The Lavendaire Lifestyle

Aileen Xu
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Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.  The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.  Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.

  1. DEC 14

    295: From Trauma to Connection: Healing Your Nervous System with The Crappy Childhood Fairy

    Have you ever wondered why you feel disconnected from others—even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode, Anna Runkle shares how trauma dysregulates your nervous system, affecting your health, relationships, and ability to feel like you belong. She reveals the simple daily practice that transformed her life and explains why healing your connection wound is the key to finally feeling whole. Anna Runkle is the creator of the Crappy Childhood Fairy healing method, a breakthrough approach to help people heal trauma symptoms and change their lives—whether or not they have access to professional help. Her approach includes simple, self-directed exercises to calm emotional triggers and neurological dysregulation and to begin changing the self-defeating behaviors that are common for people who have lived much of their lives dysregulated.  SPONSORS • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll • This show is brought to you by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/TLL TIMESTAMPS 2:22 Where the Name Came From 12:47 Healing Method 20:46 Why Your Nervous System Is Everything 32:48 How To Support Your Nervous System 36:32 Why Connection Is the Key to Healing 50:58 How to Heal Your Connection Wound 56:58 Final Message: Don’t Give Up FOLLOW ANNA • Website • YouTube • Re-regulated Book • Connectability Book 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    1 hr

  2. NOV 30

    294: The Power of Breath & Meditation: Managing Stress & Negative Emotions with Dr. Ajay Tejasvi

    What if everything you need to feel calm, energized, and resilient is already within you—just waiting to be activated? In this episode with Dr. Ajay Tejasvi, you'll discover how your breath is the bridge between your mind and body, and learn the practical techniques to manage stress, anxiety, and negative emotions while reclaiming the energy to show up as your best self. Dr. Ajay Tejasvi is a renowned meditation and breathwork expert and a part of the executive team for The Art of Living Foundation. As a key figure in Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar's Office in Washington, DC, he contributes to diverse global initiatives. Ajay holds a Ph.D. in Political Science and is actively involved in supporting education, youth, and women's empowerment initiatives. SPONSOR • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 2:28 The Art of Living Foundation 3:47 What Inspired Dr. Ajay’s Path 10:04  Sky Breath Meditation 13:57 Breathing Technique for Nervousness 17:17 Full Yogic Breath 21:22 Nose Breathing vs. Mouth Breathing 26:16 The 4 Pillars of Energy 31:48 Managing Difficult Times 32:56 Learning from Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar 37:29 Conscious vs traditional leadership 43:23 Bringing Meditation to College Campuses 48:13 Building Confidence & Resilience 49:20 Last Message FOLLOW AJAY • Instagram • The Art of Living 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    51 min

  3. NOV 16

    293: Intentional Imbalance: A New Way to Think About Having It All with Amanda Goetz

    What if the version of ambition you've been chasing is actually holding you back? In this episode, Amanda Goetz breaks down the difference between toxic grit and intentional ambition—revealing that hustle should be a season, not your identity, and that real ambition means knowing why you're pushing. She walks through the self-worth iceberg: the invisible layers of societal pressure, generational patterns, and personal trauma that trigger disproportionate reactions, showing you how to get curious about what's actually driving your behavior. Amanda Goetz is a 2x founder, 4x chief marketing officer, and was a single mom to three small children before finding love again. She spent two decades building and growing consumer-facing brands before shifting to writing, teaching, and coaching ambitious working parents on how to balance success and life. She graduated summa cum laude from the University of Illinois and, after hustling the streets of New York City for over a decade, is now testing out every sunscreen in the world on her children in Miami. SPONSORS • This show is brought to you by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/TLL • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 2:21 Amanda’s Story 9:13 Defining Toxic Grit 14:28 Healthy vs. Unhealthy Ambition 15:47 The Self-Worth Iceberg 21:33 Processing Tools That Work 25:53 Understanding Burnout 31:24 When Characters Grow Toxic 38:11 The Perfect Day Exercise 43:42 Finding Your People 46:16 Minimally Viable Day 55:03 Last Message FOLLOW AMANDA • Book • Website • Instagram 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    57 min

  4. NOV 2

    292: What Ayurveda Teaches About Health, Balance & Your True Nature with Dr. Nidhi Pandya

    What if your body has been trying to tell you something, but you've been too disconnected to hear it? In this episode, Dr. Nidhi Pandya shares ancient Ayurvedic wisdom on understanding your body's inner climate, resetting your circadian rhythms, and using simple daily rituals to restore balance. She explains why warm and moist is where life thrives, why stress leaves us hot and dry, and how to bring yourself back to center.  Nidhi Pandya is a NAMA-certified Ayurvedic Doctor and wellness coach specializing in holistic women’s health and longevity. With a dedicated audience of over 300K spanning across continents, she expertly blends ancient Ayurvedic wisdom with modern health insights—covering topics from stress and brain health to the latest wellness trends—delivering clear, science-backed guidance that resonates deeply with audiences worldwide. SPONSOR • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 2:30 Growing up Ayurvedic 8:51 Core Ayurvedic principles 12:17 Understanding your body 14:23 Warm & moist: where life thrives 24:13 How to restore balance 26:01 Living by your circadian clock 35:14 Reconnecting with your rhythms 40:20 The 21-day reset 43:14 Nidhi's daily rituals 52:58 The power of your exhale FOLLOW NIDHI • Website • Instagram 🎙️ Complete show notes for this episode at here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    57 min

  5. OCT 19

    291: Spiritual Awakening, Life Seasons & Following Your Soul's Path with Rebecca Campbell

