Real Recovery Talk

Tom Conrad, Ben Bueno, Dr. Pamela Tambini
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We are a podcast dedicated to sobriety and recovery from alcohol and drugs. (And whatever other addiction that is out there) It doesn't matter what you have been through in the past. We have all done very bad things in our addiction. This does not define who we are. We know there is a way out of addiction. Family and loved ones, you play a part in this as well. There are plenty of stories out there of families and loved ones not knowing what to do with their addicted loved one. Let us guide you on the right things to do and the right decisions to make to ensure that you and your loved one gets the help that you need.

  1. 3D AGO

    596: My Husband Drinks Too Much (What To Do When They Finally Admit It)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBCLASS! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page Is your husband's alcoholism affecting your family? You're not alone — and you're not overreacting. In this video I'm going to give you three things: clarity on what you're actually dealing with, a real strategy based on who your husband is, and permission to start taking care of yourself. We cover the difference between problem drinking and alcohol use disorder, the 11 clinical signs from the DSM-5 in plain language, what actually works when talking to your husband (and what makes things worse), and how to protect yourself and your kids regardless of what he decides to do.  Whether you just started noticing something is wrong or you've been living this for years — this video is for you. 🔗 Join our Family Reconnect Program: https://familyreconnectprogram.com/family-reconnect 📅 Free Family Webinar — Every Monday at 6:30PM Eastern: https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page 📞 SAMHSA National Helpline (free, 24/7): 1-800-662-4357 Don't miss our FREE WEBINAR to learn more about patient care and avoiding common mistakes families make. https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page Want continued support/guidence for you and your loved one? Consider joining our FAMILY RECONNECT FAMILY! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/family-reconnect

    22 min

  2. FEB 26

    595: The Real Reason Your Loved One Keeps Making Excuses (And What To Do)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBCLASS! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page Don't miss our FREE WEBINAR to learn more about patient care and avoiding common mistakes families make. https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page Want continued support/guidence for you and your loved one? Consider joining our FAMILY RECONNECT FAMILY! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/family-reconnect

    49 min

  3. FEB 18

    594: Treatment Starts Before They Walk Into Rehab (5 Step Framework)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBCLASS! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page If your loved one agrees to seek help for their addiction, do you have a plan ready? This video addresses the critical need for families to be prepared for those moments when a loved one is ready for addiction recovery. With over 15 years in recovery, I explain how to build an effective plan for drug addiction so you can act immediately. Don't miss our FREE WEBINAR to learn more about patient care and avoiding common mistakes families make. https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page Want continued support/guidence for you and your loved one? Consider joining our FAMILY RECONNECT FAMILY! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/family-reconnect 0:00 - Introduction — Are You Ready? 0:52 - Why You Need a Plan 1:19 - How Addiction Works Against You 2:16 - Step 1: Research Treatment Centers 4:00 - Step 2: Understand the Logistics 6:17 - Step 3: Build Your Support Team 8:14 - Workshop Invite 8:47 - Step 4: Understand Your Finances 13:22 - Step 5: Mentally Prepare for the Conversation 15:27 - Recap & Final Workshop Tom IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalktom/ Ben IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkben/ RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/

    16 min

  4. FEB 11

    593: Why Addicts Get Angry When You Try to Help (The Real Reason)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEB CLASS! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page    If your loved one explodes in anger every time you try to help them with their addiction, this video will change how you understand what's really happening. After 15 years of sobriety, I can finally explain what was going through my head when I raged at the people trying to save my life. Their anger isn't about you - it's about shame, fear, and survival. Once you understand this, everything changes about how you approach them.   In this video, I break down: Why your offer of help triggers their rage (the shame bomb) What they're actually protecting when they push you away The real translation of "leave me alone" and "you don't understand" Specific phrases that work better than "you need help" How to stay present without enabling The person you love is still in there. Your job isn't to make them ready - it's to be there when they are. 0:00 - Why they attack when you offer help 0:45 - The shame trigger 3:30 - You're threatening their survival tool 6:00 - Anger keeps you away 8:30 - What they're really saying 10:30 - What actually works 13:00 - Final message for families     Consider our FAMILY RECONNECT PROGRAM! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/family-reconnect Tom IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalktom/ Ben IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkben/ RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/

