All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.
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All Things Marriage Podcast with Dr. Chavonne Perotte is your go-to resource for navigating every stage of marriage. Whether you’re engaged, a newlywed, a seasoned spouse, or questioning your relationship’s future, this podcast offers the tools, insights, and strategies you need to create a fulfilling and connected partnership. With real, honest conversations and expert guidance, we’ll explore what truly matters in marriage—building strong communication, reigniting connection, overcoming challenges, and making the personal shifts that lead to lasting happiness. Tune in for actionable advice, fresh perspectives, and the inspiration to create the relationship you’ve always envisioned. Whether you’re thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, there’s something here for you.

  1. 21h ago

    Episode 341: Ask This, Not That: Marriage Questions that Move You Forward

    The questions you ask about your marriage matter. Because some questions can keep you focused on your spouse, searching for explanations, and feeling increasingly frustrated by things you can't control. Other questions can lead you toward greater understanding, clarity, and a much more empowered way of navigating your marriage. And sometimes, the difference between staying stuck and finding a way forward starts with simply asking a better question. In this episode, I'm taking 10 of the most common questions I hear about marriage and showing you how I would reframe each one. Inside this episode, we:Look at why some of the most natural questions we ask when we're frustrated aren't actually very helpfulExplore what happens when your questions are primarily focused on getting your spouse to changeReframe 10 common marriage questions into ones that give you more clarity, choice, and powerTalk about how better questions can help you understand what's happening inside of you—not just analyze what's happening with your spouseExplore the difference between trying to explain your partner's behavior and figuring out how you want to respond to itGive you practical questions you can immediately start using when you feel frustrated, confused, hurt, or stuck You may not always be able to change the situation you're facing in your marriage. And you certainly can't control what your spouse chooses to do. But you can become much more intentional about the questions you ask yourself in response. Because a better question can lead you somewhere completely different. And the quality of the questions you ask can ultimately change the quality of the answers—and choices—available to you. JOIN ME FOR MARRIAGE COACH MONDAYS HERE

  2. Sep 8

    Episode 340: Conditions for Resentment in Marriage

    Resentment can feel incredibly justified. You know what happened. You know what they did—or didn't do. And you know how much it hurt. But what if there's more underneath your resentment than the offense you're holding onto? In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the conditions that create resentment in marriage—and some of them may be much less obvious than you think. Because resentment isn't always just about what your spouse did. Sometimes it's also telling you something important about you. Inside this episode, we:Explore what resentment may actually be doing for you emotionallyLook at why certain hurts are so much harder to move past than othersUncover the more obvious conditions that cause resentment—and the ones that require much more honest self-reflectionTalk about why you can still feel resentful even when your spouse has apologized or the situation happened a long time agoExamine the surprising connection between resentment and your own boundaries, expectations, and choicesExplore why trying to "just let it go" often doesn't workGive you a different question to ask yourself when you can't seem to move past an offense If you've been carrying resentment toward your spouse and haven't been able to shake it, this episode will help you look beneath the anger and understand what may really be keeping it alive. Want some help figuring out what to do next?If resentment has become a real barrier in your marriage and you're ready to understand what's happening and what you can actually do about it, I invite you to schedule a private consultation with me. We'll talk about where things are right now, what you want to change, and whether working together would be the right next step. BOOK A PRIVATE CONSULTATION CALL Have something happening in your marriage you want help with?Marriage Coach Mondays begins September 21. For five weeks, I'm opening up a free space where you can bring the real situations happening in your marriage—the conversation you don't know how to have, the resentment you can't seem to shake, the pattern you keep getting pulled into, or the question you can't quite answer on your own. Come to one call or join me for all five. Bring what's happening, and I'll help you see it differently and get clearer about what you can do next. SIGN UP TO ACCESS MARRIAGE COACH MONDAYS

  3. Sep 1

    Episode 339: An Honest Conversation about Acceptance in Marriage

    Acceptance can be one of the hardest things we're asked to practice in marriage. Especially when what we're being asked to accept is something we wish would change. So what does it actually mean to accept your spouse in those moments? It doesn't mean agreeing. It doesn't mean approving. And it certainly doesn't mean making something you don't want the standard for your marriage. In this episode, we're having an honest conversation about a different kind of acceptance: allowing this to be where your spouse is right now—and releasing yourself from the responsibility of making them be somewhere else. Inside this episode, we: Explore the difference between acceptance and settling for something you don't wantTalk about what happens when you stop needing your spouse to think, feel, or behave differently in order for you to be okayExplore how acceptance can help you become clearer about what's yours to work on—and what's theirsDiscuss the unexpected opportunities for your own growth when your spouse isn't showing up the way you wish they wouldLook at how releasing judgment and resistance can create more patience and ease in your relationshipExplore why giving your spouse room to evolve on their own can sometimes create more change than trying to push them thereTalk about how acceptance can actually help you get clearer about what is—and isn't—okay for you Acceptance doesn't require you to abandon your desires for your marriage. Sometimes, it does the opposite. When you stop using all of your energy trying to change where your spouse is, you have more capacity to see clearly, take care of yourself, honor your values, strengthen your own relationship skills, and decide intentionally how you want to move forward. You can look at your spouse and simply acknowledge: This is where you are right now. And I don't have to make it my job to change you. There can be tremendous freedom for both of you on the other side of that. Mentioned in this Episode: My website: DrChavonne.com Private coaching for Couples: The Connected Marriage Private Coaching for Individuals The Well Made Woman Waitlist

