Lightbearer's Library

Kate Harmony

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personalty type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe. XOXO, Kate Harmony :)

  1. Idealist Mindset: The Secret to Not Giving Up

    1D AGO

    Idealist Mindset: The Secret to Not Giving Up

    The secret to achieving long-term consistency for idealists isn't just setting an internal goal—it’s developing the Idealist Mindset that finally stops you from giving up on your healing, your personal projects, and yourself. Dear soul, we've talked about how external pressure and deadlines cause New Year's resolutions to fail. But even with intrinsic goals like self-love and healing, the motivation often dies. There are two main reasons we as idealists give up: - Perfectionism: The ideal vision in our minds can never match the "ugly first draft" of reality, causing us to feel like failures and quit entirely. - External Metrics: When the effort we put in doesn't immediately match external validation (like low views or slow progress), we lose motivation. In this journal entry we look at the three keys of the Idealist Mindset that break this cycle, so that we don't give up! This is the philosophy that keeps the Lightbearer's Library going, and it’s the resilient mindset you need to maintain momentum.  ✨ What is the one ridiculously simple, tiny step you can take today to move toward your ideal vision? Share your action in the comments below! Next ▶️ If you’re still wrestling with why traditional goals and deadlines fail you, check out New year’s resolutions don’t work for idealists (https://youtu.be/ADPJPgbOipM) to diagnose the root problem and understand the Idealist’s path to growth. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library: the secret to consistency 1:15 Why idealists quit - reason 1: the perfect vision vs. reality 1:55 Why idealists quit - reason 1: lose motivation over external metrics 2:36 "The Secret Idealist Mindset" Key 1: Focus on action, not perfection 3:34 Key 2: Focus on the metric of meaning 4:57 Key 3: Focus on the minimum viable action for consistency 6:58 Conclusion & final commitment #idealistmindset #consistency #perfectionism #newyearsresolution #personalgrowth #selflove #motivation #idealist #introvert #infp #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #healingjourney  🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    8 min
  2. Why new year’s resolutions don’t work for idealists

    2D AGO

    Why new year’s resolutions don’t work for idealists

    New Year, Same You This journal entry is for every idealist and introvert who feels the intense New Year's resolution pressure but knows that changing the calendar doesn't automatically give us a "New Us." We're tackling the great "Fresh Start" lie and the painful sense of incongruence between external goals and our internal timing. Dear soul, if you are acutely aware of the gap between the ideal world and what is actually real, you are not alone. Healing, growth and personal transformation all happen on their own time. It does not happen with external pressure and deadlines. Our internal timing rarely aligns with the external expectations of society. So, let’s shift our focus. The only resolution that truly matters is to continue to honor our own present state of being and continue to grow in self-love, self-trust and self-compassion. Instead of external goals, we embrace internal goals and focus on the smallest steps: Rest: A "goal of rest" to counter the intense psychic energy around us.Patience: Nurture the seeds we've planted, trusting they will bloom in their own time—not when the external world says it's January.Tiny Steps: Tend our inner garden by asking what’s one thing we can do today to love ourselves.The Lightbearer's Library is a place for gentle cheerleading to live a life of courage, honesty, and beauty. If you're feeling this time is a challenge for you, you're not alone. I'm right here along with you. Please subscribe! If you want to put this self-compassion into practice, I recommend watching: Setting boundaries is an act of love, not selfishness (https://youtu.be/RBdAXbrwQw4), where you’ll learn why protecting your energy is an act of profound self-love. Sending you many blessings. Xoxo, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 The New Year "Fresh Start" Lie for Idealists 0:40 The Painful Sense of Incongruence (New Year, Same You) 2:19 Let's Do What Idealists Do Best 2:58 Healing & Growth Happens on Its Own Time 4:49 The Only Resolution That Matters: Honoring Your Present State 5:29 Internal Goals: Why You Need a "Goal of Rest" Now 7:00 Patience: Nurture the Seeds You've Planted 8:32 Focusing on the Smallest Step to Tend Your Garden 9:45 You Are Not Alone (Final Gentle Cheerleading) #newyearsresolution #idealists #introverts #infp #infj #hsp #incongruence #selflove #selfcompassion #internalgoals #tiny steps #personalgrowth #freshstartfails #lightbearerslibrary 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    11 min
  3. Setting boundaries is generous, not selfish

