Trauma Unbound

Jesse Deal
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Join me, Jesse Deal, as I share my own story of trauma and the wisdom I have gained.  Bi-weekly I will discuss different aspects of parts work and working with a system.  

  1. 5d ago

    42: Embracing the Inner Child: Insights from David Deane Haskell

    Wounded Angels: Inner Child Work, Codependency, and Healing with David Deane Haskell Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast and introduces guest David Deane Haskell, joining from Japan, author of Wounded Angels, who shares his trauma and recovery journey through inner child/parts work despite not being an IFS practitioner. David describes long-term self-hatred, addiction recovery via 12-step, therapy and hospitalizations, and learning to sit quietly with overwhelming feelings, emphasizing self-care and boundaries. He recounts a core childhood trauma: his mother died when he was four and he was told at nine she died by suicide, leading to intense shame; decades later a toxic, codependent relationship and betrayal re-triggered this wound and catalyzed deeper healing and compassion for his “shame-shocked” nine-year-old self. David also discusses his late-2024 divorce, a recent healing moment with his ex-wife and daughter, nomad travel, and a concussion/vertigo episode that led him to stay in Japan, which he links to inner child trust and resistance. He previews a second book, Inner Child Unleashed, and reflects on vulnerability, grief, publishing disappointments, spirituality, and the value of lived experience and connection. 00:00 Podcast Welcome 00:58 Meet David Haskell 01:50 Inner Child Origins 03:59 The Planner Part 05:28 Sitting With Self 06:58 Mindfulness Breakthrough 11:40 Feeling Pain Safely 16:56 Self Care Balance 19:45 Codependency Roots 22:20 Shame Shocked Boy 28:22 Healing Through Reframing 30:40 Trust And Betrayal 33:21 Boundaries Without Blame 34:28 Grace Over Perfection 34:53 Reframing Boundaries 36:39 Fawn Response Patterns 38:18 Divorce And Nomad Life 41:35 Concussion Wake Up Call 45:19 Second Book Update 49:14 Writing As Healing 54:54 Publishing Rejection Grief 59:56 Integrity And Synchronicity 01:00:46 Drumming Comeback Story 01:02:57 Closing Gratitude David's Website:  https://daviddeanehaskell.com Wounded Angels Book:  https://daviddeanehaskell.com/books David's Inner Child Journal Substack:  https://innerchildjournal.substack.com Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    1h 5m

  2. Jun 8

    41: When You Feel Like A Child Again: Young Parts, Protectors, and Self-Leadership

    Feeling Young Again: Working With Parts, Shame, and Safety Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound podcast, shares a trigger warning, and describes his trauma-recovery journey and trauma coaching. He explores feeling suddenly “stuck back in time” when younger parts surface, using an example of freezing in a grocery store toy aisle while staring at stuffed animals: a playful eight-year-old part appears, while a protector part shames him to avoid humiliation and danger. Jesse connects this to pendulation and explains why public spaces can feel unsafe for inner work, then shows how he revisits the moment at home to identify sensations, validate the younger part, and negotiate with the protector to try new tactics. He discusses building capacity, meeting parts with compassion, communicating these experiences with trusted people, and how healing happens through connection and practice. 00:00 Welcome and Safety Note 00:50 Feeling Like a Child Again 01:43 Toy Aisle Trigger Story 04:03 Pendulation and Two Places 06:25 Creating Safety at Home 08:17 Meeting the Cowboy Part 09:45 Talking to the Protector 12:08 Keys to Deeper Healing 15:23 Sharing Parts With Others 19:37 Curiosity and Compassion Practice 21:20 You Are Not Alone 22:33 Closing and Support the Show Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    23 min