  4. Aug 25

    Episode 338: How the Anxious Partner Starts a Negative Cycle

    If you've ever felt lonely, unsupported, or like you're working so much harder than your spouse to create connection, I want you to know this first: Your hurt makes sense. Your desire for closeness is valid. And your anger is often pointing to something much deeper—a longing to feel seen, supported, and emotionally connected. But sometimes, the very strategies we use to fight for connection unintentionally push our partner further away. In this episode, we're compassionately exploring the patterns that make it harder for your spouse to come close—and the powerful shifts that can begin changing the dynamic. Inside this episode, we:Explore why anger, frustration, and criticism often mask deeper emotional needsTalk about how certain communication patterns unintentionally create more distance instead of connectionUncover the ways blame, control, and negative assumptions can keep the anxious-avoidant cycle aliveDiscuss why external validation can leave you feeling even more disconnected from yourself and your spouseExplore how stress, overwhelm, and people-pleasing quietly shape the energy you bring into your marriageLearn why taking ownership of your emotional experience is one of the most empowering steps you can take toward creating lasting change This episode isn't about blaming yourself. It's about understanding your impact. Because when you can clearly see the patterns you're contributing to, you gain the power to change them. And those small shifts can create the emotional safety, closeness, and connection you've been longing for. Ready to break the cycle together?If these episodes helped you recognize your relationship in the anxious-avoidant dynamic and you're ready to create something different, I'd love to help. Inside The Connected Marriage, I work with couples to uncover the deeper patterns beneath their conflict, strengthen emotional safety, and help them build a marriage that feels connected, supportive, and strong. If you're ready to stop repeating the same painful cycle and start creating lasting change, I invite you to schedule a private consultation.

  5. Aug 18

    Episode 337: How the Avoidant Partner Starts a Negative Cycle

    In the next two episodes, we're taking a deeper look at the most common relationship dynamic I work with inside my private coaching program, The Connected Marriage—the anxious-avoidant dynamic. While the anxious partner's disappointment, frustration, and sadness are often the most visible parts of the cycle, there are quieter behaviors that unintentionally pull both partners deeper into disconnection. These behaviors can register as neglect, inconsistency, or emotional abandonment, making it incredibly difficult for the relationship to heal. The good news? Once you become aware of them, you can begin making different choices that create the safety, trust, and connection you've been wanting all along. Inside this episode, we:Explore the subtle ways avoidant partners unintentionally contribute to the anxious-avoidant cycleTalk about how lapses in communication, inconsistency, and emotional withdrawal impact trust and emotional safetyUncover why apologies without lasting behavioral change often keep the cycle goingDiscuss the importance of bringing your thoughts, concerns, and emotions into the relationship instead of carrying them aloneExplore how negative assumptions about your partner quietly shape the energy between youTalk about the powerful role appreciation, intentional connection, and emotional responsiveness play in helping your partner feel secureChallenge you to focus on the patterns you have the power to change instead of staying distracted by your partner's reactions This episode isn't about blame. It's about self-awareness. Because when you understand how your behaviors influence the dynamic between you, you become empowered to create something different. And often, those small shifts become the beginning of a marriage that feels more peaceful, connected, and united. Ready to stop repeating the same cycle? If you're tired of feeling stuck in the anxious-avoidant dynamic and you're ready to understand what's really happening beneath the surface, I'd love to help. Inside The Connected Marriage, I guide couples through a step-by-step process to unravel these patterns, strengthen emotional safety, and build a relationship that feels connected, supportive, and strong. If you're ready to explore working together, schedule a private consultation HERE

