Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Jennifer Noble, PCC | Relationship Coach, TEDx Speaker, & Best Selling Author
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Are you ready to heal your attachment style, master healthy communication, and create secure, fulfilling relationships? Subscribe now to uncover the secrets of secure attachment, navigate the challenges of trauma recovery, and improve your communication skills in love and life. In each episode of the Speak Honest podcast, we’ll dive into attachment styles, emotional healing, and proven strategies for deeper connection. It’s time to break free from the cycle of heartbreak and start building the relationships you deserve.

  1. 1d ago

    127. Is a Relationship Even Worth It? | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 5)

    Do You Ever Wonder If You Even Want a Relationship? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Courtney for another live coaching call, and this one starts with a question so many women carry quietly: do I even want a relationship? What starts as a simple yes or no unravels into a real look at dating burnout, protective parts, and a belief that had been running underneath everything all along, the idea that Courtney's needs and her exhaustion make her an inconvenience. Jenn and Courtney talk directly to the part of her that is simply tired, and what happens when they finally ask that part what she needs instead of asking her to hurry up. You might want to listen if: You keep going back and forth on whether you actually want a relationshipYou are dealing with dating burnout and do not know how to recover from itYou believe your needs or your emotions make you an inconvenience to other peopleYou want to see IFS parts work used in a real coaching sessionYou are exhausted from dating and cannot tell if it is anxiety or intuition talking FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    53 min

  2. Jul 1

    126. Stop Calling Your Needs "Too Much" — Here's What They Really Are

    What does it actually mean to have an attachment need, and why do so many women spend years mistaking theirs for a personality flaw? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble goes deeper on one of the most requested topics from her listeners: attachment needs. Building on the conversation from last week, Jenn pulls back the curtain on what your nervous system is genuinely craving underneath all the overthinking, the apologizing, and the self-sabotage. She walks through the six core human needs and how to identify your own emotional fingerprints by looking at your actual habits, not the habits you wish you had. She introduces her 50% rule, a framework she teaches inside the Speak Honest Academy, and explains why showing up to your relationships on empty is one of the most common ways women unknowingly derail the connections they want most. She also gets into why love sometimes cannot land even when a partner is doing everything right, and how unhealed attachment wounds quietly poke holes in your bucket before you ever get a chance to feel full. For anyone who wants to go even deeper, Jenn points listeners to Chapter 7 of her bestselling book Dance of Attachment and the dedicated attachment needs course inside the Speak Honest Academy. You might want to listen if: You have been labeling your emotional needs as clingy, needy, or high maintenanceYou feel empty in relationships even when your partner is consistent and presentYou want to understand the six core human needs and how they show up in your relationshipsYou are ready to stop self-sabotaging and start showing up from a place of fullnessYou know your attachment style but want to understand what your nervous system is actually asking for FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    16 min

  3. Jun 24

    125. Why Being Wanted Doesn't Always Feel Safe | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 4)

    What does it mean to want connection and be terrified of it at the same time? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble is back with Courtney for Part 4 of their live coaching series, and this one touches something most women feel but rarely have words for. Courtney arrives with a question that hits deep: why do we want to be wanted, but then not feel safe when someone actually wants us? Jenn and Courtney unpack the very human need to be wanted, what happens when that need has historically come with pain attached to it, and why so many women end up exhausted from molding themselves into whoever they think everyone around them needs them to be. The conversation moves into identity in a big way, specifically the question of who you actually are underneath all the performing, and Jenn guides Courtney through a roots visualization to start building out her "I am" statements from the inside out. This is raw, real coaching, and it might just be the permission slip you didn't know you needed. You might want to listen if: You crave closeness but pull back when someone actually gets closeYou feel like you've lost yourself trying to be what everyone else needsYou struggle to answer the question "who am I" outside of what you do for othersYou want practical tools for building a stronger sense of selfYou are working through anxious attachment and nervous system patterns in relationships FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    51 min

  4. Jun 17

    124. The Difference Between Real Standards and Protective Ones | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 3)

    Are your standards protecting your heart or protecting you from ever actually having to open it? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with returning guest Courtney for their third live coaching session together, and this one goes deep. They explore the difference between real standards and protective ones. The kind that feel like discernment but are quietly keeping love at arm's length. Jenn and Courtney also unpack the expectations women absorb from Disney, romance novels, and social media, and how those idealized versions of men can create an impossible filter that no real human could ever pass through. The conversation then moves into Courtney's relationship with her somatic affirmation practice, what it means when the intensity of early healing fades, and why that shift might actually be a sign of progress rather than a problem. This is a raw, real, and deeply relatable session about what it looks like to keep doing the work even when the big breakthroughs stop coming. You might want to listen if: You keep dismissing people you date but can't quite explain whyYour standards feel like protection more than genuine dealbreakersYou've hit a wall with your healing practice and wonder if something is wrongYou find yourself craving that early intensity of doing the workYou want to understand what your body is telling you when your mind keeps going in circles FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    50 min

