Play It Brave Podcast

D'Arcy Benincosa
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The podcast for brave creatives who live in a world that wants you to play it safe. It's time to face facts: You are an indestructible woman fused with super powers that defy convention. Am I right? If so, then this podcast is for you! In Play It Brave, D'Arcy Benincosa dives in deep to her wit and wisdom to teach you about creative a life full of mindset, money, and marketing miracles! Let's get started!

  1. FEB 5

    The Infinite Ways to Photograph a Woman with Elizabeth Messina

    There are episodes that feel like a permission slip… and this one is exactly that. If you've ever thought, "I'm a wedding photographer," or "I'm a family photographer," or you've let a label quietly box you in—this conversation is for you. I'm bringing back my dear friend Elizabeth Messina to the podcast, and every time she's here, I'm reminded why her work has moved people for decades: she doesn't just take photos—she sees women. We talk about what it actually looks like to evolve across genres without losing your signature. How to stay curious even after years in the industry. And why the real "secret" behind her iconic imagery isn't a preset or a pose—it's connection, presence, and trust. Key Takeaways Trust your voice—your point of view matters, even when other styles inspire you. Stay curious forever; learning keeps your work (and you) alive. Sensitivity and empathy aren't "too much"—they're a creative advantage behind the camera. Your brand can be cohesive across genres when your eye is the through-line. Photograph women through seasons of life, not rigid categories like "weddings" or "maternity." Maternity work is powerful because it holds joy, vulnerability, and identity change at once. There are infinite ways to photograph pregnancy—go beyond the standard belly pose. Build trust through connection first; the image comes second. Offer possibility with "What if…?" instead of forcing a concept onto a client. Make the process the win—real connection matters even when you don't get the booking. Know your gear and workflow so the "technical math" doesn't interrupt your creativity. Stay engaged with your own work (even if you outsource) so you keep evolving as an artist. Trust is built in your communication long before the shoot—read what they asked and respond like a human. A sustainable career often comes from evolving alongside your clients over time. This episode is a love letter to the idea that you don't have to be "one thing" to be taken seriously. You can evolve. You can explore. You can shoot weddings and maternity and dark moody work and sun-drenched dreamy work—and still be unmistakably you. Elizabeth's work is proof that your artistry gets stronger the more you stay connected: to your camera, to your subjects, and to your own creative truth. And if you're feeling that tug to expand what you shoot—take this as your sign: you're allowed to grow. Meet Elizabeth Elizabeth Messina is a world renowned, award winning, celebrity photographer. She is a New York Times best selling author & a passionate teacher.. Elizabeth was named "one of the most influential photographers of our decade" by PDN.  Elizabeth has been capturing evocative photographs of women since she picked up a camera at the tender age of 12. Her images are a reflection of her heart. Elizabeth Messina is a visionary, her images tell stories of longing, solitude & the tangible beauty of the human experience. Although Elizabeth's photography takes her all over the world, her home is in Southern California, where she lives with her 3 children & 3 dogs. She continues to be a seeker of beautiful light, strong coffee & meaningful connections. Connect with Elizabeth Elizabeth's Photography Website Elizabeth's Arte of Maternity course The Arte Dept The Art Society Click here for more ways to listen to this episode.

