The convergence of a real life situation with the objectivity and experience of a professional makes a powerful combination in this heartfelt, authentic, and eye opening series. A must for all addicted and betrayed a like. Thank you all!

Thank you for this great resource! I am working my way through all the older episodes, and quickly listen to the new ones. Plus, now I know about Real Talk Recovery and Tyler Patrick. I’m loving to hear about being the Buffalo from Ashlynn.

Good podcast for sure! Real Talk Recovery is even better!

I see how a lot of what they said could be helpful but they totally diminished a huge part If your partner is picturing other people they want sexually that is a door to a addiction and hurtful behavior and can make them want the real thing Also why can’t a partner not be ok with that. What about men who can’t get it up anymore unless they are thinking about these people that hurts the relationship completely.they totally dismiss the ways this hurts the partner and says that the partner has a problem. They don’t go in it to how she may be ok with this if it’s her that you’re thinking about but if you’re thinking of the 20yearold girl down the road and now can’t stop looking at her and want to only picture her that just killed your relationship

I appreciate the episode where Brannon finally tells his perspective, particularly about Coby’s “why I got divorced” episode (which was absolutely cringe-worthy). Coby has the gift of gab and knows how to use it to his advantage. His attempt at painting himself as the victim was shameful. I appreciate that Brannon pointed out that he was inauthentic in his recovery. Let’s call a spade a spade. Coby talks big, but still has a lot of work to do. The false pretense feels icky, and that comes through in the podcast. I appreciate Ashlynn letting us see the messy parts of her imperfect, but authentic and effort-filled recovery, and I feel like Brannon has some good thoughts.

Beware this couple divorced, and they shouldn’t have done a podcast putting themselves out there until they were truly healed. I think all 3 persons advice is suspect. I also think the therapist on this podcast wasn’t responsible for putting them out there. Also they should change their picture since they aren’t together anymore. I’m tried of so called experts who’s marriages are just as bad as people who are trying to help.

This podcast was helpful, but how that they are going on a different direction so am I. Zach and Darcy do a great job and helped me move on with my marriage. They helped me realize that addiction language and betrayal language are part of what has kept me from moving forward. Check out The Self Mastery Podcast if this podcast has stopped being helpful to you like it has to me.

The ending is problematic. Coby seemed to panic and make a hasty, weak decision. Sounded to me he finally allowed himself to see the reality of Ashlynn’s poor treatment of him, since the podcast only ever looked at his poor treatment of Ashlynn. And the ongoing hating on Coby and loving on Ashlynn is a dynamic that disturbed me throughout and has taken a troubling turn as everyone now seems to deify Ashlynn and demonize Coby. As if only Coby had issues and did harmful things to the relationship. Even the title BAE puts Coby in the “you’re the entire problem” category and Ashlynn in the “you’re entirely a victim” category. Thus, the unspoken message I often heard was that if only Coby could get his act together everything would be perfect. That’s how it came across. But what kind of woman marries and stays with someone like Coby? If you listened carefully, you’d sometimes hear how Ashlynn cared only about appearances initially and was defensive, adversarial, had to win fights and couldn’t admit wrongs, only had eyes to see the negatives in Coby, etc. That sounds to me like a relationship where she had her own independent role in creating an environment where Gottmans four horsemen of the apocalypse reigned. And the unhealthy focus on the female being a victim only and above reproach is not helpful, especially in a dynamic where more than one human is involved. No healthy boundaried woman is connecting (or is it trauma bonding?) with that kind of man, so you have to ask what pathology she brought to the relationship, and whether she was pathalogically invested in having a scapegoat she could treat with contempt and scorn to avoid looking at herself. If you listened carefully to Brannons final recap, he hinted there might be something to Cobys indirect allegation that Ashlynn often invited the four horsemen into the relationship. I found it interesting both seemed scared to speak directly about Ashlynn but had no problem being direct about Cobys problems. Such actions spoke louder than words … and spoke of Ashlynn being a controlling, critical and combative person. Thats the elephant in the podcast. But sure, the guy who openly spoke of his embarrassing actions was a total phony and fraud

I’m not a will smith fan but the fact that you made a podcast episode and the first words were “does will smith lack masculinity” is ridiculous. From what I’ve seen Jada is going through something very difficult (loosing her hair). Its an emotional journey with a lot of lows. Chris rock took a dig at her for a medical condition that is out of her control. He made a joke at her expense out of something that is probably already very emotional. Understandably will was probably triggered by his offensive comments(made on television). You decided to take what could be a very raw moment and judge what very well could be a very raw reaction to hurtful comments and make that the focus of your episode. What about Chris rock making a joke out of a woman’s struggles. Does that not lack masculinity?

I like the therapy brothers but don’t get much out of the other episodes.