The Upgrade Edit

Davina Rankin
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Hosted by Davina Rankin, an embodiment coach, energetic healer, author and mama, The Upgrade Edit is a curated collection of potent conversations with thought leaders, healers, and visionaries. It’s a space for those who are ready to elevate their lives and expand their perspective - through soulful, grounded dialogues that blend spiritual insight, lived wisdom, and actionable steps. Whether you’re on a journey of self-discovery, seeking to unlock your inner power, or simply curious about new ways to upgrade your mind and life, The Upgrade Edit offers real conversations to help you step into your next level.

  1. 2 days ago

    Low Libido? Or Maybe You're Living A Life That Doesn't Turn You On.

    Many women assume a lack of desire is a hormone problem. But what if it's actually a reflection of chronic stress, self-abandonment, nervous system dysregulation and a life that no longer feels nourishing to your soul? As an energetic healer, embodiment coach and somatic practitioner, I've noticed a common thread amongst women who feel disconnected from their sexuality. More often than not, they're not disconnected from sex. They're disconnected from themselves. Their joy. Their creativity. Their pleasure. Their playfulness. Their truth. In this episode, we're diving into the connection between the sacral chakra, nervous system regulation, self-abandonment and desire. We'll explore why so many women struggle to access pleasure when they're living in survival mode, constantly over-giving, people-pleasing or abandoning their own needs. We'll also unpack why desire isn't something you force, but something that naturally emerges when the conditions are right. Inside this episode we explore: • The sacral chakra and its connection to pleasure, sensuality, creativity and receiving • Common signs your sacral energy may be depleted or blocked • Why self-abandonment slowly disconnects women from desire • The nervous system's role in pleasure, intimacy and sexual expression • How chronic stress impacts your capacity to receive and feel • The link between integrity, self-trust and feminine magnetism • Why your partner can't give you what you're unwilling to give yourself • Practical ways to reconnect with pleasure, play, creativity and your life force energy If you've been telling yourself that you have a low libido, this episode invites you to ask a different question: What if your body isn't broken? What if it's simply asking for more truth, more pleasure and more of you? Because sometimes the path back to desire isn't found in the bedroom. It's found in the way you live your life. Connect with Davina: Instagram: @davvyxx Website: www.theupgradebydavina.com If this episode resonated with you, share it with a woman who needs this reminder and tag me on Instagram so I can hear your biggest takeaway. With love, Davina x

    29 min

  2. 14 June

    The Dopamine Trap: Why Women Lose Themselves In Love

    Why is it that some of the most intelligent, successful, self-aware women can find themselves completely distracted by a man? Why do we suddenly start checking our phones more often, replaying conversations in our heads, neglecting our routines, and feeling emotionally impacted by someone we've only known for a matter of weeks? In this episode of The Upgrade Edit, I'm diving into the fascinating neuroscience behind attraction, attachment, and self-abandonment. After spending almost three years celibate, I experienced some of the biggest growth of my life. My business expanded, my confidence deepened, my connection to myself strengthened, and I built a life that felt rich, purposeful, and aligned. Now that I'm dating again, I've found myself reflecting on a powerful question: Why do so many women lose themselves in love? Together, we'll explore the role dopamine plays in attraction, why your brain can mistake chemistry for compatibility, how attachment patterns influence dating behaviours, and why your nervous system is often seeking familiarity rather than what's actually best for you. This isn't an episode about becoming independent or avoiding relationships. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself whilst allowing love into your life. Because the goal isn't to stop loving others. The goal is to stop abandoning yourself in the process. In this episode, we explore:• Why early-stage attraction can feel addictive • The role dopamine plays in dating and relationships • Why your brain is wired to seek connection • How attachment styles shape romantic patterns • The difference between chemistry and compatibility • Why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar • How women are conditioned to prioritise others over themselves • The subtle signs of self-abandonment in dating • What three years of celibacy taught me about self-worth, purpose, and fulfilment • How to remain grounded, embodied, and connected to yourself whilst dating Reflection Questions• What happens to my energy when I start dating someone? • What parts of myself tend to shrink when romantic feelings grow? • Am I seeking connection, or am I seeking validation? • What practices help me stay anchored in myself? • Am I building a life that feels exciting outside of a relationship? Connect With DavinaFollow along on Instagram: @davvyxx Explore retreats, coaching, embodiment work, and upcoming events via the links in my bio. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or post it to your stories and tag me. Every share helps this message reach more women who are ready to stop chasing love and start coming home to themselves. Because the healthiest relationships aren't built by two people looking to be completed. They're built by two whole people who choose to walk alongside one another. ❤️‍🔥

    30 min

  3. 10 June

    Everyone Talks About Manifesting Love, But What If You're Missing The Beauty Of What's Already Here?

