Transforming 45

Lisa Boate

Transforming 45 is where midlife gets real. Host Lisa Boate, menopause coach and educator, dives into the truth about perimenopause, menopause, identity shifts, and midlife reinvention. Through candid stories and menopause conversations with men and women, Lisa helps listeners understand their bodies, relationships, and purpose in this powerful chapter. Honest, funny, and empowering—this is your go-to podcast for thriving through midlife transformation.

  1. 2d ago

    You Have No Best-Before Date: Jessica Holmes on Menopause, Mental Health and Moving at Your Own Pace

    Join me at this year’s National Menopause Show, October 17 and 18 at the International Centre in Mississauga. Go to https://nationalmenopauseshow.com/ and use code TRANSFORM45. For years, Jessica Holmes built a career playing other people. Now, in midlife, she is discovering the freedom of becoming more fully herself. In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa and Jessica talk about the pressure Gen X women inherited to do everything, the fear of having a professional “best-before date,” and the identity shift that arrives when children leave home. Jessica shares the phrase guiding her life now: “I travel at the pace of my own well-being.” Together, they explore why boundaries are not the same as abandoning community, how self-kindness changes with age, and why workplace well-being cannot be used as a bandage for unsafe systems. There is also a giant sun hat, a rebellious braless dog walk and a reminder that midlife liberation can be both meaningful and gloriously ridiculous. In this conversation Identity after years of performing for other people Menopause, ageism and the myth of a professional expiration date Empty-nest transitions and changing caregiving roles Moving at the pace of your own well-being Saying no without an apology essay Self-care, community and the difference between boundaries and disconnection Psychological safety and why resilience cannot fix harmful systems Modelling a different relationship with achievement for young adults If this episode connected with you, share it with the woman who needs permission to stop racing a clock she never chose. Guest bio Jessica Holmes is a celebrated Canadian comedian, speaker, author and mental health advocate. She has opened for Ellen DeGeneres, Jerry Seinfeld and Oprah Winfrey; performed with Just for Laughs and The Second City; and starred in The Holmes Show and Royal Canadian Air Farce. Her book, Depression The Comedy: A Tale of Perseverance, uses humour and honesty to explore resilience, mental health and joy. Website: https://jessicaholmes.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyfunholmes/ Chapters 00:45 – Meet Jessica Holmes: comedy, mental health and finding funny when life goes off-book 03:30 – From playing other people to learning to play yourself 04:23 – Empty-nest identity and having something hopeful to move toward 06:49 – The invisible backpack of work, motherhood and pressure 09:51 – Ageism and the myth of a professional best-before date 13:30 – “I travel at the pace of my own well-being” 18:08 – Comparison, rejection and running your own race 20:17 – The self-kindness that can arrive with age 21:20 – Practising no without over-explaining 24:18 – Self-care, service and community are not opposites 27:58 – UV clothing and the everyday rebellion of dressing for yourself 31:44 – What midlife parents can model for young adults 34:48 – Achievement, money and what actually supports well-being 38:13 – Psychological safety must come from leadership 42:55 – Why workplace well-being cannot be a bandage 44:05 – What makes Jessica feel most alive Learn more about Lisa and Liberated Menopause: https://liberatedmenopause.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. Sep 3

