Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Janna Denton-Howes: Marriage Coach | Sex Educator | Low Libido Expert
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Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!

  1. Aug 26

    "Almost Never”: What This Husband Learned About Their Sex Life - with Ben | Ep. 206

    When Ben asked his wife of 31 years how often she actually wanted to have sex, her answer — “almost never” — completely shocked him. In this conversation, Ben shares what he couldn’t see before Doing It Together, what happened when he chose curiosity over defensiveness, and how he’s learning to create a more mutually enjoyable intimate life with his wife. It’s an honest conversation about good intentions, unexpected blind spots, and what can happen when both partners are willing to keep learning. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  2. Aug 19

    Learning to Trust Your “No” - with Sara | Ep. 205

    In this episode, Sara shares the powerful journey of realizing that much of what she believed she was supposed to want sexually wasn’t actually what she wanted. She opens up about feeling inadequate, questioning what was wrong with her, and the relief that came from learning to recognize a “no” in her own body. Sara and Janna also explore what changed in her relationship when they took intercourse off the table, including the surprising ways their connection shifted outside the bedroom. At the heart of her story is a simple but profound realization: “It feels so much lighter in here. Like the relationship is so much lighter.” Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  3. Aug 12

    Are You Going Through the Motions? - with Katie | Ep. 204

    Katie spent years believing her sex life was good enough, until she began questioning how much she was actually enjoying it and how much she was simply tolerating. In this conversation, she shares how marriage, children, menopause, and cultural messages gradually disconnected her from her own desires. Katie and Janna explore why so many couples follow a formula for sex instead of discovering what genuinely feels good to both people. Katie shares how learning that she was allowed to have preferences changed the way she communicates with her husband and transformed her approach to intimacy. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  4. Jul 29

    What Your Anger Is Trying to Tell You - with Renee | Ep. 203

    What if your anger isn't the problem—but a sign that something finally makes sense? In this episode, Janna sits down with Renee to explore the surprising emotion that surfaced as she began unlearning decades of harmful messages about women, sex, and marriage. What she once believed was a personal failure turned out to be something much bigger, and that realization changed everything. Together, they discuss why anger can be a healthy response to injustice, the cultural lies that keep both women and men disconnected from authentic intimacy, and the unexpected insights that transformed Renee's marriage. From a comment made by a teenage boyfriend to a surprising perspective on menopause, this conversation is full of hope for anyone ready to see their story through a new lens. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  5. Jul 22

    What Sex Was Never Meant to Do - with John | Ep. 202

    What if sex was never meant to create connection—but to celebrate the connection that's already there? In this episode, Janna sits down with John for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most common dynamics in long-term relationships: when one partner looks to sex for closeness while the other needs closeness before they desire sex. John shares how he came to realize that he was asking sex to do a job it was never meant to do. Together, they explore the emotions hiding beneath sexual rejection, the cultural messages that shape our expectations around intimacy, and the powerful shift that happened when he stopped focusing on how to get his wife to want sex and started building genuine emotional connection instead. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  6. Jul 15

    What Happened When She Stopped Believing She Was the Problem - with Penny | Ep. 201

    When Penny began questioning the messages she'd received about sex, she uncovered something far deeper than a lack of desire. For years, she'd been taught that sex was something she owed her husband rather than an experience she was allowed to enjoy herself. Penny shares how those beliefs shaped her marriage, her sexuality, and her sense of self—and what finally helped her begin experiencing intimacy in a completely different way. Together, Janna and Penny explore the cultural and religious messages that disconnect women from pleasure, why "more foreplay" wasn't the solution, the hidden pressure Penny didn't realize she was carrying, and how emotional safety became the turning point in her relationship. If you've ever wondered whether you're the problem—or struggled to understand why sex feels more like a responsibility than a source of joy—this episode is for you. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  7. Jul 9

    200 Episodes Later: Janna Gets Honest About the Last Four Years- with Janna's Daughter | Ep. 200

    For the 200th episode of the Doing It Together podcast, the tables are turned as Janna sits in the guest seat while her daughter interviews her about the journey behind the microphone. Together, they look back on four years of honest conversations about sex, desire, marriage, and relationships, exploring how the podcast has evolved, the lessons learned along the way, and the moments that have challenged Janna the most. Janna also shares the personal experiences that have shaped her work- from navigating divorce and remarriage to finding the courage to speak openly about one of culture's most taboo topics. It's a heartfelt, behind-the-scenes conversation about vulnerability, consistency, changing minds, and the hope that comes from helping thousands of people realize they are not broken and they are not alone. Whether you've been listening since episode one or you've just discovered the podcast, this milestone episode is a celebration of the community we've built together and a look at where the journey goes next. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

  8. Jul 2

    When Sex Becomes Emotional Currency – with Joanna | Ep. 199

    Has sex become less about connection and more about keeping the peace?  In this episode, Janna talks with Joanna about a pattern many couples quietly fall into, where sex becomes a way to restore harmony, avoid conflict, or make a partner happier rather than an experience rooted in mutual desire, pleasure, and connection. They unpack the emotional weight behind this dynamic and explore how it impacts both women’s sexuality and men’s relationship with intimacy. Joanna shares what she and her partner are doing differently now to move away from obligation and toward a more connected, playful, and fulfilling sex life. Sign up for Janna's free class, "The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

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Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!

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