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Terrible, Thanks For Asking TTFA

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 13K Ratings

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    The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly

    The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly

    Years ago, when Nora was in the worst phase of her life (dead husband, dead dad, lost pregnancy) she heard a lot of people describe her as resilient. Those people meant it as a compliment, but to Nora it didn’t feel that way. She was tired, grieving, and lost so much in her life- the “resilience” people saw was often just…the privilege she had to survive it. 

    So when Nora got the new book, The Resilience Myth by Soraya Chemaly, she devoured it. In this episode, Nora and Soraya talk about different ways to think about resiliency and how celebrating it can be a little toxic. 

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    • 1 hr 7 min
    Now

    Now

    When Nora was about to marry her first husband Aaron, they were in the thick of his cancer treatment. So the day before the wedding, she got a small tattoo to remind her to stay in the present moment.  

    This was an excerpt from Nora’s first book, It’s Okay To Laugh (Crying is cool, too) which is available here.
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    If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be! But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we’re bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we’ll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll.
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    • 7 min
    Becoming Fairy Godmother: Egg Donation and Creating A New Kind of Family

    Becoming Fairy Godmother: Egg Donation and Creating A New Kind of Family

    Two years ago Julia Winston was asked to help a gay couple start a family by donating her eggs. At the time, she was 38, single, and had no idea if she’d start her own family. Sometimes that made her feel insecure, so the opportunity to donate her eggs allowed her to help create a family, just not the one she imagined in her head. Since the donation, she’s gone through an emotional transformation that opened her eyes to all the different ways a family can look. 

    Julia is the host of Refamulating, the newest podcast from the Feelings and Co universe. Listen to Refamulating now, wherever you get your podcasts. Follow the show on Instagram. 

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    • 53 min
    Your Favorite Obituaries

    Your Favorite Obituaries

    As we prepare for our indefinite hiatus, we wanted to remind you that we will still be making TTFA episodes on our Patreon and Apple Premium feeds. If you aren't a premium member, we wanted to show you what kind of episodes we make over there by bringing one of our bonus episodes to the main feed.

    Recently, we asked listeners to send in obituaries about your dead people, and boy oh boy did you all deliver some gems that made us laugh, cry and reeeeeally want to double fist a Dr. Pepper with a Miller High Life. 

    In this bonus episode, Nora reads some of her favorites.

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    • 47 min
    More Than A Survivor: Rape, Activism and what comes next with Sarah Super

    More Than A Survivor: Rape, Activism and what comes next with Sarah Super

    In 2015, Sarah Super was raped by her ex-boyfriend Alex Neal. And she channeled that act of violence into a mission-driven organization that helped survivors of sexual violence feel seen and heard. 9 years after the night that changed her life, Sarah reflects on what it means to move forward with her life and to reclaim her identity as more than a survivor. Sarah was a guest on the first season of our podcast.To hear Sarah's original episode, Unbroken, click here.



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    • 48 min
    Terrible, Thanks For Everything!!

    Terrible, Thanks For Everything!!

    We have a big update about the future of TTFA, and something a lot of you have been asking about since the last episode, where I mentioned *casually* in the credits that we were going to be taking an indefinite hiatus. I wanted to talk more about what that means going forward, and thank all of you for listening and supporting our show. 

    xo,Nora



    You can read the transcript of this update here.



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Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
13K Ratings

13K Ratings

Paige C P ,

Saying the truth

I really enjoy this podcast. The title described it all of how I was coping with the grief I had. Thank you for having a format like this for people to go to when they need nothing more than me too I feel terrible thanks for asking.

[O]bfuscator ,

So much yes!!

I just listened to the episode about resiliency.

Thank you for saying what needs to be said. I’m so tired of being tough. I can’t anymore.

Thank you, Nora.

Eight years down ,

Thank you!

Dear TTFA family,
You have been a mainstay in my grief process after the death of my son 8 years ago. I can’t tell you in words how much you all and your show have meant to me; to be real about grief in a world that is scared to face the “terrible”. I understand the changing forms of grief also and how change is a constant companion, morphing in subtle and sometimes expected but mostly unexpected ways. The progression on your show and your stories have served us all. I remember the show you did where you discussed how we often jump into big projects, foundations, etc. to help ourselves feel worthy of still living. That’s what I did and as I look back, I had so much adrenaline toward SO many things that I understand my body was helping me survive. And then down the line, we get tired and learn how to exist in a different way. Your time and efforts toward TTFA have made a huge impact on this world and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I wish you peace and joy.

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