    3 Answers to Midlife Wellness We All Need to Know

    This week on Transforming 45 Podcast, Lisa sits down with Karen Armes, founder of ZuZu Unleashed, holistic health educator, retreat leader, entrepreneur, and passionate disruptor in the wellness space. Together, they unpack the modern midlife experience through the lens of nervous system health, depletion, minerals, emotional overwhelm, identity shifts, connection, and what happens when women stop abandoning themselves. This conversation moves beyond surface-level wellness trends and into the deeper questions so many women are asking right now: Why am I exhausted? Why doesn’t my body feel like mine anymore? Why do I still feel depleted even after “doing all the things”? Expect a spicy, thought-provoking conversation about modern health culture, human connection, nervous systems, emotional load, and how we move from survival mode into possibility. Episodes of Transforming 45 drop every Thursday on all listening platforms and YouTube. Why modern women are feeling so depleted Nervous system overload and emotional exhaustion The role of minerals and nourishment Human connection and energetic health Midlife identity shifts Returning to yourself after years of survival mode Chapters: 00:00 Meet Karen “ZuZu” Armes 02:30 Why Aging Looks Different for Women Today 07:21 Menopause, Minerals & the Nervous System 11:47 What Does It Mean to Be “Electric”? 18:21 Why “Vibration” Isn’t Just Woo-Woo 19:50 Human Connection, Energy & the Nervous System 23:07 How Collective Experiences Change Us 26:10 What’s Actually in Your Supplements? 30:09 The Overwhelming Wellness Landscape 31:06 Where Do Midlife Women Even Start? 35:02 Why We Long to Reconnect With Our Roots 37:36 Grief, Spiritual Connection & Those We’ve Lost 40:00 “I’ve Done Everything and Still Don’t Feel Like Myself” 41:03 Are You Stuck in Fight-or-Flight? 43:11 Moving From Fear Into Possibility 44:39 One Tiny Morning Practice That Can Shift Your Day 45:29 Why Social Media Keeps Us Stuck in the List 47:36 Smile, Mineralize & Ask Questions Connect with Lisa: Website: Liberated Menopause Consulting & Coaching Instagram: @lboate Facebook: Lisa Boate Facebook Group: Transforming 45 Community YouTube: Transforming 45 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Website: ZuZu UnleashedHolistic Health Education: Holistic Health EducatorsRetreat Centre: Lily Fields Retreat CenterInstagram: @zuzu_unleashedFacebook: ZuZu Unleashed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    3 Answers to  Midlife Wellness We All Need to Know
  3. Aug 27

    Can We Actually Slow Aging? What Women Over 40 Need to Know

    What if aging isn't something that simply happens to us? This week's conversation completely shifted how I think about longevity. Not because it promised magic supplements or miracle cures. Because it reminded me that the goal isn't living longer. It's protecting the years we're living. If you've ever wondered… ✨ Should I take supplements? ✨ Does intermittent fasting really work? ✨ What happens to our bodies during menopause? ✨ How do I know what's real? ...this conversation is for you. Chapters: 00:00 Can We Actually Slow Aging? 02:39 Why Do We Age? 08:25 Why Aging Sneaks Up on Gen X 10:00 What Menopause Has to Do With Aging 12:06 When Should You Seek Menopause Treatment? 13:19 The 7 Biological Causes of Aging 18:58 Mitochondria, Energy & Aging 20:01 Why Sleep Changes As We Age 21:07 Estrogen's Effect Throughout the Body 23:40 Inflammation and the Aging Immune System 27:07 Glucose, Insulin Resistance & Aging 29:25 Lifespan vs Healthspan 33:50 Which Supplements Actually Have Evidence? 40:03 Where Do You Start? 42:15 Exercise, Bones & Women's Longevity 52:58 What Quality of Life Do You Want? Aging begins long before menopause. Healthspan matters more than lifespan. Hormones are only one piece of healthy aging. Strength training becomes increasingly important after 40. Good science embraces uncertainty. Longevity isn't about perfection—it's about reducing disease risk over time. Fact Check: Rosalind Franklin Connect with Dr. Kaufmann: Website: https://kaufmannprotocol.com Clinical website: https://kaufmannlongevity.com Instagram: @kaufmannlongevity Connect with Lisa: Website: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca Podcast: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca/podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Can We Actually Slow Aging? What Women Over 40 Need to Know
  4. Aug 13

