The Invisible Load: How to See It, Share It, and Stop Resentment Before It Starts

Ever feel like your brain has 27 tabs open—and none of them can close?

That’s the invisible load of parenthood: The endless mental and emotional labor that keeps a family running but often falls on one parent without ever being named.

In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down:

• What the invisible load actually looks like in early parenthood (hint: it’s more than chores)

• Why it so often falls unequally, even in good partnerships

• The cycle of resentment it creates when it stays hidden

• A simple 3-step framework—See it. Say it. Slay it.—to start redistributing the weight today

Whether you’re pregnant and wondering how to prepare, or already in the thick of diapers and daycare forms, this conversation will help you shift from scorekeeping to true teamwork.

👉 Listen in, grab our free Mental Load Brain Dump Template (your new reset button), and if you’re ready to go deeper, book a Connection Call with us to talk about the kind of relationship you want to build.

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