The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast

Rhonda Lavoie

Ready to get out of your head and off your phone? This is a shame-free zone for women who are ready to stop scrolling and start doing. Welcome to The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast. Our voice is Compassionate Action: We get real about why we scroll (it's a coping mechanism, not a moral failing) and then we share the "get it done" fix. Each week, we explore the "6 Whys"—like Imposter Syndrome, Overwhelm, and Exhaustion —and the 'unfancy' systems to overcome them. This podcast is The Hub (The "Why"). I'm also building The Spoke: the Paced app (The "How"). New episodes drop every Tuesday. Hit subscribe

  1. Dealing With Judgement (Part 2): Forging Your Armor | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 8

    8 小時前

    Dealing With Judgement (Part 2): Forging Your Armor | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 8

    Let's be honest: criticism stings. We're wired for connection, so the fear of being judged is a powerful (and totally human) trigger. How often does that feeling make you "just check your phone for a minute," only to look up 45 minutes later wondering where the time went? You're not scrolling because you lack willpower; you're scrolling to escape a feeling. That's a normal response, not a personal failing. In this episode (Part 2 of our series on judgment), we move from the "them problem" to the practical fix: Forging Your Armor. I'll share Dr. Brené Brown's "arena" strategy and explain why you must stop taking feedback from people in the "cheap seats". We'll build a complete system to build real resilience, including how to identify your "Success Squad" and implement three daily skills: adopting a growth mindset , using the "Tuesday Rule" for self-compassion , and a simple CBT tool to finally silence your inner critic. Tired of this feeling? You're not alone. I'm building a tool to help you notice that pattern and get your power back. Join the 'Paced' app waitlist. Link in bio. In This Episode: [00:01:40] - Why the common advice to 'just ignore the haters' is useless (and why we're wired to care) [00:02:33] - The "Cheap Seats vs. The Arena": Why you must stop taking criticism from people who aren't being brave [00:04:09] - How to build your "Success Squad"—the small group of people who have earned the right to give you feedback [00:07:41] - The direct link between feeling judged and unconsciously scrolling to escape the feeling [00:10:11] - System 1: Flip the script with a growth mindset (a failure only exists if you quit) [00:11:49] - System 2: Practice self-compassion with the "Tuesday Rule" [00:12:41] - System 3: A simple CBT tool to challenge your inner critic [00:14:58] - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge Resources Mentioned: Dr. Brené Brown (researcher and author) The Paced App TUF Collaborative Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) This Week's Challenge: Identify your "Success Squad". Take out a single sticky note and write down the names of the only people whose opinions truly matter—the ones who are in the arena with you and have earned the right to give you feedback. This is your "square squad". For the next week, when you feel a wave of criticism, look at that list and ask: "Is this voice on my note?" If not, it's irrelevant noise from the cheap seats. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDA Website: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok:@ rhonda.lavoie Follow the Paced App journey: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript. #FearOfJudgment #ImposterSyndrome #BreneBrown #Resilience #AvoidantCoping

    16 分鐘
  2. Dealing With Judgment (Part 1): Before You Fear Their Judgment, Face Your Own | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 7

    11月4日

    Dealing With Judgment (Part 1): Before You Fear Their Judgment, Face Your Own | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 7

    The fear of judgment keeps too many amazing people playing small. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Rhonda Lavoie gets brutally honest about the times she was the judge, teaching you the system of Self-Analysis. You'll learn why that frustrating, neutral reaction to your biggest ambitions—like the Paced App—is a "Them Problem," a reflection of their own baggage and fear, not a verdict on your worth. In This Episode (Video Timestamps): (00:10) - The primal reason we fear judgment: Your anxiety is just your primal survival instinct at work. (01:50) - The framework: Why stepping into The Arena means criticism is a certainty. (02:30) - The hard truth: Why your own internal criticism is the root of the Them Problem. (03:23) - Failure 1 (Upward Comparison): Rhonda's unfiltered "What could you write a book about?" moment. (04:56) - Failure 2 (Fear of Loss): The internal battle when a friend joined the competition. (06:33) - Let's Make This Real: The 30-second self-analysis challenge.(07:08) - The Passive Them Problem: Why the Paced App conversations "fall flat". (08:37) - Rhonda's self-analysis: The 5 reasons for the neutral reaction (Intimidation, Envy, Fixed Mindset, etc.). (11:49) - The Lesson: Understanding their Anchor and seeing criticism as "mere data" about their internal state. (13:35) - Tease for Part 2: Forging Your Armor and curating whose opinion matters. Resources Mentioned: This episode discusses concepts related to Dr. Brené Brown's work on vulnerability and The Man in the Arena. Follow the Paced App journey: getpaced.app. This Week's Challenge: The next time you criticize someone else's big dream, stop and ask yourself: "What insecurity of mine is this reflecting?" 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDA Website: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok: @rhonda.lavoie Check out the Paced App: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.

    15 分鐘
  3. Stop AI Overwhelm: A Practical AI Workflow for Creators & Entrepreneurs | Rhonda Lavoie Podcast

    10月28日

    Stop AI Overwhelm: A Practical AI Workflow for Creators & Entrepreneurs | Rhonda Lavoie Podcast