  3. May 25

    40: From Hypervigilance to Presence: Helping Protective Parts Rest

    Working With Hypervigilance Through Parts Work and Presence Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast, invites self-care if the content feels activating, and shares resources including one-on-one trauma coaching and a Thursday evening intro parts work small group. He describes growing up in a chaotic, emotionally unsafe home that fostered a strong hypervigilant part attuned to shifts in caregivers’ moods, which later interferes with spontaneity and presence. He explains using titration and pendulation to move between activation and safety by practicing daily walks with photography: pausing to take a photo helps him feel grounded and alive, then he notices body sensations and returns to that felt sense when anxiety and scanning reappear. He encourages finding any activity that evokes aliveness, tracking emotions and body cues, and gently practicing without forcing the nervous system. 00:00 Welcome and Safety Note 00:34 Coaching and Parts Group 02:00 Growing Up Hypervigilant 05:08 Photography as Practice 07:56 Pendulation for Safety 10:18 Authentic Connection 11:42 From Survival to Presence 13:51 Try Your Own Joy Anchor 16:02 Gentle Integration Tips 16:43 Closing Thanks Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    17 min

  4. May 11

    39: Firefighter Parts and the Urge to Fix: The Drive to End Suffering

    Working with the “Digger” Parts: Slowing Down Trauma Healing with IFS and Nervous System Regulation Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast, offers trauma coaching, and invites interest in a Thursday evening parts work intro group. He discusses a common healing pattern: parts that urgently “dig” for memories and answers in hopes of fixing overwhelming sensations and emotions. Jesse frames these “digger” parts as often firefighter parts rather than managers, emphasizing that they need nervous system regulation, respect, and validation more than logic or insight. He describes orienting practices to ground the body, then building a relationship with the part by welcoming it, acknowledging fear, and gently asking it to “turn down the volume” in small increments. Only after trust develops does deeper inquiry into the part’s history become possible. He normalizes the slow pace of trauma work, highlights behind-the-scenes effort not seen in quick session examples, and encourages patience, containment, and gradual release of burden. 00:00 Welcome and Safety Note 00:34 Coaching and Groups 01:58 Meet the Digger Parts 04:35 Firefighters vs Managers 07:06 Regulate Before Digging 08:40 Validate and Turn Down 11:37 Build Trust Then Explore 14:08 Ask for Space in IFS 16:23 Patience Over Quick Fixes 17:38 Lighten the Young Part 19:40 Containment and Small Shifts 20:29 Closing Thanks Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    21 min

  5. Apr 27

    38: You're Not "Too Much"- Understanding Your Parts

    Now on YouTube to watch!  https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound You’re Not Too Much: Parts Work, Orientation, and Retrieving Parts Stuck in the Past Host Jesse Deal introduces the Trauma Unbound Podcast, shares that the show may be activating, and invites listeners breaking generational trauma to connect via the website, one-on-one trauma coaching, and an introductory Thursday-evening parts work group. Jesse discusses how being labeled “too much” often reflects others’ limited capacity to understand complex developmental trauma and dissociative parts systems, which can appear emotional, inconsistent, and confusing as different parts shift between connection and protection. The episode focuses on part retrieval through orientation to time and space, creating safe internal places, and patiently building trust without forcing. Jesse recommends journaling specific details about parts and doing parts mapping to track internal communication and change. A practical tool is using a physical map and printed photos of current life to repeatedly remind stuck younger parts of present-day reality and safety. 00:00 Welcome and Safety Note 00:34 Coaching and Parts Group 01:59 When You Feel Too Much 03:15 Inside a Trauma System 05:13 Trauma Protection Patterns 07:17 From Isolation to Curiosity 09:24 Part Retrieval Basics 12:05 Patience and New Pathways 12:57 Journaling and Parts Mapping 14:49 Using Maps for Orientation 17:40 Photos and Sensory Grounding 22:36 You Are Not Too Much 23:28 Closing and Encouragement Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    24 min

  6. Apr 20

    37: Revealing Self: A 12 Week Parts Work Journey w/ Teresa Napierala (Energies in Motion)

