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This is the podcast for women, married to men, who feel like sex is a chore. With massive to-do lists, husband expectations and constant stress, it’s no wonder that so many of us find sex to be a challenge! I’m Janna Denton Howes, a Desire Expert and Creator of The Wanting It More Program, who has spent hundreds of hours helping thousands of women want and enjoy intimacy more. I promise to never tell you to “just do it”, “spice things up”, or “buy some lingerie”. Join me for honest conversations with women who have experienced low libido in their relationships, as we discuss the details nobody else talks about.

Wanting it More Janna Denton-Howes

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.8 • 23 Ratings

This is the podcast for women, married to men, who feel like sex is a chore. With massive to-do lists, husband expectations and constant stress, it’s no wonder that so many of us find sex to be a challenge! I’m Janna Denton Howes, a Desire Expert and Creator of The Wanting It More Program, who has spent hundreds of hours helping thousands of women want and enjoy intimacy more. I promise to never tell you to “just do it”, “spice things up”, or “buy some lingerie”. Join me for honest conversations with women who have experienced low libido in their relationships, as we discuss the details nobody else talks about.

    17. Our Bodies Aren't Broken, We Just Don't Understand Them

    17. Our Bodies Aren't Broken, We Just Don't Understand Them

    In this episode, I discuss why learning about our bodies and preferences is an essential key to wanting it more in the bedroom, as well as why these things can be a challenge for women to explore.



    I talk about:


    3 barriers to learning about our bodies (it's not as simple as it sounds)
    A few critical pieces of information I learned early on which made a big difference
    My favourite book recommendation to learn the science of female bodies
    3 steps you can take to learn about your preferences in the bedroom

    I hope this episode helps to clarify the reasons why women struggle with finding their own preferences, and offers some support in learning about how our bodies work, which can lead to finding what feels good in the bedroom.



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    To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the episode on my website here: Venn Diagram



    “Come as You Are” by Emily Nagoski



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    16. How Toxic Cultural Messaging Affects Women in the Bedroom

    16. How Toxic Cultural Messaging Affects Women in the Bedroom

    In this podcast episode I explore the many ways that women encounter toxic cultural messaging in our daily lives, and how they reinforce what we are told we should look like and how we should act.



    I talk about:


    The one bedroom word I hate that everyone else loves
    7 toxic cultural messages that create issues in the bedroom
    The only 2 goals I encourage for together time
    How anger can be a force for good in the bedroom

    I hope this episode helps listeners to further understand that a key reason why women aren’t wanting it in the bedroom is that we are bombarded by messages daily that communicate that we aren’t enough and that our preferences don’t matter, and that by identifying and deconstructing these messages, we are able to take steps towards unlearning these beliefs.



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    To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the episode on my website here: Venn Diagram



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    Thanks for listening to the Wanting it More Podcast! If you enjoyed this episode, please go to Apple Podcasts and subscribe, rate and leave a review.  You can also share your favourite episodes on social media.



    You can connect with me further on my website, Instagram feed, and learn more about my Wanting it More program here.

    15. The Importance of Feeling Safe in the Bedroom

    15. The Importance of Feeling Safe in the Bedroom

    IN THIS EPISODE:



    In this podcast episode, I explain why emotional and physical safety are essential to women wanting it more in the bedroom, based on my experience helping thousands of women to want and enjoy it more.



    I talk about:


    What I mean by emotional and physical safety in a relationship
    Why safety is such an important element of women wanting it in the bedroom
    The differences between a lack of safety and abuse
    The reasons why a marriage can be lacking emotional safety for women
    How building emotional and physical safety can change everything in the bedroom

    My goal is for listeners to get a sense of why these elements are so important,  to provide some insight into why you might be struggling with wanting it more, as well as to know that this is a common piece, lacking in many relationships.



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    To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the episode on my website here: Venn Diagram



    My Program: Wanting It More

    Thanks for listening to the Wanting it More Podcast! If you enjoyed this episode, please go to Apple Podcasts and subscribe, rate and leave a review.  You can also share your favourite episodes on social media.



    You can connect with me further on my website, Instagram feed, and learn more about my Wanting it More program here.

    14. The Three Requirements to Wanting it More

    14. The Three Requirements to Wanting it More

    IN THIS EPISODE:



    In this podcast episode, I explain the three requirements that women need for wanting it more in the bedroom, as well as more about my personal experience in my own marriage.



    I talk about:


    My own story and experience with not wanting it with my husband
    Why women aren’t broken if they don’t want it with their husbands
    The common reasons why women don’t want it in the bedroom
    How my approach is different from traditional advice that women often get from medical professionals

    My intention is that this episode brings you relief and hope. You are not alone!



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    To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the website here: The Three Requirements Venn Diagram

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    You can connect with me further on my website, Instagram feed, and learn more about my Wanting it More program here.

    • 18 min
    13. The Podcast is Changing, Here's Why

    13. The Podcast is Changing, Here's Why

    1. Janna outlines why the podcast is changing and what that will look like



    2. How Janna’s business model is shifting to honour her need for simplicity



    3. What to expect from upcoming episodes



    4. Listen now to hear about why Janna is making these shifts





    RESOURCES MENTIONED:



    Janna's Program: Wanting It More

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    You can connect with me further on my website, Instagram feed, and learn more about my Wanting it More program here.

