Love Fully

Dr. Kimberly Castelo & Kyle Benson
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Welcome to Love Fully, formerly known as The Roadmap to Secure Love—a podcast dedicated to helping you build secure, fulfilling relationships by understanding secure attachment and learning how to live it out in everyday life. For years, this podcast focused on secure attachment—and that foundation still matters deeply. Attachment science helps us understand our nervous systems, our reactions, and the relationship patterns that shape how we give and receive love. But over time, we noticed something important—in our therapy rooms, in our inboxes, and in our own lives. People didn’t just want to understand their attachment style.They wanted to know how to love and live differently. That’s why The Roadmap to Secure Love is now the Love Fully Podcast. Hosted by Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson, certified Emotionally Focused therapists passionate about relational healing, Love Fully blends attachment science, clinical insight, and deep human conversation.  Each episode offers practical tools, honest reflection, and real-life guidance to help individuals and couples move from survival patterns into secure, meaningful connection. This podcast goes beyond identifying attachment styles to explore how we love ourselves, show up in relationships, set boundaries, navigate conflict, and stay connected through life’s many transitions—because secure attachment gives us the map, and loving fully is the journey.

  1. 10/17/2025

    Episode 39-Turn Common Mistakes into Connection

    Every couple faces relationship struggles—from missed appointments to moments of miscommunication. But the way we interpret those struggles often determines whether they turn into distance or deeper connection. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how attachment styles shape our reactions when things go wrong and why secure couples repair quickly while insecure patterns can spiral into conflict. At Healing Moments Counseling, we know that life can be messy and that does not mean your relationship is broken—these messy moments are opportunities to build trust, intimacy, and resilience. With empathy, self-soothing, and honest communication, even the most frustrating moments can become stepping stones toward secure love. Key Takeaways: Learn to trust your partner’s intentionsSelf-soothe when frustration arisesTurn relationship mistakes into repairCommunicate impact without blameBuild teamwork through conflictSecure couples don’t avoid conflict—they transform it into an opportunity for growth and connection. This episode will show you how to move from blame to bonding, and how to use everyday challenges as a pathway to intimacy. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    17 min

  2. 10/02/2025

    Episode 38-Are You Betraying Your Partner Without Knowing It? What You Share Could Break Trust

    What do you share about your partner when they’re not around—and do they know you’re sharing it? In this heartfelt episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore a common but often overlooked issue in relationships: unspoken boundaries around privacy and public disclosure. As emotionally focused couples therapists, they offer insight into how even lighthearted jokes or venting to friends can quietly damage trust and create emotional disconnection. The challenge? Many couples never talk about what’s okay to share and what’s sacred to keep between them. Key takeaways include: Protecting your relationship through intentional boundariesCreating emotional safety with clear agreementsRepairing ruptures when trust is unintentionally brokenStrengthening your bond by working as a united frontWhether you’ve been hurt by oversharing or want to avoid future ruptures, this episode will guide you back to connection and clarity. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    15 min

  3. 09/30/2025

    Episode 37-Rewriting the Family Script: How to Protect Your Partner Without Betraying Your Parents

    What happens when the people who raised you become a source of tension in your marriage? In this heartfelt episode of Roadmap to Secure Love, certified emotionally focused therapists Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore the emotional complexity of in law conflict resolution. Many couples silently struggle with guilt, frustration, or emotional regression when navigating relationships with parents and in-laws. You might feel caught between the loyalty you feel toward your family of origin and the love you’re building with your partner. If you've ever wondered, “Whose side am I supposed to be on?” — this episode is for you. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why emotional regression happens around our parents—and how to notice itWhat it means to shift your primary alliance from your family to your partnerHow oversharing with parents can unintentionally betray your spouseWhy you should be the “face” of your marriage when setting family boundariesWays to navigate loyalty, conflict, and connection with compassion and clarityWe believe love grows stronger when we face these challenges together—with empathy, intention, and courage. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    17 min

  4. 07/08/2025

    Episode 36-Work out the Knots Before You Tie the Knot for Marriage

    In today’s episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, we dive deep into the real-life challenges couples face around shared decision making—from everyday choices to major life transitions and even moments of intimacy.  Hosts Kim and Kyle explore how traditional power dynamics, cultural and faith backgrounds, and unspoken expectations can leave one or both partners feeling unheard, disconnected, or resentful. You’ll hear why simply “checking the box” or putting one partner’s needs first isn’t enough for a healthy, fulfilling relationship.  Instead, true connection happens when both voices are valued, vulnerability is welcomed, and decisions are made together—whether about family, finances, or the bedroom. Key Takeaways: Why shared decision making is the foundation of secure loveHow gender roles and cultural messages can undermine intimacyThe risks of caretaking and “going through the motions”The power of voicing your needs and desiresStrategies to move from power struggles to partnershipHow to slow down and talk about what really matters in decision momentsFollow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    16 min

