It's Not About the Alcohol Colleen Kachmann

How often do you pour a drink that you wish you had the willpower to resist?
 
There’s a big difference between knowing what you should do and having the motivation to follow through. 
 
The mistake most people make when they want to cut back on their drinking is to use an all or nothing approach. Because it seems easier to avoid alcohol than to worry about that slippery slope of temptation. 
 
But if you’re in the habit of overdrinking, you’ve come to see yourself as someone who likes to drink more than you should. Which means that no matter how good it feels to wake up without a hangover, you’ll eventually feel deprived or get tired of making the effort.
 
In contrast, people in the habit of stopping when they’ve had enough see themselves as moderate drinkers. Turning down another drink doesn’t feel hard for them. Because they really don’t want it.
 
Everything you think, feel and do is a reflection of your self-image. Trying to change how you drink before changing how you see yourself forces you to swim against a riptide of subconscious programming.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why setting behavior-based goals such as limiting yourself to two drinks is a fast-pass to failure 
How to improve your self-image without denying you want to change
The four phases of neuroplasticity that explain why it’s not possible to change all at once
Practical strategies for how to use willpower to design processes  that make it easier to drink in moderation
 
Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer 
 
Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Are you a positive person feeling defeated by your drinking habit?
 
It’s hard to feel optimistic when you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety due to overdrinking. Worrying feels like the responsible thing to do. 
 
But if beating yourself up was an effective strategy against alcohol use disorder, your cravings for alcohol would disappear. 
 
It’s counterintuitive to let go of the shame and guilt before you have proof that you’re cured. But you can’t solve the problem using the mindset that is creating the problem. Your negative thoughts and feelings are just making it worse.
 
You already know that feeling better allows you to do better. When you manage to get it right…whatever that means to you , you feel inspired and optimistic. Which means you’re going to have to learn how to cultivate those emotions even when you’re hungover.
 
Michael Hunter is an acupuncturist with a master’s degree in Taoism, and the founder of UpSpiral Life, a program for people who want to learn how to use the Law of Attraction and manifestation practices to change their lives. In this episode, you’ll hear:
How the Law of Attraction works to expand your capacity for positive emotions (and naturally reduce your desire to use alcohol as a crutch)
Daily practices to decondition your brain from negative thinking habits
How prioritizing a sense of optimism and peace will uplevel your life in ways you can’t even imagine
Whether or not it’s actually possible to manifest a million bucks while you sit on the couch
 
Find Michael’s website at www.UpSpiral.Life, and join him on social media @sleepfix on TikTok and @UpSpiral.Life on Instagram
 
Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer
 
Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

EP130 Three skills to manage your mind so it works for you (instead of against you)
 
Are you tired of worrying about alcohol because no matter how hard you try to change, you always end up back in the same place?
 
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But most people who are serious about cutting back on their alcohol consumption have actually tried a lot of different strategies. 
 
You may have taken a break to reset your tolerance, tried medications that reduce cravings, used apps like Sunnyside and Reframe for accountability or switched to beverages with lower alcohol content.
 
It’s impossible to have hope when you feel like a failure. The shame, guilt and frustration consume your energy and motivation, and undermine your relationships, career and mental health. 
 
In this episode, Colleen explains why the more you worry about alcohol, the worse it gets. Because alcohol use disorder is a thinking problem, not a drinking problem. Changing how you think will naturally and easily change how you drink. You’ll learn:
The difference between negative and positive goals and why setting the goal to “drink less” causes you to drink more
How to move from an all-or-nothing perfectionistic mindset to a growth mindset with a less-is-more attitude towards alcohol
The difference between identity-based and behavior-based change and how to become someone who values her relationship with herself (so you can stop worrying about your relationship with alcohol)
 
Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer
 
Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Do you have credit card debt or feel like you have to hide purchases from your partner?
 
Feeling bad about spending money triggers cycles of shame, overwhelm and uncertainty. Which often lead to excessive spending because heck, what’s another thousand bucks on the card?
 
Most people assume that solving money problems requires money. So they work longer and harder to try and get ahead. Yet somehow, life always seems to cost more than they make. 
 
If you feel like you’re stuck in a scarcity mindset, you already know the fastest way to financial freedom is to tune into the energetics of abundance. But what does that even mean?
 
Paige Prichard is the founder of Overcoming Overspending and the host of the top-rated The Money Love podcast. In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to tell the difference between a love of shopping and a shopping addiction
How cutting up credit cards or living on a highly restrictive budget can keep you stuck (and what to do instead)
How your internal money thermostat blocks wealth accumulation even when you’re doing everything right
Why overspending is a mindset issue, not a money problem
 
Find Paige Pritchard at OvercomingOverspending.com and @overcoming_overspending on Instagram and YouTube.
 
Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.
 

Do you feel stuck in your marriage and assume that life after divorce will only get worse?
 
The only reason most of us stay in relationships that have run their course is because we think that staying married is somehow easier than getting a divorce. We want to avoid the shame, blame and fear of being alone.
 
But your well-being does not depend on your decision to stay married or get a divorce. Choosing to take full responsibility for how you feel and what you want allows you to be okay no matter what. 
 
My guest today is Sadie Marie, host of the top-rated Sadie’s Divorced and Happy podcast. She’s here to share the five things she didn’t know about life after divorce. You’ll hear:
The process of self-discovery that allows you to stop worrying about what other people think
How dating changes when you’re not looking for a life partner
Why (after years of marriage) the best part of your day can be going to bed alone
How learning to do things by yourself and for yourself is one of the best gifts you can give yourself (whether you’re divorced or not) 
The freedom you experience when you stop relying on other people to give you what you need
 
Find Sadie at DivorcedandHappy.net and on social media @sadiesdivorcedandhappy

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Were you raised to believe that thoughts and feelings that don’t align with your religious values are wrong and even “sinful?”
 
Many of us who grew up in church are in the habit of ignoring emotions that contradict what we’ve been taught to believe is “right.” 
 
But rejecting our emotions requires us to reject ourselves, leaving us fractured instead of whole . And the disconnect between our head and our heart leads to pain, confusion and blind adherence to rules that keep us in bondage.
 
Sara Bybee Fisk is the host of the top-rated Ex-Good-Girl podcast. She’s here to share how learning to feel and trust her own truth liberated her from the need to seek other people’s approval. You’ll hear:
Why Sara left the LDS Mormon community even though she deeply loved her life
The true cost of being a people-pleasing perfectionist
Where Sara got the courage to break the rules and listen to her heart
How to overcome the fear of disapproval and trust yourself to know exactly who you are
 
Connect with Sara:
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach?lang=en https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-bybee-fisk/
 
Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.