Soul-u-tions

Tara Simkins

Most people think about their problems the wrong way, and this can lead to stress and a feeling of hopelessness. Join me, Tara Simkins, as I take you on a journey of mindfulness to find creative and healthy ways to solve life's problems. Before helping people as a life coach, I was a corporate lawyer working for some of the largest companies in the United States. After a life-changing family incident I decided to find a way to make a difference in everyday people's lives. Join me as we work to find life's Soul-u-tions

  1. Jul 8

    Unmasking Invisible Labor: Why You Are Exhausted & How to Finally Recover

    Welcome back to The Soul-u-tions Podcast with your host, Tara Simkins! Have you ever reached the end of a long day, collapsed onto the couch, and wondered, "Why am I so tired when I feel like I didn't even do anything today?" If you have ever felt guilty for your own exhaustion, this episode is a sacred space just for you. Today, Tara shines a light on the hidden, uncredited work that women do every single day—the mental load, the emotional heavy lifting, and the constant anticipation of everyone else's needs. It is time to stop operating at a speed previous generations never dreamed of and start giving yourself permission to rest. What You Will Discover in This Episode: The Reality of Invisible Labor: Why anticipating needs, planning, and holding your family together is exhausting, visible work. Navigating Identity Grief: Understanding the unspoken sorrow of transitioning out of your most active, needed caregiving years. The 5-Step Pivot Process: How to practically apply Tara’s Stop, Look, Listen, Evaluate, and Pivot framework to your daily exhaustion. The Elite Athlete Mindset: Why you must balance your "training and performance" with dedicated, intentional recovery. Actionable Rest Strategies: Practical ways to recover, from taking a 20-minute nap to utilizing the guided rest of Yoga Nidra. Give Yourself Permission to Recover You are operating at an elite level, and it is time you treated your recovery with the same respect as your performance. Grab a cup of tea or coffee, get comfortable, and tune in for a deeply validating conversation. It is time to finally stop, look, listen, and rest. If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

  2. Jun 24

    The Manipulative Truth About People-Pleasing (And How to Finally Stop)

    What if the nicest thing about you—the fact that you’re the responsible, easygoing, and agreeable one—is actually a hidden survival strategy holding you back? Welcome back to the Soul-u-tions Podcast with your host, Tera Simkins! In this eye-opening episode, we are tackling one of the most exhausting things women do: people-pleasing. While we often wear our accommodating nature as a badge of honor, it’s time to face a harsh reality with a healthy dose of candor. People-pleasing isn't just about being kind; it's a learned, adaptive behavior from childhood that frequently morphs into a covert form of manipulation. If you are constantly shape-shifting to manage everyone else's emotions and reactions, you aren't just making yourself small—you're carrying a heavy burden of emotional labor that ultimately breeds exhaustion and deep resentment. What You'll Discover in This Episode: The Origins of the "Nice" Trap: Why people-pleasing is actually a nervous system response learned when you were four years old to secure safety, love, and care. The "Shirley" Dilemma: How bending over backwards to keep the peace (like meticulously managing a 55th birthday party guest list to avoid family drama) robs both you and your loved ones of personal growth. The Cost of Compromise: Why trying to make everyone else comfortable is leaving you sick, small, and sleepless. The Way Out: Actionable, straightforward advice on how to drop the heavy burden of managing others' perceptions and let them take charge of their own feelings. "When you stop people-pleasing, the people that you have been people-pleasing are not going to like it. They are going to test the fence." It is perfectly okay if others are uncomfortable with your new boundaries. It's time to let the people in your life figure it out for themselves while you reclaim your energy, your guest lists, and your authenticity! Loved this episode? Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this link with the recovering people-pleaser in your life who desperately needs to hear this message today! If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

  3. Jun 10

    The Buffalo Courage and the Art of Paying Attention (Part 5)

    Welcome to the fifth and final installment of our special five-part series on The Solutions Podcast, hosted by Tara Simkins. Inspired by the profound life lessons of a 92-year-old woman, this episode takes a deep, introspective look at the final two concepts that shape our existence: Fear and Time. First, Tara unpacks the reality of fear. Through a beautiful story about the resilience of the American buffalo, she explains why trying to outrun or worry about our problems doesn't prepare us for them—only experience does. You'll learn how to summon the "buffalo courage" needed to face life's storms head-on and discover that you can survive the very things you fear the most. Finally, the episode closes with a powerful reminder on the value of time as Tara approaches her 60th birthday. It’s a call to move past the rush of daily urgency and step into true awareness. Life doesn't just go fast—it goes unnoticed if we aren't fully present for it. Tune in to discover how to embrace your past selves, face your current storms, and learn the ultimate lesson your future self wishes you knew today: pay attention. Key Themes in this Episode: Lesson 9: Fear Doesn't End You: Shifting from worry to experiential courage. The Buffalo Mentality: Why the fastest way through a storm is to walk straight into it. Lesson 10: Learning to Pay Attention: How to keep your life from passing by unnoticed. Midlife and the Younger Self: Healing, accepting, and integrated the younger versions of ourselves still present in our bodies. The Soul Shine Labs: A look into the mindful practices of presence and awareness. If this episode spoke to you, please remember to subscribe, bookmark, and share it with someone you love to help pass these lessons along! If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

