Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.

One of the most common questions I get asked is "what do you do when your spouse doesn't see the problems in your marriage?" Today I'm answering that question in detail with exactly what will help you move forward to have a better experience in your marriage.Inside this episode you will understand WHY your spouse may have a blind spot, and how you can think about it in a way that leads to less frustration and disappointment, and actually helps you to connect with them and understand them better.You'll also receive practical guidance for what you can do to get started creating positive shifts on your own.At the end, you can expect your marriage to be better, or you will have the clarity you need to understand if your spouse is someone you can truly be happy with.Tune in for this very real and honest conversation.Also mentioned in this episode:Communication Styles Masterclass - if you missed this value-packed training that outlined the 4 most common unhealthy communication styles and the 3 most important characeriistics of healthy communication, you can catch the replay here: https://drchavonne.com/communicationstylesreplay/ (https://drchavonne.com/communicationstylesreplay/)And if you want to have my direct help and support, walking you through the process shared in this podcast episode, I invite you to schedule a private consultation call with me where we will discuss options for how we can work together. Book your call here. (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

Do you and your spouse take a long time to recover from certain arguments?In this podcast episode I'm diving into the topic of prolonged arguments - those times where one or both of you stay upset and in a state of conflict longer than you'd like. There are 5 main reasons this happens and it's important you understand exactly WHAT is contributing to this dynamic in your own marriage. I also share with you the three most important approaches that will help you repair quickly and get on to enjoying each other and feeling connected again.Also mentioned in this episode: Communication Styles Masterclass happening May 1st at 9pm EST. Join me live to learn more about how your specific Communication Styles may be in conflict and leading to the arguments you have. Register here: https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/ (https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/)

If you find yourself having conversations with your spouse that leave you feeling frustrated, unheard, and misunderstood, this podcast episode will shed important light on what's been going on.I'm diving into the most common examples of communication breakdowns I see in my coaching practice.Understanding EXACTLY where things veer off course will give your the necessary information to actually course correct and ultimately have more productive conversations that move you forward together on the same page as a couple.Also mentioned in this episode **NEW MASTERCLASS: COMMUNICATION STYLES**This takes what is covered in this episode and shows you the mindset, assumptions and drivers of the way you and your spouse are uniquely communicating with each other.If you want your communication to feel more easeful and effective, this is the masterclass that will show you what you need to pay more attention to. Get all the details and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/ (https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/)

In marriage, there will be things that trigger you. Your spouse will say or do something, and you have an intense emotional reaction. Reacting to triggers immediately can lead to arguments and conflict that spirals out of control.When most people are triggered, their mind focused on all the things the OTHER person is doing wrong. But in this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing with you the benefits and opportunities for you to go INWARD when you are triggered. I offer you the specific reasons this approach will help you move forward more positively, and ultimately lead to greater growth and peace for you.And if you are looking for professional help and want to discuss working together in one of my coaching programs, please visit my website: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

How do you deal with things when it's not what you want? From the small things like a wrong or delayed order, to bigger things like major disappointments in your marriage - the way you decide to handle situations matters.In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing both simple reminders and choice points you always have when things are not unfolding the way you would like.This episode will help you assess how you are currently processing unmet expectations or frustrating circumstances and seasons in your life with a fresh and renewed perspective that can help you grow, feel better and more hopeful and move yourself forward in a more positive direction no matter what. Also mentioned in this episode: If you are looking for professional support in your life or marriage, I invite you to sign up for one of my private or group coaching programs. I work with couples and individuals. Learn more at DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

Being busy is one of the most common distractions we use to keep us from truly connecting with ourselves.We pack our days with too many things that are not important, stress us out, or cause us to stretch ourselves too thin.One of the major reasons couples struggle in their relationship is a function of how much overwhelm they experience - often at their own hands. There is a psychology behind being busy.And learning how to break the addiction to always being on the go will improve your life in so many ways.In this episode, I talk in depth about the value of doing less and lead you through a simple process to identify how you can give yourself more empty space in your life so that you can enjoy your life more. Also, if you are ready to discuss working together, visit my website to schedule a consultation call: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com) and learn more about private coaching, The Marriage UpGrade or The Well Made Woman.