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Beka Elle
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"I am willing to let go of anything holding me back from being free." (she said nervously…) Come along with me on a wild ride that is getting to know God and coming home to truth. There are no guarantees on this show. Your guess of where this is going is as good as mine. www.bekaelle.com

  1. 2h ago

    ep172: understanding self-harm, ft. clare assante

    In this episode, I sat down with Clare Assante to talk about supporting teens through self-harm, anxiety, and the heavy pressures they face. We explore how parental fear can get in the way, and how understanding thought, feelings, and the body’s signals creates real space for healing.Clare shares practical insights from her work with teens and parents, while we dive into the “b******t detector,” sitting with uncomfortable feelings, and why allowing emotions to flow (instead of rushing to fix them) is so powerful.Key Topics– Clare’s work with teens & parents– Understanding self-harm– Sitting with feelings & the "b******t detector"– Roller-coaster analogy– Being grateful for triggers– Parenting: allowing kids to feel their feelings– Parental fears of judgmentWhat Resonated MostUncomfortable feelings are often just a signal we’re believing scary thoughts — not that something is wrong.The same sensation can feel like fear or excitement depending on the story we attach.Our urge to “fix” our kids’ discomfort is often more about our own anxiety than their needs.Triggers are gifts that show us where we’re not yet free.Guest BioClare Assante coaches teens and their parents through self-harm, anxiety, and life pressures. She helps parents move from fear to understanding.Find Clare: https://blindsidedbythought.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blindsidedby/#https://www.instagram.com/clare.assante/# Join Soul Huddles: www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles

    48 min

  2. Jun 14

    ep171: the point of now, ft. suzie yeulett

    What if the secret to peace isn’t doing more or managing better — but simply returning to this moment? In this rich conversation, I sit down with Suzie Yeulett, coach & author of The Point of Now, to explore her inverted triangle model and how our busy minds pull us away from the simplicity of life.Suzie shares profound insights from caring for her mother at the end of life, why even highly capable people feel exhausted, and how dropping the need to control our experience opens the door to natural resilience, presence, and ease. We touch on death, information overload, the illusion of a separate self, and the deep relief of realizing nothing needs to be managed the way we think.Key Topics:The Inverted Triangle: Mental busyness vs. the Point of NowLiving one breath at a time and why the mind cannot be presentReleasing the heavy mental backpack of to-do lists and future thinkingHow overwhelming information keeps us in fight-or-flightThe gift of presence during life’s hardest moments (including end-of-life care)Why we don’t need to “fix” ourselves or manage life as much as we thinkTrusting our innate wisdom and the natural flow of lifePerspectives on death, love, and the miracle of being hereThe relief of seeing thoughts as mental weatherSuzie's Info:thepointofnow.comhttps://www.sychangecoach.com/Join Soul Huddles: www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles

    50 min

  3. Jun 7

    ep170: when fixing the body is never enough

    What if your binge eating, emotional eating, or bulimia wasn’t really about food or your body at all? In this episode, I explore eating disorders through the lens of insecure (especially disorganized) attachment. We look at how early wounds around love, safety, and reliability show up as control over food and the body — and why weight loss alone never seems to solve the deeper craving. I share why traditional diagnoses often fall short, how attachment styles shape our relationship with food, and why the real healing might not be about “fixing” ourselves… but about finally feeling what we’ve been running from. Sign up for Soul Huddles [here]

    25 min

  4. May 31

    ep169: calories are kinda BS

    In this episode, we break down why calorie counting is often misleading — and sometimes even harmful — for sustainable weight loss. Discover how your mindset, hormones, gut health, and nervous system affect how your body actually processes food. Learn why the “bomb calorimeter” model doesn’t work for humans and how shifting into safety and presence can transform your relationship with food. We discuss: The famous Milkshake Study and how your beliefs about food directly impact ghrelin (the hunger hormone)Why your body is not a bomb calorimeterHow different foods affect metabolism, digestion, and nutrient absorption (thermic effect of food)The hidden dangers of chronic calorie restriction and the famine responseHow calorie labels can be off by up to 20%How to move from willpower and restriction to trust and intuitive nourishmentThe real path to sustainable weight loss: nervous system safety, presence, and body awarenessWeight loss isn’t about perfect math — it’s about understanding your body as a complex, intelligent system. When you focus on feeling safe, nourished, and present, your body becomes much more willing to release excess weight naturally. Soul Huddles: www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles

