There was a lot of talk about the “Cornell 7” incident. And I consumed none of it. But I did get an AI summary. The events don’t concern me. But the discourse does. Because the political debate revealed a lot about how little people understand about the darker parts of human nature… Politics is downstream from Culture. Culture is downstream from Nature. Regardless of what actually happened at Cornell, it’s a clear example of dissociated sexual instincts. Within every man and woman are evolutionary programs that determine motivation, arousal, pleasure, emotions when it comes to sex. Many of these things don’t fit the common moral frameworks, so they get suppressed. And when suppressed they act in undesirable ways. Some call these traits the Dark Masculine and Dark Feminine. I’m calling them the Raider and the Concubine in reference to their evolutionary roots. The video above is my in depth breakdown of the male and female sexual darksides. (I don’t speak directly about the Cornell thing, but use it as an example—I’m too disconnected to catch news cycles anyway.) Below is the text version (10min read). Friend Zone and Booty Calls Before any theory, here’s a modern dating matrix you can probably relate to: Male sexual instincts put women in two categories: * Marryable * Not marryable Female sexual instincts put men in two categories: * Fuckable * Not Both dichotomies are based on the gender’s scarce resources a la Bateman’s Principle… Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive. Men guard their hearts because falling in love (and committing money, time, emotional energy) to the wrong woman could ruin him. Just as women (historically) guarded their wombs because having a weak man’s child meant weak children, which in ancient times meant death. So deep beneath our conscious judgements are pre-moral “dark” programs for disqualifying the opposite sex from getting our scarce resource. And to these ruthless “dark” programs, anyone not worthy of our scarce resource becomes a non-person, at least to our sexual instincts. Meaning, they don’t get our empathy. At least not from our primal unconscious that determines our deepest feelings. A moral person may still feel sympathy. But our dog brain doesn’t really care. For most people, even moral people, these impulses are suppressed. They are considered shameful and therefore dissociated from. it is a fact that one’s unconscious personality components, the anima, animus, and shadow, or one’s inferior functions are always those that the world finds offensive and that are therefore repressed again and again. ~Emma Jung When something is dissociated, it is falsely detached from the conscious personality. So it may never show in “normal” social life. But instead finds its expression in alternate environments where social constraints are reduced—Party environments, night clubs, frat houses… In these environments, dissociated archetypes run unchecked. It’s like letting the caged beast out the backdoor. It’s inevitable they cause harm, whether or not there is any malicious intent. The first defense against the bad stuff is understanding our darker natures. And it’s the only way to enjoy the good stuff, too. The Raider (Dark Masculine) For a pre-civilization adolescent male in most places and times in history, one of the main ways to make his mark was by raiding other peoples. Raping and pillaging. Both involve taking away fertility—that of wombs, and that of the soil. This means increasing the survival and replication ability of your group at the expense of the other (non-persons). Defeating of opposing men and taking their women is therefore seen throughout history and mythology. This is the Dark Masculine’s motivation in a nutshell: To defeat competition and maximize spreading of genes. Survival & Replication-maxxing. Status-seeking. It’s why men are interested in sports, making money, and objectifying women (at times). It’s the part of masculinity that is most dangerous; literal sex and violence. It’s part of the Human Mating Ritual. Jungian analyst Marie Louise von Franz says this is an important part of male psychological development. In order to separate from the Mother image, a young man needs to go to a place (literal or figurative) where his mother can’t go. This means all male spaces where the darker male impulses for sex and violence can breathe. In von Franz’s eyes, men who skip this phase remain in boy psychology. Their conscious personality may be stunted. Or at the very least, he’ll have a hard time connecting with women. While their dissociated instincts may come out in extreme pathological forms. Von Franz said the Madonna-Whore Complex—the inability to feel sex and love for the same woman—is a version of this. So is a pre-occupation with promiscuity and violence. (Which to modern guys often shows porn and video game addiction.) Hence men unconsciously seek a “warband” in