325 episodes

Have you been through an affair, or struggle with healing a shattered or disconnected relationship?

Each week the hosts of the originally combined Betrayed Addicted Expert podcast now release their own podcasts continueing their journeys in serving those who have faced the pain and challenge of betrayal and addiction, and chose to move forward.

The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert Ashlynn Mitchell, Brannon Patrick, Coby Mitchell

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    • 4.7 • 1.2K Ratings

Have you been through an affair, or struggle with healing a shattered or disconnected relationship?

Each week the hosts of the originally combined Betrayed Addicted Expert podcast now release their own podcasts continueing their journeys in serving those who have faced the pain and challenge of betrayal and addiction, and chose to move forward.

    Juicy Q&A On Core Values & Boundaries From Our Retreat With Amy Andrus

    Juicy Q&A On Core Values & Boundaries From Our Retreat With Amy Andrus

    My guest today is my former therapist, Amy Andrus.  She is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013.  She’s taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women’s Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and trauma.

    Amy's life has been affected by sex addiction in a personal way. She knows the struggle, shame, and guilt the addict experiences. She has found it rewarding to facilitate individual change and work with the family system to ensure long-term growth and change.

    Amy's a single mom of six. Her youngest daughter has Down Syndrome, and raising her has taught her countless life lessons.

    Find her on Instagram at @askamyandrus

    Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.

    She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way.

    Join her on her new podcast HERE

    Follow her on social media at HERE

    Mentor with her at HERE






    After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life.

    Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life.

    Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists.

    Wednesdays check out "This is Ashlynn" as Ashlynn Mitchell reveals the people and process that support her in living her life to the fullest!

    Each of these podcasts support you in relationships, healing from trauma, owning your sexuality, finding authenticity, and enjoying life beyond the trials.

    We still believe in what we teach. If you need help you can go to?  Go to HERE

    Click here to move beyond betrayal HERE


     


     

    • 38 min
    #142: As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?

    #142: As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?

    Caller James' Question: "As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?"
     


    Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.
     


    Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!


    Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events



    Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com


    Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com


    Couple's Conference TBA



    We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

    • 42 min
    Living A Beautiful Life After Betrayal & Divorce With Chelsie Dort

    Living A Beautiful Life After Betrayal & Divorce With Chelsie Dort

    Chelsie was married at 18 years old, had her 1st child at 21 & divorced at age 22 after discovering her husbands longterm affair.  She is now remarried with 4 more children, navigating coparenting, step siblings, half sibling, & being an interracial family.  She says "I don't know everything but I do know there can be a beautiful life after divorce." Find her at https://www.instagram.com/lifewiththedorts/

    Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.

    She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way.

    Join her on her new podcast HERE

    Follow her on social media at HERE

    Mentor with her at HERE

    After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life.

    Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life.

    Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists.

    Wednesdays check out "This is Ashlynn" as Ashlynn Mitchell reveals the people and process that support her in living her life to the fullest!

    Each of these podcasts support you in relationships, healing from trauma, owning your sexuality, finding authenticity, and enjoying life beyond the trials.

    We still believe in what we teach. If you need help you can go to?  Go to HERE

    Click here to move beyond betrayal HERE

       

    • 53 min
    #140: How Can Trauma Be Good For Us?

    #140: How Can Trauma Be Good For Us?

    The Patrick brothers discuss How Can Trauma Be Good For Us.
     


    Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.


     
    Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!


    Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events



    Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com


    Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com


    Couple's Conference TBA



    We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

    • 33 min
    Prioritizing Joy Despite Your Circumstances With Elise Jones

    Prioritizing Joy Despite Your Circumstances With Elise Jones

    Elise is married to a great guy, a mom of 2, teaching 20+ years of fitness & the last 17 years she has focused on yoga therapy, helping people in real life & virtually find healing & FUN.  She lives in Midway, Utah & will be at my retreat helping those women heal a little bit more.  You can find her at @utahyogaandwellness & @elisejonesyoga on instagram.

    Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.

    She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way.

    Join her on her new podcast HERE

    Follow her on social media at HERE

    Mentor with her at HERE






    After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life.

    Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life.

    Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists.

    Wednesdays check out "This is Ashlynn" as Ashlynn Mitchell reveals the people and process that support her in living her life to the fullest!