    Uncage the Rage: Menopause, Music and Hormonal Justice

    Menopause was kept quiet for decades. Alicia J. Rose is done whispering. In this fierce, funny and deeply cathartic conversation, Lisa sits down with the award-winning filmmaker, photographer and musician behind MENOPUNKS—a documentary, podcast and growing movement using punk-rock rebellion to challenge menopause misinformation and demand hormonal justice. Alicia shares her own path from medical dismissal to becoming “hormonally radicalized,” why music remains one of Gen X’s most powerful languages, and what happens when midlife rage is channeled into creativity, community and action. Lisa and Alicia also unpack the cultural fallout from decades of fear surrounding hormone therapy, the stories Alicia is hearing from iconic musicians, and the electric energy of Menopunkapalooza. This episode is for anyone who has wondered whether the problem was their body—or a system that never gave them the information, care and choices they deserved. Content note: This conversation contains strong language and discussion of medical dismissal, cancer, dementia, reproductive rights and political systems. It shares lived experience and advocacy perspectives and is not personal medical advice. Speak with a qualified healthcare professional about your individual circumstances. What we talk about: Alicia’s symptoms became impossible to dismiss in her early 50s, but getting informed, appropriate care was anything but straightforward. MENOPUNKS grew from a personal health reckoning into a documentary, podcast and movement focused on misinformation, access and hormonal justice. Gen X’s relationship with music matters: for the last analog generation, art did not just entertain us—it helped us define ourselves. Alicia is gathering menopause stories from musicians and artists, revealing common experiences of dismissal, confusion and feeling as though something was seriously wrong. Lisa and Alicia explore the lasting cultural fear created by the early reporting on the Women’s Health Initiative and why informed, individualized care matters. Menopunkapalooza put menopause advocacy onstage with music, comedy, clinicians, politicians, resources and joy. Rage can consume us, but it can also carry information. When combined with creativity and community, it can become fuel for change. Listeners can support MENOPUNKS by following and sharing the project, listening to the podcast, buying merch or donating toward documentary post-production. Chapters: 00:01 — Meet Alicia J. Rose and the MENOPUNKS movement 00:57 — When menopause became bigger than Alicia’s own body 03:45 — The echo chamber of hormone fear and misinformation 08:22 — Why Gen X may be uniquely equipped to change the story 10:47 — Music, identity and the last analog generation 17:18 — What musicians are revealing about menopause 20:21 — Feminism, cultural backlash and the future women expected 23:30 — The Women’s Health Initiative and the consequences of its reporting 30:43 — Menopunkapalooza: reclamation, healing and euphoria 37:12 — Why resistance also needs joy 38:46 — How Gen X wants to age differently 40:38 — Storytelling as an uncensored source of power 41:55 — How to support the MENOPUNKS film, podcast and movement 44:07 — Alanis Morissette, consider this your invitation 45:10 — Uncaging rage and turning it into action MENOPUNKS website: https://www.menopunks.com/ About Alicia and the MENOPUNKS team: https://www.menopunks.com/about-1 Alicia J. Rose: https://www.aliciajrose.com/bio Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menopunks/ Email: menopunks@gmail.com Podcast, merch, documentary updates and donations are available through the MENOPUNKS website. The Estrogen Dilemma - Historical Article Connect with Lisa: Lisa Boate | Menopause Consultant, Coach and host of Transforming 45 Website: https://liberatedmenopause.ca/ Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Uncage the Rage: Menopause, Music and Hormonal Justice
  5. Aug 6

