Notes on Vulnerability

Alex Resilience Coach (Shore Coaching)
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Stories of resilience, courage and being human. When we lean into the discomfort of vulnerability that's when we find out who we really are and how incredible life can really be.

  1. Aug 11

    S4 E17 The People Who Burnout Are Never The Lazy Ones - Coming Back From Burnout (And The Truth About Why We End Up There)

    If you're exhausted, running on empty, and wondering why you can't seem to cope the way everyone else does - this episode is for you. Explore 7 Days Back From Burnout Videos Here (free) In this episode of Notes on Vulnerability, resilience coach Alex explores one of the most misunderstood truths about burnout: it's not just about doing too much. It's about doing too much while constantly abandoning yourself in the process. Alex unpacks why the people who burn out are rarely the lazy ones - they're usually the reliable ones, the capable ones, the ones everyone turns to. And why, for those people, simply resting is not going to be enough. In this episode you'll learn: Why burnout is a self-abandonment problem, not a workload problemWhat your nervous system is actually doing when you burn out - and why it makes complete senseWhy rest alone often doesn't fix burnout (and what needs to change instead)How burnout shifts your identity in a dangerous way, and how to reclaim itWhy recovering without changing your patterns just sends you right back to square oneIf you've ever thought "what's wrong with me?" or "why can't I cope?" - Alex has a reframe that might just change everything. Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  2. Aug 4

     S4 E16 The Dancing Therapist: How Movement Heals What Words Can't

    What if the key to emotional healing wasn't found on a therapist's couch, but on a dance floor? In this episode, I'm joined by Ronnie - aka the Dancing Therapist - an integrative therapist in training who has spent years exploring the profound connection between movement, music, and mental health. From a life-changing retreat rooted in somatic dance, to eight and a half years of sobriety, Ronnie's journey is a powerful reminder that our bodies know things our minds haven't caught up with yet. We talk about: Why the opposite of depression might be expressionWhat somatic therapy actually is and how movement fits inThe science of "collective effervescence" - and why dancing together is healingHow to start moving for healing, even if you're self-consciousNavigating sobriety in a drinking culture - and building a social life without alcoholWhy you are not broken, and what it means to come back to yourselfWhether you're curious about therapy, exploring sobriety, or just feel like you've lost touch with your body —-this conversation will leave you wanting to move. Find Ronnie on Instagram: Ronnie Traynor Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  3. Jul 28

    S4 E15 Are You Healing Or Are You Hiding?

    We've become so fluent in the language of healing - boundaries, protecting our peace, doing the work - but what if some of what we're calling healing is actually hiding? In this solo episode, Alex explores one of the most important distinctions in resilience: the difference between healing and hiding. They look, without judgement, at the places where wellness language can quietly become a cover for avoidance, fear, and staying stuck - and why it's often so hard to spot when you're in it. You'll hear about: Why healing and hiding can feel almost identical from the insideThe role of the nervous system and capacity in keeping us smallCommon ways hiding disguises itself as self-awarenessWhat healing is actually supposed to do (hint: make your life bigger)Six signs you might be on the hiding side of thingsHow to start asking better questions of yourselfThis episode is honest, warm, and full of the kind of insight that might just hold up a mirror - in the best possible way. Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  4. Jul 21

    S4 E14 No One's Getting Out of This Alive - So Wear the Sequins. With Stylist Rachel Gold

    Celebrity stylist Rachel Gold has spent 35 years dressing some of the most recognisable faces in entertainment - and what she's learned goes far deeper than clothes. In this episode, Rachel joins us to talk about why so many women over 40 lose their sense of style identity, and why that loss is rarely actually about fashion. We explore how body changes, menopause, people-pleasing, and decades of putting everyone else first can quietly erode the way we show up - and how something as simple as getting dressed can be the first step back to yourself. We cover: Why the most confident people in the room are often the most insecureHow your wardrobe reflects your self-esteem (not the other way around)The "chicken and egg" of body confidence and dressing wellWhy the people around you might not want you to changeThe three A's: Acceptance, Action, and AuthenticityWhy you should stop saving your best things for a special occasionWhat a monk's perspective on mortality has to do with your sequin dressThis is a warm, honest, and surprisingly profound conversation about style, self-worth, and what it really means to take up space as you get older. Find Rachel on Instagram:  Rachel Gold Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  5. Jul 14

    S4 E13 The Hidden Cost of Being 'The Reliable One'

