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Whether you are a part of the foster care community, passionate about serving or simply interested in learning more, we are here for you!

The Forgotten Podcast The Forgotten Initiative

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.9, 336 Ratings

Whether you are a part of the foster care community, passionate about serving or simply interested in learning more, we are here for you!

    Big Family Dynamics: Thriving in a Supersized Family

    Big Family Dynamics: Thriving in a Supersized Family

    We became a big family suddenly through foster care—growing by 3 kids in 5 months and doubling the number of children in our home. Not long after, we added one more to our crew through our second international adoption, rounding out the total to 7 children. Growing up, I wanted to be a mom, but I didn't anticipate I'd be a mom to 7! Parenting has its unique challenges. Parenting children who have experienced trauma has its challenges. And parenting 7 children comes with its own level of chaos. I can say for certain that I don't do it perfectly; I've learned some tips and tricks along the way. So, if you're like me and trying to create order in your home and need new strategies, this one is for you. You don't have to be a mom of 7 to implement these tips. Choose what's right for you and your family. I had the chance to share this message at The Replanted Conference last fall, but I want to let you in on it, too. We are better when we share with one another.

    • 48 min
    The Battle for Control in Foster Care: A Life Surrendered to God

    The Battle for Control in Foster Care: A Life Surrendered to God

    Since his very first memory, life for my guest, Gaelin Elmore, has been about the struggle for control. He couldn't control his parents' addictions. He couldn't control whether he went into foster care. He couldn't control where and with whom he was placed. He couldn't control what happened inside the home. He could only control his own behaviors, so that's what he held onto tightly. It was a way to cope, to temporarily ease the pain. What Gaelin didn't anticipate was that there were people, and far greater, a God who was worthy of his trust. He didn't have to be the one to muster up the strength on his own, but God in his kindness was there, holding him through all the hard. His trauma displays itself in relationships with people still, but Gaelin is not without hope, and he's running hard after the one who was in control the whole time.

    • 1 hr 7 min
    Life with Infertility: Considering the Jump into Foster Care

    Life with Infertility: Considering the Jump into Foster Care

    I don't know what it's like to struggle with infertility, and it may or may not intersect with your story, but here's what I do know, the emotional, physical and spiritual pain that comes with infertility is worthy of our conversation. We have to go there. We have to talk about it, because it's a reality for so many foster and adoptive parents or those considering it. We have to be givers of grace to each other, willing to sit with each other in the pain without trying to solve the problem. It could be easy for those of us who are passionate about foster care to jump to a fix of "you should become a foster parent" for our friends struggling with infertility, but that may or may not be their best option. So, hear me in this—that’s not our intent. Today, we're diving into Caroline's story of infertility simply to open the conversation of how to determine if that is the right next step for you and how we can compassionately walk with our friends through infertility.

    • 48 min
    Connecting With Your Spouse: Setting Priority As Foster Parents

    Connecting With Your Spouse: Setting Priority As Foster Parents

    With the demands of parenting, time spent connecting with your spouse can easily be moved to the back-burner. It's a slow progression of choices and unintended consequences of decisions made. You intend to have that conversation with your husband, but with the caseworker coming over for a home visit today, it gets pushed lower on the priority list. Interruptions bring a change in plans, and suddenly, you haven't been able to have a date night in months. In our foster parenting journey, and now, raising a big family, I know my time with my husband, Clint, is so valuable. I am so thankful for our time together when it comes every other Tuesday night, but early on, I wasn't as good at protecting that time on the calendar. I allowed it to be moved, thinking we could make it up at some other time and then another week would pass without an intentional time to connect. I recently talked with Jill Savage about this, and why it's actually good for our children for us to invest in our marriages.

    • 52 min
    Meeting Your Biological Parent: Expectations, Joys, and Disappointments

    Meeting Your Biological Parent: Expectations, Joys, and Disappointments

    Abuse is not okay. As I listened to my guest, Desiree Moore, share her story, saying, "I'm sorry" didn't feel like enough. Adopted at the age of three, she suffered at the hands of those who were supposed to be her protector. She wanted to escape but didn't dare speak up. Foster care entered into her story at the age of seventeen as a welcomed relief. Throughout her journey, though, she longed to meet her biological mother. Years spent fantasizing about her and what that relationship would be like left her feeling confused and disappointed when the time finally did come for them to meet. I was so proud of Desiree for sharing, and I know that what she learned in meeting her mom will help us too.

    • 26 min
    The Summer Struggle: Establishing Routine for Your Foster or Adoptive Family

    The Summer Struggle: Establishing Routine for Your Foster or Adoptive Family

    I loved summer growing up! It was a break from the typical day to day structure of school—full of new adventures and opportunities that there wasn't time for during the school year. Sure, it wasn't all perfect, but overall, I loved the possibility that each summer brought. There were so many things to look forward to. This year, our summer has started early, and it's not feeling quite the same—for me or for our kids. Summer has started, well, with stress. It's started with a lack of stability and security as we look towards the unknown. For our kiddos who have experienced trauma, summer, and particularly, this summer brings fear. My friend, Kristin Berry, and I talk through what this season is like for our children who have experienced great loss in their lives. We can have a great summer; it might take a little more planning and a whole lot of grace.

    • 38 min

Customer Reviews

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336 Ratings

336 Ratings

KellyRTn ,

A must-listen for foster parents

This podcast was so helpful during my foster journey and is still helpful as I continue ministering in the foster care community. I love TFI and the podcast!

Juliejeanneb ,

Inspiring and honest

This podcast has been exactly what I needed in my foster journey and I have been amazed how often the subject is exactly what I needed for where I have been and the kids I have been with. Thank you for the heart and truth of it.

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One word- AUTHENTIC!

Such a supportive podcast. She does a great job sending an informative and caring message with each guest. That we’re all in this together, to help each other.

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