The Conscious Love Show

Shane Kohler
  • 5.0 (12)
  • Relationships
  • Updated Weekly

Most relationship advice will tell you what to do differently. This show will tell you why you keep doing what you do — and what it's actually costing you. Every week Shane Kohler brings direct, unfiltered insight into the psychology of love, attraction, and commitment. No validation. No generic advice. Just honest conversations about the unconscious patterns driving your relationships and what it actually takes to change them. This isn't a show about finding the right person. It's about becoming someone who can recognize them, choose them, and build something real with them. New episodes every week. Take the Relational Blueprint Quiz at inspiredloveapproach.com/blueprint to find out which pattern has been quietly running your love life.

  1. 2d ago

    If You Act Like His Wife, He'll Treat You Like His Mother

    Click here to take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint This is for the woman who does everything right. You show up for him, you take care of him, you make sure his life runs smoothly. You make yourself as valuable and indispensable as a person can be. And somehow — it's still not working. He's not stepping up. He's not choosing you the way you need to be chosen. The relationship feels less like a partnership and more like a job. And when it's all said and done, he leaves you anyway. This episode is about the hidden motivation underneath you efforts that silently sabotages your connection and kills the sexual polarity in the relationship. By the end of this episode, you'll understand what your nervous system has been doing in your relationships without your permission — and why the thing that feels most like love to you has been quietly working against everything you actually want.

    49 min

  2. Jun 24

    How to Heal the Need to Have Him Choose You

    There's something that no amount of success, self work, or self love content seems to touch. And most women know exactly what it is even if they've never said it out loud. It's the feeling that until a man chooses her — really chooses her — something is still missing. Something is still unresolved. And she's been carrying that feeling for a long time. This episode is about where that comes from. And more importantly — what it actually takes to heal it. Hit play. And when you're done, click here to find out which Relational Blueprint has been quietly running your love life.

    45 min

  3. Jun 17

    The #1 Reason Men Leave (And the Thing That Makes Him Stay)

    Click here to take the Quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint Send questions to info@thelivingrelationship.com Men don't leave because they stop loving you. He may have left loving you completely. And if you've never understood how that's possible — this episode is going to change the way you see every relationship you've ever been in. Most men can't explain why they leave. There's something happening in their nervous system that they're responding to without the language to name it. Today I'm going to name it for them — and for you — in a way that you've probably never heard before.

    1h 3m

  4. Jun 10

    Four Months In and He Still Hasn't Told You What He Wants — Do This

    Click here to take the Quiz and Discover Your Relational Blueprint Send Questions for July's Q&A Episode to info@thelivingrelationship.com Every month I set aside an episode to answer your questions directly — the ones you're sitting with, the ones you're afraid to say out loud, and the ones you've been searching for a real answer to. No scripts, no theory for the sake of theory. Just honest, direct responses to what you're actually going through. If you have a question you'd like answered on a future episode, send it to info@thelivingrelationship.com. Your question could be featured next month. This month's questions:   "I've been seeing this guy for about four months now and honestly everything feels really good when we're together. But we've never actually defined what we are and every time I get close to bringing it up I just... don't. I'm scared of ruining what we have. How do I know when it's actually time to say something?"     "I've always been someone who shows love by taking care of people. Cooking for them, checking in, being there no matter what. But I've had multiple people tell me that's why men walk all over me. The thing is it doesn't feel like a problem to me, it feels like love. How do I change something that feels so natural without just becoming someone I'm not?"     "My ex told me I was too much. Too emotional, too intense, too needy. And it really messed with me because I wasn't trying to be any of those things, I was just being honest about how I felt. Now I'm in something new and I'm constantly monitoring myself so I don't overwhelm him. How do I just be myself without scaring people away?"     "How do you know when you're being patient and supportive versus just making excuses for someone? I feel like I'm always giving people the benefit of the doubt and I don't know if that's a strength or if I'm just afraid to admit when something isn't working."