    12 min

  5. FEB 4

    592: 4 Things That Will Destroy Their Recovery (Don't Say These)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEB CLASS! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page If someone you love is struggling with alcohol and drugs, the words you choose matter more than you think. In this video, I break down the 4 phrases that push addicts deeper into their addiction — and what you should say instead. These are the exact things my dad said to me when I was using, and I'll show you why they don't work and how to communicate in a way that actually moves the needle toward recovery. 0:00 Intro: Words That Push Addicts Away  1:15 Phrase #1: "If you loved us, you would quit" 3:45 Why conditional love destroys trust 5:20 What to say instead of questioning their love 6:30 Free Monday Workshop (Register Now) 8:10 Phrase #2: "You're weak - why can't you stop?" 11:40 Why willpower isn't the answer 13:25 What to say instead of calling them weak 15:50 Phrase #3: Bargaining - "If you do this, I'll do this" 18:30 Why rewards backfire in recovery 20:15 What to say instead of negotiating 22:40 Phrase #4: "I don't care anymore" 25:10 Why detachment works but verbalizing doesn't 27:00 What to say when you're at your breaking point 29:30 Final thoughts: Being strategic with your words 31:45 How to get support for your situation Join my free Monday workshop: https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page 5 Mistakes Every Family Makes When Helping a Loved One with Addiction 📅 Every Monday at 6:30 PM ET Need more? Want continued support and guidence for your situation? Consider our FAMILY RECONNECT PROGRAM! https://familyreconnectprogram.com/family-reconnect Tom IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalktom/ Ben IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkben/ RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/

    22 min

  6. JAN 28

    591: STOP playing the VICTIM: Michael Wall

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR!  https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page Does your new sober life seem to be boring and mundane? Are you having a hard time finding purpose?  This is an episode that you dont want to miss! Join our Big Book Study! https://www.realrecoverytalk.com/bigbookstudy Tom IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalktom/ Ben IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkben/ RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/

    1h 9m

  7. JAN 21

    590: The 90-Day Sobriety Framework (THIS WILL WORK)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR!  https://familyreconnectprogram.com/optin-page What does it actually take to stay sober for the first 90 days? In this episode, we break down a simple, practical framework for alcoholics and drug addicts who want real stability — not just white-knuckling it. We also speak directly to families and loved ones, sharing clear benchmarks that help you tell the difference between real progress and empty promises. If you or someone you love is early in recovery, this episode gives you tangible actions you can start today and clarity on what healthy sobriety actually looks like. Join our Big Book Study! https://www.realrecoverytalk.com/bigbookstudy Tom IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalktom/ Ben IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkben/ RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/

    49 min

  8. JAN 14

    589: Why I Kept Relapsing on C***aine (Until I Finally Did This)

    Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! https://www.realrecoverytalk.com/webinar Join our SKOOL Group: https://www.skool.com/realrecoverytalk/about?ref=80971acc3d9f4e91bd9070fe6810e639 Join our Big Book Study! https://www.realrecoverytalk.com/bigbookstudy Tom IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalktom/ Ben IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkben/ RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/

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We are a podcast dedicated to sobriety and recovery from alcohol and drugs. (And whatever other addiction that is out there) It doesn't matter what you have been through in the past. We have all done very bad things in our addiction. This does not define who we are. We know there is a way out of addiction. Family and loved ones, you play a part in this as well. There are plenty of stories out there of families and loved ones not knowing what to do with their addicted loved one. Let us guide you on the right things to do and the right decisions to make to ensure that you and your loved one gets the help that you need.

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  • Creator
    Tom Conrad, Ben Bueno, Dr. Pamela Tambini
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    594
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Real Recovery Talk

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