Real Men Feel: Men's Mental Health, Masculinity and Personal Growth

Andy Grant | Men's Coach, Author and Speaker
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Real Men Feel is an award-winning podcast about men's mental health, modern masculinity, and personal growth. Host Andy Grant goes beyond outdated rules of manhood with honest conversations about emotions, relationships, confidence, vulnerability, purpose, healing, spirituality, and becoming more fully yourself. For men who want more connection, self-awareness, and joy—and anyone who cares about them. Real conversations since 2016. Join the Authentic AF community at https://realmenfeel.org/group

  1. 1d ago

     Eight Qualities That Make Men Less Effective

    Divine Masculinity: Eight Choices That Make Men Less Effective Host Andy Grant of Real Men Feel explores “divine masculinity” through a Hermetic framework from his Modern Mystery School training, emphasizing an ideal 70/30 masculine-feminine energy mix for men and judging effectiveness by results. He outlines eight choices that make men less effective: choosing emotions over action, sensitivity over honesty, avoidance over strengthening, easy over honorable, drama over substance, vacillation over commitment, fear over bravery, and giving away decision-making. Using examples from Avengers: Endgame, Everybody Loves Raymond, The Lion King, The Matrix, The Good Place, Saving Private Ryan, and Back to the Future, he distinguishes healthy emotional expression from paralysis, kindness from dishonesty, and collaboration from abdication. Grant warns that men’s ineffectiveness can force partners to overcompensate, and he urges listeners to pick one pattern, take a concrete action, and seek support through coaching or his Authentic AF men’s community. 00:00 Action Over Emotion01:14 Divine Masculinity Framework03:44 Emotions Into Action06:44 Sensitivity Versus Honesty10:07 Avoidance Versus Strength11:50 Easy Versus Honorable13:45 Drama Versus Substance15:33 Vacillation Versus Commitment17:04 Fear Into Bravery20:39 Own Your Decisions23:42 Relationships And Balance26:27 Choose One Pattern27:09 Community And Closing CONNECT WITH ANDY:Book a Clarity Call: https://TheAndyGrant.com/alignJoin us in Authentic AF: https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. #RealMenFeel #EffectiveMen #Success #Authenticity #Masculinitity Real Men Feel ep 427

     Eight Qualities That Make Men Less Effective

  2. Oct 30

    Psychedelics, Spirituality, and the Inner Journey

    Ordinary Mystics: Psychedelics, Faith, and Bringing Spiritual Insight into Daily Life Host Andy Grant welcomes back author and educator Matt Zemon to discuss Zemon’s book Ordinary Mystics: Psychedelics, Faith, and the Reclaiming of Direct Spiritual Experience and the idea that anyone can have mystical experiences, with or without substances. Zemon explains psychedelics as catalysts rather than cures, shares how career-driven providing left him lonely, and recounts a mushroom “worm food” vision that dissolved credentials and revealed regret, love, and the need for everyday gratitude and connection. They discuss Andy’s life-changing, substance-free mystical experiences through holotropic breathwork, the importance of discernment and integration, and how community support helps turn peak experiences into a “religious life.” Zemon addresses concerns about legalization, medicalization, and “experience chasing,” outlines source-set-setting risk reduction, engages religious objections, and advocates clearer legal protections for sincere ceremonial use. 00:00 Feeling Disconnected00:32 Meet Matt Zemon02:07 Ordinary Mystics Defined04:22 Workaholism and Avoidance06:55 Worm Food Ego Death09:48 Breathwork Without Drugs12:26 Many Paths to Mysticism15:49 Legalization and Harm Reduction18:29 Ceremony Versus Party Trips20:39 Faith Objections and Discernment24:07 Experience Chasing and Integration33:45 Policy and Religious Freedom36:03 Resources and Final Reflections39:18 Closing Takeaways CONNECT WITH MATT:Matt Zemon — https://www.mattzemon.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattzemon/“Ordinary Mystic” on Amazon — https://link.amazon/B0aIDMctB CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Psychedelics #Mushrooms #Divine Real Men Feel ep 426