    Braless, Out of Gas, and Finally Free with Kara @mediocremom76

    Join me at the National Menopause Show, October 17–18 at the International Centre in Mississauga! Get your tickets at nationalmenopauseshow.com and use code TRANSFORM45 at checkout. What happens when you stop trying to hold it all together… and start laughing instead? This week, Lisa sits down with Kara Murray—aka MediocreMom76—former teacher turned viral content creator and now stand-up comedian. Kara built a massive audience by telling the truth about motherhood, menopause, and the absolute chaos of midlife—and people felt it. In this episode, we explore what happens when you stop striving for perfection and start embracing “good enough.”  What You’ll Hear: The accidental creation of the “Menopause Hotline” (and why it exploded) Why midlife unlocks confidence you didn’t have before Teacher ➡️ creator ➡️ comedian: how reinvention actually happens The mental load, brain fog, and identity shifts of menopause Body image, generational patterns, and what we pass to our kids Why comedy might be one of the most powerful forms of advocacy Letting go of perfection and embracing “mediocre”  Key Takeaways: You don’t have to suffer in your body Reinvention isn’t reckless—it’s necessary “Good enough” is more powerful than perfect Midlife isn’t shrinking you—it’s expanding you Laughter is connection—and we need more of it   About Kara Murray Kara Murray (MediocreMom76) is a former teacher turned social media personality and emerging stand-up comedian. She shares honest, hilarious takes on motherhood, menopause, and midlife identity, building a community through truth and humour. 🔗 Connect with Kara Instagram: @mediocremom76 Merch Shop: https://mediocremom76.com/ Connect with Lisa Website: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Braless, Out of Gas, and Finally Free with Kara @mediocremom76
  6. Jul 30

    Why Aren’t We Talking About Post-Menopause? With Cindy Dupuie

    Join me at this year's National Menopause Show, October 17th and 18th at the International Center in Mississauga. Go to https://nationalmenopauseshow.com/ and use code :TRANSFORM45 Menopause isn't the end of the story. In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa sits down with functional medicine practitioner and nutritionist Cindy Dupuie to talk about what happens after menopause and why women need to pay attention to their health long after the hot flashes fade. Together they tackle hormone therapy myths, the lasting impact of the WHI study, bone health, vaginal estrogen, inflammation, muscle loss, heart disease risk, and the importance of becoming the CEO of your own health. If you've ever thought "I'm past menopause, so I'm done worrying about it," this episode may change the way you think about your future health. ✔ Why post-menopause deserves more attention ✔ The lasting impact of the WHI study ✔ What estrogen actually does throughout the body ✔ Why heart disease is the leading cause of death for post-menopausal women ✔ Bone density, osteoporosis and preventing fractures ✔ The role of vaginal estrogen in preventing UTIs ✔ Why muscle matters more than ever ✔ The importance of building your healthcare team ✔ How to advocate for yourself in medical appointments ✔ Why it's never too late to improve your health Menopause is one day. Post-menopause lasts the rest of your life. Hormones affect far more than reproduction. Bone loss begins long before most women receive screening. Vaginal estrogen may help prevent recurring UTIs and improve quality of life. Movement is medicine, especially strength training. Women deserve preventative care, not just reactive care. You are the CEO of your own health. Connect with Cindy: Website: alivingbalance.net https://alivingbalance.net  Instagram: @cindy_dupuie https://www.instagram.com/cindy_dupuie/ YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@alivingbalance Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cdupuie/ Signature Course: Grace In Transition for Women Of A Certain Age https://alivingbalance.net/course/ Free Download Lab Checklist for The Pause Years https://mailchi.mp/ec838eef0e74/lab-checklist Connect with Lisa Website: https://liberatedmenopause.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca New episodes of Transforming 45 drop every Thursday. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Why Aren’t We Talking About Post-Menopause? With Cindy Dupuie
  7. Jul 23

