The Lavendaire Lifestyle

Aileen Xu
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The Lavendaire Lifestyle

Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.  The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.  Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.

  1. 282: How to Make Better Decisions Using Human Design with Erin Claire Jones

    23H AGO

    282: How to Make Better Decisions Using Human Design with Erin Claire Jones

    Have you ever wondered if you’re truly living in alignment with who you are? In this episode, Erin shares how discovering your unique energy type can transform the way you work, love, and make decisions. She breaks down the five human design types and reveals how each one has its own strategy for navigating life. This conversation is a powerful reminder to trust your intuition, embrace your individuality, and create a life that feels deeply fulfilling and authentic. Erin Claire Jones is one of the world’s leading experts in Human Design. Through her coaching, content, and digital products, she has empowered hundreds of thousands of people to overcome their biggest obstacles and find their flow at work, in love, and in life. Her personalized guides have been purchased by customers in over 160 countries. She has spoken on stages across the world, and her work has been featured in Forbes, Elle, The Sunday Times, Vogue, Allure, Nylon and more. SPONSORS This show is brought to you by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TLL Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 3:47 – Erin’s Story 11:25 – Generators 13:31 – Manifesting Generators 15:10 – Manifestors 17:21 – Projectors 19:52 – Reflectors 23:45 – Making Decisions by Authority 36:44 – Success Stories 40:08 – Erin’s Mindset 44:02 – How to Approach Parenting 49:05 – Daily Routines for Each Type 52:32 – Key Lessons from the Book FOLLOW ERIN • Instagram • Get the book • Look up your design (use the code LAVENDAIRE for a discount on your guide!) 💝 • Study human design with Erin 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube 🎧  Erin has joined us on the podcast a couple of times—tune into her inspiring episodes here and here SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    55 min
  2. 281: Vex King: Transforming Pain into Purpose & Finding Self Love

    JUN 1

    281: Vex King: Transforming Pain into Purpose & Finding Self Love

    What if the love you’re searching for has been within you all along? In this episode, Vex King shares his journey of healing from trauma, embracing self-love, and turning pain into purpose. We explore the deeper meaning of love, the difference between relationships and true inner connection, and how to manifest an aligned life. Tune in to remember your wholeness—and feel inspired to come home to yourself. Vex King is the Number 1 Sunday Times bestselling author of Good Vibes Good Life and Healing is the New High, amongst other books and journals. As a child and young adult, he experienced many challenges: his father died when he was just a baby, his family were often homeless, and he grew up in troubled neighbourhoods where he regularly experienced violence and racism. Despite this, Vex successfully turned his whole life around and is now leading a revolution for the next generation of spiritual seekers. SPONSORS • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period shopify.com/tll • Cozy Earth | Enjoy 40% off best-selling sheets, towels, pajamas, and more with the code TLL at cozyearth.com TIMESTAMPS 2:10 – Vex’s story 16:52 – The writing process 21:32 – Keys to Vex's success 27:05 – Tips for manifesting 32:19 – New book 39:27 – Practicing self-love in relationships 45:30 – Healing from trauma: What worked for Vex 53:00 – Vex’s creative process 58:08 – Final message FOLLOW VEX • Instagram • Read his latest book • Browse his work & offerings 🎙️ Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    1 hr
  3. Bonus Episode: Becoming the Artist of Your Own Life: Aileen Xu on Embracing Your True Identity and Creativity

    MAY 25

    Bonus Episode: Becoming the Artist of Your Own Life: Aileen Xu on Embracing Your True Identity and Creativity

    What does it really take to create your dream life? In this episode, Erika interviews Aileen about the story behind her success—from feeling invisible to inspiring millions through her creativity. They talk identity shifts, getting zero views, and staying true to your dreams—even when no one else sees the vision yet. If you’ve ever felt unseen, this conversation is your reminder: you can always become the artist of your own life.  Erika Casupanan is a media personality, keynote speaker and host of the award-winning podcast, Happy to See Me. She was the first Canadian to win the U.S. reality show Survivor. She uses her platform to spotlight and inspire people who have felt overlooked and underestimated. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Hair Color as Identity 5:08 - Feeling Underestimated 7:35 - Breaking the Praise Cycle 11:59 - From Music to Self-Love 17:05 - The Early Days of Lavendaire 19:47 - The Pressure of Social Media Metrics 21:55 - Staying Neutral Through the Ups and Downs 24:10 - Moments That Made It All Worth It 27:26 - Living as an Artist of Life 32:15 - Listening to Your Intuition 34:36 - Human Design 36:20 - The Key Questions Aileen Asked Herself 38.22 - Last Message FOLLOW ERIKA • Website • Instagram • Podcast SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    41 min
  4. 280: A New Approach to Success: How Tiny Experiments Can Transform Your Life with Anne-Laure Le Cunff