    53 min

  2. JAN 22

    Building a Brand That Attracts the Right Opportunities with Gary & Kim Evans

    On today's episode of the Play It Brave podcast, I'm sitting down with one of my favorite creative power couples in the photography industry, Gary Evans and Kim Evans. We talk about what it really looks like to rebrand with intention, build a cohesive identity, and grow multiple businesses together without losing alignment—or your relationship—in the process. This conversation weaves together the emotional and practical sides of entrepreneurship: branding beyond logos, finding your voice in the education space, building an email list that actually converts, and creating offers like retreats that feel meaningful and expansive. We also dive into collaboration, working as a couple, and why asking for help can completely change the trajectory of your business. What we talk about in this episode: Why branding is foundational, not optional, when building a sustainable business How to create a cohesive identity that actually reflects who you are The role visual identity plays in client trust and perception Finding your unique voice in a crowded education space Using email lists and freebies as powerful (and aligned) growth tools Why retreats can be such a transformative offering for photographers The magic that happens when collaboration is rooted in alignment Working with your partner's strengths instead of against them Prioritizing family and relationships while growing a business Why reaching out for help can fast-track your growth in the best way This episode is a beautiful reminder that success doesn't have to be chaotic or lonely—and that when your brand truly reflects who you are, it can open doors you never even knew to knock on. Meet Gary & Kim Here's our story - we met, despite living in separate countries, by a complete twist of fate that led Gary to help a friend at the same wedding show where Kim had a booth. Gary scoped her out and said she's "right up my street" and 18 months later, after multiple flights, over 50,000 miles, Gary sold his photography company, house, and just about everything else and moved from the UK to Ontario, Canada. We had to completely rebuild his business in Canada, sold our decorating and floral design business, rejigged the photography, built Pop Up Weddings, a wedding subscription box, I Do Box.... When I say we're serious business builders, we're not lying. With every business move, we analyze + plan + move forward. We release what is not profitable and focus on the projects that are making bank. That's our story - we are serial creators.  And you get two for the price of one. We're a dynamic team, each with individual strengths that we can use to supercharge your business. Gary is a technical whiz, anything photography we got you. Kim is a marketing, systems and logistics queen. She'll figure out how to make it work, attack any issues like a pitbull and cheer you on while you reach your biggest goals. Connect with Gary & Kim Gary & Kim's website Gary & Kim's Instagram The off-camera flash freebie course The Tulum retreat + mood boards Gary's photography website Lovely Weddings Click here for more ways to listen to this episode.

    1h 6m

  3. JAN 8

    The Sales Call Mistakes Costing You Luxury Clients: Live Coaching with Jasmine Ortiz

    This week on the Play It Brave podcast, I'm doing something a little different — I'm bringing you behind the scenes for a real coaching session with one of my favorite photographers (and one of my trusted second shooters), Jasmine Ortiz. This episode is for every photographer who has ever thought: "I know my work is good… so why do I get weird and wobbly the second it's time to talk about pricing?" Because that moment — where you're ready to raise your rates, step into a higher tier of client, and be paid like the artist you actually are — requires more than updating a number on a proposal. It requires an identity shift. In this conversation, Jasmine shares what's been happening as she raises her prices: how her old sales call script worked at a lower price point, but suddenly feels stiff, robotic, and way too logistics-heavy for the clients she wants to book now. And from there, I walk her through the exact framework I teach inside my one-to-one coaching and masterminds — the same structure that's helped photographers go from booking $3–6K weddings to booking $8K, $10K, $20K, even $30K. Because at the luxury and intro-luxury level, clients aren't choosing you because you're "easygoing" and "go with the flow." They're choosing you because you feel like a leader. A director. An artist with presence, taste, and a clear process. And the best part? You can learn that. You can practice that. You can embody that. In this episode, we talk about: Why so many photographers unintentionally dilute their authority by trying to be the couple's "bestie" How luxury clients want warmth, yes — but they also want clarity, confidence, and precision The difference between "participating" in the call vs. leading the call How to ask better questions than "So what's your vision?" Why selling at a higher level means selling an experience and a feeling, not hours and deliverables How to keep the first call exciting (and not turn it into a timeline-planning meeting) What to say instead of "We can totally do whatever you want" (because… no. Not if you're positioning luxury) The 7 shifts I gave Jasmine (you can steal these too): Before we recorded, Jasmine sent me a transcript of a real sales call — and once I read it, I found seven immediate tweaks that would completely change her conversions at a higher price point. Here they are: Stop being overly casual. Warm is good. Too familiar is not. Luxury requires a calm, grounded presence. Don't let the couple dictate the call. They don't want to run the show — they want to hire someone who can. Step into the identity of the director. You're not auditioning to be chosen. You're guiding them through a curated experience. Remove all "wishy-washy" language. "Whatever you want!" is not elegance. Recommendations are. Mirror their exact words back to them. This is huge. If you don't repeat their emotional buying criteria, they won't feel seen. Hold the space as an expert guide. Don't match chaos. Don't match overwhelm. You hold the calm. Stay professional while still being warm. Approachable, yes. Chatty friend energy, no. If you're in the season of raising your rates, hear me when I say: you don't just raise your prices — you raise your presence. You shift your language. You shift your leadership. You shift your identity. Because luxury clients aren't buying your packages. They're buying you.