    Psychedelics, Spirituality, and the Inner Journey

  3. Oct 23

    Permission to Feel: Grief, Shame, and Self-Discovery

    Connect with men who actually get it:https://realmenfeel.org/group What Am I Trying Not to Feel? Grief, Shame, and Letting Yourself Express Host Andy Grant shares a personal example of emotional avoidance after the death of his longtime friend Steve, whom he’d known since high school and supported with energy work during a 10-month cancer battle. After catching himself repeatedly eating dessert straight from the fridge despite not being hungry, he asks, “What am I trying not to feel?” and discovers grief and shame, including a fear that he hadn’t done enough and had let Steve down. Andy journals, cries, and records a video to normalize men expressing sadness, shame, love, and gratitude rather than stuffing feelings into distractions like food, booze, or porn. He reflects that expressing emotions helped him feel better that day, encourages listeners to get curious, reach out for support, and invites men to join his Authentic AF community. 00:00 Dessert Distraction Moment00:32 Loss Of Steve01:11 Shame Question Breakthrough01:50 Journaling And Sharing02:49 Grief Video Begins04:48 Healing Work With Steve06:51 Regret And Letdown Fear08:53 Support After Sharing10:11 How To Express Grief11:33 Questions For Your Own Healing12:15 Gratitude And Invitation13:06 Closing Goodbye CONNECT WITH ANDY:Book a Clarity Call: https://TheAndyGrant.com/alignJoin us in Authentic AF: https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. #RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Success #Authenticity #ChasingStatus Real Men Feel ep 425

    Permission to Feel: Grief, Shame, and Self-Discovery

  4. Oct 16

    Breaking The Silence of Depression and Discovering Purpose

    Neil Smith on Purpose, Men’s Communication, and the Mettle Mental Fitness App 🔥 Connect with other men who actually get it in Authentic AF:⁠https://realmenfeel.org/group⁠ Host Andy Grant interviews TV executive Neil Smith (The Apprentice, Grand Designs) about achieving outward success yet feeling empty, leading him to leave television and pursue purpose-driven work in men’s mental health. Neil shares hiding depression in his 20s for nearly a decade, the shame and fear of vulnerability, and a failed attempt to seek help after a dismissive doctor interaction. He argues the male mental health crisis is largely a communication crisis and that telling men to “talk” isn’t enough; support must meet men where they are. Neil co-founded the men-focused mental fitness app Mettle with Bear Grylls to reduce stigma and friction through outcome-based tools and optional community, citing a user’s recovery from suicidality to renewed family and work life. 00:00 Career Peak Question00:53 TV Success Story04:12 Second Mountain Awakening06:21 Meditation And Purpose09:56 Hidden Depression Years12:57 Shame And Asking Help17:17 Tribe And Male Connection19:40 WhatsApp Banter Trap22:22 Building Mettle App26:57 Bear Grylls Partnership27:45 Beyond Help To Hope31:07 Service And Grandfather33:12 How To Find Mettle33:42 Final Takeaway Tribe34:32 Host Closing Reflection CONNECT WITH NEIL & METTLE:Mettle — https://bemettle.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/be.mettleLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/neil-s-smith/ CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Success #Authenticity #ChasingStatus Real Men Feel ep 424