  4. May 27

    The Hard Truth About Adult Children (Part 4)

    🎙️ Welcome back to the Soul-u-tions Podcast! Welcome back to the fourth installment of our series exploring the profound wisdom of a 92-year-old retired high school guidance counselor! In this series, we are unpacking the 10 lessons she wishes she had learned in her 50s and 60s. Because life rarely goes exactly according to plan, it is so important that we intentionally prepare for the future to reduce unnecessary suffering for ourselves and the people we love. Today, we are diving into two deeply personal lessons that deal with the transition of parenting adult children and the fleeting nature of our own memories. In this episode, you will discover: Lesson 7: Your adult children don't need your advice; they need your presence. We discuss why offering unsolicited advice usually backfires and why our true job is simply to trust them and believe in them. Lesson 8: Write things down because you are going to forget them. We explore the heartbreaking reality that if you don't actively capture your life, you don't get to keep it. The importance of recording the small, everyday details—like how someone laughs, texts, or shows up in your life—before those memories slip away. 👇 Join the Conversation! Do you struggle with holding back advice when your adult children are facing a challenge? Or, what is one small, beautiful moment you are going to write down today? Let me know in the comments below! If you found this episode helpful, please hit the like button, share it with a fellow parent, and subscribe so you never miss a new episode of Soul-u-tions! If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

  5. May 13

    The Rush Bible: Secrets to Surviving Sorority Recruitment with Trisha Addicks

    🎙️ Welcome back to the Soul-u-tions Podcast! If you are the mother of a daughter—whether she is 3, 13, or 18—this special episode is an absolute must-listen. Today, we are joined by Trisha Addicks, America's leading sorority rush coach and the founder of It's All Greek to Me. Trisha is here to celebrate the official release of her brand new book, The Rush Bible: Secrets to Crush Sorority Recruitment and Find Your Forever Greek Home! In this episode, we dive deep into the highly competitive, emotionally loaded world of modern sorority recruitment. Trisha explains exactly why the landscape of rush has drastically changed since our college days, and why being a "legacy" is no longer a guaranteed ticket in. More importantly, we discuss the vital work mothers must do to prepare themselves to handle the inevitable rejections and disappointments, so they don't project their own trauma onto their daughters. In this episode, you will discover: Why "disappointment comes from expectations" and how to properly manage your "Plan B" during rush week. The crucial reason mothers need to build their own "support squad" of friends who aren't currently going through the rush process. How to help your daughter develop essential interpersonal skills—like making eye contact and being a good listener—that have been diminished by modern screen time. Why a rejection during rush does not define your daughter's worth, and how to embrace it as redirection. The inspiring story of how the 2021 Bama Rush documentary pushed Trisha to finally write her book. 👇 Join the Conversation! Are you preparing for a daughter to go through rush, or do you remember your own experience? Let us know in the comments below! If you found this episode helpful, please hit the like button, share it with a fellow girl mom, and subscribe so you never miss a new episode of Soul-u-tions! 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned: Get the Book: Grab your copy of Trisha's newly released book, The Rush Bible, out today! Connect with Trisha: Learn more about her rush coaching services at TrishaAddicks.com or ItsAllGreekToMe.org. If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

  6. May 6

    The Truth About Your "Golden Years" & The Power of Forgiveness (Part 3)

    🎙️ Welcome back to Part 3 of our series on Getting Older on the Soul-u-tions Podcast! We are back with the third installment of our deep dive into the incredible wisdom of a 92-year-old retired high school guidance counselor. If you've been listening along, you know we are unpacking the realities of what the last 30 years of your life actually look like. In this episode, we are tackling two incredibly profound lessons that are guaranteed to shift your perspective on how you are spending your days right now. We're talking about the reality of the "golden years" and the urgent, heavy-lifting work of true forgiveness. In this episode, you'll discover: Lesson #5: You have less time with your spouse than you think. We discuss why putting off your joy and travel for retirement is a risky game, and how unexpected health shifts can change your trajectory in an instant.Lesson #6: Forgive everyone now. A heartbreaking story about a "Tuesday lunch group" that proves why holding onto grudges and avoiding uncomfortable conversations is never worth it.Why you should never let your pride force you to "die on the cross of the principle of the matter."How to stop expecting tomorrow to be guaranteed and start doing the hard work of mending fences today. 👇 Join the Conversation! Is there someone in your life you need to forgive, or a conversation you've been putting off? Take a deep breath and let this episode be your encouragement to take that first step today! If this episode resonated with you, please hit the like button, forward it to a friend, and subscribe so you don't miss the final lessons in this series! 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned: Free Masterclass Tool: Get my simple, 3-step tool to help you shift your perspective and tackle any challenge. Just head over to TaraSimkins.com and join the email list to grab it!Inspiration for this series: Check out the amazing stories and interviews at the Old vs. Young YouTube channel!