    3D AGO

    Setting boundaries is generous, not selfish

    Setting healthy boundaries can feel selfish, but what if we could rewrite the script? In this journal entry, we explore how to reframe boundary setting as a generous act of love for oneself and one's relations. Some of the things I talk about are: - The emotional cost of saying 'yes' when you want to say 'no.' - The high cost of not setting boundaries, which can lead to resentment and the loss of self-trust. - How to redefine boundaries so we can show up as our best, most patient, and present selves for friends and family. (It all starts with filling our own cups first!) - The first step we need to take on the path to setting long-lasting, healthy boundaries. This video is that foundational first step! If you're ready to overcome the fear of rejection and conflict that can arise when considering boundaries setting, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the next video in this series. ✨ What is one thing you are going to say "no" to this week? Share in the comments below! Next ▶️ Check out: Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work (https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM) for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 0:25 Rewrite the Script: Boundaries as Self-Care & Generosity 2:03 Step 1: The Emotional Cost of Not Setting Healthy Boundaries 2:39 Why Saying 'Yes' When You Mean 'No' Destroys Self-Trust 3:49 How Not Setting Limits Leads to Resentment in Relationships 5:05 The Truth: Not Having Boundaries is the Real Selfish Act 6:15 The Teacup Theory: Defining Boundaries as True Generosity 8:05 Final Thoughts & Preview: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection  #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #personaldevelopment #introvert #infp #selfcare #endtheguilt #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #resentment 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    9 min
  4. New Year's resolutions don’t work, do this instead

    4D AGO

    New Year's resolutions don’t work, do this instead

    Dear soul, are you tired of setting goals that fail before February? The secret to setting goals that actually stick is ditching the resolutions and connecting our intentions with our deepest core values. Stop wasting energy on fleeting New Year's resolutions that are based on aspiration, FOMO, or external pressure. In this journal entry we dive into a powerful, intrinsic process of self-discovery to help us make goals that are an expression of who we already are—not a chore. I cover: - How to find your top 1-5 core values by reflecting on past moments of genuine peace and joy. - The essential Value → Goal → Action Framework for lasting change. - Actionable examples for aligning your intentions with values like health, creativity, boundaries, and authenticity.  This approach makes taking action feel intrinsically good, helping us shine our light into the world! ✨ I'd love to hear from you: what is one core value you are going to focus on this year? Next ▶️ Check out Seeking purpose is exhausting, do this instead (https://youtu.be/2_lA942l5qE) to take the next step on your self-discovery journey by exploring how aligning with your values is more fulfilling than the exhausting search for an ultimate purpose. XOXO, Kate Harmony Ps. Here's the list of core values I mention: https://jamesclear.com/core-values 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 The Problem: Why New Year's resolutions don’t work by February 1:30 The Solution: Align your goals with your personal values 2:15 Step 1: Self-Discovery to find your top 1-5 core values 4:52 The Value → Goal → Action Framework 5:14 Goal Setting Example: Actionable goals for health 5:55 Goal Setting Example: Creativity and controlling the outcome 6:26 Goal Setting Example: Practicing boundaries 7:42 Goal Setting Example: Practicing authenticity 8:38 Less stress, and more success with intrinsic motivation 9:53 The power of focusing on one value this year #goalsetting #values #newyearsresolutions #selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #mindset #authenticity #motivation #newyearnewme #practicalphilosophy #introvert #infp #lightbearerslibrary #journaling  🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    11 min
  5. Process anger optimistically for personal growth