    Being called "reliable" sounds like a compliment - but what if it's actually costing you everything? In this episode of Notes on Vulnerability, resilience coach Alex unpacks the hidden cost of being the strong one, the dependable one, the person who always holds it all together. While reliability can feel like a strength, over time it can quietly become a cage - leading to exhaustion, resentment, disconnection, and a creeping sense that you've lost touch with who you really are. Alex explores: Why the "reliable one" identity is often built on self-abandonmentHow this pattern tends to surface in your 30s and 40s - and whyThe link between nervous system capacity and burnoutWhy letting go of this identity can feel like loss — and why that's okayWhat real resilience actually looks likeIf you've spent years being everything to everyone else and something inside you is starting to feel deeply tired of it - this episode is for you. Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  6. Jul 7

    S4 E12 Why Your Business Can Only Grow As Much As You Do with Pandora Paloma

    Business mentor and "business alchemist" Pandora Paloma doesn't think so. After making millions in sales, she's become convinced that strategy is only part of the picture - the real work is in expanding your capacity, challenging your identity, and being honest about what's really holding you back. In this episode we talk about: How your business can never outgrow the person running itThe identities entrepreneurs need to let go of to reach the next levelHow nervous system regulation affects everything from sales to confidenceWhy feeling dysregulated isn't a problem - and how building capacity changes everythingThe biggest shifts happening in content and marketing in 2026Why your point of view matters more than simply sharing information in the age of AIBalancing authority with vulnerability without falling into performative authenticityThe mindset shifts that make selling feel natural instead of uncomfortableWhether you're growing a business, creating content, or simply navigating your own next chapter, this conversation is a reminder that sustainable success starts with the person behind it. Honest, practical and full of moments that will make you stop and think, this episode might just change the way you approach both business and yourself. Find Pandora on Instagram: Pandora Paloma   Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  7. Jun 30

    S4 E 11 The Identity Crisis Nobody Talks About In Your 30s & 40s

    Why do so many people feel lost in their 30s and 40s, even when life looks successful on paper? If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Is this it?" or feeling strangely disconnected from the life you've worked so hard to build, this episode is for you. In this solo episode, resilience coach Alex explores the identity crisis that so many people experience in midlife - but that hardly anyone talks about. You'll discover why feeling lost isn't a sign that something is wrong with you, but often a sign that you've outgrown the version of yourself that was built to survive, achieve and keep everyone else happy. Alex explains why the traditional life milestones we've been taught to chase can leave us feeling empty, how "identity fatigue" develops, and why authenticity is one of the missing ingredients in resilience. In this episode you'll learn: Why your 30s and 40s can trigger an unexpected identity crisisThe hidden cost of building your life around achievement, reliability and approvalWhy feeling lost doesn't mean you're failingHow your nervous system influences your sense of identityWhy authenticity is essential for resilience, confidence and self-trustHow to stop asking "What's wrong with me?" and start asking "Who am I, underneath all the roles I've been playing?"If you're ready to stop performing the version of you that no longer fits and reconnect with who you really are, this episode will give you a completely different way of understanding what you're experiencing - and why it could be the beginning of something much bigger than you realise. If you'd like support with this, you can book a free introductory coaching call here. Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

  8. Jun 23

    S4 E10 Agnes (The Ginger Witch) on Living Fearlessly, Kung Fu in China & the Art of Saying Yes

    What does it look like to actually live on your own terms - not just talk about it? Agnes, known on Instagram as The Ginger Witch, is the woman doing all the things a lot of us only dream about. From 10 days of silent meditation in a Vipassana retreat (twice!) to seven weeks training at a kung fu school in the mountains of China, Agnes has made a life out of leaning into discomfort - and she wouldn't have it any other way. In this episode we talk about: How Agnes found her path and what she's building towardsThe Vipassana silent meditation retreat - what it is, what it costs you, and why she recommends it to everyoneHer kung fu experience in China, and how it changed her relationship with discipline and her own mindWhy fear and excitement are the same thing - and how to choose which one you feelSelf-actualisation, side quests, and why being a "jack of all trades" isn't a flawThe surprising freedom that comes from routineHer philosophy on joy, vulnerability, and connecting with the world around youAgnes is living proof that the biggest barrier between you and the life you want is usually just the decision to go for it. This one will stay with you. Find Agnes on Instagram: @gingerwwitch Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

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Stories of resilience, courage and being human. When we lean into the discomfort of vulnerability that's when we find out who we really are and how incredible life can really be.

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    Alex Resilience Coach (Shore Coaching)
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    102
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    Explicit
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