adolescence—sports teams (viz: “locker room talk”), gangs, college fraternities, or simply a group of “bros” with whom they can let testosterone breathe. Many ancient cultures had these built in as rites of passage where young men could embrace the darkside in a controlled environment guided by elders. This would also teach him when and how to exercise restraint. Many modern customs are unconscious attempts at such ritual. (i.e. getting wasted with strippers at a bachelor party.) Overall, modern culture suppresses the Raider. Hence the Right/redpill/manosphere focuses on reviving it, often with overcompensation. And the Left/feminists shame it, which perpetuates the dissociation. When I coach a man who often ends up in the Friend Zone, we focus on integrating the Dark Masculine impulses. Once integrated, those impulses can work for him instead of against him. And not surprisingly, it’s exactly what the Dark Feminine is drawn to… The Concubine (Dark Feminine) Say you’re a pre-civilization woman on the receiving end of a warband’s raid. Your male kin were defeated. You’ve been taken as captive. The nice young man to whom you were betrothed was slain in battle. As distraught as you may be, two things are true: * You will likely be impregnated by a more powerful man. * Your best bet for survival & well-being, and that of your offspring, is to get that man to love you. These two uncomfortable truths are the root of Dark Feminine desires and behavior. #1 relates to Sexy Son Hypothesis— That female mate selection is determined by traits most likely to lead to a son who not only survives, but also has lots of mating opportunities. While your dead fiancé may have been a better partner in most ways, he would have given you a nice son who would always be at risk of being snuffed out by a raider. The raider, for his vices, will give you a raider son who is more likely on the winning side of such exchanges, and therefore will produce more grandchildren. Relatably, this is why women are attracted to status, even sometimes at the expense of “nicer” qualities. #2 is the War Bride Effect related to Stockholm Syndrome—falling in love/identifying with a captor. Or relatably, why a woman can be drawn to man who doesn’t treat her well. The guy who can make her feel things, even negative things, can trigger this evolutionary program. Even if it’s against her best interests. I call this aspect of femininity the Concubine, because unlike other aspects such as the Mother (nurturer) and Queen (co-creator), it’s more like the Raider in that it has one primary motive: To be impregnated by the highest status male. This motive elicits why young women may throw themselves at rockstars who will never commit (Groupie Effect), Redpill propaganda’s hypergamy, and why a woman who would never let a man talk down to her will go full ratchet at the club to the most explicitly misogynistic hip hop lyrics. It’s part of the Human Mating Ritual. It’s also why submissiveness is so deeply correlated with female arousal: There is an evolutionary program that associates the being taken with high status sperm. It’s also the core of why unfortunate things like Cornell happen. And why people just don’t get it… Fawning and the Vicious Cycle When a woman meets a man she finds him attractive and feels safe around him, her voice will become higher pitched. Some women will take a more submissive posture. Most will become more girly and youthful, regardless of her age. In some cases, it may be intentional (to charm him). But most of the time it’s completely automated. She can’t help it. It’s part of the Human Mating Ritual. If she then puts her arm around his biceps as to communicate, “I trust you. Lead me”, and he finds her reasonably cute, he will feel more manly. His voice may even become deeper. This is an ideal scenario. It has the best chance to lead to the top left quadrant scenario. (He sees her as marryable; She sees him as fuckable.) Each sexual archetype triggers it’s reciprocal. Our unconscious programs often activate and get activated by others’ unconscious programs. In other words, when we embody a certain mode of behavior, it “tells” the other person what mode they should embody to relate with us. This is why when I coach a guy to embody the Dark Masculine, it keeps him out of the Friend Zone. If he behaves as a sexual being, she will see him as such. But that doesn’t mean she will want him. Actually being attractive has other components. Reciprocal triggering can happen even in nonconsensual scenarios. Like, say, a frat house… the anima and animus mutually constellate each other, since an anima manifestation comes calls forth the animus, and vice versa, produce a vicious circle that is very difficult to break, forming one of the worst complications in the relations between men and women. ~Emma Jung For women, activation of their dark feminine involves fawning. The
