Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild

Katie Rössler
  • 5.0 (7)
  • Relationships
  • Updated Weekly

Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

  1. 2d ago

    Married to a Saver But You're a Spender? with Heather and Douglas Boneparth

    Send us Fan Mail You know the fight. It's 11pm, you're both exhausted, and somehow you're arguing about the Amex bill again. Money conflict shows up in nearly every long-term relationship, but as this week's guests reveal, what looks like a fight about spending is almost never actually about spending. I sat down with Heather and Douglas Boneparth, married financial experts and authors of Money Together, to dig into why couples get stuck in the saver-versus-spender dynamic and what's really happening underneath it. We talk about how childhood conditioning and cultural background shape our relationship with money long before we ever meet our partner, why "just talk about the budget" almost never works, and the practical framework they use with their own clients (and each other) to turn money conversations from landmines into connection points. Heather and Douglas also share their "quarterly money date" method, why timing and setting matter more than most couples realize, and what to do when one partner has quietly checked out of the finances altogether. If you and your partner have ever ended a money conversation more disconnected than when you started, this episode gives you a completely different way in. Connect with Heather and Douglas: Heather's Instagram  LinkedIn Douglas's Instagram LinkedIn  Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    Married to a Saver But You're a Spender? with Heather and Douglas Boneparth

  2. Jul 8

    Dear Katie: We Went on Vacation and Came Back Further Apart

    Send us Fan Mail Submit a Dear Katie question about your relationship You planned the trip. You saved it to your phone for months. You told yourself this was the one that would bring you back together. And then you got there, and somehow felt more alone than you do on a regular Tuesday at home. If that sounds painfully familiar, you're not alone, and this week's Dear Katie letter is proof. A listener writes in after a two week "reconnection trip" to Greece that left her lying awake at 2am wondering if the marriage itself was the problem. Spoiler: it wasn't. In this episode, Katie unpacks why vacations don't create connection, they reveal it. She walks through why the big, vulnerable conversation almost always backfires when you try to have it on holiday (hint: it's about nervous systems, not effort), and why coming home without the breakthrough you hoped for isn't a failure, it's actually where the real work begins. You'll walk away with a concrete way to open the conversation once you're home without it turning into blame, plus a simple, low pressure practice you can start building into your regular week so connection doesn't have to wait for a plane ticket. If you've ever come home from a trip more confused than when you left, this one's for you.  Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

  3. Jul 1

    Why Your Feedback Keeps Landing as Criticism with Dr. Jessica Higgins

    Send us Fan Mail Ever start "just trying to give some feedback" and end up in a full-blown fight before you even know what happened? You're not alone, and it's not because you're bad at communicating. It's because most of us never learned the difference between feedback your partner asked for and feedback they didn't. In this episode, Katie sits down with psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack why unsolicited feedback so often lands as criticism, even when our intentions are good. They dig into why high-achievers especially struggle here — your sharp, strategic brain that crushes it at work doesn't automatically know how to "turn off" at home — and what to do instead. You'll learn the simple but powerful question "do you want comfort or solutions?", why pausing before responding might be the hardest (and most important) relational skill you'll ever practice, and how to turn a critique into a request that actually gets heard. If you've ever felt like your good intentions keep getting lost in translation, this conversation will change how you show up for your partner and how you ask to be shown up for, too. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    Why Your Feedback Keeps Landing as Criticism with Dr. Jessica Higgins

  4. Jun 24

    The Hidden Cost of Keeping the Peace

    Send us Fan Mail You've mastered the art of keeping the peace. But at what cost? If you've ever caught yourself calculating whether it's the "right moment" to bring something up with your partner, checking his mood, replaying how last time went, deciding it's just not worth the fallout, this episode is for you. This isn't about your conflict-avoidant partner (Katie covered that one already). This is about you, the one doing the walking on eggshells. The one who's so good at reading the room that you've slowly stopped taking up space in it. In this solo episode, Katie unpacks why the habit of shrinking your truth didn't start with your partner and why it's quietly eroding the very intimacy you're trying to protect. You'll learn about the adaptive child (a concept from Terry Real), why managing your partner's emotions and actually connecting with them are two very different things, and how to start speaking your truth again without blowing everything up. You'll walk away with: A reframe on what "keeping the peace" is actually costing you3 (actually 4) small, doable steps to start this weekA simple journaling exercise that will tell you more about your relationship than almost anything elseYour partner can't fall in love with the curated version of you. It's time to let the real one show up. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

