Can't Call Your Mom with Nicole Weston

Nicole Weston
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Welcome to Can't Call Your Mom, the podcast for women who are living, loving, and leading after losing their mom. For the motherless mothers who are raising babies, running businesses, and showing up for everyone else, all while carrying a grief most of the world doesn't have space for. I'm Nicole Weston, transformational life coach, mother, wife, business owner, and a motherless mother just like you. I searched for a place where I could bring all of me — the grief and the ambition, the healing and the hustle. I couldn't find it. So I built it.

  1. 4D AGO

    13. Mother's Day After Mother Loss: Signs, Spirit & Getting Closer to Mom After She's Gone

    If the week before Mother's Day has your grief feeling heavy, this episode is for you. Host Nicole Weston sits down with Miranda (Dead Mom Therapist) and Brittany (Psychic Medium & Spiritual Mentor) for a raw conversation on honoring your dead mom, setting boundaries, and using your loss as a sacred portal to connect with your truest self and her spirit. You will leave feeling less alone, seen, and invited to choose love over loneliness on your journey. A raw and soulful conversation on honoring your dead mom, mothering yourself, and connecting with spirit on Mother's Day and beyond. The complexity of Mother's Day when you've lost your mom, and how to set personal boundaries (especially if the loss was before you became a mother). The practice of "microdosing your grief" and other methods for maintaining an active relationship with your mother in spirit. How to ask for specific signs and trust that you are always connected to the person you lost (e.g., Brittany's story about the purple Jeep). Why grief is a "portal of transformation and initiation," and the importance of integrating your shadow parts instead of trying to get rid of them. Reparenting your inner child and having conversations with your own children to break generational trauma around grief. Miranda and Brittany’s final messages if they could call their mothers today. Connect with our Guests:  Brittany: http://www.brittanyschmidt.ca Miranda: http://www.mirandamalone.com Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 7th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send

    1h 7m

  2. 6D AGO

    12. Grief, Generational Wealth Transfer, and Finding Wisdom in the Midlife Transition with Lisa Kang'ethe

    Host Nicole Weston welcomes Lisa for a profoundly honest conversation about navigating the overwhelming duality of grief and love after losing her mother, Sharon. The episode explores the often-unspoken challenges of grieving while simultaneously mothering, running a business, and navigating major life transitions. In this episode, we dive into: The surprise complexity of being a co-executor of a parent's estate and dealing with unexpected family conflict and financial turmoil during the first couple of years after a loss. How major life changes, like entering perimenopause and turning 50, compound the experience of grief and force a complete re-evaluation of identity. The concept of "grief illiteracy" in our society and the importance of seeking professional help, including therapy and hormone replacement therapy (HRT), when old coping mechanisms stop working. Lessons learned from grief experts like David Kessler and the journey to finding the "sixth phase" of grief: meaning. Crucial advice for anyone dealing with loss and the coming wave of generational wealth transfer: The importance of learning to go slow and giving yourself grace during a time of extreme indecisiveness and limited capacity. The power of small rituals, from lighting a candle to wearing a loved one's perfume, in honoring the memory of those who have passed. This episode offers raw honesty and practical wisdom for anyone holding immense burdens while striving to move forward and be a captain through life's storms. Connect with Lisa: http://linkedin.com/in/lisakangethe https://wallofwealth.ca/ca/Lisa_Kangethe Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 7th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community.

