The Powerful Man Show

Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
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The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.

  1. 1D AGO

    Conscious Parenting: Fostering Self-Worth and Resilience in Children [Revist]

    Episode #1100 In this revisit of a fan-favorite episode, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin, to discuss the small, intentional shifts they use to raise resilient and self-aware children. Parenting often feels like a series of reactive moments, but the goal of conscious parenting is to proactively pass down the tools for self-love, emotional intelligence, and growth . Doug and Erin share the specific rituals they use with their own children to ensure they grow up with a solid foundation of self-worth and the ability to navigate life's inevitable challenges . Building self-love starts with simple habits, such as encouraging kids to look in the mirror and tell themselves they love themselves, making it a normal part of their day . Doug also uses a constant verbal check by telling his kids he loves them until they are almost annoyed, ensuring they never have to question his affection . At the dinner table, they move past the standard "how was your day" by asking about "magic moments" or pre-framing the school day as being either "good or great" to keep their children's minds focused on the positives . Modeling behavior is ultimately more impactful than words alone. Whether it is letting your children see you journal, meditate, or exercise, they pick up on the healthy habits that serve you . Most importantly, Doug and Erin discuss the power of "repairing" the relationship when you lose your cool; by apologizing for raising your voice, you teach kids that while emotions are natural, taking responsibility for your actions is a requirement for healthy relationships .   If you want to stop guessing what is missing in your relationship and learn a step-by-step methodology to regain the love and respect you once had, click the link below to get our free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

    22 min

  2. 3D AGO

    Faking It or Facing It: Unraveling Relationship Realities

    Episode #1099 What do you do when your wife tells you she's been faking it for 30 years? Is it a test? Is she trying to get a reaction? Or is this the beginning of the end? In this episode, we unpack a real story from one of our men whose wife told him she was never truly attracted to him and only stayed for the kids. Most guys would get defensive. They'd argue the facts. They'd collapse into shame. Or they'd chase. He didn't. He stayed grounded. He stayed curious. He didn't make it about himself. And that response alone changed the dynamic. We talk about what a safety test actually is and why so many men fail it. We break down how to hear the emotion underneath the words instead of reacting to the content. And we get honest about the other possibility too, that maybe it's not a test at all. Maybe it's complete. If that's the case, how do you move forward without falling apart? How do you make sure your worth isn't tied to the relationship? How do you handle it in a way you can look back on without regret? This is a real conversation about staying steady when everything feels uncertain. About not chasing. Not collapsing. Not reacting. But standing firm in who you are, whether the marriage rebuilds or ends. If your relationship feels shaky right now, this episode will challenge you in the right way. If you're not sure where your marriage stands and you want clarity on what to do next, we've put together a free training that walks you through the exact framework we use to help men turn things around. Get access to the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

    38 min

  3. 5D AGO

    Unmasking Truths: Overcoming Self-Deprecation

    Episode #1098 *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:3b83bb6f-47da-4d46-a3ba-726257c8cc64-8" data-testid= "conversation-turn-6" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> A lot of men struggle to own their wins. Instead of standing tall, they make a joke. They downplay it. They get the dig in before anyone else can. It sounds like humor. But underneath it is often low self-worth, fear of looking arrogant, or a need to stay in control. In this episode, we unpack why so many men use self-deprecation as armor. We talk about where it starts, how it gets wired in from family, school, or early work environments, and how it follows you into your business and your marriage. If you've ever brushed off praise or felt uncomfortable saying "yeah, I did that and I'm proud of it," this conversation will land. We get into how dimming your light doesn't just affect you. It impacts your wife. It impacts your leadership. There's a big difference between vulnerability and tearing yourself down. This episode is direct and practical. You'll walk away with simple ways to slow down your reactions, catch the pattern before it comes out of your mouth, and start building real internal confidence. If your relationship feels off and you're not sure where things started slipping, the first step is getting clear on what's actually broken. Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It will show you exactly why your relationship feels the way it does and give you a clear path to start turning it around.

    39 min

  4. FEB 14

    Nurturing Growth: Encouraging Your Partner [Revist]

    Episode #1097 How do you encourage your partner to grow… without making them feel like they're not enough? That's the question we're digging into in this episode A lot of men make this mistake. They start doing personal development. They feel better. They see the benefits. Then they turn to their wife and say, "You should do this too." What she hears is, "Something's wrong with you." And that's where the resistance starts. We talk about why pushing growth almost always backfires, and what actually works instead. It starts with being the example. Not in a holier-than-thou way. Not in a "I've figured it out" way. But in a grounded, consistent way where you just live it. When you're doing the work, sharing what you're learning, and applying it in your own life, it becomes contagious. We also get into the idea of judgment and the gap. The gap between where you are and where you think you or your partner should be. When you focus on that gap, it creates tension. When you own your own growth and detach from how it should look for them, things shift. This conversation is honest. I share examples from my own marriage, including times I tried to hand my wife the "right" book and it went nowhere. Not because she didn't care, but because it wasn't hers. Growth has to be chosen. You can't force it. If you want your partner to rise, rise first. Lead your home by who you are, not by what you tell her to fix. If you're ready to stop talking about growth and actually live it, get the free training on how to shift the scales in your marriage. It's direct, practical, and will show you what to focus on first. Go here and get the free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