    Breaking The Silence of Depression and Discovering Purpose

  5. Oct 9

    The Hidden Costs of Chasing Status: Unmasking Success with Ryan Vertucci

    Connect with other men who actually get in Authentic AF:https://realmenfeel.org/group Quit the Game: Ryan Vertucci on Success, Validation, and Becoming an Aligned Man Host Andy Grant interviews entrepreneur and author Ryan Vertucci about the hidden cost of chasing money, status, and sexual validation. Ryan recounts feeling trapped in a Walgreens management job, launching a property management franchise, and later “optimizing” himself through fitness, image, social media, and pickup programs, only to remain empty despite wealth, friends, and dating options. MDMA-assisted therapy surfaced childhood wounds tied to his grandmother’s death, his mother’s anger, and a core belief that love must be earned; it also exposed that his girlfriend and best friend had been sleeping together while many friends enabled it. Ryan describes “sexual jail,” lust, pornography, and transactional party culture, then shares how therapy and an impulsive trip to Italy led him back to church and faith in Christ, prompting a shift toward genuine community, purpose, and internal grounding. 00:00 Chasing the Wrong Game00:32 Meet Ryan Vertucci01:17 Stuck in Corporate Life04:55 Betting on a Franchise07:25 Success Still Feels Empty08:26 The Pickup and Party Spiral11:00 MDMA Therapy Revelation13:51 Childhood Wound Exposed16:20 Sexual Jail and Lust18:05 Just Another Rich Guy28:54 Quitting the Nightlife31:44 Italy Trip and Vatican35:20 Tomb of St Matthew37:43 Careful with Spiritual Realms41:07 Book and Coaching Links42:01 What Men Need to Know44:02 Final Takeaways and Community CONNECT WITH RYANRyan Vertucci — https://quitthegame.com/Quit The Game book — https://amzn.to/3WhgzNzInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/alignedmanmethod/ CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Success #Authenticity #ChasingStatus Real Men Feel ep 423

    The Hidden Costs of Chasing Status: Unmasking Success with Ryan Vertucci

  6. Oct 2

    The Two Deaths of an Athlete and the Road to Self-Discovery

    Connect with other men who actually get it. Join Authentic AF:https://realmenfeel.org/group Eddie Christian on Losing the Jersey: Identity, Mentorship, and Life After Pro Baseball Andy Grant interviews Eddie Christian, who grew up identifying as an athlete, was first drafted at 16, and spent nine years in professional baseball in the Marlins, Angels, and Mariners organizations before moving into leading customer experience teams. Eddie describes how performance and “a number next to your name” shaped his worth from early childhood, the cutthroat reality of the minors, and coping alone after bad games. When baseball ended around age 29–30, he felt lost, avoided the sport, and said it took six or seven years for the loss to sink in as corporate life “wasn’t the clubhouse.” He discusses feeling like “nothing,” the idea that athletes “die two deaths,” and how mentors—especially veteran players and older professionals—helped him evolve. Eddie now focuses outward on mentoring and service, and he and Andy highlight men’s mental health support through The Real and the Authentic AF community. 00:00 When Identity Ends00:48 Confidence Through Sports01:41 Drafted at Sixteen02:51 Numbers and Self-Worth03:26 Alone After Failure05:21 No Help in Clubhouse06:04 Career Cut and Reality07:11 Lost Without Baseball09:02 Nothingness and Grief11:42 Office Not Clubhouse14:46 Corporate Slumps Too15:56 Leadership From Baseball17:22 Mentors Who Changed Him19:20 Mexico Bar Breakthrough22:02 Mentoring the Hungry24:04 Men Need Safe Spaces25:27 Service Over Self26:31 How to Connect26:56 Final Message and Wrap CONNECT WITH EDDIEEddie Christian — https://www.eddiechristian.com/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/eddie-christian/ CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth Real Men Feel ep 422

