Do you feel the type of exhaustion that just doesn’t go away, even after a few good nights of sleep? Do you feel yourself becoming emotionally distant from your kids to protect yourself from huge emotions? Have you noticed that you’re feeling less joy from parenting moment? You might be in parental burnout. This episode isn’t about judgement, at all. Rather, we welcome you to an episode of the Imperfects which aims to make you feel seen, less guilty, less alone, as we’re joined by the very special two guests, Missy Higgins and Dr Emily Musgrove. 💌 To join our journaling club, with 10,100 + others, subscribe to my imperfect email - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/ We touch on the difference between depression and parental burnout, the risk factors of parental burnout, the perfect mother myth, and how to deal with perfectionistic tendencies. There SO MANY helpful things in this episode, and stories from Hugh, Josh, Missy and Em to make you feel like a good enough parent. Chapters 00:00:00 TRAILER 00:01:34 Missy returns: singer, songwriter and single parent 00:05:20 Hugh's Burnout: When Everything Felt Impossible 00:08:14 Defining Parental Burnout: It's Not About Your Kids 00:12:58 Depression vs Burnout: How to Tell the Difference 00:23:35 The Shock of Parenthood: Nobody Told Us It Would Be Like This 00:29:06 My Cortisol is Where?! 00:33:44 Escape Fantasies 00:36:27 Our Parents Had It Easier: Tennis, Newspapers & Benign Neglect 00:40:13 Perfectionism: The Biggest Risk Factor for Burnout 00:46:13 The Chicken Nugget Meltdown: When Missy Snapped 00:49:59 The Perfect Mother Myth: Intensive Motherhood Ideology 00:52:34 Mental load, resentment + your partner 00:58:55 Single Parenting & Separation: Missy's Experience 01:09:52 Asking for Help: Why It's So Hard & Why We Must 01:13:48 Rest is productive! 01:24:07 Dropping your standards: becoming a good enough parent 01:30:12 A Little More Imperfects 🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout - https://bit.ly/4yXsUEB Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection - https://bit.ly/4eetAhh The Vulnerabilitea House - Missy Higgins - https://bit.ly/4Ai1sm5 Zoë Foster Blake - Perimenopause, ADHD & Everything That Helped with Dr Fatima Khan - https://bit.ly/4iqLS1d Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://bit.ly/4ekisQ1 Dr Lousie Newson - It’s Hormones. Period. - https://bit.ly/4kznVWU Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby … New Brain … Matrescence. - https://bit.ly/4jTko5B Maggie Dent - ‘Good Enough’ Parenting is Good Enough - https://bit.ly/4sFhFyO Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/4yWmgOJ How To Audit Your Mental Load with Prof. Leah Ruppanner - https://bit.ly/4f7g4fB 📚Things to research Parental Burnout Assessment by Isabelle Roskam, Moira Mikolajczak & Maria-Elena Brianda - https://bit.ly/4sGktvL Vivek Murphy’s Advisory on Parental Stress - https://bit.ly/48DLeaM The Cultural Contradictions of Motherhood, by Sharon Hays - https://bit.ly/4z1nXus The Child, The Family, and the Outside World, by Donald Winnicott - https://bit.ly/3X7fE2H 📺 Things to watch Girls - https://bit.ly/4BGo413 🩷For More Missy GET TICKETS HERE - https://www.missyhiggins.com Listen to A Complicated Truth here, https://bit.ly/4ztZoY8 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - theimperfects.com.au/shop 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - theimperfects.com.au/shop 🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts http://apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