    12/29/2025

    Process anger optimistically for personal growth

    Dear soul, welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! Can you truly embrace optimistic anger and use difficult emotions as a powerful catalyst for profound personal growth and self-building? In this journal entry, I share my journey of processing anger and grief during an intense holiday season, and how it has led to an internal reorganization of my core values. I unpack why anger can be a good thing—not when it's destructive, but when it fuels the deliberate work of building a life aligned with conscious choices. If you are also navigating an intense emotional period, you are not alone, and I hope the following topics may be of use to you in your own journey: Setting Boundaries: The necessity of creating space—like stepping away from family expectations during the holidays—to protect our peace and begin emotional healing.Shifting Values: Why letting go of old values or relationships that no longer serve us is uncomfortable, yet vital for spiritual self-discovery.Conscious Choice: I dive into the philosophy of whether we are discovering our identity or building the self we choose to become.The Emotional Workout: Viewing the intense process of grief and anger as an "emotional workout" that ultimately makes us stronger and "fitter" on the other side.This episode offers a new perspective on how to move through challenging feelings with a sense of hopeful anticipation for what comes next. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Processing Anger in a Kind Way with Optimism 2:08 What if We're Exactly Where We Need to Be 2:45 The Philosophical Question: Building vs. Discovering Who We Are 3:32 Navigating Internal Reorganization and Shifting Values 4:40 The Optimism of What's On The Other Side 5:21 Nature vs. Nurture, and the Free Will Debate 6:27 Letting Go of the Old and Embrace Optimistic Anger 8:53 The Emotional Workout: Using Anger for Personal Growth 11:08 Final Thoughts on Self-Building and New Year's Resolutions #optimisticanger #healingjourney #personalgrowth #grief #settingboundaries #selfdiscovery #emotionalhealing #values #emotionalintelligence #consciousliving #selfcompassion #shadowwork #reparenting #infp #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    12 min
  6. Kind Anger: Anger management, the INFP way

    12/28/2025

    Kind Anger: Anger management, the INFP way

    Hello, dear soul, and welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! In today’s journal entry I’m tackling one of the most uncomfortable emotions for an INFP: Anger. As an INFP, I often find anger difficult to express, especially when it arises from deep sadness over being mistreated or misunderstood by a loved one. The pain of maintaining external harmony is shattering my internal harmony, so this video is my real-time process for figuring out how to negotiate those. The challenge is learning how to honor our truth and set firm boundaries without creating drama or sacrificing our core values of love, kindness, and forgiveness. It’s about accepting that anger is a true feeling that needs a loving expression. I share the one practical action I’m taking: rejecting the story of why it's "okay" to be treated poorly and sending a short, three-line email to put up a gentle, non-negotiable boundary. This action is not about changing the other person (in my case, my ESTJ mother); it's entirely about protecting my own inner peace. I also explore the deep feeling that some of this intense anger may not be mine—that as a sensitive soul I may be called to transmute some of the collective energetic anger in the world. If you’re struggling to find a path through your own anger, especially if you are an INFP or INFJ navigating family dynamics and boundary setting, know that you are not alone. If this video resonated with you, please give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel. Thank you for being here on this journey with me. Next ▶️ Check out [Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work] https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries, which is essential for managing your anger kindly. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library: INFP Anger Management 0:35 The unexpressed anger that causes internal suffering 1:21 The INFP vs. ESTJ family boundary conflict 2:45 Why I can’t "make up a story" for forgiveness anymore 4:00 The problem with trying to maintain external harmony 5:05 Kind Anger: How to express anger with love and kindness 6:10 The 3-line email: Setting a simple, non-dramatic boundary 7:00 Practical Tip: Catharsis through an unsent email 8:45 How to harmonize love and anger 9:40 A spiritual thought: Why your anger is not all your own 11:00 You are not alone on this journey #angermanagement #infp #kindanger #boundaries #innerpeace #forgiveness #familydynamics #hsp #mbti #emotionalexpression #angerresolution #infj #estj #introvert #journaling #lightbearerslibrary 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    16 min
  7. Feeling unseen and unheard? Do this (INFP Secret Fix)

