The Subconscious Expert

Rebecca Haydon, Mindset Coach & NLP Trainer

The Subconscious Expert is a podcast about the subconscious mind, identity and self leadership for powerfully ambitious women who know what they want next and are ready to become the version of themselves who can actually hold it. You’re doing well, your business works, you’re smart, driven and you already know a lot and yet, behind the scenes, you can feel that something about the way you’ve been operating doesn’t quite fit anymore. Maybe consistency still feels harder than it should, maybe success feels heavier as things grow, maybe you lead everyone else powerfully, but struggle to lead yourself with the same clarity and self trust or maybe you can feel a bigger level calling you, and you want to meet it without burning out, overthinking, or losing yourself in the process. This podcast is for that moment. I’m your host, Rebecca Haydon NLP Trainer and Subconscious Business Mentor. I work with the subconscious side of business growth, identity, and leadership. I work with women building businesses at different stages and the patterns underneath are rarely as different as you’d expect. What’s happening at a subconscious level is what we work with here. Each week on The Subconscious Expert, we unpack subconscious patterns, identity shifts, and self-leadership skills that shape how you: • lead yourself • make decisions • handle responsibility and visibility • hold more success • sustain the level you’re stepping into These episodes are grounded, practical conversations rooted in NLP, subconscious work and leadership, supporting you to trust yourself more, feel clearer about what to do, and lead in a way that actually feels solid to live inside. This is the kind of work that shortens the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it, the kind that changes how you show up day to day and the kind that lets your next level feel like something you can stand in. If you’re ready to build a life and business that matches who you’re becoming, you’re in the right place. New episodes weekly. You can connect with me on Instagram @_rebeccahaydon_ and if you want to explore working together, visit rebeccahaydon.com.

  1. 12/16/2025

    262. The Winter Arc (Subconscious Edition) : How I Am Locking In for 2026

    The Winter Arc, yes a TikTok trend but also a subconscious integration period. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a winter arc actually is from a subconscious perspective, why the Christmas period specifically matters for your brain and how to use this season to lock in your 2026 identity before the calendar even flips. This is the hidden work that makes everything easier when January comes. Topics covered on The Winter Arc | How I'm Locking In Before 2026: What a winter arc actually is (the subconscious version, not the aesthetic version)Why your brain is naturally moving into a reorganisation period right nowWhy the Christmas period specifically matters for identity workThe three subconscious mechanics that make this season incredibly powerfulHow to use this time wisely (the DOs and DON'Ts from a brain mechanics perspective)My personal lock in process before 2026 Quote: "Your 2026 identity is forming right now. Not in January. Right now. In these quiet weeks, your subconscious is reorganising itself based on what you're practising, what you're rehearsing, and what you're allowing to become familiar." Rebecca Haydon Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Part One: Recognising Your Current Identity What identity was I operating from this year? When I made decisions, who was I being?What did I believe about myself and my capabilities this year?If I had to name the version of me that showed up most often this year, what would I call her? Where did that identity feel aligned? When did I feel most like myself this year?What moments felt easy, natural, and congruent?Where did my actions match my desires without resistance?What decisions came from a place of clarity and leadership? Where did that identity feel too small? When did I feel like I was playing a role that didn't fit anymore?Where did I notice myself holding back or dimming down?What opportunities did I talk myself out of because "that's not who I am"?Where did my current identity feel like a ceiling rather than a foundation? Where did that identity feel reactive? When was I responding to external pressure rather than internal direction?Where did I make decisions based on what others might think?When did I act from obligation rather than alignment?Where was I moving from fear or scarcity instead of leadership? Part Two: Identifying What's Ready to Update Where did I make decisions from old beliefs? What beliefs about myself did I operate from that are no longer true?Where did I let past versions of me make current decisions?What "I'm not the type of person who..." thoughts showed up this year?Which beliefs about money, success, or worthiness were still running the show? Where did I move from overthinking instead of leadership? When did I get stuck in analysis paralysis?Where did I ask for too many opinions instead of...

