Real World Peaceful Parenting

Lisa Smith
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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

  1. 281: You Trained Your Kid to Ignore You (And How to Undo It)

    4d ago

    281: You Trained Your Kid to Ignore You (And How to Undo It)

    Why does your kid ignore you until you yell? Why do the same battles happen over and over again… even when you swear this time will be different? In this eye-opening episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa breaks down one of the most important parenting concepts you’ll ever learn: patterns. Every interaction with your kid is teaching them something — and over time, those repeated interactions become the operating system of your relationship. Lisa explains how common parenting habits like repeating yourself, escalating, threatening, giving in, or over-controlling accidentally train kids to respond the way they do. More importantly, she shows you how to begin changing those patterns without shame, punishment, or power struggles. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?” this episode is going to connect a whole lot of dots for you. What You'll Learn: Why your kid’s behavior is often a learned pattern — not defianceHow repeating, escalating, and threatening accidentally trains kids to tune you outThe hidden “payoffs” that keep unhealthy parenting patterns stuck in placeWhy trying to change your kid’s behavior first usually backfiresA step-by-step process for changing one family pattern at a timeHow shifting your own response changes the entire dynamic in your homeTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    31 min
  2. 280: The Science of Big Feelings with Dr. Anna Housley Juster

    May 20

    280: The Science of Big Feelings with Dr. Anna Housley Juster

    What if your kid’s big reactions weren’t bad behavior… but a brain doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this powerful episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa sits down with child mental health clinician, education consultant, and author Dr. Anna Housley Juster, PhD, LICSW, to talk about the amygdala — the tiny but mighty part of the brain responsible for fight, flight, and freeze responses. Together, they unpack why kids melt down, shut down, or lash out, how co-regulation actually rewires the brain, and why play is one of the most powerful tools we have as parents. Dr. Anna also shares practical ways to help kids understand their emotions without shame, fear, or punishment. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid reacts so intensely — or why you do — this conversation will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and deeply hopeful. Website: www.annahousleyjuster.com Amazon link - How to Train Your Amygdala Amazon link - The Best Good Thing What You'll Learn: Why the amygdala exists and how it impacts your kid’s emotional reactionsThe real neuroscience behind co-regulation and why calm parents matter so muchWhy “just take a deep breath” often backfires during a meltdownHow play helps kids process fear, anxiety, and overwhelming emotionsPractical ways to help kids regulate before they hit emotional overloadWhy your kid’s behavior is not a character flaw — and neither is yoursTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    50 min
  3. 279: The 4 Things Kids Do When You Say No (And Exactly What to Say)

    May 13

    279: The 4 Things Kids Do When You Say No (And Exactly What to Say)

    Have you ever set a limit with your kid… only to completely lose your footing the second they push back? Maybe they negotiate, escalate, guilt-trip you, or suddenly move at the speed of cold molasses while you’re trying to get out the door. 🙃 In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa breaks down the 4 predictable ways kids respond to limits — and exactly how to stay calm, connected, and firm when they do. You’ll learn why pushback is actually normal, why your nervous system matters more than the perfect script, and how to stop getting pulled into power struggles that leave everyone exhausted. This episode is packed with practical phrases, real-life examples, and peaceful parenting tools you can start using immediately with your strong-willed kid. What You'll Learn: The difference between a punishment and a peaceful parenting limitWhy pushback from your kid is actually a sign the limit is workingThe 4 predictable pushback patterns: negotiation, escalation, guilt bombs, and stallingExact phrases to use when your kid challenges a boundaryWhy staying regulated matters more than memorizing the “perfect” scriptHow calm, consistent limits help strong-willed kids feel safer and more emotionally secureTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    28 min
  4. 278: Why Your Kid Reaches for a Screen When They’re Upset

    May 6

    278: Why Your Kid Reaches for a Screen When They’re Upset

    In this powerful follow-up episode, Lisa goes deeper into the conversation around screens and emotional regulation—and shares a truth many parents need to hear: Screens aren’t teaching your kid how to calm down… they’re teaching them how to check out. You’ll learn how “digital soothing” quietly rewires your kid’s brain to avoid discomfort, why this impacts resilience and emotional strength, and how to shift from quick fixes to long-term skill building. This episode will help you move out of survival mode and into intentional, connected parenting—where your kid learns to feel, not escape. What You'll Learn: Why using screens during meltdowns teaches your kid to escape feelings instead of process themThe difference between screens for entertainment vs. screens as emotional regulationHow “digital soothing” can shrink your kid’s emotional toolkit over timeThe 3 core skills your kid actually needs: distress tolerance, emotional endurance, and internal regulationA simple 3-step process to help your kid ride the emotional wave instead of avoiding itHow your own overwhelm plays a role—and what to do instead of defaulting to screensTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    26 min
  5. 277: Why Your Kid Loses It When Screen Time Ends (It's Not What You Think)

