The Labia Lounge

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The juiciest podcast on the internet!Join me, Freya Graf - a Yoni Mapping Therapist & Holistic Sex Coach - in The Labia Lounge to yarn about all things sexuality, womanhood, holistic health and everything in between...your legs! (Couldn‘t help myself!)Buckle up, you‘re about to receive the sex-ed you never had, from the girlfriend you now have, and have a bloody good laugh while you‘re at it!This poddy is full of real chats, with real people, about real shit. So give it a spin if you dare!My intention with The Labia Lounge is to demystify & de-stigmatise; empower & educate; laugh & get vulnerable while helping dismantle the shame around g******s, pleasure, and being a sexual woman through juicy conversations.It‘s a judgement & shame-free space that aims to normalise the aspects of being a human that we often feel alone in or too afraid to talk about, and reassure you that you‘re not broken!So pop ya feet up and let‘s flappin‘ do this!Freya. xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 6D AGO

    The Bedroom Gap: Why Women’s Sexual & Relational Satisfaction Still Gets Left Behind with Dr. Maria Sophocles

    In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge I chat with Dr. Maria Sophocles—a pioneer in women's healthcare, menopause management, and female sexual health—for a deep dive into the "bedroom gap," gender equality, and how societal, historical, and medical factors impact sex and intimacy. Dr. Maria coined the term "bedroom gap," now recognized by Oprah and taught in psychology classes, to describe the wide-ranging sexual discrepancies in relationships—including differences in expectations, abilities, satisfaction, and the impact of history and culture. Her new book, The Bedroom Gap, explores these issues and offers actionable advice to help women reclaim agency over their pleasure. Some of the Topics we Covered:The Bedroom Gap: What it means, why it’s more than just the "orgasm gap," and its roots in history, culture, and health care.Origins & Recognition: How the term gained traction and is now influencing psychology education.Women’s Sexual Agency: Empowerment, shame, and overcoming scripts focused on male pleasure.Healthcare System Disparities: How medications like Viagra shifted sexual norms and left women behind, and the slow fight for parity in sexual health treatments.Impact of Poor Sex Education: Funny and sad patient anecdotes highlight how misinformation and shame keep women from pleasure.Intimacy After Illness or Aging: Navigating sex when bodies and health change, including disability, menopause, and chronic conditions.Communication in Relationships: The importance of talking about sex, what blocks most couples, and tools for opening up.Redefining Sex: Moving beyond penetrative sex as the main event and exploring pleasure in many forms. Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! Follow maria's work and order her new book here: Official Website: mariasophoclesmd.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd/ Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/maria_sophocles_what_happens_to_sex_in_midlife_a_look_at_the_bedroom_gap Book: https://www.amazon.com/Bedroom-Gap-Rewrite-Rules-Roles/dp/0306837404 *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 7m
  2. FEB 7 · BONUS

    Early Puberty, Sugar Babying, & Abraham Lincoln Pubes with Dan

    In this second installment of my little series with my mate Dan, we chat about how he went through early puberty at the age of 8, got teased about his pubes, tried his hand at being a sugar baby, and had a shady surprise at an air BnB with his partner. Among other hilarious stories! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    37 min
  3. JAN 31 · BONUS

    Dan Earns His 'Red Wings', Gets His First Boner, and Suffers Testicular Torsion

    In this very special episode, I kick off a TMI mini-series with my fabulous friend Dan — prepare yourself for stories, laughs, and some seriously sex-positive real talk. Basically this episode comprises of two or three hilarious stories that you're not gonna wanna miss. I almost wet myself the first time I heard them, to be honest. From tales of his mortifying first boner to the unexpected adventures of dramatic and hilarious youthful sexual exploration (spoiler alert, he eats p*ssy for the first time with devastating results). This mini ep is just the start too. There's much more to come from Dan and I as we chew the fat, explore concepts and tell stories in the most Labia-Lounge-coded fashion ever! Enjoy! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    40 min
  4. JAN 25