    27 min
  2. 12/09/2025

    261. Why Manifestation Isn’t Magic... It’s Just Good Subconscious Programming

    Are you writing your affirmations 55 times a day and wondering why nothing's changed? Let me tell you something... Yes, manifestation techniques work, but not for the reasons TikTok tells you. It’s just good old subconscious programming. In today's episode, I'm breaking down the viral manifestation methods everyone on TikTok is obsessed with right now: the 369 manifestation method, future journaling, vision boards, the 55x5 method, and acting as if. I'm going to tell you how manifestation works and explain what's actually happening in your brain when you do these manifestation techniques because it's not the ritual that creates the magic but the good old subconscious mind programming. So next time someone tells you they scripted their dream partner and he showed up in three weeks, you'll know it wasn’t moon dust. It was the neuroscience of manifestation. I'm not here to kill the magic. I want you to keep it. But I also want you to stop outsourcing your power to a ritual and start using your mind like the powerful tool it actually is. Because when you understand the mechanics, you stop waiting for alignment and you start creating it. Topics covered on Why Manifestation Isn’t Magic... It’s Just Good Subconscious Programming: How does the 369 manifestation method actually work, and when does it completely fail?What’s happening in your brain when you’re scripting or doing future journaling, and why are most people doing it wrong?Why is your vision board collecting dust instead of creating results?Is the 55x5 method just a short-term dopamine hit?How does "acting as if" become embodied instead of just pretending (yes, your nervous system knows the difference)?What is your reticular activating system, and what role does it play in every manifestation technique?What’s the actual process that creates lasting results, and how is it different from viral manifestation methods? Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-manifestation-isnt-magic-its-just-good-subconscious-programming

    28 min
  3. 12/02/2025

    260. Why You’re So Hard on Yourself (and How to Finally Stop!)

    How often do you end your day thinking, "I could have done more"? If you're a high achiever constantly pushing, criticising, never feeling like enough, I have news for you. It's your subconscious protecting you. That voice that says, "work harder, fix it, you're not there yet," isn't discipline. It's not your high achiever nature. It's a part of you that learnt a long time ago that performance equals safety. And now? It's bloody exhausted! In today's episode, I'm taking you back to where that subconscious pattern started, and we're going to use parts work to meet the part that makes you so hard on yourself. We'll uncover the limiting beliefs that keep you in this cycle, find out why it fights so hard when you try to rest, and I'll show you how to not be so hard on yourself through subconscious mind reprogramming so you can finally rest without feeling guilty. Because you can be ambitious, successful, and still be nice to yourself. Wild concept, I know! If stillness feels dangerous and your to-do list shows up the second you sit down, this episode is for you. Let's stop confusing pressure with protection. Topics covered on Why You’re So Hard on Yourself:  Why does being hard on yourself feel like the only way to stay safe?What if the voice pushing you isn’t discipline, but a terrified part trying to protect you?How did your subconscious learn that performance equals love and acceptance?Why does rest feel so dangerous when you’ve trained your brain that constant motion means safety?What happens when you acknowledge the part that’s been pushing you for years instead of fighting it?Is it possible to rewire your brain to crave rest as much as it currently craves pressureHow do high achievers break free from the dopamine-cortisol loop? Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-youre-so-hard-on-yourself

    28 min
  4. 11/25/2025

    259. How to Protect Your Mindset When Your Growth Makes People Uncomfortable

    "How am I supposed to protect my mindset when no one around me gets it?" I get this question at least once a week. Welcome to the stage of growth that no one prepares you for! When you start doing deep inner work, you'll be changing faster than everyone around you. You'll be healing, expanding, and suddenly the people closest to you are looking at you like they don't recognise you anymore. Your partner doesn't get your vision. Your family treats you like the version from five years ago (even though you're a completely different person). Your friends throw shady jokes about how 'you've changed'. And all of a sudden, you're stuck between two worlds. The one that shaped you and the one you're building. So in today's episode, I'm talking about how to protect your mindset, how to stop outsourcing your safety to other people, and how to hold and protect your energy while everyone else throws their doubts at you. And no, we're not cutting people off or building walls. We're strengthening the relationship you have with yourself. Because you can't shrink yourself into being understood. And your job isn't to make them believe. Your job is to keep expanding until your certainty becomes louder than their doubt. Topics covered on How to Protect Your Mindset: The time when my ambition became a problem in my relationship.Your subconscious need for belonging and how to rewire it.How to protect your mindset when your loved ones project their doubts and fears onto you.What does "protecting your bubble" actually mean without cutting people off?Why did setting boundaries make my friends hate me (and why I kept doing it)?Five subconscious practices for protecting your mindset. Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-to-protect-your-mindset-when-your-growth-makes-people-uncomfortable

    36 min
  5. 11/18/2025

    258. The Subconscious Pattern Behind Fresh Starts, New Plans, and Weekly Resets

    In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common patterns I see in female entrepreneurs, the weekly reset, the new plan, the fresh strategy, the “I’ll start again on Monday” energy that feels productive but quietly keeps you looping in the same place. Subconscious Prompts: What feels unsafe about doing it today?What part of me doesn’t feel ready yet?What identity am I still loyal to?What am I postponing that I could embody right now?What would the next level version of me do today, not Monday?If the future version of me was leading this week, what would she prioritise first?How does my future self hold herself on the days where capacity is low?What does my business look like when I’m consistently leading from the identity I’m becoming?If I fully trusted where I’m going, what would I stop negotiating with myself about?What does the “Monday reset” version of me do and what does the future version of me do instead?When I imagine the woman I’m becoming, what feels obvious to her that still feels difficult to me now?What would it feel like to move through today as if the identity shift has already happened?What becomes available to me when I start acting from the future self I keep postponing? Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast.