  5. Jun 10

    123. From Snake Venom to Shared Stories: The Journey Behind the Impact Tour | My Conversation With Hal Eisenberg

    What does it actually take to stop surviving and start truly living? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with award-winning social worker, educator, author, and founder of Eisenberg Leadership Solutions, Hal Eisenberg, for one of the most raw, real, and genuinely moving conversations the show has ever had. Hal shares the story behind his bestselling book Whispers in the Rain, his seven-year cancer journey that included a four-month prognosis, a spontaneous flight to Mexico, and yes, snake venom treatments, and how all of it led him to create the Whispers in the Rain Impact Tour, a four-day live experience built around storytelling, human connection, and community. Jenn and Hal also explore why face-to-face connection is becoming something we have to be intentional about, why there is always a story behind the story, and what it really means to build a tribe that lifts you higher. You might want to listen if: You have been going through something hard and are looking for a reminder that the universe might actually have your backYou are craving real, in-person community but are not sure where to find your peopleYou believe storytelling is one of the most powerful ways humans connect and healYou are curious about the Impact Tour coming to Toronto and New York City this JuneYou want permission to trust your gut even when it makes absolutely no logical sense FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    1h 5m

  6. Jun 3

    122. When a Friend Says "We Need to Talk" | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 2)

    What do you do when a friend says "we need to talk" and every part of you wants to run? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble is back with Courtney for Part 2 of their live coaching series, and this one gets real. Courtney has a friendship confrontation on the horizon with someone who has historically made her feel like everything is her fault, and she is terrified. Jenn walks her through what is actually happening in her body before a hard conversation, why the fear is not the enemy, and how perfectionism and people pleasing are quietly running the show. They work through Jenn's three part framework from her bestselling book Dance of Attachment, regulate, validate, collaborate, and Courtney walks away with real tools she can use the moment things get heated. This is what live coaching actually looks like, messy, real, and incredibly powerful. You might want to listen if: You feel anxious before difficult conversations with friendsYou tend to shut down or people please when you feel blamedYou struggle with perfectionism in your relationshipsYou want tools for emotional regulation in conflictYou are working through anxious attachment patterns and friendship dynamics FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    50 min

  7. May 27

    121. Is There a Magic Word for Parts Work? | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 1)

    Is there a magic word that makes all your hidden parts just... show up? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble takes listeners inside a live, unscripted coaching session with Courtney, a woman who came in asking exactly that question. Together, they move through the real, non-linear process of parts work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), exploring what it looks like to find the parts of yourself you've locked away, meet the protector parts still working overtime to keep you safe, and begin to understand the gap between knowing you're worthy and actually feeling it in your body. From somatic affirmations and the window of tolerance to the sensation of healing that can only be described as moving through molasses, this conversation is raw, honest, and full of moments that will make you whisper "wait… that's me." You might want to listen if: You understand your patterns but still can't stop repeating themYou've tried affirmations and they feel hollow or disconnectedYou struggle with worthiness or feeling deserving of loveYou've been told to "let go" and have no idea how to actually do thatYour emotions feel physical: heavy, frozen, or hard to breathe through FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

    46 min

  8. May 20

    120. Listener Questions: The Attachment Questions Women Ask Me Most

    Are you tired of trying to decode his behavior when the real answers might actually be about you? In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble answers the attachment questions women ask her most inside the Speak Honest Community. These are the real ones. The ones rooted in overthinking at 2am, emotional shutdown after a beautiful weekend, and that desperate need to just be understood by someone you love. Jenn answers four listener questions with her signature warmth, zero fluff, and the kind of honesty that actually moves the needle on your healing. You might want to listen if: You have been watching your ex check your stories and wondering what it actually meansYou had an amazing weekend with someone and then heard nothing for three days and completely spiraledYou identify as disorganized attachment and cannot figure out why being misunderstood feels so unbearableYou want to express your feelings without making your partner defensive or responsibleYou keep asking why HE does what he does instead of asking what YOU actually want FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...

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Are you ready to heal your attachment style, master healthy communication, and create secure, fulfilling relationships? Subscribe now to uncover the secrets of secure attachment, navigate the challenges of trauma recovery, and improve your communication skills in love and life. In each episode of the Speak Honest podcast, we’ll dive into attachment styles, emotional healing, and proven strategies for deeper connection. It’s time to break free from the cycle of heartbreak and start building the relationships you deserve.

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