  5. 06/26/2025

    Episode 35-Sexual Ethics: A Crucial Conversation Before Marriage

    In this insightful episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson unpack the often-overlooked conversations couples need to have in order to build trust, safety, and lasting connection. Many couples assume they are on the same page when it comes to sexual intimacy — but unspoken differences around sexual imagery, emotional affairs, social media boundaries, and private sharing can quietly erode trust. Without clear communication and intentional agreements, even small misunderstandings can turn into painful betrayals. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why open conversations about sexual intimacy are crucial for secure relationshipsHow unspoken assumptions lead to trust violationsThe role of curiosity and vulnerability in navigating difficult topicsHow to co-create boundaries that honor both partnersPractical tools to protect emotional and sexual connectionWhether you're dating, engaged, or married, these conversations are essential to creating a secure and deeply intimate relationship. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    16 min

  6. 06/10/2025

    Episode 34-They Want a Divorce—You Don’t. Here’s How to Heal

    What happens when one partner wants to end the relationship—and the other doesn’t?  In this powerful episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love podcast, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore the emotional heartbreak of surviving unwanted separation and how to begin healing when you're not ready to let go. 💔 Challenges We Explore: The shock of being blindsided by a partner’s decision to separateFeeling stuck in grief when the relationship still matters to youNavigating despair when your partner won’t agree to therapy or discernment counselingManaging pressure from friends to “move on” before you’re readyFinding the strength to sit with your pain without trying to fix it ✨ Key Takeaways: Welcome grief as a friend—it’s not a weakness, it’s part of healingSet emotional boundaries—especially when others push you to move forward too quicklySurround yourself with people who can sit in the grief with youTrust your body’s process—healing has no set timelineYou are resilient—and there is hope on the other side of this painWhether you’re in the middle of a separation or supporting someone through it, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap for honoring your emotions and beginning the slow, real process of healing. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    11 min

  7. 06/03/2025

    Episode 33-Surviving the Aftermath of Divorce

    Divorce is often treated with silence, judgment, and shame—even when it follows years of effort, therapy, and personal growth.  In this powerful episode of The Roadmap to Secure Love, Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson unpack the emotional realities of healing from divorce, especially when support from friends, family, or faith communities is missing. They explore: Why grief after separation is valid and necessaryHow to set boundaries with unsupportive peopleThe difference between shame and self-compassionWhat it means to trust your inner voice when a relationship endsWhether you initiated the separation or are navigating unwanted loss, this conversation will help you process the pain, reclaim your worth, and take meaningful steps toward healing. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    15 min

  8. 05/27/2025

    Episode 32-Why Pleasing Your Partner Could Be Hindering Great Sex.

    In this episode of The Roadmap to Secure Love, Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore a topic that resonates deeply with many—people pleasing and the impact on sex.  Rooted in anxious attachment, people pleasing can show up in the most intimate parts of our relationships, often leading to obligatory sex, disconnection, and resentment. 🎙️ Kim and Kyle unpack the emotional, relational, and psychological effects of prioritizing your partner’s pleasure while ignoring your own needs.  They challenge outdated cultural, religious, and therapeutic messages that pressure partners—especially women—to perform rather than authentically connect. Whether you've felt pressure to say yes when you meant no, or you’ve struggled to feel truly desired and safe in your sex life, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and concrete tools to begin rewriting your sexual script. Key takeaways: The emotional toll of performative intimacyWhy people pleasing often stems from anxious attachmentHow to own your pleasure and communicate itThe importance of co-creating intimacy rather than complying with pressureWhat to do when cultural or therapeutic messages feel harmfulThis is a must-listen for anyone wanting to deepen emotional and physical intimacy in a secure, loving way. Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today! Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

    12 min
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Ratings & Reviews

5
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12 Ratings

About

Welcome to Love Fully, formerly known as The Roadmap to Secure Love—a podcast dedicated to helping you build secure, fulfilling relationships by understanding secure attachment and learning how to live it out in everyday life. For years, this podcast focused on secure attachment—and that foundation still matters deeply. Attachment science helps us understand our nervous systems, our reactions, and the relationship patterns that shape how we give and receive love. But over time, we noticed something important—in our therapy rooms, in our inboxes, and in our own lives. People didn’t just want to understand their attachment style.They wanted to know how to love and live differently. That’s why The Roadmap to Secure Love is now the Love Fully Podcast. Hosted by Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson, certified Emotionally Focused therapists passionate about relational healing, Love Fully blends attachment science, clinical insight, and deep human conversation.  Each episode offers practical tools, honest reflection, and real-life guidance to help individuals and couples move from survival patterns into secure, meaningful connection. This podcast goes beyond identifying attachment styles to explore how we love ourselves, show up in relationships, set boundaries, navigate conflict, and stay connected through life’s many transitions—because secure attachment gives us the map, and loving fully is the journey.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Kimberly Castelo & Kyle Benson
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    39
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Love Fully
  • Show Website
    Love Fully

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