    We spend so much of our lives looking ahead. Manifesting the relationship. Manifesting the milestone. Manifesting the next chapter. Always reaching for what's next, believing that's where happiness, fulfillment, and abundance live. But what if we're so focused on what's missing that we're overlooking the beauty of what's already ours? In this episode, I share the unexpected lessons that came through during a beautiful weekend away with my daughter, Mila. A weekend that reminded me to slow down, be present, and fully receive the life that's already unfolding in front of me. We explore the kind of love that isn't often celebrated, the magic hidden within ordinary moments, and how constantly chasing more can sometimes disconnect us from the abundance that's already here. I also share the beautiful download I received for my newest passion project, The Village | Mama & Child Connection Retreats — a heart-led offering inspired by the connection, presence, play, and community that Mila and I experienced together. This conversation is an invitation to soften, slow down, and remember that perhaps the life you've been longing for is already here, waiting for you to notice it. Follow along: Instagram: @davvyxx Instagram: @thevillageconnectionretreats

    25 min

  4. 6 May

    ✨Manifestation Special ✨ How Your Emotional State Is Secretly Creating Your Reality

    In this Manifestation Special episode, Davina dives deep into the emotional and energetic side of manifestation and the “secret weapon” most people completely overlook when trying to call in more love, money, success, opportunities, confidence, and aligned relationships. This episode explores how your nervous system, emotional state, thoughts, and energetic patterns shape the reality you continue to experience and why manifestation is about so much more than vision boards and positive thinking. Inside this conversation, Davina shares: • Why your emotions are actually a built in alignment GPS • How your emotional state impacts what you attract into your life • The connection between embodiment, nervous system safety, and manifestation • Why your body must feel safe to receive the things you desire • How your thoughts and attention influence your energetic reality • The difference between manifesting from alignment vs anxiety • Why “the better it gets, the better it gets” • The role of self awareness in shifting emotional and energetic patterns • How to begin creating new neural pathways through intentional focus and embodied awareness • Why pleasure, aliveness, and emotional honesty matter in manifestation work This is a grounded, candid, and deeply expansive conversation for anyone wanting to better understand the relationship between their inner world and the reality they are creating around them. If you’ve been feeling stuck in cycles of stress, fear, overthinking, or emotional overwhelm while trying to “manifest” a different life… this episode will completely shift the way you view the process. Instagram: @davvyxx

    22 min

  5. 9 Apr

    From Anxious to Securely Attached: How I Learned to Feel Safe & Soften Into New Love 🌹

    In this episode, I share my journey from anxious attachment to becoming securely attached, and how that has completely changed the way I experience love. After years of doing the inner work, spending time alone, and learning how to truly meet myself, I have stepped back into dating in a very different way. What has surprised me the most is not just the connection I have created, but who I am within it. This episode is a raw and embodied reflection on what it feels like to feel safe in love, stay grounded in your body, communicate your needs clearly, and soften into a relationship without losing yourself. I also share the key shifts that supported me in moving from anxious to secure, and why this kind of love feels so different to anything I have experienced before. IN THIS EPISODEMy journey from anxious attachment to secureWhat it feels like to be securely attachedThe nervous system shift that allows you to feel safe in loveHow I stopped abandoning myself in relationshipsThe 5 lessons that made dating feel calmer and more alignedWhy softness comes from safetyHow doing the work alone changed everything If you are in a season of doing the work or learning to come home to yourself, this episode is for you In this episode, I share my journey from anxious attachment to becoming securely attached, and how that has completely changed the way I experience love. After years of doing the inner work, spending time alone, and learning how to truly meet myself, I have stepped back into dating in a very different way. What has surprised me the most is not just the connection I have created, but who I am within it. This episode is a raw and embodied reflection on what it feels like to feel safe in love, stay grounded in your body, communicate your needs clearly, and soften into a relationship without losing yourself. I also share the key shifts that supported me in moving from anxious to secure, and why this kind of love feels so different to anything I have experienced before. ✨ IN THIS EPISODEMy journey from anxious attachment to secureWhat it feels like to be securely attachedThe nervous system shift that allows you to feel safe in loveHow I stopped abandoning myself in relationshipsThe 5 lessons that made dating feel calmer and more alignedWhy softness comes from safetyHow doing the work alone changed everythingIf you are in a season of doing the work or learning to come home to yourself, this episode is for you. Instagram @davvyxx www.theupgradebydavina.com

