TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Debbie Reber
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TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Feeling overwhelmed by the complexities of raising a neurodivergent child? Tilt Parenting is here to help. Hosted by parenting activist and author Debbie Reber, this podcast is your go-to resource for navigating life with ADHD, autism, PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), giftedness, and twice-exceptional (2e) kids. With expert interviews and candid conversations, you'll discover practical solutions for things like school challenges and refusal, therapy options, and fostering inclusion, social struggles, advocacy, intense behavior, and more — all through a strengths-based, neurodiversity-affirming lens. Whether you're struggling with advocating for your child at school or seeking ways to better support their unique needs, Debbie offers the guidance and encouragement you need to reduce overwhelm and create a thriving, joyful family environment. It's like sitting down with a trusted friend who gets it. You’ve got this, and we’ve got your back!

  1. 1D AGO

    TPP 201a: A Conversation with Author Amanda Stern on Growing Up with a Panic Disorder

    Amanda Stern, author of the memoir "Little Panic: Dispatches from an Anxious Life," shares her story of growing up with an undiagnosed and unsupported panic disorder. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    49 min

  2. 4D AGO

    Educator Sarah Casper Discusses her Comprehensive Consent Curriculum for Children and Teens

    Today we’re diving into a topic that’s sometimes tricky to navigate as parents: consent. My guest for this conversation is educator and consent expert Sarah Casper, founder of Comprehensive Consent and author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum. Sarah has taught thousands of children, teens, and adults how to build healthy, respectful, and joyful relationships through a social-emotional lens. Her approach is as thoughtful as it is practical. In this conversation, Sarah and I explored how consent starts early, with the little, everyday interactions that help kids understand their boundaries, express their wants and needs, and learn to respect others wants and needs. We talked about the challenges of balancing safety with autonomy, especially when it comes to things like hygiene, personal space, and social expectations, and why this balance is nuanced when parenting neurodivergent children. Sarah also shared some real-world strategies for introducing consent language at home, navigating pushback, and supporting kids in building self-awareness and self-esteem. If you’ve ever wondered how to model boundaries while still honoring your child’s agency, I know you will find this episode valuable. And hopefully you’ll feel inspired to do the activity Sarah shared at the end of the episode with your family because it’s a great way to evaluate how choices are being made at home and it will help you understand each other a little better.  About Sarah Casper Sarah Casper is an educator, author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum, and the founder of Comprehensive Consent, a social-emotional learning approach to equipping young people with the knowledge and skills necessary for healthy, respectful, and joyful relationships. Through her in-school workshops, online classes, and social media content, Sarah has helped thousands of kids, adolescents, and adults deepen their consent practices.  Things you'll learn from this episode Consent begins in childhood through small, everyday practices that honor bodily autonomy, encourage agency, and invite mutual respect Teaching consent means offering choices, being honest about our intentions, and recognizing when to pivot based on our child’s cues Healthy relationships are rooted in collaboration, not control, and thrive when power dynamics are acknowledged Navigating consent with kids involves balancing their safety with their right to say no, especially in situations involving hygiene, touch, or personal space Supporting a child’s self-regulation and practicing our own helps reduce resentment, foster trust, and model respectful boundary-setting Neurodivergent kids may need extra support in understanding and expressing consent, which makes child-led play and behavior-based communication all the more important  Resources mentioned Comprehensive Consent (Sarah’s website) The Kids & Consent Curriculum: 25 Whole-Classroom Lessons to Teach Boundaries, Collaboration, and Respect by Sarah Casper Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent Unmasking for Life: The Autistic Person’s Guide to Connecting, Loving, and Living Authentically by Dr. Devon Price Dr. Devon Price on the Autistic Person’s Guide to Unmasking for Life (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Akilah Richards on Raising Free People (Tilt Parenting Podcast) The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People: A Groundbreaking Approach to Leading the Next Generation―And Making Your Own Life Easier by Dr. David Yeager Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    41 min

  3. JUN 6

    TPP 200a: Body-Positive Parenting with Zoë Bisbing and Leslie Bloch of the Full Bloom Project

    Adolescent eating disorder psychotherapists Zoë Bisbing and Leslie Bloch of the Full Bloom Project talk about how to help kids maintain healthy, normal relationships with food and their bodies and create a family culture of body positivity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    53 min

  4. JUN 3

    Therapist Jude Carn on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Neurodivergence

