The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

When I was a baby therapist, I had the honor of being trained by Robyn and was profoundly changed by what she taught me. So to later find her book, website, and podcast—oof—such a treat. Her words and resources continue to deeply impact me and the work I do with staff and students every day in my schools.

1000% recommend listening if… -- You experienced early developmental trauma and would like to better understand how those first very difficult years of life have impacted your long-term sense of self and perception of the world. -- You're a parent (or teacher, counselor, coach, mental health professional, etc.) and want to learn to respond to your own child(ren)'s needs with more understanding, empathy, and patience. -- You feel overwhelmed by all the demands of parenting and cannot understand how anyone – let alone how YOU – could possibly do all the things AND still be the emotionally present and attuned parent your child needs. -- You need help translating the theory of distress tolerance to a practical means of healing. In other words, you understand that certain stimuli can evoke automatic physiological responses and that these responses are so inextricably tied to cognitive beliefs and associated behaviors that-when the initial stimulus arises- you feel completely out of control of how you respond. Never before had I been able to identify my own specific triggers, physical sensations, and automatic thoughts that occur in the split second preceding my most self-destructive impulses.... that is, until I found this podcast. Listening to and learning from Robyn is the first and only thing that's helped me begin to untangle my massive, matted mental web of self-protective turned self-destructive patterns. I'd give her 5 stars just for that. BUT, the most special thing about Robin's work and the thing that really motivated me to write this review is the sense of EMPOWERMENT I now feel to offer that same compassionate guidance, that same gentle curiosity and desire to understand, to my own children and to the hundreds of high schoolers I teach. THANK YOU ROBYN GOBBEL!! 💙💚🧡

I felt so much better after listening to this podcast. I felt so much less alone in having a neurodivergent child and it also helped me let go of some underlying shame I didn’t even realize I was carrying. I love how Robyn discusses the owl vs possum brain

To be fair of only listen to one episode of this show- episode 165 - but I found it more annoying than informative. Since I didn’t start at the beginning, there was some terminology to pick up on, but that proved easy enough. And some of the information struck me as true to my situation or my family situation, but following along was tedious due to two main factors. Number one, if this was an essay instead of a podcast. It was a good draft, but needed to be tightened up with some extra extra extraneous talking removed. She spends a lot of time referencing other episodes or resources that she has available. Then there’s the commercials for her own services interrupting the podcast somewhat arbitrarily. And then there’s actual podcast time spent directing you to her website or to join a club. It was a bit reminiscent of ad experience of playing words with friends. I guess if you just wanna feel like you’re talking with someone that gets it - or listening to them talk - then maybe it’s a value to you, but if you want helpful information that’s easy to follow then there are likely more succinct Podcasts that will reward you better for your time.