    Apr 29

    277: Why Your Kid Loses It When Screen Time Ends (It's Not What You Think)

    If turning off screens feels like flipping a switch straight into chaos… you’re not imagining it. In this episode, Lisa breaks down what’s really happening inside your kid’s brain when screen time ends—and why those explosive reactions aren’t about defiance, laziness, or manipulation. They’re about dopamine, nervous system overload, and a brain that isn’t ready for the crash. You’ll learn how screens are designed to keep kids hooked, how “digital soothing” can quietly shrink your kid’s emotional toolkit, and—most importantly—what to do in those real-life moments when everything escalates. This is the episode that helps you move from power struggles to calm leadership… without guilt, shame, or throwing every device out the window. What You'll Learn: Why screen time meltdowns are not a behavior problem—but a brain and nervous system responseHow dopamine works—and why stopping screens feels like a real threat to your kid’s brainThe hidden impact of “digital soothing” and how it shapes emotional regulation over timeHow to use brain-aware transition warnings to reduce the crash (and the chaos)What to say in the moment to co-regulate instead of escalateHow to build a stronger emotional toolkit so screens aren’t your kid’s only coping strategyTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    27 min
  6. 276: Raising Kids in a World We Never Trained For

    Apr 22

    276: Raising Kids in a World We Never Trained For

    In this eye-opening episode, Lisa sits down with BrightCanary co-founder and dad, Karl Stillner, to talk about one of the biggest parenting challenges today—raising kids in a digital world we were never trained for. From social media and texting to AI and online safety, you’ll learn how to stay informed about your kid’s digital life without controlling, punishing, or disconnecting from them. This conversation will help you shift from fear-based parenting to calm, confident leadership in a world that’s changing fast. Plus, if you’re ready to take action, you can try BrightCanary risk-free with their 7-day trial—and get 20% off the annual plan using code PARENTS20. What You'll Learn: How to stay informed about your kid’s digital world without damaging trust or connectionWhy blocking and restricting alone doesn’t work—and what actually doesThe concept of “digital training wheels” and how to guide your kid safely onlineHow to approach tough digital conversations from your calm, regulated brain (not your triggered one)Why phones should come with clear boundaries and expectations (not as a free-for-all gift)How to turn digital challenges into opportunities for connection, curiosity, and leadershipTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

    40 min
  7. 275: You Don't Have to Attend Every Argument Your Kid Invites You To

    Apr 15

    275: You Don't Have to Attend Every Argument Your Kid Invites You To

    Listen… I hear you. The daily battles, the back-and-forth, the “why is everything a fight?” feeling—it’s exhausting. In this episode, I’m breaking down what power struggles actually are (hint: it’s not defiance), why they escalate so fast, and how we accidentally fuel them without even realizing it. More importantly? I’m giving you simple, real-world tools to stop the cycle—so you can hold boundaries without the yelling, threats, or emotional hangover afterward. This is where peaceful parenting meets real life. What You'll Learn: Why power struggles are actually two nervous systems reacting—not a “bad” or defiant kidThe surprising truth: it takes two to keep a power struggle going (and what that means for you)How the “warning spiral” and over-explaining are training your kid to ignore youA simple mindset shift: you don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited toHow to use “contained control” so your kid feels empowered without giving up the boundaryWhat it looks like to “drop the rope” and end the struggle without disconnecting from your kid

    36 min
  8. 274: Why Your Kid Overreacts (And What They Actually Need)

    Apr 8

    274: Why Your Kid Overreacts (And What They Actually Need)

    Ever feel like your kid completely overreacts to the smallest things? The wrong cup. A “no.” A sock seam. And you’re left thinking… what is going on? In this episode, Lisa introduces a powerful concept that will completely change how you see your kid’s behavior: the tolerance tank. Your kid isn’t being manipulative or dramatic—they’re running out of emotional capacity. Once you understand this, everything shifts. You’ll learn how to read what’s really going on, respond with calm leadership, and start building your kid’s ability to handle frustration over time. What You'll Learn: Why big reactions are a capacity problem, not a behavior problemWhat the “tolerance tank” is and why strong-willed kids have smaller onesHow to spot when your kid’s tank is running low (before the meltdown)The 3-step framework: Read the tank, Fill the tank, Don’t drain the tankWhy your reaction in the moment can either escalate or regulate your kidSimple, practical ways to build your kid’s emotional capacity over timeTired of feeling like your kids are running the house (and you're just the exhausted referee)? You've yelled. You've bribed. You've tried "being calm." You've even Googled "Am I a bad parent?" at 2 a.m. Listen—you're not broken. And neither is your child. You just need a better way. 🩵 The Hive is live coaching, practical tools, and a judgment-fre

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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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  • Creator
    Lisa Smith
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    283
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Real World Peaceful Parenting
  • Show Website
    Real World Peaceful Parenting

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