    20 min
  6. 11/11/2025

    257. What I Learned Studying the Subconscious Strategies of Business Giants like Hormozi, Bartlett, Beverley & Forleo

    Do you ever ask yourself how some entrepreneurs make business look so simple? What is their secret? Is there something you’re missing? Well, in today's episode, I'm going to tell you all about the subconscious strategies that drive their business simplicity and growth. I'll break down what’s really happening beneath the surface for leaders like Alex Hormozi, Grace Beverley, Marie Forleo, Steven Bartlett, and myself! You’ll hear how repetition, structure, visibility, self-belief, and depth each play a role in creating momentum that feels natural, not forced. Plus, I'll share personal stories, honest reflections, and the patterns I’ve spotted after years of watching, learning, and experimenting. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but it still feels heavy, this episode will help you see what might be missing. Now let's find out how to build a business that feels aligned and sustainable. Topics covered on Subconscious Strategies: What makes business look so easy for some people, and why can’t you seem to replicate the results even when you’re following the exact same business strategy?Alex Hormozi is the king of repetition. This is how his subconscious strategy fuels his success.How does Grace Beverley scale multiple businesses, and what’s her subconscious strategy?What is Marie Forleo’s subconscious strategy that keeps her visible year after year?How does Steven Bartlett keep moving forward, no matter how much criticism he receives online?Why are depth and meaning the foundation of my own business approach?What happens when your subconscious and business strategy finally agree? Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/what-i-learned-studying-the-subconscious-strategies-of-business-giants

    41 min
  7. 11/04/2025

    256. How to Stop Blaming Yourself When Business Gets Hard

    You know that moment when business gets hard, sales slow down, ideas aren't flowing, motivation dips and your brain immediately goes "What's wrong with me?" In this episode, we're breaking down the blame cycle that keeps high achieving women stuck, why your subconscious defaults to self blame when uncertainty hits, and the critical difference between looking at yourself through shame versus looking at yourself through curiosity. Discover how to shift from the "fixing" lens to the "curious" lens so you can actually lead yourself through challenges instead of spiralling into self criticism. Subconscious Prompts : What do I make it mean about me when things feel hard in my business?Where in my business do I default to self blame instead of self leadership?When I last experienced a challenge, was I looking at myself through the blame lens or the curious lens?What evidence do I have that I can move through challenges without blaming myself first?What would it look like to examine a current challenge through curiosity instead of blame?How can I show myself I'm safe to grow even when it feels uncertain? Topics Covered in How to Stop Blaming Yourself: Why high achievers default to blame when business gets hardThe two lenses: blame vs. curiosity and how they shape your realityWhat your subconscious is actually communicating (it's not what you think)The difference between fixing yourself and leading yourselfHow to pause the blame spiral and ask better questionsPractical steps to redirect fixing energy into leading energy Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meJoin The Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-to-stop-blaming-yourself-when-business-gets-hard

    31 min
4.8
out of 5
13 Ratings

About

The Subconscious Expert is a podcast about the subconscious mind, identity and self leadership for powerfully ambitious women who know what they want next and are ready to become the version of themselves who can actually hold it. You’re doing well, your business works, you’re smart, driven and you already know a lot and yet, behind the scenes, you can feel that something about the way you’ve been operating doesn’t quite fit anymore. Maybe consistency still feels harder than it should, maybe success feels heavier as things grow, maybe you lead everyone else powerfully, but struggle to lead yourself with the same clarity and self trust or maybe you can feel a bigger level calling you, and you want to meet it without burning out, overthinking, or losing yourself in the process. This podcast is for that moment. I’m your host, Rebecca Haydon NLP Trainer and Subconscious Business Mentor. I work with the subconscious side of business growth, identity, and leadership. I work with women building businesses at different stages and the patterns underneath are rarely as different as you’d expect. What’s happening at a subconscious level is what we work with here. Each week on The Subconscious Expert, we unpack subconscious patterns, identity shifts, and self-leadership skills that shape how you: • lead yourself • make decisions • handle responsibility and visibility • hold more success • sustain the level you’re stepping into These episodes are grounded, practical conversations rooted in NLP, subconscious work and leadership, supporting you to trust yourself more, feel clearer about what to do, and lead in a way that actually feels solid to live inside. This is the kind of work that shortens the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it, the kind that changes how you show up day to day and the kind that lets your next level feel like something you can stand in. If you’re ready to build a life and business that matches who you’re becoming, you’re in the right place. New episodes weekly. You can connect with me on Instagram @_rebeccahaydon_ and if you want to explore working together, visit rebeccahaydon.com.

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