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It’s a question we ask (and get asked) all the time: “How are you?” And normally we just respond with “Fine!” even if we’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day.
But it’s not always all that fine, is it?
“Terrible, Thanks For Asking” is a show by author Nora McInerny that lets real people get real honest about how they’re really doing. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and almost always both.
Produced by Nora McInerny and Feelings & Co.

Terrible, Thanks For Asking Feelings & Co.

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 12.5K Ratings

It’s a question we ask (and get asked) all the time: “How are you?” And normally we just respond with “Fine!” even if we’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day.
But it’s not always all that fine, is it?
“Terrible, Thanks For Asking” is a show by author Nora McInerny that lets real people get real honest about how they’re really doing. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and almost always both.
Produced by Nora McInerny and Feelings & Co.

    Blocked and Reported

    Blocked and Reported

    When Natalie Weaver stepped into the media spotlight to advocate for her 8-year-old daughter Sophia’s right to health care, she expected some pushback. She didn’t expect the flood of online hate and death threats that came her way … or for images of Sophia to end up on the wrong, hurtful, abusive side of the Internet. 

    Learn more about Natalie’s work for families with medically fragile kids at Sophias-Voice.com.

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    You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.
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    • 46 min
    When Surviving Is Enough, From "A Slight Change of Plans"

    When Surviving Is Enough, From "A Slight Change of Plans"

    If you’ve listened to our show, at all, ever, you know that grief has been a big part of Nora’s life since 2014 when she lost her husband Aaron. Since then, she’s built this show, her writing, and much of her life around helping others navigate their own grief.
    Despite all this, Nora never felt like she was doing enough, until the events of 2021 forced her to slow down and re-examine her grief once again.
    Nora recently appeared on the podcast "A Slight Change of Plans" with Dr. Maya Shankar, where she shared for the first time the story of why 2021 was, in Nora’s words, her worst year since 2014. It’s a raw and honest conversation about long-term grief, and we knew we had to share it here.
    You can find "A Slight Change of Plans" on their website or wherever you get your podcasts.
    We're coming to your living room on December 6th with a *new* and terrible holiday show! RSVP for Happyish Holidays here.
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    • 51 min
    Army Wife

    Army Wife

    Death by suicide has long been a problem within the U.S. military, and not just among veterans: In 2020, suicide rates among active duty service members hit a six-year high.
    On August 28th, 2015, Heather’s husband Tyler became one of those statistics.
    Theirs is a story of friendship, of love, of family, of service and duty … and of trauma, domestic abuse and mental illness.
    If you’re experiencing thoughts of suicide, you can call or text 988. If you’re a victim of domestic violence and want out, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline. You’re not alone.
    References: 

    Recommendations for Reporting on Suicide

    Common Factors in Military Domestic Homicides: Implications for Prevention and Intervention 

    Military Versus Civilian Murder-Suicide

    Military Suicide Rates Are at an All-Time High


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    You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.
    Read the transcript for this episode here.
    HAPPYISH HOLIDAYS, EVERYONE! Join us for a live show in-person or via livestream on December 6th. Tickets here.
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    • 52 min
    Between Two Widows

    Between Two Widows

    Michael Allio was a fan favorite on Katie Thurston’s season of “The Bachelorette,” applauded for the vulnerability he showed as he talked about losing his wife, Laura, to cancer and raising his son James without his mom. 

    Losing a partner to cancer? Raising a young son on your own? Sounds familiar!

    Michael came across Nora’s TED Talk shortly after Laura died, and when he reached out to the podcast, we knew we had to get these two on a call together. That call became a TTFA Premium episode. 

    Now, if you’re a Bachelor Nation fan, you know that Michael is on the current season of “Bachelor in Paradise,” where he’s been speaking to his grief and loss and the difficulty of dating again in general … but especially on national television. We’re re-airing this episode in our main feed here today for all of you Bachelor Nation fans who want some more insight into Michael’s ~*journey*~ (yes, that’s a Bachelor joke). 

    If you like it, and want more bonus content like this, sign up for TTFA Premium at www.ttfa.org/premium.


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    • 1 hr 24 min
    After The Headlines

    After The Headlines

    In the early morning hours of June 24th, 2021, an apartment complex in Surfside, Florida collapsed out of nowhere, killing 98 people – including Patty’s mom, Maggie. 
    It’s difficult enough to lose a loved one to an unthinkable tragedy. It’s exceptionally awful when you’re forced to watch them die over and over again on national television.

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    Read the transcript for this episode here.
    References:

    One year after Surfside condo collapse in Florida, a legal settlement is approved

    Experienced Team From Israel Helps Search Through Florida Condo Debris

    Dozens Of People Are Missing After A 12-Story Florida Condo Partly Collapsed


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    • 47 min
    Bad Vibes Only

    Bad Vibes Only

    The vibes aren't good. They're not even decent. They're bad.
    Nora's new book, BAD VIBES ONLY, is available today wherever you buy books!

    TTFA is on tour now! Come see Nora perform LIVE!
    Tuesday, October 11 - Los Angeles, CA
    Saturday, October 15 - Philadelphia, PA
    Sunday, October 16 - Brooklyn, NY
    Monday, October 17 - Washington, DC
    Tuesday, October 18 - Boston, MA
    Wednesday, October 19 - Toronto, ON
    Friday, October 21 - Chicago, IL
    Saturday, October 22 -  St. Paul, MN 
    Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.
    Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.
    You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.
    Read the transcript for this episode here.
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    • 37 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
12.5K Ratings

12.5K Ratings

GGBachelorFan ,

My husband Jung himself December 24,2021

My therapist recommended your podcast. It has helped me so much…especially the few on suicide. You truly have empathy and really “get” what very few do. As painful as it would be, I’d like to share my story to help others. My husband got severely depressed during Covid and working from home. Alcoholism and depression escalated and despite receiving help, he was not compliant. He hid it fairly well, but I suspected he was drinking behind my back and his mood swings were present. He hung himself while I was home and I found him. We didn’t live near family, so I was alone during interrogations (it was just a formality but horrible). There is a lot to my story. I’m able to work again as a teacher. But I am still healing and want others to know some things to expect.

LinTish5 ,

Love it

Love Nora and her outlook on life. Saw her in Boston in October and it was an awesome show!

NJO54321 ,

Love it!

I love this podcast. It’s a joy to listen to not only because of the content itself but simply how wonderfully it’s produced. Authentic, raw, heartwarming, sad, all the feels happen here.

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