    You may have heard me mention IFS, or Internal Family Systems, in podcast episodes before. My guest today is going to go into much more detail, but briefly, IFS is a powerful and compassionate therapeutic framework for understanding the different “parts” within ourselves—like the inner critic, the protector, the people-pleaser. Through IFS, we can learn how to befriend and heal those parts so we can show up more fully as our true Self. I’m pretty fascinated by IFS and have seen how transformative it can be in helping people truly heal and find more peace in their lives. In my research, I came across a therapist who not only feels the same but has fully stepped into the intersection of IFS and neurodivergence. So of course, I had to invite them onto the show. In today’s episode, you’ll meet Jude Carn, a certified Level 3 Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapist, international consultant, and passionate advocate for neurodiversity. Jude brings a powerful blend of lived experience and deep professional expertise to their work, and in this episode, we’re exploring how IFS can be a transformative model for neurodivergent individuals and the families who support them. In our conversation, Jude walks us through the core concepts of IFS, explains how this framework can be especially healing for neurodivergent people—who often grow up feeling misunderstood, judged, or exiled—and shares insights on how IFS offers a respectful, empowering approach to trauma that allows each person to move at their own pace. Jude explains that recognizing and befriending one’s own parts can lead to deeper self-acceptance and a better relationship with ourselves. IFS has been transformative for me, and it’s really powerful to start from a place of knowing that you are not broken. Imagine what a difference it would make for all our neurodivergent kids to fundamentally know that they are not broken—and that no parts are bad. IFS can be a truly affirming starting point. I hope you get as excited about it as I do after this conversation.    About my guest Jude Carn is a level 3 certified IFS psychotherapist and approved consultant with the IFS Institute. Jude lives in the UK and works online internationally with some clients and mainly in supporting other therapists through supervision and consultation. Jude is a late diagnosed AuDHDer and an advocate for the recognition of neurodiversity as part of the human experience, rather than disorder.Jude creates and runs training, conference talks and groups supporting therapists to provide better support and care to their neurodivergent clients. She is genderqueer, and uses she/they pronouns. She co-hosts a podcast, Queering IFS which sets out other questions taken for granted norms around heteronormativity and neuronormativity as these present themselves in the world of therapy.Jude lives at home in rural Sussex with her two dogs and long term partner.   You'll learn: What IFS (Internal Family Systems) is and how it helps individuals foster deep self-acceptance through exploring inner parts Why every coping strategy has a purpose, often driven by protectors working to shield exiled parts that carry pain How recognizing and building relationships with internal parts can lead to profound healing and growth How IFS allows respectful trauma exploration at one’s own pace Why neurodivergent individuals may especially benefit from IFS’s flexible, creative, and affirming approach Ideas for how parents and therapists can help their children understand and connect with their parts   Resources: Jude’s website, Anchored in Self Queering IFS Podcast Inneractive Cards Books for kids, teens, and adults about IFS No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwart, PhD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    48 min

  5. MAY 30

    TPP 199a: Raising Good Humans with Hunter Clarke-Fields

    Mindfulness and parenting coach Hunter Clarke-Fields (Mindful Mama Mentor) talks about her new book "Raising Good Humans" and the ways mindfulness can allow parents to respond to challenges with more grace and peace. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    45 min

  6. MAY 27

    Myriam Sandler on Raising Confident, Creative Kids Through Independent Play

    Creating a home environment that supports meaningful play can feel like a constant puzzle, from managing toy overload to setting up spaces that actually encourage focus, creativity, and independence. So today I’m sharing a conversation with Myriam Sandler, the creator of the hugely popular Mothercould platform and the author of the new book Playful by Design: A Stress-Free Guide to Raising Confident, Creative Kids through Independent Play. As a mother of three, Myriam shares engaging, easy-to-follow video tutorials that offer accessible DIY play ideas, parenting hacks, family travel tips, and more on her wildly popular Instagram and TikTok. Though I’m no longer dealing with toys lying around the house and cluttering our communal spaces, I definitely found life with my child’s toys challenging, from how to organize them and store them, to how to avoid having too many toys that never got used. I really could have used Myriam’s insights way back then. But if you’re still very much in it and sharing a home and life with things like toys, art supplies, and more, have a listen to this episode. Myriam and I discussed the power of independent play and why less is more when it comes to toys, how boredom can actually be a gift, and how small tweaks, like decluttering a play space or setting up “play hotspots,” can make a big difference in your child’s ability to play solo. Myriam really believes in making the space you have, the toys you have, and the system you implement work for you instead of trying to make someone else’s system work for your family. I hope you walk away feeling empowered knowing that you don’t need a ton of new things but just some time to evaluate what’s working and what’s not.   About my guest Myriam Sandler is the creator of Mothercould (@mothercould), a beloved kids’ activity and family lifestyle community trusted by millions of families. As a mother of three, Myriam shares engaging, easy-to-follow video tutorials that offer accessible DIY play ideas, parenting hacks, family travel tips, and more. Mothercould has grown to offer family-friendly, problem-solving products now available at major retailers.   You'll learn: Why boredom is an important aspect of sparking creativity and self-directed play How fewer toys can lead to deeper, more meaningful play The way that decluttering creates space for imagination to flourish What the key ingredients to independent play are, and what means and looks like The importance of boundaries and consistency in supporting sustained solo play How play “hotspots” and sensory activities can foster connection and emotional release  Resources: Mothercould Playful by Design: A Stress-Free Guide to Raising Confident, Creative Kids through Independent Play by Myriam Sandler Mothercould on Instagram Mothercould on Facebook Playful By Design website Mothercould on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    36 min

  7. MAY 23

    TPP 198a: When School Isn't Working, with Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz & Debbie Reber

    In this reverse interview, Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz of Bright & Quirky talks to Debbie about how to forge a path when school isn't working out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    49 min

  8. MAY 22

    TPP 444: Help! My Child's Self-Esteem is Terrible and I Don't Know What to Do

    Parent coach Zach Morris joins Debbie to answer a listener question on how to support a neurodivergent child who has incredibly low self-esteem despite a parent's constant reassurance. Visit the show notes page at https://tiltparenting.com/session444 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    24 min
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Feeling overwhelmed by the complexities of raising a neurodivergent child? Tilt Parenting is here to help. Hosted by parenting activist and author Debbie Reber, this podcast is your go-to resource for navigating life with ADHD, autism, PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), giftedness, and twice-exceptional (2e) kids. With expert interviews and candid conversations, you'll discover practical solutions for things like school challenges and refusal, therapy options, and fostering inclusion, social struggles, advocacy, intense behavior, and more — all through a strengths-based, neurodiversity-affirming lens. Whether you're struggling with advocating for your child at school or seeking ways to better support their unique needs, Debbie offers the guidance and encouragement you need to reduce overwhelm and create a thriving, joyful family environment. It's like sitting down with a trusted friend who gets it. You’ve got this, and we’ve got your back!

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