    20 min

  5. May 25

    ep168: taking the "ick" out of inner child work

    In this episode, I explain why “inner child work” has become so overused and cringey for many people, and how to actually practice it in a way that creates real, lasting relief instead of just intellectual exercises. Drawing from my own healing from binge-purge bulimia and work with clients, I share how to move beyond therapy buzzwords and genuinely soothe your nervous system. Why most inner child work feels ineffective or cheesyHow childhood patterns drive adult addictive behaviorsA simple, practical way to reparent yourself in triggering momentsThe power of co-regulation and having regulation modeled for youWhy feeling safe in your body is the real antidote to addictive patternsTraditional “inner child work” often stays in the head and doesn’t create felt change.True healing happens when you learn to show up for yourself with genuine compassion and safety — especially when urges or emotions arise.Everyone is just a scared child trying to feel safe. Learning to soothe that part creates effortless behavior change.Soul Huddles: Free weekly Zoom community for real-time co-regulation and practice. Also mentioned: Josie Spinardi

    33 min

  6. May 11

    ep166: your binge eating isn't what you think

    Your Binge Eating Disorder Isn’t What You Think: A Fresh Perspective on Food Freedom Struggling with binge eating, bulimia, or emotional eating? Former binge-purge bulimic shares why the traditional “eating disorder” label may be keeping you stuck — and how viewing binges as outdated brain survival programs can lead to rapid, lasting freedom.  This episode challenges conventional psychology’s approach to eating disorders. Drawing from her own recovery from years of binge-purge bulimia and restrictive cycles, she explains why binge eating isn’t a sign you’re “broken,” but rather a healthy brain running outdated survival software in response to perceived threats. Learn how insight-based change can happen faster than you think and how to address the root cause instead of managing symptoms. Key Topics Covered: Why the terms “eating disorder” and “recovery” can be counterproductiveBinge eating as a survival response (“You’re not out of control — you’re under attack”)The brain as healthy hardware running painful/old softwareHow perceived threats (stress, restriction, emotions) trigger bingesWhy real change can happen quickly through embodied insight (not years of slow habit-building)Snake vs. rope analogy & the power of true insightComparison to psychedelic healing and subconscious learningMoving from self-blame to curiosity about the specific moment and pain behind the behavior Key Takeaways Your brain isn’t broken — it’s running outdated “code” that once served a purposeEvery binge has wisdom and a perfectly explainable reason rooted in survival instinctLabeling moments as “my eating disorder” keeps the pattern feeling permanentTrue freedom comes from addressing the root emotional threat in each fresh momentRapid transformation is possible when the brain sees a better, safer way to respondProgress is often underestimated because of the mind’s negativity bias Resources & Mentions Josie Spinardi – www.josiespinardi.orgAmy Johnson – www.dramyjohnson.comFree weekly community: Soul Huddles (www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles) binge eating disorder, overcoming binge eating, bulimia recovery, food freedom, stop binge eating how to stop binge eating, binge eating help, eating disorder recovery, emotional eating recovery, Josie Spinardi, perceived threat binge eating, insight based change eating, brain survival response food, why do I binge eat #BingeEating #FoodFreedom #EatingDisorderRecovery #BulimiaRecovery #EmotionalEating #StopBingeEating #BodyImage #InsightHealing #MentalHealth #SelfCompassion

    17 min

  7. Apr 5

    ep161: loving fully, anyway [ft. amanda jones]

    In this episode I'm joined by the illuminous Amanda Jones! We explore the fear that so many of us experience: "what if what I love doesn't love me back?" Find Amanda at: https://www.uncoveryspace.com/ instagram: @amandajonesuncovery Join Soul Huddles! www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles

    43 min

  8. 04/01/2024

    ep110: return of the dave [with dave fry]

    Another episode featuring the one-and-only Dave Fry. In this conversation, we discuss the mind's crafty ways, "doership," art, and creativity. Find Dave here: https://dramyjohnson.com/coach/dave-fry/ Find me here: www.bekaelle.com

    54 min
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"I am willing to let go of anything holding me back from being free." (she said nervously…) Come along with me on a wild ride that is getting to know God and coming home to truth. There are no guarantees on this show. Your guess of where this is going is as good as mine. www.bekaelle.com

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  • Creator
    Beka Elle
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    23
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Beka Elle
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