    Each of these podcasts support you in relationships, healing from trauma, owning your sexuality, finding authenticity, and enjoying life beyond the trials.

    We still believe in what we teach. If you need help you can go to?  Go to HERE

    Click here to move beyond betrayal HERE

     

    • 49 min
    #138: I’m Full Of Anger And Resentment. How Do I Let It Go?

    #138: I’m Full Of Anger And Resentment. How Do I Let It Go?

    Caller Tami's Question: "A couple of mths ago I'd responded to a podcast where you'd role played, mentioning that I felt the "betrayer" seemed they were portraying avoidant behavior likely to cause a betrayed to feel there's more secrecy. I am a huge proponent of the betrayed asking anything they want. It has helped me immensely (anxious type- I'll make up and fill holes if I don't know - which is usually worse than the truth!). Anyway, you'd asked about coming on - I'm completely open to it realize that. Also, a more pressing question for me - a yr out from discovery, is the pure hatred I harbor for "the other woman". My husband & I have done therapy, the marathon talks, tears, healing....a lot of work, we are even in the process of considering a vow renewal in July...however, I still harbor such a vengeful spirit and hatred for this "other person" and it makes me feel I'm still tied to the crisis, the past. How do you let that go when you have no positive regard to offset the ill will??? It's a lot to hold."  

    Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.  

    Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!   Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events


    Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com
    Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com
    Couple's Conference TBA

    We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call!

    • 40 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
1.2K Ratings

1.2K Ratings

Playfulface ,

Grow with Coby Ep 11 and Brandon’s perspective of the BAE

Although I have always appreciated the BAE something has always felt a little off but I wasn’t sure what it was. Coby’s recent episode 11 helped me understand why a little more, and Brandon’s recent episode discussing his perspective of what went down gave me even more clarity of why things have felt so off. He explained exactly what I felt. Brannon thank you for being authentic even if it meant loosing a friend. Your intentions were good and the explanation was helpful.

Worked well for me ,

I found another resource The Self Mastery Podcast

This podcast was helpful, but how that they are going on a different direction so am I.

Zach and Darcy do a great job and helped me move on with my marriage. They helped me realize that addiction language and betrayal language are part of what has kept me from moving forward. Check out The Self Mastery Podcast if this podcast has stopped being helpful to you like it has to me.

No_Why ,

Questionable value in retrospect due in part to form

The ending is problematic. Coby seemed to panic and make a hasty, weak decision. Sounded to me he finally allowed himself to see the reality of Ashlynn’s poor treatment of him, since the podcast only ever looked at his poor treatment of Ashlynn. And the ongoing hating on Coby and loving on Ashlynn is a dynamic that disturbed me throughout and has taken a troubling turn as everyone now seems to deify Ashlynn and demonize Coby. As if only Coby had issues and did harmful things to the relationship. Even the title BAE puts Coby in the “you’re the entire problem” category and Ashlynn in the “you’re entirely a victim” category. Thus, the unspoken message I often heard was that if only Coby could get his act together everything would be perfect. That’s how it came across.

But what kind of woman marries and stays with someone like Coby? If you listened carefully, you’d sometimes hear how Ashlynn cared only about appearances initially and was defensive, adversarial, had to win fights and couldn’t admit wrongs, only had eyes to see the negatives in Coby, etc. That sounds to me like a relationship where she had her own independent role in creating an environment where Gottmans four horsemen of the apocalypse reigned. And the unhealthy focus on the female being a victim only and above reproach is not helpful, especially in a dynamic where more than one human is involved. No healthy boundaried woman is connecting (or is it trauma bonding?) with that kind of man, so you have to ask what pathology she brought to the relationship, and whether she was pathalogically invested in having a scapegoat she could treat with contempt and scorn to avoid looking at herself. If you listened carefully to Brannons final recap, he hinted there might be something to Cobys indirect allegation that Ashlynn often invited the four horsemen into the relationship. I found it interesting both seemed scared to speak directly about Ashlynn but had no problem being direct about Cobys problems. Such actions spoke louder than words … and spoke of Ashlynn being a controlling, critical and combative person. Thats the elephant in the podcast. But sure, the guy who openly spoke of his embarrassing actions was a total phony and fraud

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