    50 min

  4. 12/11/2025

    Talking to Trees and Dealing with Depression: D'Arcy's 2025 Reflection

    Welcome to the final episode of 2025 — the year of the snake, the year of shedding skins that no longer fit. If this year felt like a raw unraveling, a call to deeper truth, a refusal from the Universe to let you live inside half-truths or "good enough," this episode is for you. As has become tradition, I invited one of my wisest, most grounded friends — Casey — to interview me about my year. She's someone who's seen my behind-the-scenes, the unglamorous parts, the sacred parts, the parts that never make it to Instagram. And because this was a year of immense change, grief, healing, and rebirth, I wanted this conversation to be real. We talk about everything: The breakup. The depression. The healing journey in Bali and India. The spiritual reconnection I didn't see coming. The beauty that still insisted on blooming. The nervous system work that saved my life. Talking to trees. (Yes… literally.) And the small, holy ways I remembered myself again. This episode is tender, unpolished, and human — and I'm sharing it because if you are walking through something dark, I want you to know you aren't alone, and your story doesn't end there. So wherever you are — whether you're on a mountaintop celebrating or inching your way out of darkness — you're not behind. You're not broken. You're simply learning the wisdom that your soul came here to learn. Beauty is already blooming for you. Let it in. Thank you for walking with me through this year. Thank you for your prayers, your messages, your presence. I can't wait for what we'll create together in 2026 — the year of movement, momentum, freedom, and joy. Stay brave. Stay tender. Stay open to beauty. Much love, D'Arcy Click here for more ways to listen to this episode.

    1h 33m

  5. 12/04/2025

    The Art of High-End Weddings with Dawn Weisberg of Tularosa Flowers

    In today's episode, I'm talking with my friend Dawn Weisberg of Tularosa Flowers about what it actually takes to create and book large-scale luxury weddings — not just from a "pretty" standpoint, but from a strategic, energetic, and logistical one. Dawn and I both came to the wedding industry later in life with long creative careers behind us — mine in directing and acting, hers in costume design for film and television. We get into how those backgrounds shaped the way we approach weddings as world-building: cinematic, intentional, immersive, and deeply rooted in storytelling. We talk about: How Dawn went from starting florals at 45 to designing six-figure weddings in under a decade Why she treats every wedding like a film set: thinking in scenes, movement, and guest experience The behind-the-scenes systems and logistics that make large-scale productions possible How her viral "Malibu Barbie meets Marie Antoinette" pink wedding came to life — and what made it blow up online The creative process of pulling inspiration from runway shows, architecture, art, travel, and above all, the couple themselves Why color is having a moment in the luxury world and how to use it in a way that still feels timeless and elevated The mindset shifts required to feel safe holding and delivering on big budgets The role publications & Pinterest have played in her growth (and how she handles rejection like a pro) How styled shoots and editorials catapulted both of our careers into higher price points What florists actually need from photographers on a wedding day to grow their own businesses We also explore the emotional and energetic side of this work — what it's like to be genuinely obsessed with your craft, how to avoid burnout by building a business that actually feeds you, and why weddings are still the modern-day fairy tale for both couples and creatives. P.S. I'm hosting a Tuscany Real Wedding Workshop this spring — a real wedding with a real couple and 30 real guests, photographed and designed over multiple days. You'll walk away with: A full multi-day destination wedding story (engagement, welcome party, bridal editorial, wedding day, farewell event) A pre-trip mentorship to refine your brand, portfolio gaps, and shot list A post-trip call where we turn your gallery into a 90-day luxury marketing plan If your gut is saying "this is my next level," send me a DM and I'll send you the full proposal. We have very limited spots. Meet Dawn Dawn Weisberg is the owner and flower mastermind behind Tularosa Flowers, a luxury wedding design company in Southern California in the San Diego area. Voted Best Florist San Diego by California Wedding Magazine for both 2025 and 2024, she is dedicated to providing the highest level of design and service to her clients. Dawn's breadth of expertise enables her to offer a visionary edge to her work with a unique perspective in the wedding industry. With a Master's Degree in Theatrical Design from New York University's acclaimed Tisch School of the Arts, her classical training was augmented studying fine art in Italy, where she apprenticed in a Costume and Mask Studio in Venice. After a successful career for 20 years in film and television as a costume designer, Tularosa Flowers's owner chose to pursue her passion for flowers. Dawn combines her cinematic design background with her love of nature to create one-of-a-kind immersive experiences for her clients. The Tularosa style is an effortless maximalism combining Old World European style with California vibrance.  Tularosa Flowers has been featured in all of the top wedding publications, including Vogue, Martha Stewart Weddings, Style Me Pretty, Once Wed, The Knot, Brides, Ruffled, Green Wedding Shoes, California Wedding Day, Inspired by This, 100 Layer Cake, June Bug, Wedding Chicks, Hey Wedding Lady, Smashing the Glass, and the Gay Wedding Guide. Tularosa has also partnered with luxury brands including Hermes, and David Austin Wedding Roses. As one of the nation's top and premier floral designers, Dawn has appeared as a wedding trend expert on CBS and FOX, as well as multiple wedding industry podcasts, and was the Mayesh 2024 Wedding Florist Design Star. Connect with Dawn tularosaflowers.com Dawn's Instagram Dawn's TikTok Click here for more ways to listen to this episode.