    What if the smallest joy in your life could unlock your entire purpose? In this episode, mystic author Rebecca Campbell reveals the three phases of spiritual awakening, shares how literally following flowers led to her entire career, and explains why you can't skip your winter season—even when everyone else seems to be in their summer. Aileen opens up about unraveling her self-worth from productivity, while Rebecca introduces the choice every creator faces: create from your soul or perform for the algorithm. Rebecca Campbell is a transformational author, mystic, artist, speaker, teacher and podcaster supporting people to connect with their soul. Founder of The Inner Temple Mystery School and Oracle Card Reader Certification, Rebecca's mission is to weave the sacred back into everyday life. SPONSORS • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll • This show is brought to you by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/TLL TIMESTAMPS 2:13 What's New with Rebecca 4:49 The 3 Phases of Spiritual Awakening 8:35 Why Healing Happens in Spirals 12:04 Rebecca's New Book 13:04 How to Live a Soul-Led Life 18:43 Understanding Your Intuition 21:00 How to Stay Faithful During Uncertainty 23:33 Honoring the Seasons of Your Life 29:17 What Are Oracle Cards & How to Use Them 35:11 Rebecca's Creative Routine  38:10 Social Media & Creators 41:17 Unraveling Self-Worth from Productivity 43:25 Rebecca's Spiritual Routine as a Mom 47:30 What Inspires Rebecca's Next Projects 49:25 What It Means to Be a Lightworker 53:07 Final Message & Oracle Card Pull FOLLOW REBECCA • Website • YouTube • Instagram 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube 🎧 This is Rebecca's second time on the show. Catch her first episode here  SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    57 min

  6. OCT 5

    290: Gabby Bernstein on Manifesting, Healing & Undoing Your Biggest Blocks

    What happens when you stop pressuring yourself and let creative inspiration come naturally? In this conversation, Gabby Bernstein shares how she channeled The Universe Has Your Back during her darkest time, why we're always manifesting based on our beliefs, and how she turned trauma therapy into a four-step practice anyone can access. Discover how to build faith muscle before crisis hits and her final wisdom: choose again—you always have the power to choose the next best feeling thought. Gabby Bernstein is a spiritual teacher, #1 New York Times bestselling author and founder of the gabby coaching app. She has written eleven books, including Self Help, The Universe Has Your Back and her latest, an Audible Original: 7 Habits of a Super Attractor. Gabby has been featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “new thought leader” and recognized by The New York Times as “a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers.” SPONSORS • This show is brought to you by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/TLL • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 2:27 Spiritual Journey Origins 4:43 The Universe Has Your Back 7:55 The Writing Process  11:11 How Manifesting Works 12:47 Undoing Limiting Beliefs 20:41 Understanding Addiction Patterns 24:09 Super Attractor Definition 27:30 Four Morning Questions 28:34 Building Faith Muscle 30:06 What Gabby's Most Excited About 32:26 How Gabby Stays Grounded 35:40 Message to Her Younger Self 36:09 Gabby's Confidence Journey 37:23 What's Next for Gabby 38:23 Final Piece of Advice FOLLOW GABBY • Website • Podcast • YouTube 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    40 min

  7. SEP 21

    289: The Inner Work That Creates Outer Confidence with Melinde Huez

    What's the difference between confidence that crumbles under pressure and confidence that lasts? In this episode, confidence coach Melinde shares her journey from social anxiety to building lasting self-worth through inner work rather than external validation. She reveals that what you fear others will judge you for mirrors your own self-criticism and teaches her proven methods for transforming negative beliefs and facing fears step by step. Melinde is a top-level confidence coach, where she helps women with social anxiety to build unshakable self-trust & confidence. You might know her from her rapidly growing instagram page Growwithlinde where 740K people seek her guidance. Or from her podcast Behind The Layers, where she guides people back to their confidence essence by peeling back the layers of self-doubt, insecurity and fear. Through her 1:1 coaching, Confidence courses and Embodiment Routines she helps women to step into their most empowered selves daily. SPONSORS Tyndale House Publishers Inc | Live Beyond Your Label by Erin Kerry. Available online or at your favorite local bookstore Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period http://shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 2:20 From Social Anxiety to Confidence Coach 5:56 What Real Confidence Actually Is 7:11 How to Heal Your Self-Image 15:10 Working With Self-Doubt  19:39 The Fear of Others' Judgment 22:32 Overcoming the Fear of Being Cringe 23:05 The Courage Exposure Method 27:18 Breaking Free from People Pleasing 29:06 Nervous System Regulation 33:33 Getting Out of Overthinking Loops 36:35 The Journey to Self-Love 40:21 Daily Embodiment Routine 46:36 Aileen's Confidence Journey 52:42 Visualization Exercise FOLLOW MELINDE Instagram Podcast Website 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    1h 1m

  8. SEP 11

    Healing My Father Wound 💔 Visiting China After 6 Years

    After six years, I visited my dad in China—and healed emotional wounds I’ve carried my entire life. This is the most personal story I’ve ever shared: a journey of healing my father wound, breaking through years of emotional distance and lack of communication, and finding peace, clarity, and inner power through authenticity. In this video, I share my family backstory on growing up with a distant father, the silent struggles I held for decades, and the life-changing experience of finally expressing my truth. If you’re navigating family wounds, generational healing, or your own path to self worth, I hope this story brings you reflection, healing, and hope. Sending you so much love 💓 SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    26 min
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Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.  The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.  Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.

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