  6. Aug 11

    Episode 336: 3 Perspectives that Will Save You or Your Marriage

    When you're struggling in your marriage, it's easy to believe your happiness depends on what your partner does next. That they'll finally change. That you'll eventually know what to do. That somehow you'll stop feeling so stuck. But what if the perspectives keeping you trapped are the very things preventing you from moving forward? In this episode, we're exploring three powerful mindset shifts that can help you step out of helplessness, reclaim your personal agency, and begin creating meaningful change—whether that ultimately heals your marriage, yourself, or both. Inside this episode, we:Explore how shifting your focus from changing your partner to growing yourself can transform the way you experience your marriageTalk about why "I don't know what to do" often keeps us stuck—and the mindset that creates greater clarity and confidenceUncover how victim thinking quietly steals your power and what it looks like to reclaim itDiscuss the difference between waiting for your circumstances to change and intentionally creating a life you're proud ofLearn how acceptance, boundaries, and personal responsibility can exist together without giving up on your marriageExplore how one perspective shift can completely change the way you approach your relationship and your futureWhether you're feeling discouraged, uncertain, or emotionally exhausted, this episode will help you step out of survival mode and reconnect with the one thing you always have the power to change: The way you choose to think, respond, and move forward. Feeling at a crossroads?If this episode resonated with you and you're feeling uncertain about what to do next in your marriage, you don't have to figure it out alone. Whether you're trying to decide how to move forward, wondering if your marriage can change, or simply looking for clarity on your next step, I'd love to help. I invite you to schedule a private consultation where we'll talk through your unique situation, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and explore the path that feels most aligned for you and your relationship. Book your private consultation HERE

  7. Aug 4

    Episode 335: 3 Perspective Shifts that Will Heal You and Your Marriage

    Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs in your marriage don't come from changing what you do. They come from changing how you see it. The perspective you choose can either keep you stuck in hurt, resentment, and disconnection—or open the door to healing, understanding, and deeper connection. Today we're continuing our 3-part series exploring three powerful perspective shifts - and we are focusing in on what will lead to healing - for you and/or your marriage. Inside this episode, we:Explore why "I don't care anymore" is often protecting a much deeper emotional truth—and how acknowledging that truth creates space for healingTalk about the shift from focusing on blame to taking ownership of the parts of the relationship that are yours to growUncover how embracing your differences instead of fighting them can deepen acceptance, compassion, and emotional intimacyLearn how changing your perspective can soften defensiveness, increase vulnerability, and create new opportunities for connectionDiscover why some of the most powerful shifts in a marriage begin long before your partner changes Whether your marriage feels disconnected, strained, or simply in need of a reset, these perspective shifts will help you approach your relationship with greater clarity, compassion, and hope. Because sometimes the first step toward healing your marriage is healing the way you see it. Ready to go deeper? If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to stop feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns, this is exactly the work we do inside my customized private coaching programs. Together, we'll uncover the deeper dynamics beneath your struggles, help you heal the patterns keeping you disconnected, and guide you in creating a marriage that feels safe, connected, and strong. If you're ready to explore what's possible for your relationship, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call here.

  8. Jul 28

    Episode 334: 3 Perspective Shifts that Will Grow Your Marriage

    So many couples settle into "We're okay " and "We're fine." They do this without ever stopping to ask whether "fine" is really the marriage they want to build. In this episode, we're exploring three simple perspective shifts that can change the way you approach your marriage—and open the door to greater connection, growth, and possibility. Inside this episode, we:Challenge the mindset of settling for "fine" when your marriage is capable of so much moreExplore how your beliefs about what's possible shape the decisions you make (or don't make) in your relationshipUncover one of the most common thoughts that quietly keeps couples from taking action year after yearTalk about the difference between playing not to lose and intentionally building an extraordinary marriageOffer practical ways to shift your thinking so you can begin creating the relationship you truly want—starting today If you've been coasting along in a comfort zone, this is an invitation to create something that feels like a wow. Extraordinary marriages aren't created by accident. They're created one intentional decision, one meaningful conversation, and one small shift at a time. Mentioned in this Episode Marriage Growth AssessmentInvest five minutes in your marriage's future. This complimentary assessment helps you identify your greatest strengths, uncover the areas with the most potential for growth, and receive personalized insights to help you build a marriage that feels more connected, fulfilling, and strong. Take the Assessment HERE 5 Experiences That Help Marriages Continue to GrowA short video exploring five intentional experiences that help couples deepen their connection, strengthen their partnership, and continue growing together over the years. If you've ever wondered what healthy, thriving marriages do differently, this is a great place to start. Watch the Video HERE Marriage UpGrade Retreat VIP Access ListJoin the VIP Access List for my private luxury couples retreat designed for couples who want more than a "good" marriage. Be the first to hear about retreat dates, receive exclusive behind-the-scenes updates, and enjoy priority access when enrollment opens for this intimate experience created to help you reconnect, deepen your intimacy, and leave feeling even more in love. Join the VIP Access List HERE

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All Things Marriage Podcast with Dr. Chavonne Perotte is your go-to resource for navigating every stage of marriage. Whether you’re engaged, a newlywed, a seasoned spouse, or questioning your relationship’s future, this podcast offers the tools, insights, and strategies you need to create a fulfilling and connected partnership. With real, honest conversations and expert guidance, we’ll explore what truly matters in marriage—building strong communication, reigniting connection, overcoming challenges, and making the personal shifts that lead to lasting happiness. Tune in for actionable advice, fresh perspectives, and the inspiration to create the relationship you’ve always envisioned. Whether you’re thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, there’s something here for you.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    300
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Copyright 2026 All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne
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