    1 hr

  5. Jun 3

    The Silent Test Men Are Giving That Women Don't Even Know They're Taking

    Click here to take the Quiz and Discover Your Relational Blueprint   Every man, you date is testing you. You didn't know it was happening. You haven't been told the rules. And every day you don't know about it, you're answering it anyway. Most women enter the early stages of dating focused on one thing — being chosen by the man she likes. What nobody told her is that the qualities she's optimizing for and the qualities that actually earn his commitment are not the same thing. In fact, they're often working against each other. This episode is about what he's actually watching for when he goes quiet. Why a man who knows exactly what you want will sometimes say nothing and what that silence is really asking you to do. And why the conversation most women are afraid to have is the only one that was ever going to change anything. There's a principle at the end of this episode that reframes where relational responsibility actually lives — and once you hear it you won't be able to unhear it. If what I just described is already resonating, hit play. And when you're done, find out which Relational Blueprint has been quietly running your love life — link above.

    1h 13m

  6. May 27

    Most of Your "Standards" Have Nothing to Do With What You Actually Need — Here's 3 That Do...

    Click here to take the quiz and find out what your Relational Blueprint is.   You don't have unrealistic standards. You know what you want. You've defended it. You've walked away from relationships that didn't meet the bar and you'd do it again. But love still isn't working the way you thought it would, and somewhere in the back of your mind a question you won't say out loud has started forming.   What if the list isn't the problem? What if it's just aimed at the wrong things?   Today's episode isn't about lowering your standards or settling for less than you deserve. It's about something most people in this space won't say: the standards most people have predict almost nothing about whether a relationship will actually work. And the three that do are probably not on your list. If you're ready for that conversation, hit play.

    58 min

  7. May 20

    Why High-Value Men Lose Interest in Women Who Are Too Available

    Click here to take the Quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint He didn't lose interest because you cared too much. He lost interest because of what you stopped doing the moment you did. And if you've ever felt like showing up fully in a relationship somehow works against you — like love requires you to be less of yourself to keep it — this episode is going to reframe everything. Because the problem was never your interest in him. It was the parts of yourself you quietly set aside the moment he became a priority. The parts you dimmed down for something that hadn't even been built yet. Today's episode names exactly what that costs you — and what it actually looks like to show up fully without playing games, without strategy, and without shrinking. If you're ready for that conversation, hit play. And when you're done, take the Quiz to find out which Relational Blueprint has been quietly running your love life.

    1h 3m

  8. May 13

    The Essential Qualities of a Conscious Woman

    Learn more about my Inspired Love 8-Week Journey beginning May 19th here. Following up from last week's episode, I'm excited to continue on with this popular 2-part series (please note that because this is a reshare, dates for the Challenge and Inspired Love Journey spoken about in this episode have passed, however, the link and date above is current)...  In this episode we explore the attributes that define a woman who is deeply attuned to her personal growth, emotional intelligence, and authentic self-expression. Drawing from universal spiritual principles and  practical experience, we outline the key characteristics that enable a woman to cultivate meaningful connections and embody true love. From self-awareness and vulnerability to emotional resilience and compassion, we discuss how these traits not only enhance her relationship with others but also deepen her relationship with herself. Whether you’re single and seeking love or in a committed relationship, this episode serves as an empowering guide for women who want to elevate their consciousness and foster deeper, more fulfilling partnerships and men who are seeking a conscious partner.  I hope you enjoy!

    1h 34m
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Most relationship advice will tell you what to do differently. This show will tell you why you keep doing what you do — and what it's actually costing you. Every week Shane Kohler brings direct, unfiltered insight into the psychology of love, attraction, and commitment. No validation. No generic advice. Just honest conversations about the unconscious patterns driving your relationships and what it actually takes to change them. This isn't a show about finding the right person. It's about becoming someone who can recognize them, choose them, and build something real with them. New episodes every week. Take the Relational Blueprint Quiz at inspiredloveapproach.com/blueprint to find out which pattern has been quietly running your love life.

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  • Creator
    Shane Kohler
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2022 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    The Conscious Love Show

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