What if the tension in your relationships isn’t actually about the other person — but about patterns you learned long before you realized it? In this powerful and deeply practical conversation, licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Marc Cameron joins us to unpack attachment styles — how they form in childhood, how they quietly drive conflict in adulthood, and how secure attachment can actually be earned later in life. From marriage and parenting to leadership, faith, and emotional regulation, this episode connects the dots between why we react the way we do and how to break unhelpful cycles for good. Mark is a co-host of New Life Live, the largest Christian counseling call-in radio show in the country, and the author of Understanding Your Attachment Style. Whether you’re married, single, dating, leading a team, or raising kids, this episode will help you better understand yourself — and the people you love. ✨ In this episode, we discuss: What attachment styles are and why everyone has one The 4 insecure attachment styles (Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator, Disorganized) What secure attachment actually looks like Why triggers are usually about the past — not the present How attachment styles show up in marriage, parenting, work, and leadership Why “just communicate better” doesn’t work How faith intersects with attachment and emotional healing How to earn secure attachment as an adult What to look for when choosing a spouse (without over-analyzing everything) This episode is for anyone who wants healthier relationships, deeper connection, and real tools — not just theory. If this conversation resonates with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who’s navigating relationships right now. ⏱️ Timestamps / Chapters 00:00 – Meeting Marc Cameron & why this conversation matters 01:48 – What is attachment theory (and why everyone has an attachment style) 03:36 – The Avoider attachment style explained 05:06 – The Pleaser (anxious) attachment style 06:18 – Why siblings can develop different attachment styles 07:02 – The Vacillator attachment style (push–pull dynamics) 08:28 – Disorganized attachment: controllers & victims 09:43 – Secure attachment & why it’s the goal 11:35 – Can secure and insecure attachment coexist in relationships? 12:29 – Verbalize vs. dramatize: why language for feelings matters 13:32 – Attachment styles at work & in leadership 14:29 – How triggers reveal attachment wounds 16:13 – Reactions vs. responses (and why it matters) 17:38 – How to identify your attachment style 19:44 – Most common attachment pairings in couples therapy 21:13 – Why Mark keeps couples together in therapy 22:39 – Questions that uncover attachment wounds 24:57 – The “comfort circle” communication framework 25:48 – How attachment affects communication under stress 27:39 – Parenting for secure attachment 28:54 – Common issues callers bring to New Life Live 30:32 – Addiction, emotional numbing & attachment 31:59 – Practical rhythms for staying connected in marriage 34:52 – Faith, God & attachment styles 37:08 – Jesus as the ultimate secure connector 38:38 – Choosing a spouse: what really matters long-term Connect with Marc: https://m.facebook.com/marc.cameron.mft/ https://www.instagram.com/marc.cameron.mft/ Connect with Amy: https://www.facebook.com/amy.l.cameron Follow How We Love: https://www.facebook.com/howwelovebook?mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr https://www.instagram.com/howwelovebook?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr https://www.tiktok.com/@how.we.love.tikto https://www.youtube.com/@HowWeLove The website for Marc's book is: https://understandingyourattachmentstyle.com/ The How We Love website link where people can take a free attachment quiz and find out more about Marc and Amy is: ht Thanks for listening! Be sure to rate the show and leave a review with one key takeaway from this episode. And, be sure to subscribe to the show and tell a friend. Also, follow @thesomethingnewshow on Instagram and Facebook. If you want a fuller experience, like & subscribe to the show on Youtube! Cheers!