    Announcing a 12-Week Closed-Container Parts Work & Somatic Healing Group (with Theresa Napierala) Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast, offers trauma coaching, and announces an intro parts work group on Thursday evenings, inviting questions via email or consults. Jesse is joined by somatic wellness practitioner Theresa Napierala to discuss a new 12-week closed-container group starting May 6 at 5:30 Pacific/7:30 Central. The group will include breathwork bookends for grounding and nervous system regulation, somatic awareness, journaling, parts mapping, work with polarized parts, direct access demonstrations and participant practice, and reflective witnessing to build safety, trust, and reduce shame. They describe exercises like sculpting/mirroring parts to create distance and compassion, emphasize titration, speaking for parts (not from parts), and updating parts that feel stuck in childhood. They stress going slowly, not bypassing protectors, and meeting participants where they are; contact details and links are in the show notes. 00:00 Welcome and Trigger Warning 00:34 Coaching and Parts Group Invite 02:02 Meet Theresa and Group Vision 02:58 Dates and Modalities Overview 06:09 Why Closed Container Matters 06:37 Breathwork Bookends and Grounding 07:33 Journaling and Parts Mapping Basics 08:08 Direct Access and Peer Witnessing 09:32 Emotional Release Breathwork Visuals 10:57 Integration and Self Leadership Skills 13:58 Group Demos and Reflection Rounds 16:41 Sculpting Exercise Externalizing Parts 23:55 Titration and Speaking For Parts 27:54 Updating Parts and Relationship Repair 35:52 What to Expect and Safety Boundaries 39:50 Contact Info Pricing and Wrap Up Teresa's Website https://www.energiesinmotion.com Teresa'a Email:  info@energiesinmotion.com Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    42 min

  7. Apr 13

    36: The Art of Attachment: Healing, Growth and Connection

    Attachment, Parts Work, and Finding Safety in Yourself and Creation Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast, offers a content warning, and shares ways to connect with his website for one-on-one trauma coaching and an introductory Thursday-evening parts work group. He then discusses how attachment wounds rooted in childhood lack of mirroring can lead to parts that “bait” others or create push-pull relationship dynamics, often experienced without awareness and triggering fears of abandonment. Jesse emphasizes approaching these behaviors without shame, noticing them, and turning toward parts with curiosity to become a compassionate witness, reducing the need for reenactment. He highlights the value of borrowing nervous-system support through individual and group work, and broadens attachment beyond people to include relationship with nature, time, space, God, and self, encouraging daily cultivation of these connections and affirming listeners they are “right on time.” 00:00 Welcome and Trigger Warning 00:34 Coaching and Parts Group Invite 02:00 Why Attachment Shapes Healing 03:01 Childhood Mirroring and Baiting 04:52 Push Pull Relationship Patterns 06:46 Noticing Without Shame 09:40 Compassionate Witness to Parts 11:04 Why Group Work Helps 12:36 Attachment Beyond People 13:59 Time Place and Risking Independence 18:30 Identity Self Attachment and Growth 20:28 Closing You Are Right on Time Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    21 min

  8. Mar 30

    35: How To Work With Your Inner Critic (Without Fighting It)

    Working With Your Inner Critic Through Compassion and Curiosity Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast, shares his journey with childhood and relational trauma, offers a content warning, and invites listeners to the “Resistance” breaking generational trauma, noting his website, email, and one-on-one trauma coaching. He explores the inner critic as a protective part often shaped by a parent’s fearful voice, and describes how fighting it with an angry part creates internal chaos. Using his difficulty starting creative tasks as an example, he explains that avoiding exposure can create a false sense of safety that limits life. He models turning toward the inner critic with curiosity, listening for its origin story (a childhood humiliation episode like spilling crayons and being yelled at), validating the shame, and offering compassionate witnessing to build trust over time. He emphasizes that healing is ongoing but can become smoother with practice. 00:00 Welcome and Safety Note 00:55 Meet Your Inner Critic 02:04 Whose Voice Is It 02:48 My Creative Block Example 06:24 Turn Toward the Critic 09:03 The Crayons Memory 11:31 Compassion Builds Trust 13:41 Working With Parts Over Time 15:57 Final Takeaways and Thanks Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com Website:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com Website Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coaching IG:  @traumaunbound YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound

    17 min
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Join me, Jesse Deal, as I share my own story of trauma and the wisdom I have gained.  Bi-weekly I will discuss different aspects of parts work and working with a system.  

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  • Creator
    Jesse Deal
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    42
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Trauma Unbound
  • Show Website
    Trauma Unbound

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