    MAY 18

    280: A New Approach to Success: How Tiny Experiments Can Transform Your Life with Anne-Laure Le Cunff

    Are you tired of feeling behind, burned out, or like you're chasing a version of success that doesn’t actually fulfill you? In this episode, we explore a gentler, more joyful way to grow: through tiny experiments. This experimental mindset helps you shift away from perfectionism and pressure, and instead approach your goals with curiosity, creativity, and self-compassion. Dr. Anne-Laure Le Cunff is a neuroscientist, entrepreneur, and writer who used to work at Google as a global lead for digital health. As the founder of Ness Labs, Anne-Laure writes to over 100,000 subscribers about evidence-based ways to achieve more without sacrificing your mental health. Her upcoming book, Tiny Experiments, is a transformative guide for living a more experimental life, turning uncertainty into curiosity, and carving a path of self-discovery. SPONSORS BetterHelp | This show is sponsored by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TLL Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/tll TIMESTAMPS 1:50 Her story  8:03 Relationship with success  14:32 Top tiny experiments  20:24 Is it fear or just not right for you?  28:33 Embracing the Unknown  32:03 Relationship with failure  33:46 Letting go of perfectionism  38:47 How to start a tiny experiment  41:18 How to prioritize experiments  42:37 Bringing play into daily life  45:55 Last message  FOLLOW ANNE-LAURE • Book • Instagram • Website 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    50 min
  5. Bonus Episode: Staying True to Yourself Through Every Season with Aileen Xu

    MAY 11

    Bonus Episode: Staying True to Yourself Through Every Season with Aileen Xu

    In this bonus episode, Aileen shares the story of how Lavendaire came to life and the beauty of embracing creativity, healing, and the unknown. She reflects on how music, dance, and journaling have become soulful tools for emotional well-being and authentic expression. Through her personal journey, Aileen explores how her struggles became seeds of connection, growth, and purpose. This heartfelt conversation is a reminder of the power in presence, beauty, and creating a life aligned with your truth. Cathy Heller is a dynamic transformational coach, spiritual guide, meditation teacher, and inspirational speaker dedicated to helping individuals find ease, joy, and fulfillment in their lives. As the host of the Abundant Ever After podcast and author of the empowering book Don’t Keep Your Day Job: How to Turn Your Passion into Your Career, Cathy inspires her audience to pursue their dreams and live authentically. TIMESTAMPS 1:09 – What Keeps Aileen Inspired 3:38 – What Guided Lavendaire Forward 6:34 – Catching the Wave of Opportunity 8:07 – How to Create Your Most Successful Year 11:27 – Discover What You Truly Want 18:34 – How Aileen Got Into Personal Growth 24:25 – Biggest Pain Points 30:42 – Self Love Rituals 36:00 – Manifestation 38:22 – Energetic Practices  FOLLOW CATHY • Website • Instagram • Podcast • Book 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹 The video version of this interview is available on YouTube 🎧 Cathy came on the show for the first time in 2020. Listen here SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    44 min
  6. 279: Energy Mastery: Unlock Your Confidence & Express Your True Self with Ariel Niu

    MAY 4

    279: Energy Mastery: Unlock Your Confidence & Express Your True Self with Ariel Niu

