Attuned with Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda

Angelica Shiels Psy.D. LLC
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Welcome to Attuned - Relationships & Science - with Dr Angelica and Coach Amanda, where you learn about neurology, conditioning, human development, psychology, and attachment. If you want to relate more purposefully and intimately with your loved ones or even yourself, stick around for a while.               ~~~~~~Resources, books, and app: https://linktr.ee/Angelicashiels       ~~~~~~This is not therapy, and is for entertainment purposes only.      ~~~~Attunementmethod.com     ~~~~Follow the show on: YouTube: @AttunedPodcast Instagram: @dr._Angelica_ShielsTikTok: @dr..Angelica.Shie   ~~~~We talk all things attachment, coaching, burnout, dating, matching, marriage, anxiety, relationship security, parenting, love, secure attachment, over-thinking, people-pleasing, reactivity, avoidance, and self improvement. Dr. Angelica Shiels is a clinical psychologist and Coach Amanda is a certified relationship coach. 

  1. 14 hrs ago

    Emotions 108: Blamers and Controllers, AKA “Externalizers”

    Here we discuss how nature and nurture lead to a habit of blaming/controlling, and why it’s important to willingly practice “distress tolerance” and self-attunement instead of “distress deflection” and “other-focus.” We also discuss how highly sensitive and rigid children need safety, attuned support, and opportunities to practice distress-tolerance in early development.Follow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  2. Oct 16

    Emotions 107: When shame hijacks your stress response

    Did you know that shame can hijack your stress response and make you “throw it back” at your partner like a fiery hot potato? (Or hold it in until it burns you to your core!?) #shame #relationships #emotions #internalizing #conflict #attachmentFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  3. Oct 7

    Emotions 106: Defensiveness, accusations and other unhelpful “bargaining” habits

    What do we do when we don’t like what’s happening? When we don’t like feeling judged or wronged or misunderstood or disappointed? Anything to make the yucky moment better, that’s what. In this episode we talk about pesky habits called “bargaining” techniques, that try to get us out of distress in the moment but ultimately lead to disconnection. #anger #emotions #fear #attuned #shame #blame #denial #deflection #accuse #manage #controlFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships or watch on YouTube.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  4. Oct 2

    Emotions 105: How couples respond to stress and conflict

    Whether you “expose” problems or “hide” from them, your automatic stress responses only feel protective in the moment. In the cycle of your relationship, they only deepen disconnection. #attuned #emotions #fear #anger Follow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships or watch on YouTube.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  5. Sep 24

    Emotions 104: Mr. “You always attack” and Mrs. “You never do it right.”

    Did you know that your body sensations are a clue to when your nervous system is detecting danger? Noticing the body sensations is step one to attunement to pick up that YOU'RE ABOUT TO HAVE AN EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE. If you skip this step, you're stripping yourself of sometimes the only power you may have to regulate and your interpretations will go haywire or be unhelpful. Some of us have had very little practice noticing fear or anger sensations because it kept us safe from little "t" trauma, scary experiences. There are four different pairs of sensations - do you notice the extremes of each? #attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  6. Sep 16

    Emotions 103: Own your sensitivities even when they aren't your fault.

    Are you sensitive to defectiveness, uncertainty, wrongness, or intrusion? In a fear or anger state?  Neither suppress nor automatically act. Instead, take a beat to acknowledge/label what is going on. There are four experiences that register “threat” and activate the sympathetic nervous system. (Defectiveness, uncertainty, wrongness, and intrusion.) The body’s sympathetic reaction, combined with our thinking/interpretation in the moment,  cascades into the broad emotions of fear and/or anger (and there are lots of more specific emotions under the two categories of fear and anger.)#attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  7. Sep 8

    Emotions 102: Notice Primal Feelings, not just Emotions

    What are primal FEELINGS, and why are they more helpful to label than EMOTIONS? People who can flex between feeling powerless AND in-control, satisfied  AND dissatisfied, certainty AND uncertainty (instead of just avoiding one and protecting the other) are less likely to go into a stress response (fight flight freeze and fawn) and less likely to encounter shame/blame. Therefore, they experience normal protective emotions such as fear and anger, but don’t become STUCK in them.#attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships.Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

  8. Sep 1

    Emotions 101: Emotions Can't be Controlled

    What are emotions? Why do they exist? Why can’t we control them? Here we begin explaining everything you should have learned (but probably didn’t) about emotions. #attuned #emotions #fear #angerFollow along for a free 6-month beginner course on safe and connected relationships. Watch & subscribe to this episode on YouTubeDownload the Attuned - Relationships App on Apple or Android   Schedule coaching with AmandaSUPPORT THE PODCASTRate & share on AppleSend us your questions or comments by emailing  Admin@attunementmethod.comFollow Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda on Instagram and TikTok

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Welcome to Attuned - Relationships & Science - with Dr Angelica and Coach Amanda, where you learn about neurology, conditioning, human development, psychology, and attachment. If you want to relate more purposefully and intimately with your loved ones or even yourself, stick around for a while.               ~~~~~~Resources, books, and app: https://linktr.ee/Angelicashiels       ~~~~~~This is not therapy, and is for entertainment purposes only.      ~~~~Attunementmethod.com     ~~~~Follow the show on: YouTube: @AttunedPodcast Instagram: @dr._Angelica_ShielsTikTok: @dr..Angelica.Shie   ~~~~We talk all things attachment, coaching, burnout, dating, matching, marriage, anxiety, relationship security, parenting, love, secure attachment, over-thinking, people-pleasing, reactivity, avoidance, and self improvement. Dr. Angelica Shiels is a clinical psychologist and Coach Amanda is a certified relationship coach. 

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