    The Two Deaths of an Athlete and the Road to Self-Discovery

  7. Sep 25

    Breaking the Superman Complex: Vulnerability and Success

    🔥 Want deeper conversations like this with men who actually get it? Join Authentic AF:https://realmenfeel.org/group Taking Off the Superman Costume: Jasper Calcara on Vulnerability and the Structure of Excellence Host Andy Grant introduces Real Men Feel and invites successful-but-stuck men to book a free clarity call. He interviews structural engineer and entrepreneur Jasper Calcara, who describes a lifelong “Superman complex” rooted in childhood anxiety and lack of self-worth, masked by decades of professional success. After the sudden death of his business partner, mounting pressure, and the end of his marriage, Jasper hit rock bottom and began healing by acknowledging his “internal cracks,” seeking the right support, and embracing vulnerability. He shares engineering frameworks—temporary supports and maintenance—to explain personal growth, including “be good, do good, evolve,” his definition of excellence as sustained high performance for the right reasons, and a GPS goal model (goal, process, skills). They discuss why men delay getting help, the difference between rescuing and empowering, and the importance of safe communities. Andy closes by promoting his men’s group and reminding listeners that feelings are information. 00:00 Welcome and Clarity Call00:26 Meet Jasper and Themes01:18 Superman Complex Origins03:05 Success Without Peace05:26 Why Men Hit Rock Bottom06:51 Collapse and Choosing Healing08:37 Be Good Do Good Evolve10:45 Engineering Metaphor for Support13:21 Vulnerability and Safe Spaces14:39 Rescuing vs Coaching17:11 Structure of Stability19:12 First Steps to Drop the Cape24:24 Excellence and Goal Frameworks28:16 Asking for Help and Connection30:20 Where to Find Jasper31:58 Final Takeaways and Community CONNECT WITH JASPERJasper Calcara — https://jaspercalcara.com/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@JasperCalcara26Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jaspercalcara CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant ABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant. Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group #RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth Real Men Feel ep 421

    Breaking the Superman Complex: Vulnerability and Success

  8. Sep 4

    Breaking the 'I'm Fine' Mask: From Vulnerability to Purpose

    Be more you in Authentic AF. Visit https://www.skool.com/authenticaf/about Andy Grant on Real Men Feel: Vulnerability, Values, and Coming Home to Yourself Andy Grant, host of Real Men Feel, makes a guest appearance on The Richard Taliaferro Podcast to discuss masculinity, vulnerability, and authenticity, including why many men hide behind “I’m fine,” why sensitivity is often treated as a slur, and how fear of hurt and rejection drives disconnection and addiction. Andy recounts surviving multiple suicide attempts and depression, a pivotal spiritual moment that led him to seek help, and how his coaching draws from what saved his life. He contrasts performative support with real support, emphasizes unlearning “man box” conditioning, and recommends simple practices—gratitude journaling, brief meditation via breathing, and mirror work—to rebuild self-connection. Andy highlights the importance of identifying personal values (moving from safety rooted in fear to freedom, love, and joy), encourages safe failure to reduce fear, reminds men that they are more than roles, invites them to the free Authentic AF community, and announces a two-week break, with a return on September 25th. 00:00 Welcome and Setup01:09 Guest Intro and Background02:24 Suicide Survival Turning Point04:14 Reclaiming Sensitivity06:38 Unlearning the Man Box09:06 External Success vs Inner Truth12:10 Masks and I'm Fine15:08 Simple Practices to Reconnect16:47 Permission to Feel18:24 Modern Mystery School Path18:48 Know Thyself Beyond Labels19:43 Breaking Old Thought Ruts20:29 Real vs Performative Support22:23 Why Vulnerability Feels Unsafe24:57 Fear of Rejection and Addiction25:38 Practicing Failure on Purpose29:04 Values Over Resume Success31:34 Put Yourself First to Serve32:45 Three Tools to Come Home35:13 You Matter and Final Sendoff Connect with RichardRichard Taliaferro — https://www.richardtaliaferro.com/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtaliaferro/Richard Taliaferro Podcast — https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/the-richard-taliaferro-podcast/id1745735069 Connect with Andy:Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | https://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 420

    Breaking the 'I'm Fine' Mask: From Vulnerability to Purpose
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Real Men Feel is an award-winning podcast about men's mental health, modern masculinity, and personal growth. Host Andy Grant goes beyond outdated rules of manhood with honest conversations about emotions, relationships, confidence, vulnerability, purpose, healing, spirituality, and becoming more fully yourself. For men who want more connection, self-awareness, and joy—and anyone who cares about them. Real conversations since 2016. Join the Authentic AF community at https://realmenfeel.org/group

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