    What if you could master your energy and experience more authentic, balanced interactions with others? In this episode, we explore the power of becoming aware of your energy to help you navigate social situations with ease. You'll learn practical tips to stay grounded and present, allowing you to show up as your true self in every moment. Ariel Niu is a thought leader on self and social dynamics through demonstrations on presence, delivery, and energy mastery. Through a blend of practical insights and spiritual principles, Ariel empowers individuals to balance their inner and outer worlds to better interact with themselves and others. Her mission is to show the world that energy is everything, helping others elevate their lives through intention, breathing, and balance. SPONSORS Hugz | Get 20% off your first order with the code TLL at GiveHugz.co Cozy Earth | Save 40% with Code TLL at cozyearth.com. To make this Mother’s Day even more special, Cozy Earth is offering: Buy One, Get One Free Bamboo Pajamas. Use TLLBOGO at checkout. Offer valid May 2–4 only! TIMESTAMPS 2:01 – Ariel’s Journey Into Energy And Social Dynamics 7:28 – Social Dynamics And Energy Basics 10:10 – Inner Vs. Outer Energy 14:10 – The Trifecta Formula 23:22 – Self-Love And Energy Mastery 30:07 – Confidence And Charisma 40:42 – Alert Nonchalance 50:15 – Ariel’s Meditation Practice 57:49 – Final Thoughts FOLLOW ARIEL • Social Flow Blueprint • Website • Instagram • YouTube • 1:1 Coaching | Ariel has a special gift for you! Enjoy 11% off your first session at Coaching with Ariel using the code 'LAVENDAIRE11' or 'AILEEN11' for the first 3 months 💝 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    1h 3m
  7. 278: 5 Powerful Shifts That Will Change How You Feel (Backed by Science) with Dr. Judith Joseph

    APR 20

    278: 5 Powerful Shifts That Will Change How You Feel (Backed by Science) with Dr. Judith Joseph

    What if the key to your happiness isn’t chasing a perfect life—but learning to collect daily points of joy? In this episode, Dr. Judith Joseph shares the science behind how we feel and introduces the 5Vs—a framework to help you reclaim your joy, validate your emotions, and reconnect with your true self. She breaks down why high-functioning depression often goes unnoticed, and how we can shift our beliefs, honor our needs, and design lives that actually feel good. Dr. Judith Joseph is a board certified psychiatrist and researcher who specializes in mental health and trauma. Her debut book, High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy, is the first of its kind on high functioning depression. SPONSORS • Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/tll • This show is sponsored by BetterHelp | Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TLL TIMESTAMPS 1:54 Dr. Judith’s Journey Into Mental Health 3:34 The Aha Moment That Changed Everything 6:23 What Depression Really Means 12:08 High-Functioning Depression 14:49 Preventing Emotional Burnout 17:32 The 5 V’s Methodology 29:19 Becoming More Joyful 33:27 The Science Of Happiness 38:26 Dealing With Loved Ones 43:37 Dr. Judith’s Approach To Life 53:02 Final Message  FOLLOW DR. JUDITH JOSEPH • Instagram • Facebook 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    55 min
  8. 277: The Alter Ego Method That Will Make You Unstoppable with Todd Herman

    APR 6

    277: The Alter Ego Method That Will Make You Unstoppable with Todd Herman

    What if you could reinvent yourself and unlock your full potential by stepping into a powerful alter ego? In this episode, Todd Herman explores how creating an alter ego can help you shift your identity, mindset, and behaviors for success. He shares how this method enables individuals to overcome self-doubt and break through limitations. By using specific tools and frameworks, anyone can transform their approach to challenges and become the person they aspire to be. Todd Herman is an author, performance advisor, and entrepreneur. For 22 years, his training company, Herman Performance Systems, has focused on helping achievers and ambitious people in sports & business achieve wildly outrageous goals while enjoying the process. Todd’s company provides a suite of programs serving Olympic athletes, Entrepreneurs and Leaders. His program, 90 Day Year, a performance system designed to create remarkable results for business owners, has won the Stevie Award for 'Global Leadership & Skill Development Program of the Year’, twice. SPONSORS • Cozy Earth | Enjoy 40% off best-selling sheets, towels, pajamas, and more with the code TLL at CozyEarth.com TIMESTAMPS 2:32 Todd’s Journey 6:11 Laying the Foundation 8:59 How to Build Momentum 11:50 The Alter Ego Concept Explained 19:25 Advice for Those Struggling 27:06 Overcoming Resistance 31:27 Creating Your Alter Ego 42:54 The 90-Day Program 49:03 Balancing Compassion & Toughness 53:19 What Needs to Change 57:51 Final Words of Wisdom FOLLOW TODD • Website • Instagram • Upcoach 🎙️Complete show notes for this episode here 📹The video version of this interview is available on YouTube SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST • Apple Podcasts • Spotify • YouTube LAVENDAIRE • YouTube • Instagram

    1h 1m
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Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.  The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.  Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.

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