    36 min

  6. 5 Mar

    Juicy Permission Slips: Boundaries in Dating, Leaving Friendships & Curating Your Social Media

    In this episode, I’m sharing some of the most powerful permission slips I’ve learned as an embodiment coach. So many people stay stuck in situations that drain them because they feel guilty leaving, speaking up, or changing. But growth often requires us to make decisions that other people might not understand. We talk about: • Why your social media should be a space that supports your wellbeing • The truth about “cringe” and why you should still post the content • How to recognise when friendships are no longer aligned • Boundaries in dating and noticing what someone brings out in you • The difference between relationships that activate your inner child vs your caretaker • Why you are allowed to leave jobs, relationships, or environments that no longer feel right • The power of reinventing yourself at any moment This episode is your reminder that you don’t need approval to live a life that feels authentic. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is give yourself permission. https://www.theupgradebydavina.com/

    25 min

  7. 8 Feb ·  Bonus

    Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body: The Missing Piece of Healing

    In this deeply embodied and expansive episode of The Upgrade Edit, I’m in conversation with my beautiful friend Hilary as she guides me through my own personal journey of healing, embodiment and energetic sovereignty - moving beyond mindset work and into the body, the womb and the nervous system. Together, Hilary and I explore what real self-healing actually looks like when we stop living life as a “floating head” and start listening to the intelligence of the body. I share openly about my journey from anxiety, suppression and disconnection into deeper embodiment and self-trust. We talk about how emotions live in the body, why suppressing feelings keeps us stuck, and how learning to sit with sensation — rather than avoiding it — becomes one of the most liberating practices a woman can access. We dive into somatic processing, generational healing, throat and womb energy, and why healing isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about remembering who you were before conditioning taught you to disconnect. This conversation is raw, honest and deeply activating. It’s for women who are tired of intellectualising their healing and are ready to feel, move and embody their life force. In this episode, Hilary and I explore: Why so many of us live disconnected from our bodiesHow anxiety, grief and emotion want to move through the nervous systemWhat happens when you stop distracting yourself and choose to sit in sensationThe link between the throat, the womb and suppressed truthHow somatic processing prevents trauma from being stored in the bodySelf-forgiveness and compassion for past versions of yourselfWhy healing doesn’t need to make sense to be effectiveThe power of pleasure, receiving and nervous system safetyHow embodiment changes relationships, work and self-worthWhy investing in yourself ripples out to heal generationsThe difference between forcing growth and allowing expansionHow following intuition creates unshakeable inner stability This episode is a reminder that your body is not the problem — it’s the portal. Healing doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from feeling more, trusting more and allowing energy to move. If you’ve ever felt afraid of your emotions, disconnected from your power, or unsure how to truly come home to yourself, this conversation is for yo

    55 min

  8. 4 Feb

    The 2026 Upgrade: Celibacy Szn Is Over (But the Work Is Just Beginning)

    The Upgrade Edit is back for 2026 baby, and celibacy szn is officially over! But the real work? That’s just getting started. In this episode, I’m sharing a real-life update on stepping back into dating after close to three years of celibacy, what this re-entry is teaching me about myself, my patterns, and the way my nervous system shows up in connection. We talk about why nervous system regulation is non-negotiable in this season, how growth work actually gets tested in real relationships, and what it means to integrate the healing — not just intellectualise it. I also share what’s coming up for 2026, including: The retreats I’m hosting this yearHeading back to the Amazon for my first co-branded retreat with Arkana Spiritual CentreMy word for 2026 and what I’m consciously calling inHow you can bring more intention and awareness into your year too This episode is for anyone re-entering the dating world, integrating deep personal work into real life, or intentionally upgrading how they move through relationships and the year ahead. Press play if you’re ready to meet 2026 with more presence, regulation, and next-level self-awareness. Chapters 00:00 The Return and Reflection05:22 Reentering the Dating World13:42 Embodying Power and Authenticity21:38 Emotional Processing and Resilience30:00 Future Plans and Connection

    27 min
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Hosted by Davina Rankin, an embodiment coach, energetic healer, author and mama, The Upgrade Edit is a curated collection of potent conversations with thought leaders, healers, and visionaries. It’s a space for those who are ready to elevate their lives and expand their perspective - through soulful, grounded dialogues that blend spiritual insight, lived wisdom, and actionable steps. Whether you’re on a journey of self-discovery, seeking to unlock your inner power, or simply curious about new ways to upgrade your mind and life, The Upgrade Edit offers real conversations to help you step into your next level.

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  • Creator
    Davina Rankin
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    167
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Davina Rankin
  • Show Website
    The Upgrade Edit

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