    55 min

  6. 11/21/2025

    Live Coaching: When Marketing Feels Like Too Much (And What to Do Instead)

    On today's episode of Play It Brave, I'm bringing you behind the scenes for Part Two of my coaching call with photographer Staci Addison. In Part One, we focused on nervous system safety, trauma, and getting her out of chronic fight-or-flight so she could actually show up for her business. In this Part Two, we shift into strategy – creating a marketing plan that feels simple, sustainable, and true to who she is, instead of a giant pile of "shoulds" that leave her frozen and overwhelmed. I walk Staci through how to narrow her focus to just a few key marketing channels, how to build systems that support consistency (even if she doesn't feel like a "systems person"), and how to use her natural gifts as a caring, creative, fun-loving photographer to become a true client magnet. In this episode, we discuss: How to narrow your marketing down to 2–3 simple, sustainable channels you can actually stick with. A step-by-step venue networking strategy that turns tours into blogs, Pinterest content, and real bookings. Why Pinterest + blogging are a power duo for local markets like Savannah (and how to use them intentionally). How to stop fearing "wrong clients" and instead attract aligned couples through clear process and storytelling. Ways to collect specific, story-driven testimonials that actually sell your experience. How to use ChatGPT as your marketing assistant to map out a month of content that still feels like you. We wrap the call by replacing overwhelm with simplicity and grounding into the belief: "I am a client magnet. My caring, creativity, and courage draw aligned clients to me."   Resources Mentioned: Italy Workshop (Sicily + Real Wedding Experience) Join me for an immersive creative pilgrimage in Sicily or a once-in-a-lifetime real wedding weekend experience in Italy. Both workshops include coaching, portfolio curation, and hands-on shooting with stunning venues, world-class florals, and intimate group guidance designed to elevate your brand https://connectwed.net/workshop-sicily/ Free Training — 25 Marketing Tips My most-loved free resource packed with 25 high-impact, doable marketing ideas you can start using immediately https://darcybenincosa.com/25-marketing-tips Want a practical, step-by-step marketing strategy? Skip ahead to 21:12.