    52 min

  3. APR 22

    11. Heart Led and Living Her Next Chapter with Heather Haigh

    EPISODE OVERVIEW This episode is a masterclass in integration. Heather describes herself as a "well-integrated personal and professional human," a phrase that encapsulates the years of showing up for hard conversations, choosing love over being right, and allowing grief to evolve her. Heather began her heart-led journey 13 years ago, long before her parents became ill, because she wanted to show up better for her family. This early investment meant she could be present with her parents in their final years in a way that brings her deep peace. The conversation explores navigating profound ideological differences with her father, receiving her mother's hardest moments with compassion, grief as an ongoing practice, and the signs and symbols (owls, loons, music) that confirm love's continuation after death. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE How Heather's heart-led journey started 13 years ago because she wanted to show up better for her family. The story of navigating a profound values divide with her father and the conscious choice she made to love him for who he was. The weekly dinner practice with her mother, and what it meant to show up with intention every single time, even when it was hard. The moment her mother called her a bully, and how she transformed that wound into wisdom. What it looked like to hold her mother's final weeks with grace while also having somewhere to release the pain. Why "I am her and she is me" is a lived experience of continuation. The snowy white owl that appeared in her Toronto backyard the day her mom passed, and the loon that visits the cottage dock. Music as a portal to grief, release, and connection, and how Heather uses it to find her footing. The difference between holding onto who you were before loss and allowing yourself to evolve into who you're becoming. Her book Living by Heart and the collaborative chapter she wrote about her journey with inner guidance. A MOMENT THAT WILL STAY WITH YOU "We are forever changed. So how do we let ourselves evolve through the grieving process and become who we're meant to become in this new chapter of our lives?" Heather doesn't just answer this question with words. She answers it with her whole life. CONNECT WITH HEATHER Find Heather's book Living by Heart wherever books are sold. If you're ready to lead your life and your business from a deeper, more integrated place, Heather is the guide for you. The book's website is www.livingbyheart.ca Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 6th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community.

    41 min

  4. APR 15

    10. Healing Grief with The Dead Mom Club: Anxious Attachment, Mother Loss, & Soul Contracts with Miranda Malone

    Nicole sits down with Miranda Malone, the dead mom therapist and founder of the Dead Mom Club, for a profound and unapologetic discussion on transforming early life loss into deep, soul-led purpose. Miranda shares her story of losing her mother, Rosalie Ann Malone, at just five months old, and how that early trauma imprinted an anxious attachment style on her nervous system. This conversation explores the power of grief rituals like ordering coffee in a lost loved one's name, why "dying doesn't make someone a saint", and the crucial work of re-parenting your inner child. Miranda and Nicole delve into spiritual concepts like soul contracts and predestiny, discussing how their mothers' passing paved the way for their current missions. Key Discussion Points: The Power of Ritual: Miranda's practice of connecting with her mother, Rosalie, through daily rituals like buying flowers for her vase and ordering coffee in her name. Anxious Attachment: How early loss can lead to developing an anxious attachment style, resulting in self-abandoning, overperforming behaviors in relationships, and imposter syndrome in business. Inner Child Tending: Reframing inner child work by meeting the needs of the child at the exact age the loss occurred (e.g., a five-month-old) The Dead Mom Club: An overview of the virtual community offering monthly Griever Circles, workshops, a private "Griever Lounge," and guest speakers for any woman who has lost her mother, regardless of the age of the daughter or the time of the loss Connect with Miranda: http://www.mirandamalone.com Join the Dead Mom Club: https://miranda-malone.mykajabi.com/offers/u2SzUgdH/checkout Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 6th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community.

    55 min

  5. APR 8

    9. Finding Glimmers in the Grief with Kelsey Reidl

    Kelsey's mom, Heather, was a gatherer of people. She watched the Food Network all day, wrote recipes on cards for friends and family, and never sat down at her own dinner party because she was too busy tending to everyone she loved. When Kelsey describes her mother, you can feel her mom flowing through her — in the way Kelsey gathers her community, loves her coffee, and shows up for the people around her. Kelsey lost her mom just over four years ago. About a year after, she felt an overwhelming pull toward motherhood — a pull she now believes was her mother's hand guiding her. Her son Freddy was born on Christmas Day, her mother's favorite holiday, and that timing cracked something open that had felt broken ever since her mom died. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE The story of how Kelsey's son Freddy came into the world on Christmas Day — her mom's favorite holiday — and what that meant for healing What it felt like to be a motherless woman who also wasn't yet a mother, and how that quiet, dual identity created an internal darkness she hadn't expected Her honest reflection on finding silver linings versus toxic positivity — and why searching for glimmers was the only thing that kept her going How her family each dealt with grief completely differently: her sister consumed by the past, her dad running toward the future, and Kelsey learning to live in the present The quote that changed everything: "When you're depressed, you live in the past. When you're anxious, you live in the future. But when you're at peace, you live in the present." How losing her mom shook Kelsey's belief that everything happens for a reason — and how she found her way back to that belief What she has learned about love, expansion, and choosing to live with more of it A MOMENT THAT WILL STAY WITH YOU "I would do anything to have her back. But this is what it is — so how can we expand it into more?" Kelsey shows us that finding meaning in loss isn't about pretending loss is good. It's about refusing to let love stop growing. Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 6th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community.