    De-centering Romance and Ditching the Relationship Scripts with Cyndi Darnell

    This week in the Lounge, I'm joined by renowned sex therapist, sexologist, and relationship counselor Cyndi Darnell, for a juicy chat about breaking free from traditional relationship scripts and reimagining intimacy, romance, and connection. We delve into alternative styles of relating—including relationship anarchy, polyamory, solo polyamory, chosen family, and platonic partnerships—exploring what happens when you decenter romance and start nurturing friendships, community, and other meaningful connections.  Cyndi draws on decades of experience working with maturing populations questioning monogamy, uncovering why so many of us feel dissatisfied or curious about nontraditional ways of loving and living. You’ll hear honest reflections on the learnt scripts we carry around sex, relationships, and gender roles, and what it takes to unlearn them in order to build more rewarding intimate lives. The conversation also covers the realities of relational skills, emotional labor, and the profound impact of relational integrity in every kind of relationship—not just the romantic ones. Plus, we share personal stories about friendship, chosen family, and the beauty (and challenge) of lifting your gaze from “the one” to the many who hold you. If you’ve ever felt “off-script” in love, wondered about non-monogamy, or simply want to nourish your friendships and show up more fully in your relationships, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. Highlights: Why traditional heteronormative models of relationships aren’t working for manyThe skills we need to create sustaining, nourishing connections—romantic or notHow economic and social change is driving the rise of chosen families and community-based intimacyFriendship as a nourishing, romantic, and valid centerpiece in lifeReal talk about commitment, relational integrity, and emotional regulation beyond old-school paradigmsListen and be inspired to rethink, revitalise, and reclaim connection, intimacy, and love—all on your own terms! Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 27m
  5. JAN 18

    Bicurious & Bisexual, Women-Only Play Parties with Skirt Club Founder, Genevieve LeJeune

    In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge, I'm joined by the fabulous Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club—a global private members’ club for bi-curious and bisexual women. Genevieve shares the origin story of Skirt Club, talking about the gaps she noticed in spaces for women wanting to connect outside of the male gaze, and how she’s intentionally created safe, empowering, and pleasure-focused events now held in over 36 cities worldwide. From first-party nerves and behind the scenes insights, to squirt-circle cleanups and overcoming shame around sexual desire and orientation, we cover some fun stuff! You’ll hear candid stories about what really goes down at these infamous femme parties, why so many women seek sensual connection with other women (even while partnered with men!), how same-sex spaces differ energetically, and why sexual self-knowledge is deeply linked to personal power in and out of the bedroom. Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Check out Genevieve's work and follow Skirt Club's latest offerings and events here: Skirtclub.co.uk Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 10m
  6. JAN 11

    Becoming Active Bystanders & Healing Harm in Our Communities with Rei Alphonso

    This week on The Labia Lounge I am bringing you a powerful, practical, and deeply empowering conversation with Rei Alphonso. This chat dives into the real-life complexities of community responses to harm and conflict – from intimate partner violence and casual misogyny to microaggressions on the street or at the family dinner table, and beyond. Rei brings over 20 years of experience across community education, mental health, gender-based violence, activism, and more. Together, we unpack why our current systems can feel so disempowering—and how reclaiming community power, agency, and mutual support can transform the way we respond to harm. Tune in for: Practical tools and perspectives for becoming an active, empowered bystander (instead of a passive observer).Honest discussions on the emotional, social, and structural barriers that hold us back from stepping in.The importance of collective, non-carceral, and compassionate responses—whether it’s confronting dodgy jokes at a family dinner, supporting a friend, or handling big community reckonings.Scenario-based tips on what to do when facing everything from public conflict to sexual assault allegations within your circles.Why deconditioning our cultural “default scripts” and building resilient, feedback-friendly relationships can help create safer, more connected communities. If you’ve ever wondered what it really means to “be the change” when tough stuff happens, this episode is for you. Whether you’re looking to better support your friends, family, or wider community—or just want to explore what real, collective care can look like—you’ll leave this chat with so much food for thought. Follow Rei's work here: Lovingjusticeprojects.com Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 53m
  7. JAN 6