    Feeling curious about AI but mostly just overwhelmed or intimidated? You're not alone! So many creators and entrepreneurs feel stuck, staring at a blank page or getting generic results from tools like ChatGPT or Gemini. The biggest mistake? Treating AI like a vending machine instead of a creative partner. In this episode, I share my practical, "unfancy" system for shifting your mindset and integrating AI into your workflow. Stop letting the "what ifs" paralyze you and start using AI to amplify your creativity and get back valuable time. It's all about Getting It Done, Keeping It Real. In This Episode: (00:02:03) - The Vending Machine Mistake & The Mindset Shift: From Tool to Collaborator (00:04:03) - Avoiding the "Robot Voice": You're the Creative Director (00:05:01) - My 4-Stage AI Workflow: Ideation, Research, Drafting & Repurposing (00:05:19) - Stage 1: Ideation & Brainstorming (Beating the Blank Page) (00:06:33) - Stage 2: Research & Synthesis (Your Research Assistant) (00:07:47) - Stage 3: Drafting & First-Pass Content (The "Sh*tty First Draft") (00:08:42) - Stage 4: Polishing & Repurposing (My Podcast Clip System) (00:10:10) - Real Story: How AI Solved My Content Command Centre Overwhelm with Apps Script (00:16:10) - The Art of the Prompt: Giving Clear Instructions (00:16:50) - Tip 1: Give it a Persona ("Act As" Framework) (00:18:49) - Tip 2: Provide Context & Constraints (The "Brief") (00:19:53) - Tip 3: Iterate (Treat it Like a Conversation) (00:21:48) - Addressing the Fears: Will AI make you lazy, less smart, or steal your voice? (00:27:18) - The Paced Connection: Intentional Creation vs. Unmindless Consumption (00:28:18) - Your Weekly Challenge: One Simple Step with the "Act As" Framework Resources Mentioned: AI Tools (General Concepts): ChatGPT, Google Gemini Google Workspace: Google Sheets, Google Calendar, Google Apps Script Concept: Anne Lamott's "Shitty First Draft" This Week's Challenge: Pick one small, repetitive task you dislike. Try using the "Act As" framework: give AI a specific persona (like 'expert copywriter' or 'meticulous assistant'), provide clear context and constraints for the task, and see how the results improve. Just start the conversation! 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDA Website: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok: @rhonda.lavoie Check out the Paced App: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript . #AIforCreators #AIWorkflow #ArtificialIntelligence #ContentCreation #ProductivityHacks #EntrepreneurLife #StopOverwhelm #CreativePartner #PromptTips #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal

    30 分鐘
  4. The Other Side of Fear: What If You Actually Succeed? | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 5

    10月21日

    The Other Side of Fear: What If You Actually Succeed? | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 5

    We spend so much time preparing for the fear of failure, but what if the thing holding you back is actually the fear of success? Success means change, new expectations, and leaving the safety of who you've always been. In this vulnerable episode, I share my real-time struggle with what author Gay Hendricks calls the "Upper Limit Problem"—the subconscious ways we sabotage ourselves when we exceed our internal thermostat for success. Using my journey with the Paced app as a real-world example, we'll dissect the four hidden barriers that make us feel "fundamentally flawed" and I'll teach you the 3-step "Success Planning" system I use to fight back. This is the system you need to define your goals, plan for the "good problems" success creates, and finally give yourself permission to evolve. In This Episode: (00:53) - Why the fear of success can be just as paralyzing as the fear of failure. (01:49) - Understanding the "Upper Limit Problem" from Gay Hendricks' book, "The Big Leap". (02:40) - The four hidden barriers that cause us to self-sabotage. (04:26) - My real-time story of hitting my own upper limit with the Paced app. (05:19) - How to fight back with a 3-step system: "Success Planning". (05:53) - Step 1: Define what success really looks like on your own terms. (07:11) - Step 2: Proactively map out your "success problems". (09:34) - Step 3: The most crucial step—giving yourself permission to evolve. (10:37) - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge. Resources Mentioned: "The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level" by Gay Hendricks. This Week's Challenge: Take one of your big goals, write down what success looks like, and then list three new good problems that success will create. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDA Website: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok: @rhonda.lavoie Follow the Paced App journey: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript. #FearOfSuccess #ImposterSyndrome #SelfSabotage #PersonalGrowth #UpperLimitProblem #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal #RhondaLavoiePodcast

    12 分鐘
  5. Terrified of Failing? You're Already Failing. | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 3

    10月7日

    Terrified of Failing? You're Already Failing. | The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast Ep. 3

    If you've ever been stopped in your tracks by the fear of failing, this episode is for you. In this direct, "tough love" episode, Rhonda confronts the "what if" list that paralyzes us and reframes the entire concept of failure. Learn the "Fear Autopsy"—a simple, practical system for dissecting what you're really afraid of—and discover why the only guaranteed way to fail is to not give yourself the opportunity to try. In This Episode: (00:03) - The Hook: You're Asking the Wrong Question About Fear (00:54) - My Story: Feeling Trapped and the "What If" List (02:16) - The "Fear Autopsy": A 3-Step System to Dissect Your Fear (04:08) - The Reframe: Why You're Already Failing (05:12) - The Science (Part 1): What is "Catastrophizing"? (06:10) - The Science (Part 2): The Cost of Not Trying & "Loss Aversion" (08:00) - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge Resources Mentioned: Concept: Catastrophizing Concept: Loss Aversion (from Daniel Kahneman) This Week's Challenge: Pick one thing you're procrastinating on out of fear. Ask yourself, 'What's the real consequence, and what's the cost of the first step?' And then, just take that first step. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDA Website: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok:@ rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript. #TheRhondaLavoiePodcast #FearOfFailure #Mindset #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal

    9 分鐘

簡介

Ready to get out of your head and off your phone? This is a shame-free zone for women who are ready to stop scrolling and start doing. Welcome to The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast. Our voice is Compassionate Action: We get real about why we scroll (it's a coping mechanism, not a moral failing) and then we share the "get it done" fix. Each week, we explore the "6 Whys"—like Imposter Syndrome, Overwhelm, and Exhaustion —and the 'unfancy' systems to overcome them. This podcast is The Hub (The "Why"). I'm also building The Spoke: the Paced app (The "How"). New episodes drop every Tuesday. Hit subscribe