    16 min

  5. FEB 12

    Navigating Marriage: When to Step In and Be Your Best Self [Revist]

    Episode #1096 This is a theme we come back to a lot because it matters. When a marriage is struggling or falling apart, most men don't know what their role is anymore. They feel stuck between fighting for it, protecting their kids, and just trying to survive the day. In this episode, we break down what leadership actually looks like in the middle of a broken marriage. There's a real chance your marriage may not work out. That's just the reality. But how you show up during this season will shape your kids for the rest of their lives. They are watching how you handle pressure, rejection, conflict, and pain. You can either let this season make you smaller, or you can use it as the moment you decided to grow up and lead. We also talk about why so many men lose their wife's respect. It's not usually one big mistake. It's the slow drift. It's saying you want one kind of relationship but living in a way that doesn't support it. It's being one version of yourself at home and a different version out in the world. Respect is built when a man can lead himself first. This episode is direct. It's practical. And it's a reminder that even if your marriage feels broken, you are not powerless. You still get to lead. If you're serious about turning things around, get the free training that walks you through how to shift the scales in your marriage. It's straightforward and actionable. Go here and watch it now: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

    30 min

  6. FEB 10

    Breaking Stereotypes: A Conversation on Family, Identity, and Personal Growth

    Episode #1095 In this episode, Doug sits down with Nino, a member of the TPM team, to have a real and honest conversation about identity, family, and personal growth especially from the lens of someone who didn't grow up around this kind of work. Nino shares his first experience attending an Alpha Reset and opens up about what it was like coming from a background where talking about emotions, growth, or family leadership wasn't the norm. They get into cultural expectations, generational patterns, and what it means to take ownership of your life as a man. This isn't just a story about transformation it's a call to rethink what leadership in your home and community really looks like. Whether you're from the inner city or a small town, Latino or Black or White, the reality is most men were never taught how to be grounded and powerful at the same time. You'll hear about the masks we wear, why they're so hard to take off, and how real change starts when you decide to stop performing and start leading. If you've ever felt like you're doing life on someone else's terms, this episode will hit home. Want a deeper look into where things went off track and how to rebuild real leadership in your marriage? Get access to the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You'll get a clear look at the patterns that keep men stuck and a proven path to get your power back—without begging, fixing, or talking it to death.

    41 min

  7. FEB 7

    Breathe Deep: A Guide to Managing Anger and Strengthening Relationships [Revist]

    Episode #1094 When you're triggered, it's easy to react, say something you regret, or shut down completely. In this episode, Doug and Chris take on a real question from a listener: "How do I calm myself down when I get angry, especially when old stuff keeps coming back up?" They walk through simple but powerful tools that help you stay grounded and present when emotions flare up. You'll hear how breathwork, awareness, and asking the right questions can help you respond with clarity instead of reaction. They also break down how anger is often tied to deeper stories about respect, trust, and self-worth and what to do when you feel stuck in a cycle of resentment or regret. If you're tired of snapping at your partner or holding onto old pain, this conversation will help you find new ways forward. This isn't about pretending you're not angry. It's about learning how to work with it without letting it run the show. And if something in your relationship keeps coming back no matter how much you try to ignore it, that's a sign it's not resolved. You can't move forward if you're still stuck in the past. Want help getting clear on what's really going on and how to rebuild trust and leadership in your marriage? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You'll get practical insights and a clear path to stop the breakdown and start leading again—without needing to beg, argue, or fix everything yourself.

    23 min

  8. FEB 5

    The Misguided Perception of Being Grounded: What Men Need to Know

    Episode #1093 A lot of men think they're being grounded by staying calm, staying quiet, or keeping the peace, but what if that's not grounded at all? In this episode, Doug and Tim break down how men often collapse emotionally without realizing it, and why that shutdown is just another form of reaction. You'll hear real stories, including a wake-up call from Doug's own marriage, and how what he thought was self-control was actually stonewalling. This isn't about being more stoic or strong. It's about being real, being present, and learning to lead emotionally instead of withdrawing. They explain how men slip into shame, disconnect from their partner, and unknowingly make it all about themselves. You'll learn how to spot the difference between reacting and being grounded, and how to catch yourself before things spiral. The goal isn't perfection. It's about awareness, ownership, and showing up differently. If you've ever felt like you were doing the right thing only to have it backfire, this conversation is worth a listen. Want to understand exactly where things went wrong and how to fix it? Get access to the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going on and how to rebuild connection, leadership, and trust step by step.

    30 min
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The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.

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  • Creator
    Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    999
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    The Powerful Man Show

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