    1h 2m

  6. APR 1

    8. Grief, & BoundariesHow to Stop Abandoning Yourself After Motherloss

    Nobody prepared you for this. Not the grief itself, and definitely not the impossible weight of trying to show up as a mother, a business owner, a partner — while silently carrying a loss that has no timeline and no rulebook. In this deeply personal solo episode, Nicole coaches her younger self through one of the most overlooked conversations in grief: how do we take care of ourselves when everything and everyone around us still needs us to show up? This episode introduces the ME First Framework — ME standing for Mental and Emotional — a compassionate, practical approach to understanding what you need, communicating it clearly, and giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are on this journey without shame. If you've ever felt like a fraud for struggling, judged yourself for not bouncing back faster, or said yes when everything in you was screaming no — this one is for you. In this episode, Nicole covers: Why grief feels like an invisible wound — and why the world doesn't give you space to heal it The ME First Framework: what it is, why it matters, and how to start using it today The mindset shift from "I should be able to handle this" to compassionate permission A step-by-step guide to setting boundaries from a place of love — not resentment The three questions to ask yourself before saying yes to anything How to communicate your capacity to the people who love you most Why boundaries always start with yourself first How to honor grief anniversaries, death anniversaries, and emotionally loaded seasons with intention A reminder that your emotions do not define you — they are indicating what you need *Saying No:  If you have difficulty saying no and someone is requesting something from you, typically your time, your energy or money, and you have a hard time saying no,  I want you to ask yourself, am I saying yes because I fear the person's disapproval?  If you answer yes, say no to the person's request. Ask yourself, am I doing this because I have a need for this person's approval?  If the answer is yes, you must say no. Ask yourself, am I doing this because I genuinely want to, from the bottom of my heart?  If yes, then say YES! A note for wherever you are on this journey: Whether you're in your first raw months of loss or years down the road still figuring out who you are now — this episode meets you where you are. There is no timeline. There is only the next step. Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 6th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Nicole's free Anger Workbook Guide: ⁠nicoleweston.ca/workbook⁠ Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community. *Saying No steps are modelled after Avalon Empowerment

    23 min
  7. 7. My Mom died during COVID let's talk about guilt and grief

    MAR 25

    7. My Mom died during COVID let's talk about guilt and grief

    In this raw and necessary solo episode, Nicole unpacks the unique and complex grief of losing a mother during the COVID-19 pandemic. This is a shared experience of loss where the inability to say goodbye, hold a hand, or gather for a funeral created profound, lasting impacts.1 Nicole discusses the unexpected public scrutiny and judgment she faced after sharing a viral video about the guilt of how she spent her mother's last holiday. She shares why this experience highlights a critical need to change the narrative around grief and challenge societal expectations. Key Takeaways from This Episode: The Weight of Forced Isolation: Explore the impact of not having a choice in skipping the rituals of grief, like funerals and community support, and how that absence affects the grieving process. Guilt vs. Shame: Using the insights of Brene Brown, Nicole breaks down the difference between guilt ("I did something wrong") and shame ("I am wrong") and how this confusion can prevent self-care and interfere with moving forward. Your Emotions Are Information, Not Identity: Learn the transformative truth that your feelings do not define your worth or who you are. Your emotions are simply information letting you know what needs to be moved from your body. Moving Complex Emotions: Grief is experienced every day, across life’s joys and challenges. Nicole shares her invitation to stop the opinions and "shoulds" and give yourself permission to feel and move anger, rage, and guilt to find self-love on the other side. Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 6th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Nicole's free Anger Workbook Guide: ⁠nicoleweston.ca/workbook⁠ Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community. Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. If you know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community. Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe https://www.whitcombecreative.com/