  5. Jun 17

    Resolution Isn't Repair And the Difference Is Wrecking Your Connection

    Send us Fan Mail You resolved the argument. So why do you still feel terrible? You came to an agreement. You compromised. You closed the tab on yet another disagreement and still walked away feeling cold, distant, and vaguely like you won the argument but lost something that actually mattered. Sound familiar? In this episode, Katie breaks down one of the most misunderstood distinctions in long-term relationships: the difference between resolution and repair and why confusing the two is quietly driving high-achieving couples into roommate mode. Here's the uncomfortable truth: Gottman research shows that roughly 69% of relationship conflicts are never fully resolved. They're what researchers call "perpetual problems" rooted in personality, values, and life philosophy. If resolution is your only tool, you'll spend your marriage feeling like you're failing at something that was never actually fixable. What you'll take away from this episode: Why resolution is project mode and why project mode has a ceiling in intimate relationshipsWhat repair actually is (and why it has nothing to do with re-litigating the argument)Three practical repair tools you can use today, including one that will make your nervous system say absolutely not (but works anyway)A one-sentence repair phrase to try before you go to sleep tonightThis one is foundational. Watch the free free Repair Training Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

  6. Jun 10

    Affair Repair: The 5 Phases of Healing After Betrayal with Amanda Deverich

    Send us Fan Mail Can a marriage actually survive an affair and come out stronger? Most people assume the answer is no. But marriage and family therapist Amanda Deverich, author of Affair Repair, has spent years walking couples through one of the most painful experiences a relationship can face — and what she's found might surprise you. In this episode, Katie sits down with Amanda to break down the five phases of affair repair: from the moment of discovery, through the crisis that follows, into the longer, harder work of rebuilding trust. They talk honestly about why affairs happen (hint: almost never for the reason you think), what "affair PTS" actually feels like, and why the uncertain or doubtful betrayer is far more common than anyone admits. You'll also hear about affair limerence — the uncontrollable pull toward the affair partner that can persist even after discovery — and why understanding what both partners are going through is the key to healing. Whether you're in the middle of this right now, quietly wondering if your marriage can be something more, or simply trying to understand how couples survive the unsurvivable — this conversation offers a roadmap. And a lot of grace. Amanda's book, Affair Repair, is available at affairrepair.com. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    Affair Repair: The 5 Phases of Healing After Betrayal with Amanda Deverich

  7. Jun 3

    3 Ways You're Quietly Sabotaging Your Relationship (Without Realizing It)

    Send us Fan Mail Learn about the Weekly Reset Are you sabotaging your relationship without even knowing it? Most couples who end up stuck aren't selfish or uncaring — they're exhausted, busy, and running on autopilot. Somewhere between the kids, the career, and the endless to-do lists, they stopped doing the small things that actually keep a relationship alive. And nobody ever told them those small things were the whole game. In this episode, Katie breaks down three specific habits that quietly erode connection over time — patterns that show up in even the most loving, committed relationships. You'll learn why resentment builds not from selfishness but from assumptions, why "making the tension stop" is not the same as actually repairing something, and why the moment you feel like you already know everything about your partner is exactly when you should be most concerned. The good news? None of these are character flaws — and all of them are fixable. Katie shares three practical, low-stakes tips you can use this week, plus one simple habit that interrupts all three patterns at once. If you've ever had the same argument on repeat, felt like your partner stopped seeing you, or wondered when you two stopped actually talking — this episode is for you. 🎧 Listen now, and check out Weekly Reset, Katie's six-week program that teaches couples how to build a weekly check-in that actually works. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

  8. May 27

    How High-Achieving Couples Quietly Become Strangers

    Send us Fan Mail Learn about the Weekly Reset When is the last time you and your partner had a real conversation — not about the kids, the schedule, or what needs to happen this week? If you're struggling to answer that, you're not alone, and you're not failing. You're just caught in a pattern that almost every high-achieving couple falls into sooner or later. In this episode, Katie gets honest about what she calls the "great logistics era" of her own marriage — the season when everything looked great on paper and she and her husband were quietly becoming strangers. Because here's the thing: the same drive that makes high achievers so successful at work can hollow out your connection at home if you let it run unchecked. Today you'll learn: Why most long-term couples accidentally become co-CEOs of a household corporation — and stop being partnersWhat Dr. John Gottman's research says about what actually erodes connection over time (it's not the big fights)The difference between "project mode" and "connection mode" — and why mixing them is quietly killing your intimacyThree practical actions you can take this week to start shifting the dynamicThis episode isn't about blaming either of you. It's about seeing the pattern clearly — because once you can see it, you can change it. Ready to stop winging it? Katie's six-week live program, the Weekly Reset, starts June 10. It gives you and your partner a real framework for check-ins that actually stick — with live coaching and community support. Early bird pricing ends June 1. Learn more and register here. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

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