    Biohacking, Pleasure Stacks & Sex Tech for Better Orgasms with Susan Bratton

    In this juicy episode, I'm joined once again by Susan Bratton, a total powerhouse bad b*tch and "intimacy expert to millions." Together, we dive deep into all things related to sexuality, pleasure, holistic health, and the evolution of our intimate lives—especially as we age. This time, the focus is on sex tech, regenerative therapies, and the latest tools for enhancing sexual vitality from a body-positive, empowering, and absolutely pleasure-inclusive perspective. Here’s what you can look forward to in this episode: A foundational breakdown of female arousal processes, anatomy of pleasure, and how blood flow, nitric oxide, and healthy tissue contribute to sensational sex at every age.An honest discussion around the “sex tech” industry—what’s actually effective, what’s potentially harmful, and how to discern between empowering innovations and patriarchal, profit-driven gimmicks.Susan's personal approach to aging vibrantly and owning her “elder slut era”—from sexual confidence and body love to embracing pleasure as a key to longevity and happiness.Insight into regenerative and biohacking techniques like red light therapy, acoustic wave treatments (GainsWave), hormone support, vulva and clitoral pumps, and the importance of gut health for producing oxytocin and serotonin.Candid stories about exploring consent, boundaries, non-monogamy, agentic sexuality, and how to continually expand your orgasmic potential with pleasure cross-training.Cautions about trends and tech to avoid, including vaginal lasers and RF rejuvenation devices, and grounded guidance on making choices rooted in body literacy and integrated wellness. You'll also hear practical tips for keeping your pleasure pathways diversified, non-reliant on one “quick fix,” and ways to use both technology and your own intuition to expand your relationship with your body and sexual energy. Plus, Susan geeks out over favorites in lubes, sex toys, DIY recipes, and what it truly means to be an "agentic elder slut." There’s plenty in here for curious beginners, pleasure pros, and anyone wanting to enrich their sex life with more wisdom, fun, and sovereignty. Check out Susan's work and resources here: https://betterlover.com/ https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/ https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/ https://twitter.com/susanbratton https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/ Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 36m
  8. 12/28/2025

    Limerence vs Healthy Love with Orly Miller

    Ever felt totally swept off your feet—so obsessed with someone you can’t focus, function, or stop replaying every text and glance in your head? In this episode of The Labia Lounge, I sit down with psychologist and author Orly Miller to peel back the layers on limerence: the misunderstood, often pathological fixation that masquerades as intense love. We get real about: What limerence actually IS (and why it’s not just “the honeymoon phase”)How limerence differs from healthy love and crushesWhy social media is a breeding ground for obsessive longingThe warning signs it’s tipping into unhealthy territoryActionable advice for anyone suffering with obsessive attachmentThe hidden potential for growth and healing—even in the hardest moments Whether you’ve been the one obsessing or just want to better navigate those wild early relationship feels, this episode brings the nuanced, taboo-busting conversation you wish sex ed gave you. Plus, practical tips from Orly if you want to break free, heal, and turn the obsession into a powerful transformation. Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out Orly's work and book here: instagram: orly.miller website: orlymillerpsychology.com Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 6m
5
out of 5
21 Ratings

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The juiciest podcast on the internet!Join me, Freya Graf - a Yoni Mapping Therapist & Holistic Sex Coach - in The Labia Lounge to yarn about all things sexuality, womanhood, holistic health and everything in between...your legs! (Couldn‘t help myself!)Buckle up, you‘re about to receive the sex-ed you never had, from the girlfriend you now have, and have a bloody good laugh while you‘re at it!This poddy is full of real chats, with real people, about real shit. So give it a spin if you dare!My intention with The Labia Lounge is to demystify & de-stigmatise; empower & educate; laugh & get vulnerable while helping dismantle the shame around g******s, pleasure, and being a sexual woman through juicy conversations.It‘s a judgement & shame-free space that aims to normalise the aspects of being a human that we often feel alone in or too afraid to talk about, and reassure you that you‘re not broken!So pop ya feet up and let‘s flappin‘ do this!Freya. xxx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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