Lit AF Relationships

Sarah Cohan
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Lit AF podcast is your resource for healing and transforming attachment styles. Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps folx end old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and codependency in order to show up confidently in secure relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to start healing today. Website: [Sarahcohan.com](https://www.sarahcohan.com/) Instagram: [@itsmesarahcohan](https://www.instagram.com/itsmesarahcohan/) Email: hello@sarahcohan.com

  1. 14H AGO

    234. Overcoming timelines and fear of commitment with Mycah and Ian

    On today’s episode, Mycah and Ian share how they both overcame their insecure anxious and avoidant attachment styles in order to create a happy and peaceful relationship. Mycah wanted to get engaged, married and start living together within a year. Ian was having doubts about commitment and had fears of making the wrong decision about marriage. She felt impatient about how their relationship was slowly progressing and frustrated that she hadn’t even met Ian’s momyet. When we first started to work together it was hard for them to share how they were feeling without it escalating to a fight. But eventually they learned the tools to validate each other’s emotions, to share vulnerably instead of reacting from their feelings, and to communicate their needs without expectations. These tools built a new level of safety for Ian to feel like the time was finally right to introduce Mycah to his mom. Tune in to hear how they did it and what it’s like to have secure attachment. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    1h 9m

  2. FEB 4

    233. The Freedom on the Other Side of Jealousy

    I used to be that person. Raging jealousy. Constant suspicion. Side-eyeing my partner’s female friendships like it was my full-time job. Then I healed my attachment style… and everything changed. These days, jealousy barely shows up in my romantic relationship. But surprise, it still sneaks into friendships, work dynamics, and comparison spirals when I’m not paying attention. In this episode, we’re unpacking what jealousy is actually about. It’s distrust, old betrayal wounds, unmet needs, and the sneaky habit of outsourcing your worth through comparison. We’ll talk about: • Why jealousy is rooted in fear and childhood conditioning • The unmet needs hiding underneath jealousy (attention, loyalty, being chosen) • How comparison quietly steals your joy and self-trust • What happens when you stop measuring yourself against others • The kind of freedom and unconditional love that exists on the other side of jealousy If jealousy has ever made you feel ashamed, reactive, or “too much,” this episode will help you understand it without judging yourself. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    25 min

  3. JAN 28

    232. When Your Partner’s Story About You Isn’t Reality

    Your partner is going to believe things about you that just… aren’t true. And the moment you start worrying about hurting their feelings or believe even a tiny piece of their story, you’re hooked. Guilt kicks in. You over-explain. You bend. You twist. You try to prove something that was never yours to carry. In this episode, I share how being told “we always do what you want” sent me into years of people-pleasing (spoiler: it didn’t change the story), why many of our relationship beliefs come straight from childhood, and how those beliefs shape what we’re able to see and receive in partnership. This episode is about separating fact from belief, untangling your emotions from your partner’s stories, and creating a relationship that’s actually sustainable long-term, not just emotionally reactive in the moment. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    24 min

  4. JAN 21

    231. How She Learned to Say “No” with Jane

    Today’s guest shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant attachment style to make big life changes and end a longterm situationship. Jane used to struggle with saying no so she found herself in a soul-sucking job, in a city she didn’t want to live, with an on-again-off-again partner that wasn’t making her happy. She couldn’t say no to her boss, her friends, or her say the ultimate no to her relationship. She shares how she overcame all of this and made big life changes to get her closer to the life she wants to live. If it’s time to end your relationship this one is for you. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    1 hr

  5. JAN 14

    230. Overcoming Cheating in your Marriage

    Cheating sucks. It can cause alot of pain in your marriage and might feel impossible to overcome. If you’re going through it right now you’re probably stuck in a cycle of punishment and withdrawing or defensiveness. It is possible to overcome the real pain and hurt that you’re experiencing. And there is a specific process to help you speed up the healing. My hope is that this episode helps you understand how to move forward and gives you hope that when you overcome it you will have a better marriage than before the cheating. That was my own experience. Stop the suffering and start feeling better, tune in now. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    27 min

  6. JAN 7

    229. The Three Essentials to Making a Lasting Marriage

    Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    27 min

  7. 12/17/2025

    228. Overcoming Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style for her Daughter with Mabel

    Today my guest is Mabel who worked with me to overcome her avoidant attachment style. Her goal was to clean up her relationship with her daughter. Her daughter is highly emotional and was prone to have full shutdowns when she got frustrated doing things like piano practice or homework. Mabel was triggered by her daughters emotions and was either yelling or taking space to avoid them as much as possible. Mabel is now showing up as a secure mom and her daughter is surprising her with very secure communication. Mabel was able to create secure attachment quickly so I wanted to make sure to have her on the podcast to share her secrets to success. Tune in to hear her how she was able to hey past her avoidance quickly and what she would say to someone who is scared to take the next step towards secure attachment.  Her stories are funny and so human. Listen in to get inspired on your own healing journey.  Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    59 min

  8. 12/10/2025

    227. The Number One Behavior to Create a Secure Relationship

    If there is one skill that transforms relationships from shaky to secure, it is validation. And yes, it is hard AF. In this episode, we’re diving into why this deceptively simple tool is the very first thing I teach couples and why it matters so much for creating secure attachment. Validation is tough because when your partner brings you something painful or messy, your body wants to react. Your brain starts telling old stories about not being good enough or being unlovable or being too much. But validation is not about agreeing with them or taking the blame. It is simply saying: I see you. I see this person I love having an emotional experience. When you learn this skill, everything shifts. Fights de-escalate. Arguments turn into discussions. Repair becomes possible. And your relationship starts to feel safer for both of you. Let’s make your connection more secure, one validating moment at a time. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

    21 min
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Lit AF podcast is your resource for healing and transforming attachment styles. Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps folx end old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and codependency in order to show up confidently in secure relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to start healing today. Website: [Sarahcohan.com](https://www.sarahcohan.com/) Instagram: [@itsmesarahcohan](https://www.instagram.com/itsmesarahcohan/) Email: hello@sarahcohan.com

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  • Creator
    Sarah Cohan
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    200
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Sarah Cohan
  • Show Website
    Lit AF Relationships

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