Real World Peaceful Parenting

Lisa Smith
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

  1. 285: Why Your Kid Is Melting Down More This Summer (And What to Do About It)

    3d ago

    285: Why Your Kid Is Melting Down More This Summer (And What to Do About It)

    School may be out, but if your house feels more chaotic than ever, you're not imagining it. In this episode, Lisa introduces one of her most powerful parenting concepts: the Invisible Emotional Backpack. While many parents expect summer to bring more relaxation and fewer meltdowns, the truth is that kids are often carrying different kinds of stress, uncertainty, overstimulation, and emotional overload. Lisa explains why summer can actually fill your kid’s emotional backpack faster, how your own emotional backpack impacts your parenting, and the practical steps you can take to help both you and your kid unpack before emotions explode. Through personal stories, including a powerful update on her son Malcolm at age 21, Lisa shows how emotional regulation is a skill built over years—not perfection in the moment. If you've been wondering why the smallest things are causing the biggest reactions this summer, this episode will help you see what's really going on beneath the behavior and give you practical tools to create more peace, connection, and cooperation at home. What You'll Learn: Why summer often creates more meltdowns, not fewer, despite the absence of school and homework.How the Invisible Emotional Backpack explains seemingly irrational reactions and emotional explosions.The hidden ways summer fills your kid’s emotional backpack, including disrupted routines, sleep changes, overstimulation, boredom, and camp transitions.Why your own emotional backpack matters just as much as your kid’s—and how dysregulated parents and kids can create a cycle of escalation.Simple strategies to help your kid unpack emotions proactively through rhythm, predictability, connection, and daily regulation rituals.How co-regulation today helps raise a young adult who can eventually recognize, manage, and repair their own emotions independently.Tired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    27 min
  2. 284: How to Correct Your Strong-Willed Kid Without Triggering Shame

    Jun 17

    284: How to Correct Your Strong-Willed Kid Without Triggering Shame

    In this powerful follow-up episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith gets practical about one of the biggest parenting challenges: how to correct your strong-willed kid without triggering shame, defensiveness, or emotional explosions. After last week’s conversation about how so much “defiant” behavior is actually shame management, Lisa walks parents through exactly how to hold limits, consequences, and accountability while still protecting connection and belonging. She explains why many common correction patterns accidentally fuel shame, how to separate behavior from your kid’s worth, and why regulated, short, connection-based correction is far more effective than long lectures and emotional withdrawal. If you’ve ever wondered how to hold boundaries without becoming permissive — or how to correct your kid without damaging your relationship — this episode is a game changer. What You'll Learn: Why shame-filled correction makes strong-willed kids more defensive and reactiveThe difference between correcting behavior and attacking your kid’s identityHow your tone, body language, and emotional state impact correction momentsWhy shorter corrections are often far more effective than long lecturesWhat a “belonging anchor” is and how it helps kids feel safe during correctionWhy repair and reconnection after hard moments are essential for long-term trust and emotional security

    20 min
  3. 283: "Why Are You So Sensitive?" Understanding the Truth Behind Defensive Kids

    Jun 10

    283: "Why Are You So Sensitive?" Understanding the Truth Behind Defensive Kids

    In this deeply powerful episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith unpacks one of the most misunderstood behaviors in strong-willed kids: defensiveness. If your kid explodes, argues, shuts down, or spirals the moment they’re corrected, this episode will completely shift how you see what’s happening underneath the behavior. Lisa explains why so much of what looks like defiance is actually shame management and how many kids secretly carry the belief that mistakes make them “bad” or “too much.” She also explores how our own childhood experiences shape the way we respond to our kids’ mistakes and why belonging and connection must stay secure — even while holding limits and accountability. This episode is emotional, eye-opening, and packed with the kind of perspective shift that changes families from the inside out. What You'll Learn: Why many strong-willed kids react defensively to even gentle correctionThe hidden shame and fear that often lives underneath “defiant” behaviorHow correction can accidentally feel emotionally unsafe to kidsThe difference between unconditional worth and unconditional acceptance of behaviorHow your own childhood blueprint may still be shaping your parenting reactions todayA powerful new way to approach correction that preserves connection while still holding boundaries

    17 min
  4. 282: Why Your Kid "Doesn't Listen" (And What's Actually Happening in Their Brain)

    Jun 3

    282: Why Your Kid "Doesn't Listen" (And What's Actually Happening in Their Brain)

    In this eye-opening episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith breaks down one of the biggest parenting frustrations: why kids don’t seem to listen the first time. If you’ve ever found yourself repeating directions over and over, raising your voice just to get a response, or wondering why your kid can hyperfocus on Legos but somehow “can’t hear” you, this episode is going to completely change how you see their behavior. Lisa explains the brain science behind why kids are neurologically wired as “single-taskers,” why yelling becomes the pattern interrupter kids learn to respond to, and how parents unknowingly train the exact dynamic they want to stop. Most importantly, she shares a powerful reframe and practical shifts that help you stop taking your kid’s behavior personally and start working with their developing brain instead of against it. What You'll Learn: Why your kid’s brain processes requests differently than your adult brainThe surprising reason yelling “works” (and why it creates unhealthy patterns)How kids become trained to wait for escalation before respondingWhy your kid likely isn’t ignoring you on purposeThe difference between assumed attention and genuine attentionA simple mindset shift that can completely transform daily power struggles and repeated requests

