The Connected Life

Justin and Abi Stumvoll
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The Connected Life

The Connected Life is a thought-provoking conversation about all the beautiful and messy ups and downs of life. Join Life Consultants Justin & Abi Stumvoll as they share vulnerable stories and practical wisdom that will lead you on a journey of connecting with yourself, others, and the world right in front of you. Their authentic, no-BS style will make you laugh, challenge you to dig deep, face your fears, and inspire you to love yourself and others more.

  1. 1D AGO

    326: Opening Your Heart After Loss

    Many of us have experienced moments of life that seem to unravel faster than we can hold them together. The crushing weight of our problems and pain can feel like they will leave us broken forever. But what if love has the power to change everything? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their good friend Kyle as he shares about his journey through profound trauma, grief, and emotional shutdown—and what it looked like to slowly come back to life. From losing his mom to ALS, navigating early marriage while serving as a full-time caregiver, to watching his wife battle an eating disorder—Kyle opens up about the unexpected spiritual encounters that saved him from the self-loathing and despair that almost swallowed him alive. If you’ve ever felt locked in shame, burdened by trauma, or like you’ve lost yourself along the way—this episode is a reminder that there’s more to your story than the pain you’ve lived through and that healing starts with just a baby step towards love. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    1h 14m

  2. MAR 24

    325: A Secret to Fueling Attraction

    Attraction isn’t just physical—it’s deeply emotional. When couples struggle with intimacy, it’s often because unprocessed pain has created invisible walls between them. Many people unknowingly fall out of attraction with their partners due to unresolved hurt, leading to a sense of emotional and physical disconnection. When safety is compromised, self-protection kicks in, and attraction fades. In this episode, Justin and Abi break down how emotional safety directly impacts physical intimacy and why issues in the bedroom are almost always tied to how couples relate to each other outside of it. They explore how resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness can quietly erode attraction, while kindness, gentleness, and understanding can rebuild it. They also discuss one of the biggest threats to relationships—how partners speak to each other—and how subtle shifts in communication can reignite connection and desire. Most people don’t realize this, but repairing emotional disconnection is one of the most powerful ways to bring passion back to a relationship. If you want to keep attraction alive—or bring it back—this episode is for you. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    59 min

  3. MAR 17

    324: What to Do When Your Partner Won't Change

    Nothing is more frustrating than feeling stuck in a relationship where your partner refuses to change. Maybe you’ve had the same conversation a hundred times, but nothing ever shifts. Maybe they acknowledge the problem but don’t take action. Or worse—maybe they don’t even see an issue at all. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into what to do when you’re hitting a wall with your partner. They unpack the emotional toll of waiting for change, the difference between healthy patience and self-abandonment, and how to navigate the tension between acceptance and advocating for your needs. They also explore what true relational growth looks like—and why sometimes, the most powerful change you can make starts with yourself. If you’ve ever felt exhausted from trying to get your partner to evolve, this conversation will give you clarity, empowerment, and a new perspective on what’s actually in your control. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    1h 5m

  4. MAR 10

    323: Bouncing Back from Betrayal

    Betrayal cuts deep—not just because of the actions themselves, but because of what they shake inside of us. We choose to trust, to be vulnerable, to let someone in… only to have that trust disregarded. The pain isn’t just in the betrayal itself—it’s in the shame, the humiliation, and the reality-shattering confusion that follows. In this episode, Justin and Abi unpack the emotional toll of betrayal and why it feels so destabilizing. They explore how gaslighting fuels the madness, why short-term efforts at repair aren’t enough to rebuild trust, and how holding strong boundaries is essential in the aftermath. They also discuss the power of love—not as something that makes us weak in the face of betrayal, but as a force that allows us to rise above it, freeing us from shame and reclaiming our self-worth. Betrayal is a universal experience, but it doesn’t have to define us. If you’ve ever struggled to make sense of betrayal—or want to learn how to rebuild trust without losing yourself—this episode is for you. You can WATCH us on Youtube at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    1h 6m

  5. MAR 3

    322: Church Hurt: Rage, Grace, & Everything in Between

    For many, the church has been a place of deep wounding rather than healing. Whether you’ve personally experienced pain or watched destructive behavior unfold, it can feel impossible to stay connected to faith when the place meant to embody love feels anything but safe. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the complexity of church wounds—why they happen, how they impact our sense of self-worth, and what it takes to move forward. They discuss the tension between forgiveness and accountability, the importance of boundaries, and the challenge of not mirroring the same judgment and hurt we’ve experienced. If you’ve ever struggled with disillusionment, frustration, or grief over the church, this conversation offers a space to process, reflect, and consider a path toward healing—on your own terms. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    1h 16m

  6. FEB 24

    321: The Silent Killer of a Great Life

    Denial is one of the biggest roadblocks to living a full and abundant life—but most of us don’t even realize when it’s at play. It’s not always intentional or malicious; often, it’s an unconscious defense against pain, fear, and shame. But what we refuse to see, we can’t heal. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore how denial quietly shapes our lives, keeps us disconnected, and prevents us from receiving the care and compassion we need. They break down why we fall into denial, how it impacts our relationships, and the steps to start facing reality with grace. If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or overwhelmed by the idea of facing hard truths, this conversation will help you navigate the process piece by piece—with self-compassion and a roadmap for growth. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    1h 11m

  7. FEB 17

    320: Green Flags—What to Look For in Relationships

    Red flags get all the attention—but what about the green flags? We’re so quick to call out what to avoid, but do we actually know what to look for in healthy, thriving relationships? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into seven green flags that signal someone is a great person to build connection with—whether it’s romantic or platonic. They break down key traits that make relationships fulfilling, how to recognize them in others, and most importantly, how to cultivate these qualities in yourself. If you want to break unhealthy relationship cycles, attract quality connections, and become the kind of person who naturally draws great relationships, this conversation is for you. Listen in as they explore: ✅ The qualities that make someone a great friend or partner ✅ How self-love creates space for deeper connections ✅ Why emotional intelligence and ownership are game changers ✅ The power you have to shape your relationship dynamics You don’t just want good relationships—you want great ones. And that starts with knowing what to look for and who to become. Tune in now! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    57 min

  8. FEB 10

    319: Bridging Faith and Emotional Health Pt. 2

    Many have experienced a version of faith that prioritizes performance over authenticity, often leaving little room for emotional honesty or personal healing. In part 2 of this two part series, Justin and Abi continue their deep dive into the intersection of faith and emotional health, tackling the ways in which toxic forgiveness and spiritual bypassing prevent genuine healing. They explore how religious communities sometimes use forgiveness as a way to silence pain rather than restore relationships, and how the misuse of spirituality can dismiss real emotional struggles. They also discuss the urgent need for accountability in faith communities, challenging the harmful patterns that enable toxic behavior to go unchecked. If you've ever felt pressured to "just forgive and move on" without real resolution, or if you’ve wrestled with the tension between faith and emotional health, this conversation is for you. 🎙️✨ You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

    1h 10m
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    The Connected Life is a thought-provoking conversation about all the beautiful and messy ups and downs of life. Join Life Consultants Justin & Abi Stumvoll as they share vulnerable stories and practical wisdom that will lead you on a journey of connecting with yourself, others, and the world right in front of you. Their authentic, no-BS style will make you laugh, challenge you to dig deep, face your fears, and inspire you to love yourself and others more.

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    • Creator
      Justin and Abi Stumvoll
    • Years Active
      2018 - 2025
    • Episodes
      322
    • Rating
      Clean
    • Copyright
      © Justin Stumvoll and Abigail Stumvoll 2018 Stumvoll Consulting LLC
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