    12/27/2025

    Feeling unseen and unheard? Do this (INFP Secret Fix)

    The feeling of being unseen and unheard is painful, but it doesn't have to overwhelm us. This journal entry is for any sensitive, introverted intuitive—especially if you identify as an INFP—who is currently feeling isolated, like no one cares, and is experiencing the specific form of overwhelm known as Grip Stress. When the weight of the world feels heavy and lonely, we can slip into an existential panic that manifests as a frantic need to organize or control small, external things. This video shares the three simple yet profound self-care techniques you can implement right now to calm your nervous system, move out of that panicked state, and reassure yourself that you matter: Self-Affirmation and Grounding: A physical technique (based on the Havening touch) to immediately interrupt the panic and send care to yourself.Introverted Sensing (Si) Healing: Learn how to tap into your safe, inner space using powerful calming sounds, smells (like lavender), or comfort items that are connected to peaceful memories.Journaling: Use this simple writing practice not just to release the panic, but to actively write yourself into a state of self-love and reassurance, solving the problem of isolation from within. You are not alone in this feeling, and you deserve care.✨  Dear soul, if you're feeling brave, I'd love it if you'd share one sound, scent, or picture that instantly brings you back to a place of feeling safe and calm? Next ▶️ In [It's okay to say no to Christmas] https://youtu.be/__K0vqfHwnU, I dive into the essential conversation about setting boundaries to protect your peace and mental health during the holiday season. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library 0:27 The INFP Grip Stress panic explained 1:59 How to relieve the initial grip stress 2:43 The first self-care step: Hug yourself & affirm "I care" 4:22 Calming your nervous system with the Havening technique 5:09 How INFPs use Introverted Sensing (Si) to find calm 6:20 Scent Therapy and Calming Smells (Lavender & Tea) 7:33 Finding safe memories with Calming Sounds (Rain on Leaves) 9:00 The power of a comfort item (Teddy) 10:18 Rereading an old book or watching a favorite movie 10:55 Journaling to write out the panic & loving affirmations 11:40 Reach out: The relief of asking for a hug or calling someone 12:38 Final message: You are not alone & I care #infp #gripstress #unseen #nervoussystem #anxietyrelief #emotionalregulation #cognitivefunctions #introvert #sensitiveperson #hsp #selfcare #mentalhealth #emotionalhealing #journaling #copingskills #healingjourney #lightbearerslibrary 🌿About Kate Harmony🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    16 min
  8. A Christmas message to the lonely

    12/26/2025

    A Christmas message to the lonely

    Hello, dear soul. If you are struggling with sadness, grief, anger, or deep loneliness this holiday season—especially because you've had to put up necessary boundaries with family—please know you are not alone. My heart is with you. It's okay to not feel "merry and bright" when you are dealing with real pain. In this Christmas journal entry, I'm sharing my own experience of moving through the anger and hurt that comes from rejection and mistreatment. I also discuss my tendency as an INFP to idealize situations, and why self-love is the kindest thing you can do for yourself right now. I see you, I hear you, and I’m sending you so much love. Hang in there. XOXO, Kate Harmony 📖 Journal Notes 0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library (A Message for the Lonely) 0:53 You Are Not Alone (Grief, Sadness, and Loneliness) 1:50 INFP Struggles: Idealism vs. Reality 3:19 Why Excusing Bad Behavior Hurts Your Self-Worth 4:45 Honoring Your Own Feelings: Why I'm Done Pretending 5:33 Dealing with Family Anger at Christmas 6:36 Processing Anger as a Stage of Grief 7:07 Self-Love: Protecting Yourself with Boundaries 7:49 Emotional Containment (The Plexiglass Analogy) 9:34 Hang In There, Dear Soul 🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿 My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

    11 min

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My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries. Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personalty type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too. I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays. If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe. XOXO, Kate Harmony :)