    16 min

  8. MAR 18

    6. Moving With Grief, One Friday at a Time with Tara Porter

    In honour of Tracy- Tara's mom Tara is the creator of On Fridays We Dance, a movement born from heartbreak, healing, and the courage to finally feel it all. For the past 15 years she has been fostering connection through her design business, helping people create spaces that feel deeply personal and alive. After losing her daughter Harper, and then her mom just one year later, Tara spent years pushing her grief down — before learning to honor it in the way it deserved to be seen and felt. She began sharing her story and a weekly dance as a way to process her pain and rediscover her joy. Through honest storytelling and unapologetically offbeat dance breaks, Tara helps others feel seen in their own grief and trauma — reminding us all that healing isn't about moving on. It's about moving with. EPISODE OVERVIEW In this episode, Nicole sits down with Tara for a conversation that is raw, real, and deeply moving. Tara carries compound grief, the loss of her daughter Harper followed just one year later by the loss of her mom, and she brings all of it into this space without apology. This is a conversation about what it looks like to grieve in layers, to numb and then finally feel, and to discover that joy and grief can exist in the very same moment. Tara shares how five years ago she quit drinking, and when the numbing stopped, the real healing could finally begin. She talks about the kitchen dance parties she had with her mom, and how On Fridays We Dance grew from a moment of silliness between friends into a deeply healing, community-building practice that has touched thousands of people. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE Tara's experience of compound grief — losing her daughter and her mom within a year of each other How she spent years in survival mode, pushing her grief down to hold her family together The turning point that came five years ago when she stopped numbing and started truly feeling How On Fridays We Dance was born from kitchen dance parties with her mom — and became a healing movement The truth that grief is not linear — it comes in layers like an onion, and the body knows when you're ready for more Why joy and grief can live in the same hand at the same time The power of being witnessed — and why "I see you" can be the most healing words someone can say How her community on Instagram became a lifeline: "I don't feel so alone" A MOMENT THAT WILL STAY WITH YOU "Healing isn't about moving on. It's about moving with." Tara's story shows us that grief doesn't end on a timeline. Fifteen years in, she is still dancing with it — and that is not a sign of failure. It is a sign of love. CONNECT WITH TARA Follow Tara on Instagram and join the On Fridays We Dance movement, a community that shows up every week to feel it all, laugh through it, cry through it, and dance through it together. https://www.instagram.com/taraporterofficial/ Connect with Nicole: Register for Nicole’s free Masterclass: She’s Dead. Now what? May 6th @12pm ET  ⁠https://www.nicoleweston.ca/masterclassgrief⁠ Book a free 20 minute introductory call with Nicole    https://nicoleweston.as.me/introductorycall Nicole's free Anger Workbook Guide: ⁠nicoleweston.ca/workbook⁠ Website: ⁠www.nicoleweston.ca⁠ Instagram: ⁠ @thenicoleweston⁠ Produced by Nicole Weston & Co-Produced by Hunter Blackett Photography by Heather Whitcombe⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.whitcombecreative.com/⁠⁠ If This Episode Resonated: Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a woman in your life who is carrying this. You know someone who lost her mom during Covid and has never had a space to talk about it. Send it to her. Every share reaches another motherless mother who is searching for this community.

    43 min
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Welcome to Can't Call Your Mom, the podcast for women who are living, loving, and leading after losing their mom. For the motherless mothers who are raising babies, running businesses, and showing up for everyone else, all while carrying a grief most of the world doesn't have space for. I'm Nicole Weston, transformational life coach, mother, wife, business owner, and a motherless mother just like you. I searched for a place where I could bring all of me — the grief and the ambition, the healing and the hustle. I couldn't find it. So I built it.

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