent household to becoming a leader in fundraising—has informed his sense of purpose and his desire to bring joy to others. Howard opens up about the mentors and moments that changed the trajectory of his life, including the profound impact of a family who believed in him enough to help him attend college. He recounts the unlikely, almost serendipitous path that led him into fundraising at the University of Illinois, a career that initially intimidated him but ultimately became a calling. Throughout the conversation, Howard reflects on faith, gratitude, and the belief that the universe—or God—often places us exactly where we need to be. The discussion also dives deeply into what it means to be a healthy man in today’s world. Howard speaks candidly about vulnerability, the importance of slowing down to think, and the challenge men face in a society that expects them to always have the answers. He shares how shedding long-held insecurities and assumptions has allowed him to live more authentically, and why consistency, kindness, and presence matter more than titles or success. Finally, Howard reflects on pride, legacy, and growth—particularly as a husband and father of three. He emphasizes raising kind children, cultivating meaningful male friendships, and continuing his own spiritual exploration as he moves through midlife. This episode is a thoughtful, honest, and inspiring conversation about purpose, integrity, and finding joy in a rapidly changing world. You can learn more about and connect with this episode’s guest at: https://fightingillini.com/staff-directory/howard-milton/12 ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    44 min
  7. Episode 2.05: Faith, Family, and Serving Others with Rich Excell

    12/18/2025

    Episode 2.05: Faith, Family, and Serving Others with Rich Excell

    Rich Excell spent three decades in investment banking and hedge funds, living and working in five countries across Asia, Europe, and the U.S. before “settling down” as a finance professor at the Gies College of Business at the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign. In this conversation with host Chris Tidrick, Rich traces how his early motivations were driven by classic pursuits—money, power, prestige—and how he slowly came to realize that his deepest sense of happiness and purpose comes from helping others. Now in his seventh year of teaching and leading multiple academies, he sees his work in the classroom, mentoring students, and serving his community as the most impactful chapter of his career. Rich walks through his remarkable journey: moving to Japan at the peak of its stock market in 1990, working through Europe’s exchange rate meltdown, the Mexican “tequila crisis,” the Asian financial crisis, the bursting of the tech bubble, the global financial crisis, and finally stepping into academia just in time for COVID. Each seismic disruption forced him to adapt quickly, sharpen his thinking, and build a deep well of experience that he now draws on in his teaching, podcasting, and writing. He talks about how living abroad, raising kids overseas, and repeatedly rebuilding in new places made him more open-minded, adaptable, and less rattled by uncertainty. The conversation also explores Rich’s personal evolution as a man, husband, and father. Married for over 30 years with three adult children, he reflects on getting engaged in a rush to move to Singapore, raising kids overseas, and the grounding role his family played while working in high-pressure financial environments. Rich and Chris dive into what it means to be a “healthy man” today—finding balance between career, family, faith, and community; resisting the one-dimensional “finance bro” stereotype; and helping young men avoid chasing careers solely for status or money. Rich shares how his students now come to him less for help with class content and more for advice on life choices, values, and career paths—and how his own shift from self-focus to other-focus has been a decades-long journey fueled by faith and hard-earned mistakes. Rich opens up about his core values, why his favorite emotion is quiet contentment, and how impatience is his biggest struggle. He talks about the golf course as his happy place, but one that constantly teaches him about expectations and resilience. Rich describes male friendship as an extension of family—men who will drop everything for one another—and admits that his greatest vulnerability now is watching his adult children make their own choices without being able to protect them like he once could. He closes by sharing his simple framework for joy and offers encouragement to men who feel lost in a rapidly changing world: start with faith, focus on serving others, and let your own fulfillment follow from there You can learn more about and connect with this episode’s guest at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/richexcellcfa/ ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    55 min
  8. Episode 2.04: Mental Health, Masculinity, and Vulnerability with James Burke

    12/11/2025

    Episode 2.04: Mental Health, Masculinity, and Vulnerability with James Burke

    In this episode of ILLUMENATE, Chris welcomes Melbourne-based digital creative and storyteller James Burke, who shares a deeply honest exploration of mental health, masculinity, and the pursuit of an authentic life. James opens up about growing up feeling like an outsider, wrestling with societal expectations of what a “successful life” should look like, and the profound shift that happened when he and his wife began openly discussing their mental health struggles long before it was common or comfortable. Realizing that vulnerability could be a doorway to connection—not isolation—became a driving force in James’s work and personal philosophy. James’ story unfolds through formative experiences shaped by his marriage, fatherhood, and a career rooted in media and creativity. He shares candidly about his wife’s long-term anxiety disorder, her difficult pregnancies marked by severe perinatal and postnatal anxiety and depression, and the painful season when friends who lacked understanding withdrew their support. These challenges ultimately forced James to confront his own mental health, leading to a diagnosis of situational depression and the beginnings of his own therapeutic journey. His experiences eventually inspired him to produce a mental health podcast within the faith-based nonprofit world, giving countless others permission to share their own stories. A central theme of the conversation is James’s redefinition of masculinity. He describes the generational messages he inherited—stoicism, self-reliance, emotional suppression—and contrasts them with what he now sees as essential for healthy manhood: emotional intelligence, relational depth, and the courage to lean on others. His reflections on male friendship are particularly moving, especially the story of how shared adversity forged an unbreakable bond with his best friend. Their experiences—navigating mental health crises, premature births, stay-at-home fatherhood, and the dark moments that accompany them—created a friendship grounded in emotional honesty, empathy, and unwavering presence. James also discusses his evolving relationship with faith, noting how stepping away from institutional church unexpectedly strengthened his spirituality. He speaks to the tension many modern Christians feel between inherited doctrine and lived experience, and how embracing nuance, equality, and authenticity reshaped his understanding of what it means to live out his beliefs. The episode concludes with practical, heartfelt advice for men struggling to find their place in a rapidly changing world: look inward first, take responsibility for your growth, allow yourself to be vulnerable, and build the inner foundation that makes everything else feel more grounded and purposeful. ILLUMENATE is a podcast that tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. More info: https://illumenate.substack.com/about

    53 min

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ILLUMENATE tells the stories of men with good hearts, open minds, and a desire to make the world better for everyone — not just them and theirs. This podcast will be the real stories of men’s lives — their influences and role models and how they’ve worked to develop themselves. The podcast will be a video interview format, where guests will share their stories, highlighting their backgrounds, the ways they are thriving, the pivotal points along their journey, where they find faith, hope, and belonging, and the places they still struggle. More information at https://illumenate.substack.com/

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