    • 12 min
    12. Demystifying What Happens in the Bedroom with Lisa and Laura Froyen, PHD

    12. Demystifying What Happens in the Bedroom with Lisa and Laura Froyen, PHD

    1. Reasons why talking about what happens in the bedroom can be uncomfortable



    2. How we can overcome the shame and awkwardness of talking about it



    3. Ways in which the cultural mainstream impacts women’s capacity for enjoyment



    4. How we can demystify what happens when we have sex



    5. Why our early experiences learning about sex can impact our capacity for talking about it openly as adults



    GUEST BIOS:



    Lisa lives in the United States with her busy toddler and husband of nine years. She works from home in I.T. and dreams of one day having a pond with koi fish and a fountain. As an alumni of my Wanting It More Program, she continues to offer really great insights in my online community along with some profound revelations about her journey.



    Laura Froyen, PHD is a Marriage and Family Therapist who not only took sex therapy classes in graduate school but worked with couples in their sexual relationships and recieved sex therapy herself. In her professional life, she now helps individuals, partners, and co-parents become the parents they are longing to be.



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    Janna's Program: Wanting It More





    Thanks for listening to the Wanting it More Podcast! If you enjoyed this episode, please go to Apple Podcasts and subscribe, rate and leave a review.  You can also share your favourite episodes on social media.



    You can connect with me further on my website, Instagram feed, and learn more about my Wanting it More program here.

    • 53 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
23 Ratings

23 Ratings

sharperjan ,

Highly Recommend!

Janna’s voice is so calming as she discusses topics that have historically been uncomfortable. I love how she’s trying to change the narrative through honesty and openness.

Honest_Words ,

If you want a divorce, this podcast is for you

Be a critical thinker…

Let me start be first establishing credibility. I have a Master’s in Leadership and Organizational Behavior (aka, studying people and their interpersonal interactions) and a Bachelor’s in Communications with a minor in Psychology. I’m responsible for a diverse organization of more than 100 people executing more than $500,000 annually operating a $37 billion system. I’ve had numerators classes in interpersonal communication, sexual psychology, motivation, cognitive psychology and relational theory, and while I’m certainly no expert, I’ve had years of diverse, guided study leveraging conclusions reached from empirical research on people, relationships, and how they work.

When I first came across Janna Denton-Howes (JDH from here on) I was honestly impressed. I felt the structure of her course, the flow and topics as well as her overall intent/plan was solid. I believed her program had considerable potential to really get to the heart of interpersonal interactions in a marriage and bring out confidence and perspective that sadly and unfortunately most women in our patriarchal based society don’t have. As time went on and the “course” progressed I quickly started to see ulterior motives emerge through her “guidance” and what she pushed in discussion, and saw a bias toward a very liberal perspective surface, which made me really question JDH’s true motive: was it to actually strengthen marriages as advertised or was it to push a left-wing feminist agenda and instruct women to dominate in a marriage?

This led me to research her background and as far as I can tell, she only has (or had) a high school level education and received her “certification” (if you could even call it that) through a sex coaching certification course (yes, there are professional certification courses to make a person a desire coach…). While this by itself is absolutely not a problem, it very quickly becomes one when you don’t have someone thoroughly educated guiding through a balanced approach to the intricacies of interpersonal relations. It’s unquestionably obvious JDH’s own biases serve as the foundation and guiding light for her subtle liberal indoctrination, providing a very one-sided and often inaccurate perspective.

This is where her course fails miserably in my opinion; it provides zero balance. It may appear to try to do so, with guest appearances by her husband, but those are simply reinforced liberal ideals wherein equity—NOT equality (those two words have drastically divergent implications) is THE theme.

I strongly urge you to evaluate and understand the difference in those words and where you personally stand relative. There is only 100% in a marriage. In and equal marriage, both sides are treated fairly and the resultant is the acceptable balance between the two. With equity, one side takes due to a perceived imbalance, and doesn’t stop taking until that side feels they are “comfortable.” Equality is based on each person’s contributions, equity is based on taking from someone else. Do you think a marriage can last if one side just keeps taking? While this is likely the case now, with most husbands perceived to be taking from the wife, it’s equality that needs to be present, not the wife just taking from the husband. And her program doesn’t push restore this much needed equality, rather pushes women to demand equity by taking from their husbands.

Through this continuously pushes a hyper liberal agenda, even so much as shrugging off normal life responsibilities such as “wanting to change a light bulb,” instead of needing to change the bulb. There are several things in this world we don’t want to do, but as a responsible human being, accountable to my family and spouse, there are things we simply must do. Period. She states repeatedly equity in relationships where everybody gets what they need to feel both safe and comfortable, but doesn’t remind women about the human factor balance (feelings, emotions, beliefs, etc) and that a person in a relationship can never be 100% because there are two in the marriage. Relationships inherently require compromise, sacrifice, and balance, to which she absolutely disowns. She also never addresses when to stop taking and start giving; no it’s about constantly taking. She justifies this tragic school of thought as saying taking from your significant other ultimately gives back because he gets what he wants—sex—and she is now getting what she needs; but does she think men are actually that dumb, that they get sex and just roll through life? No. Another major fail.

Something also truly disappointing is how she flails in pushing women that men’s responses to lack or a sense of intimacy are wrong, immature, mopey, petty, etc. But she constantly fails to remind women that men’s responses, while different in specific action(s) or nature, are fundamentally a response to the circumstances, which are largely no different than a woman’s response when she too experiences an undesired outcome.

Again, a high school education pushing a liberal agenda of take as much as you feel you need and don’t stop compiled with a good for thee not for me response mechanism. If you believe in a liberal/progressive/socialist ideology, then JDH will probably be spot on and helpful to you and your husband. But if you’re more middle of the road/conservative, then id strongly urge you to research the plethora of other desire coaches that will better align with your values and still get you to the same spot—a solid marriage with deep, meaningful connection. Listening to JDH has more probability of securing divorce than a solid future for you and yours!

Sokabuki ,

Wow!

Love these honest conversations about sex! Janna and her guests have such a thoughtful approach to this topic that so many people won’t talk about.

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