    51 min

  7. 11/06/2025

    Live Coaching: When You Want to Grow, But Your Body Says No

    Today I'm sharing something different: a real coaching call with my client, Staci Addison. Instead of jumping straight into marketing, we start where sustainable growth actually begins—helping your nervous system feel safe after grief, burnout, and a long, hard season. Most creatives don't get stuck because they lack strategy; they get stuck because fear, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and old money stories keep their bodies from feeling safe enough to take action. When we rebuild safety and self-trust, the execution part finally clicks. On this call, I guide Staci to separate the "negative mind" from her true voice, create immediate safety in her body with simple somatic tools, and set loving boundaries (including with family) so her energy stops leaking and returns to her art and business. We also turn a nightly habit into a ritual of presence, upgrade the language she uses with herself, and practice micro-mothering—small daily acts that refill her capacity. Next week I'll share her full marketing plan, but this episode is the foundation that makes strategy work. Takeaways: It's not about fixing yourself; it's about building safety so action becomes possible. Name and externalize the "negative pattern," then let your heart answer back (two-column journaling, two minutes). Use simple somatics—Havening touch, a low "Voo" tone, orienting to the room, and a daily nature dose—to calm your system fast. Boundaries are love in action; they turn people-pleasing into choice and conserve energy for your business. Transform escapes into rituals of presence (music, candle, intention): I am coming home to myself. Upgrade your language: not "I'm not good enough," but "A negative pattern is saying ___; my truth is ___." Micro-mother yourself daily with one small act of care to rebuild self-trust. If this resonates and you want private support, I'm finalizing 2025 coaching pricing and bundles through November 30, 2025. Book a free Clarity Call via this link. There is a softer way back—and I'll meet you there.

    44 min

  8. 10/16/2025

    The Price of Status: What It Really Takes to Get Published with Sandra Åberg

    Today I'm joined by my brilliant friend, fashion-and-wedding photographer Sandra Åberg, for a real talk we've both been having off-mic for years: does being "published" (Vogue, Harper's, Martha) actually mean you've arrived—or is it another industry illusion that keeps creatives chasing validation? We swap origin stories (Milan fashion sets, Sports Illustrated mayhem, and stumbling into weddings), talk integrity lines, and share the unseen mechanics behind advertorials, vendor lists, and "top" roundups—what's paid, what's earned, and what actually moves the needle in a creative business. We also dig into the soul of the work: why connection with your couples matters more than a logo, and how to protect your creative magic in a content-driven world. If you've ever wondered whether you should pay to play, whether that "Vogue cover" on Instagram was an ad, or how to define success on your own terms—this one's for you. In this episode, we cover: The myth of arrival: Why "as seen in…" is social proof—not a finish line. Paid vs. earned press: Advertorials, vendor lists, and "Top Photographer" roundups—how they really work and what they're good for. Integrity lines: Finding your yes/no around paying for placements, ads, and algorithms. From fashion to weddings: Sandra's Milan years, mentorship, and the moment that shifted her values. When the dream feels empty: Sandra's Vogue Japan cover—and the unexpected loneliness on the other side. What books/awards/followers really signal: The strategy behind best-seller lists and big platforms. Connection over clout: Why knowing (and liking!) your couples changes the images—and the experience. Working with planners: How to keep creative chemistry when gatekeepers run the process. Creator vs. content creator: Guardrails for protecting your artistry in a metrics world. Defining success: Visibility, vulnerability, and being seen for who you are—not what you've published. Part two lands soon: "Be a Creator, Not Just a Content Creator"—plus details on our intimate Italy experience designed to rekindle your artistry (and yes, we'll talk smart, values-aligned pathways to publication). Question for you: Where's your line between integrity and appearances—and what does "playing it brave" look like in your visibility strategy right now? Meet Sandra Sandra Åberg is an internationally acclaimed photographer known for her ethereal style, poetic storytelling, and deeply emotional imagery. With over 15 years of experience, she has photographed for Vogue, captured celebrity weddings, and built a reputation as one of Europe's leading names in luxury destination wedding photography. Founder of both Atelier Åberg and her namesake brand, Sandra is not only a visual artist but also an educator and mentor, inspiring photographers and creatives worldwide to dream big and build a life they love. Connect with Sandra www.sandraaberg.com www.atelieraberg.com Sandra's Instagram

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The podcast for brave creatives who live in a world that wants you to play it safe. It's time to face facts: You are an indestructible woman fused with super powers that defy convention. Am I right? If so, then this podcast is for you! In Play It Brave, D'Arcy Benincosa dives in deep to her wit and wisdom to teach you about creative a life full of mindset, money, and marketing miracles! Let's get started!

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  • Creator
    D'Arcy Benincosa
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    266
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Play It Brave Podcast

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