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It's a question we ask (and get asked) all the time: “How are you?” And normally we just respond with “Fine!” even if we’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day.
But it’s not always all that fine, is it?
“Terrible, Thanks For Asking” is a show by author Nora McInerny that lets real people get real honest about how they’re really doing. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and almost always both. A production of Feelings & Co.

Terrible, Thanks For Asking TTFA

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 13K Ratings

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It's a question we ask (and get asked) all the time: “How are you?” And normally we just respond with “Fine!” even if we’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day.
But it’s not always all that fine, is it?
“Terrible, Thanks For Asking” is a show by author Nora McInerny that lets real people get real honest about how they’re really doing. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and almost always both. A production of Feelings & Co.

Listen on Apple Podcasts
Requires subscription and macOS 11.4 or higher

    The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly

    The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly

    Years ago, when Nora was in the worst phase of her life (dead husband, dead dad, lost pregnancy) she heard a lot of people describe her as resilient. Those people meant it as a compliment, but to Nora it didn’t feel that way. She was tired, grieving, and lost so much in her life- the “resilience” people saw was often just…the privilege she had to survive it. 

    So when Nora got the new book, The Resilience Myth by Soraya Chemaly, she devoured it. In this episode, Nora and Soraya talk about different ways to think about resiliency and how celebrating it can be a little toxic. 

    We are still on hiatus! But this episode in the main feed was brought to you by our TTFA Premium subscribers. Since the hiatus, we’ve been producing two episodes a month for people who support us on Patreon and Apple Premium (join in your Apple podcast app). If you want more TTFA, consider joining us on one of those platforms. 
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    • 1 hr 7 min
    Now

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    When Nora was about to marry her first husband Aaron, they were in the thick of his cancer treatment. So the day before the wedding, she got a small tattoo to remind her to stay in the present moment.  

    This was an excerpt from Nora’s first book, It’s Okay To Laugh (Crying is cool, too) which is available here.
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    If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be! But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we’re bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we’ll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll.
    Created and hosted by Nora McInerny.
    Find Nora’s weekly newsletter here.
    We’re on YouTube, with new videos twice a week! Subscribe here.
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    “It’s Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that connects people and technology for better employee benefits.  Learn more at www.thehartford.com/benefits. 
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    Share your OK thing at 612.568.4441 or by emailing a note or voice memo to IGTBO@feelingsand.co. Start your message with “I’m (name) and it’s going to be okay.” 
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    The IGTBO team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu, Amanda Romani and Grace Barry.
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    • 7 min
    The Resiliency Myth with Soraya Chemaly

    The Resiliency Myth with Soraya Chemaly

    Years ago, when Nora was in the worst phase of her life (dead husband, dead dad, lost pregnancy) she heard a lot of people describe her as resilient. Those people meant it as a compliment, but to Nora it didn’t feel that way. She was tired, grieving, and lost so much in her life- the “resiliency” people saw was often just…the privilege she had to survive it.

    So when Nora got the new book, The Resiliency Myth by Soraya Chemaly, she devoured it. In this episode, Nora and Soraya talk about different ways to think about resiliency and how celebrating it can be a little toxic.
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    BONUS EPISODE: A Collection of Dead People's Things

    BONUS EPISODE: A Collection of Dead People's Things

    A few months ago Nora's Dyson broke down. This was terribly upsetting because the Dyson belonged to her dead husband Aaron, and this was a reminder that he was still gone. In this episode of TTFA Premium Nora and listeners share some of the objects they've kept from their dead loved ones.

    BONUS EPISODE: The Smartphone Addiction We All Share

    BONUS EPISODE: The Smartphone Addiction We All Share

    How many hours a day do you spend on your smartphone? If you're like many of us, it's an embarrassingly high number. Our phones are an endless source of distraction, and the dopamine we get from using them is changing our brains.

    In today's bonus episode hear from some of you about how this addiction is impacting your mental health and day to day life. We also talk to Anna Lembke, a psychiatrist and author of Dopamine Nation, about how the smartphone addiction looks in our brain and how we treat it.

    Thanks for being a TTFA Premium subscriber! We couldn't make these episodes without you :)

    Bonus Episode: Your Not So Average Family

    Bonus Episode: Your Not So Average Family

    "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage."

    We all grew up with our own version of this old nursery rhyme. Maybe we told ourselves we'd meet a partner by a certain age, have a specific amount of kids, or had plans of raising our kids alongside siblings and parents.

    But the universe doesn't care about our timelines. Sometimes you end up with the opposite of what you expected! People die, kids come into your life, infertility happens, and falling in love happens when it happens and not a moment before!

    Back in April, we launched our sister show, Refamulating, which explores different ways to make a family. The show celebrates whatever version of family you've created, and encourages all of us to let go of our expectations around what family should look like. On this episode of TTFA Premium Nora and Claire go through some of the submissions about your not average families.

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
13K Ratings

13K Ratings

Eight years down ,

Thank you!

Dear TTFA family,
You have been a mainstay in my grief process after the death of my son 8 years ago. I can’t tell you in words how much you all and your show have meant to me; to be real about grief in a world that is scared to face the “terrible”. I understand the changing forms of grief also and how change is a constant companion, morphing in subtle and sometimes expected but mostly unexpected ways. The progression on your show and your stories have served us all. I remember the show you did where you discussed how we often jump into big projects, foundations, etc. to help ourselves feel worthy of still living. That’s what I did and as I look back, I had so much adrenaline toward SO many things that I understand my body was helping me survive. And then down the line, we get tired and learn how to exist in a different way. Your time and efforts toward TTFA have made a huge impact on this world and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I wish you peace and joy.

DeMiller76 ,

Friends on hiatus always come back together

Thank You Nora!!!!
(And Team)

Megan Vliet ,

Great but the mouth noises!

Love the show. Sad it’s going on an indefinite hiatus. But just a warning for those that get bothered by mouth noises…I’m currently bingeing from the beginning and the mouth gooey noises that they don’t edit out really drive me insane! I listen to LOTS of storytelling podcasts and none of them have the amount of slobber sounds like this one. But yes the stories are so good and I love the empathy and compassion!

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