  7. Apr 22

    The Hard Truths About Getting Older: 2 Conversations You Need to Have Now (Part 2)

    Welcome back to the Soul-u-tions podcast! Today, we are continuing our deep dive into the realities of aging with Part 2 of "The Things No One Tells You About Getting Older." In the last episode, we talked about how preparing for the last 30 years of our lives is essential. We don't want the inevitable challenges of aging to catch us off guard. We can learn so much from the experiences of others, especially those who have already navigated these later stages of life. In this episode, we are tackling two crucial, albeit uncomfortable, topics: the physical shifts that accompany aging and the imperative need for conversations about death and money. While these subjects might make us squirm, avoiding them only leads to greater distress down the road. Let's elevate our thinking, face these realities with courage, and equip ourselves to handle the future gracefully. In this episode, you will learn: The Reality of Physical Decline: Why accepting the irreversible changes in our bodies is a vital step toward aging well. The Sandwich Generation: The unique challenges of balancing the needs of your growing children with the increasing demands of aging parents. The Necessity of Difficult Conversations: Why avoiding talks about end-of-life planning and finances is detrimental, and how to initiate them before a crisis occurs. The Power of Preparation: Practical advice on legal documents, estate planning, and communicating your wishes to your loved ones. Building a Support System: The importance of cultivating a robust social network that extends beyond your immediate family. Join the Conversation! What's the hardest part about preparing for the future for you? Let me know in the comments below. If you know someone navigating the complexities of aging parents or planning for their own future, please share this episode with them! Don't forget to subscribe to the Soul-u-tions podcast so you never miss an episode! Would you like me to draft an Instagram post for this episode as well? If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

  8. Apr 8

    The 2 Things No One Tells You About Getting Older (Part 1)

    Welcome to another episode of the Soul-u-tions Podcast! Today, we are talking about a topic that everyone needs to hear: preparing for the final 30 years of your life. Whether you're in your 40s or 50s and think 60 is a long way off, or you have parents and grandparents currently navigating this final quarter of the game, this episode will give you incredible insight into what is coming next. As I approach my 60th birthday, I'm taking a proactive look at the realities of aging. Life has a way of catching us "out of the blue," but thanks to the miracle of the interwebs and the willingness of others to share their wisdom, we don't have to be caught off guard. Join me as we elevate our thinking and dive into the first two major life lessons about getting older that no one ever warns you about! ✨ Key Takeaways & Topics Covered The Final Quarter: Why your 60s mark the definitive starting line for the last 30 years of your life, and why it pays to know what's coming. Gaining Empathy: How understanding the realities of aging can help you better support your parents or grandparents right now. The Power of Preparation: How to leverage the shared wisdom of others to prevent the inevitable changes of life from taking you by surprise. The Einstein Principle: A look at our opening quote and why we cannot solve the new challenges of aging with the same level of thinking we used in our younger years. The First 2 Things: We dive deep into the first two unspoken realities of getting older (Part 1), giving you the practical tools to face them head-on. 👇 Join the Conversation! Are you the kind of person who likes to know exactly what's coming next, or do you prefer to just roll with the punches? Let me know your thoughts! If you found this episode insightful, please consider sharing it with a friend, sibling, or anyone else who might benefit from a little extra preparation for the years ahead. 🔗 Don't Miss Part 2! Be sure to subscribe to the Soul-u-tions Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube so you are the first to know when the next episode drops! If you want to get in touch or learn more about me and my programs, just go to TaraSimkins.com

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Most people think about their problems the wrong way, and this can lead to stress and a feeling of hopelessness. Join me, Tara Simkins, as I take you on a journey of mindfulness to find creative and healthy ways to solve life's problems. Before helping people as a life coach, I was a corporate lawyer working for some of the largest companies in the United States. After a life-changing family incident I decided to find a way to make a difference in everyday people's lives. Join me as we work to find life's Soul-u-tions

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  • Creator
    Tara Simkins
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    92
  • Rating
    Clean
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    Soul-u-tions

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