    16 min
  5. 281: You Trained Your Kid to Ignore You (And How to Undo It)

    May 27

    281: You Trained Your Kid to Ignore You (And How to Undo It)

    Why does your kid ignore you until you yell? Why do the same battles happen over and over again… even when you swear this time will be different? In this eye-opening episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa breaks down one of the most important parenting concepts you’ll ever learn: patterns. Every interaction with your kid is teaching them something — and over time, those repeated interactions become the operating system of your relationship. Lisa explains how common parenting habits like repeating yourself, escalating, threatening, giving in, or over-controlling accidentally train kids to respond the way they do. More importantly, she shows you how to begin changing those patterns without shame, punishment, or power struggles. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?” this episode is going to connect a whole lot of dots for you. What You'll Learn: Why your kid’s behavior is often a learned pattern — not defianceHow repeating, escalating, and threatening accidentally trains kids to tune you outThe hidden “payoffs” that keep unhealthy parenting patterns stuck in placeWhy trying to change your kid’s behavior first usually backfiresA step-by-step process for changing one family pattern at a timeHow shifting your own response changes the entire dynamic in your homeTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    31 min
  6. 280: The Science of Big Feelings with Dr. Anna Housley Juster

    May 20

    280: The Science of Big Feelings with Dr. Anna Housley Juster

    What if your kid’s big reactions weren’t bad behavior… but a brain doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this powerful episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa sits down with child mental health clinician, education consultant, and author Dr. Anna Housley Juster, PhD, LICSW, to talk about the amygdala — the tiny but mighty part of the brain responsible for fight, flight, and freeze responses. Together, they unpack why kids melt down, shut down, or lash out, how co-regulation actually rewires the brain, and why play is one of the most powerful tools we have as parents. Dr. Anna also shares practical ways to help kids understand their emotions without shame, fear, or punishment. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid reacts so intensely — or why you do — this conversation will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and deeply hopeful. Website: www.annahousleyjuster.com Amazon link - How to Train Your Amygdala Amazon link - The Best Good Thing What You'll Learn: Why the amygdala exists and how it impacts your kid’s emotional reactionsThe real neuroscience behind co-regulation and why calm parents matter so muchWhy “just take a deep breath” often backfires during a meltdownHow play helps kids process fear, anxiety, and overwhelming emotionsPractical ways to help kids regulate before they hit emotional overloadWhy your kid’s behavior is not a character flaw — and neither is yoursTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    50 min
  7. 279: The 4 Things Kids Do When You Say No (And Exactly What to Say)

    May 13

    279: The 4 Things Kids Do When You Say No (And Exactly What to Say)

    Have you ever set a limit with your kid… only to completely lose your footing the second they push back? Maybe they negotiate, escalate, guilt-trip you, or suddenly move at the speed of cold molasses while you’re trying to get out the door. 🙃 In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa breaks down the 4 predictable ways kids respond to limits — and exactly how to stay calm, connected, and firm when they do. You’ll learn why pushback is actually normal, why your nervous system matters more than the perfect script, and how to stop getting pulled into power struggles that leave everyone exhausted. This episode is packed with practical phrases, real-life examples, and peaceful parenting tools you can start using immediately with your strong-willed kid. What You'll Learn: The difference between a punishment and a peaceful parenting limitWhy pushback from your kid is actually a sign the limit is workingThe 4 predictable pushback patterns: negotiation, escalation, guilt bombs, and stallingExact phrases to use when your kid challenges a boundaryWhy staying regulated matters more than memorizing the “perfect” scriptHow calm, consistent limits help strong-willed kids feel safer and more emotionally secureTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    28 min
  8. 278: Why Your Kid Reaches for a Screen When They’re Upset

    May 6

    278: Why Your Kid Reaches for a Screen When They’re Upset

    In this powerful follow-up episode, Lisa goes deeper into the conversation around screens and emotional regulation—and shares a truth many parents need to hear: Screens aren’t teaching your kid how to calm down… they’re teaching them how to check out. You’ll learn how “digital soothing” quietly rewires your kid’s brain to avoid discomfort, why this impacts resilience and emotional strength, and how to shift from quick fixes to long-term skill building. This episode will help you move out of survival mode and into intentional, connected parenting—where your kid learns to feel, not escape. What You'll Learn: Why using screens during meltdowns teaches your kid to escape feelings instead of process themThe difference between screens for entertainment vs. screens as emotional regulationHow “digital soothing” can shrink your kid’s emotional toolkit over timeThe 3 core skills your kid actually needs: distress tolerance, emotional endurance, and internal regulationA simple 3-step process to help your kid ride the emotional wave instead of avoiding itHow your own overwhelm plays a role—and what to do instead of defaulting to screensTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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  • Creator
    Lisa Smith
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    287
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Real World Peaceful Parenting
  • Show Website
    Real World Peaceful Parenting

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