    Midlife Is the Rewrite with Thayne Martin

    You’re not stuck—you’re running patterns. And patterns can be rewritten. In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa sits down with Thayne Martin, creator of ELAH™ and an experiential neuroscience entrepreneur helping people rewire emotional patterns in real time. After surviving severe childhood trauma, addiction, and a near-death experience, Thayne rebuilt his life by understanding one powerful truth: 👉 Most of what drives us isn’t conscious—it’s subconscious programming. What we cover: Why 95% of your thoughts are subconscious (and running the show) How childhood experiences shape adult identity The body’s role in storing and repeating emotional patterns What it actually takes to create lasting change (hint: not mindset alone) Heart vs. brain: why intuition matters more than you think The cost of living a “double life” and how to come back to yourself A simple but powerful self-love practice to begin rewiring today Chapters: 00:00 You’re not broken—you’re programmed 02:30 Childhood stories that shape your identity 05:00 Trauma, addiction, and hitting rock bottom 08:00 The “armor” we wear to survive 12:30 Near-death experience + wake-up call 18:00 Heart-brain coherence explained 23:00 Why your body knows before your brain 32:00 Life review + emotional impact on others 37:00 The 3 things every human must learn 46:00 The mirror exercise that changes everything Connect with Lisa: 🌐 Website: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca/ 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome/ 👥 Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 📩 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Connect with Thayne Martin: itspurelove.com linkedin.com/in/thaynemartin https://www.facebook.com/thaynemartin instagram/thaynemartin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Midlife Is the Rewrite with Thayne Martin
  8. Jul 16

    Why Women Feel Disconnected from Their Bodies During Menopause with Harmony Slater

    Midlife isn’t a breakdown—it’s a signal. In this episode, Lisa sits down with Harmony Slater to explore how menopause, burnout, and body image conditioning disconnect women from their bodies—and how somatic practices, breathwork, and nervous system regulation can help you reconnect. What this episode covers: Menopause and body changes in midlife Why women feel disconnected from their bodies The impact of burnout, stress, and overtraining How the body stores trauma, stress, and emotion What somatic healing and embodiment practices actually are Simple tools for nervous system regulation and self-connection Key Takeaways: You’ve been conditioned to fix your body instead of listen to it Menopause and perimenopause amplify body awareness and discomfort Chronic stress and burnout keep you stuck in your head, not your body Somatic work helps release stored tension and emotional patterns Rest, breath, and awareness are essential for hormonal and nervous system health. Standout Insights: “We are trained to notice what needs to be fixed.” “It doesn’t feel safe to be in a body that’s constantly criticized.” “Your body is always trying to heal—you just need to listen.” Chapters: 00:00 The biggest lie we’ve been taught 03:30 Living in your head vs your body 07:00 The war women have with their bodies 12:30 Overtraining, burnout, and guilt 18:00 The 8:30am exhaustion moment 23:00 What somatic work actually is 31:00 Why your body doesn’t feel safe 34:00 “When did you decide you had to earn rest?” 40:00 Simple practices to reconnect 44:00 Rewiring what you notice about yourself  If you’re navigating menopause symptoms, stress, or burnout, start here: Lie on the floor, feet grounded Place your hands on your chest or belly Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth Notice where your breath moves in your body Follow the sensation—no judgment, no fixing This supports nervous system regulation, stress reduction, and body awareness. Harmony Slater is a somatic coach and certified Ashtanga yoga teacher who helps people reconnect with their bodies through breathwork, movement, and nervous system healing. Her work focuses on helping individuals move beyond stress, anxiety, and physical tension to create more aligned, energized lives. Instagram: @harmonyslaterofficial Website: harmonyslater.com YouTube: Harmony Slater Connect with Lisa: 🌐 Website: https://www.liberatedmenopause.ca/ 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lboate/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leaninfindyourwayhome/ 👥 Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/245092311417467 📧 Email: lisa@liberatedmenopause.ca Tickets for the National Menopause Show: https://nationalmenopauseshow.com/ - use my exclusive code TRANSFORMING 45 and be my guest! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Why Women Feel Disconnected from Their Bodies During Menopause  with Harmony Slater
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Transforming 45 is where midlife gets real. Host Lisa Boate, menopause coach and educator, dives into the truth about perimenopause, menopause, identity shifts, and midlife reinvention. Through candid stories and menopause conversations with men and women, Lisa helps listeners understand their bodies, relationships, and purpose in this powerful chapter. Honest, funny, and empowering—this is your go-to podcast for thriving through midlife transformation.

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