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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

U Up‪?‬ U Up?

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 14K Ratings

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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    Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?

    Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?

    Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship. The Awkward Encounter drove one listener to commit to cutting off her ex for good. Next, we get into our first “Friends to Lovers” submission in a new segment sponsored by Netflix. In anticipation of Bridgerton season 3, listeners are filling us in on how their own “friends to lovers” scenarios played out. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about voice messages, forgetting a first date, and date-crashing friends.
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    • 1 hr 7 min
    J&J Play “Where Should We Begin?”

    J&J Play “Where Should We Begin?”

    Benefits listeners, you’re in for a treat down several memory lanes in the lives of J&J! After joining us on the pod in March, Esther Perel gifted J&J with her conversation-starter game, “Where Should We Begin?” Today, they’re using her cards to guide them into conversations about various chapters of their life, past, present and hypothetical. Jared shares why he still remembers that time he didn’t meet NBA legend Larry Bird, we get to learn more about the end of Jordana’s situationship, what they would do if they could swap genders for a day, and more.

    Why The “When You Know, You Know” Spark Might Be Missing ft. Matthew Hussey

    Why The “When You Know, You Know” Spark Might Be Missing ft. Matthew Hussey

    This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give her POV about their early stages and the surprising text she sent that drove him to make a decision. Plus, he answers listener questions sent in from Instagram, talks about raising your standards, and the importance of communication.
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    • 1 hr 13 min
    Could A 'Certified Lover Boy' Ever Commit?

    Could A 'Certified Lover Boy' Ever Commit?

    Is it petty or prudent to use your life experiences with others in your life’s work? What if you’re one of the biggest pop stars in the world? Before dissecting listener emails, J&J dish first thoughts on Taylor Swift’s new album, “The Tortured Poets Department.” The first email comes from a listener disputing her latest breakup after her ex questioned whether they truly had long-term compatibility. To her, you have to invest in a relationship first in order to build compatibility, so she leaves it up to J&J to chime in and decide. The Awkward Encounter gave us all the ick. Then, the next email is from a listener who can’t decide if she should follow her heart or the advice of her loved ones. She’s seeing a friend of a famous rapper who flies her out and makes her feel special, but her family disapproves and wants her to come down from cloud nine. Is there a chance for something real to blossom with a lifestyle like his? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about picky eaters, invasive date questions, and threatening to break up after an argument.
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    • 1 hr 16 min
    The Situationship Cycle ft. Dulcé Sloan

    The Situationship Cycle ft. Dulcé Sloan

    This Sunday Special is a full debrief as Dulcé Sloan (@dulcesloan) joins J&J in the studio, catching them up on the dating stories she’s telling publicly for the first time, why she doesn’t call romantic interests by their names, and what she’s learned looking back. She takes us back to the time she was seeing “The Mechanic,” breaks down what they had and why it went on for so long, and confronts Jared about what he's looking for. You may know her as a comedian and host of The Daily Show, but Dulcé is also Jared’s friend and ready to be yours too with her new book, “Hello, Friends! – Stories of Dating, Destiny, and Day Jobs”.

    For more of her dating stories and lessons learned in life, get your copy of Dulcé’s book here: https://amzn.to/44gUGxW
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    • 38 min
    Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?

    Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?

    J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen. Then, Jordana dishes on decision-making with her husband and the tactics that they’re using to get through their home renovations. Next, we receive an email from a male listener who isn’t having much luck making it to date #2. Is there a right way to ask what went wrong? The next email is a listener mid-spiral after her fiancé confessed to a digital affair. Then, the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a weird house quality, downgraded dinner plans, and lying about age on the apps.
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    • 1 hr 39 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
14K Ratings

14K Ratings

HRHRHHIii ,

One bit of feedback

I love this show so much and have been listening since the beginning, and so much about it is soooo great. Which is why I’m giving 5 stars despite saying the following…if Jared does the “big dog gotta eat woof woof woof” stuff one more time I think I’m going to have to stop listening. Stop it!!!

Hallie6611 ,

New male cohost PLEASE

Jordana/CEO of the pod - The raging misogyny from your male cohost is enough already. Give him the break that he obviously needs and audition new new who respect women and relationships and aren’t addicted to negative criticism on TikTok. It’s no longer fun to listen to the anger of an overly emotional man who most of your listeners would ghost after he would start barking at a restaurant.

AaroMike ,

Guest Episodes

I’m a subscriber who loves the podcast and recommend it to everyone I can. My only complaint is I find myself skipping past a lot of the “Guest” episodes. I will always give them a try, but tend to disappointed on Saturday mornings when I go to listen to the Sunday Special and it’s another guest episode. I love the podcast, but please keep it to J&J. Maybe make guest episodes bonus episodes. Thanks for all you do.

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