Breaking Free from OCD, Anxiety & Stress with Matt Codde

Matthew Codde LCSW
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The Breaking Free from OCD, Anxiety & Stress Podcast is hosted by Matt Codde. Visit www.restoredminds.com/about to know more about Matt! In this podcast, you’re going to learn practical steps on the journey to recovery. In each episode, we will discuss common challenges and provide you with evidence-based strategies to help you overcome them. At Restored Minds, we believe that recovery is possible for everyone and it's our mission to give you the tools to help you build better mental health so you can become the best version of yourself.

  1. Aug 11

    How to Break the Sleep Anxiety Loop: A Real Recovery Story with Carly

    Sleep Anxiety and OCD: How Carly Broke the Hypnic Jerk Loop and Learned to Trust Her Body Again If bedtime fills you with dread, if you've started dreading the sunset, or if hypnic jerks have turned falling asleep into a nightly battle, this episode is for you. Matt Codde, LCSW sits down with Carly, a member of the Restored Minds community, to talk honestly about what it's like to live inside a sleep anxiety loop, and what actually got her out of it. Carly walks through her own descent into relentless hypnic jerks, the compulsions she didn't even realize were compulsions (bedtime routines built on fear, checking the clock, seeking reassurance from her husband), and the belief that was quietly running the whole show: that a bad night of sleep meant a ruined day. This isn't a sleep hygiene episode. It's a conversation about fear, control, and what it actually means to trust your body to do what it already knows how to do. 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand why sleep anxiety isn't a sleep problem, it's a fear problem ✅ Learn why traditional sleep hygiene advice can backfire when anxiety is driving it ✅ See why hypnic jerks happen and why they're not dangerous ✅ Discover the difference between "night work" and "day work" in sleep recovery ✅ Learn how hidden compulsions (clock-checking, reassurance-seeking, canceling plans) keep the loop alive ✅ Understand why setbacks are part of the process, not proof it isn't working ✅ See how the Triple-A Response applies to nighttime anxiety and daytime intrusive thoughts 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal: 📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to UnstuckLearn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life.👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) Program Learn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root. 👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc 🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content. 👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461 ✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/bookFollow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps00:00 What This Episode Is About 01:21 Carly's History with OCD and Anxiety 02:12 The Hypnic Jerk Loop Explained 06:55 Why You Can't Force Yourself to Sleep 09:14 The Setback That Taught Her the Real Goal 14:05 The Storm Clouds Method for Non-Resistance 16:03 Hidden Compulsions: Clock-Checking and Reassurance 21:14 Why "Normal" Is the Right Exposure 24:01 The Elephant on Her Shoulders: Daytime Work 28:38 Her Message to Anyone Still Stuck Disclaimer⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  2. Jul 28

    OCD & Anxiety Treatment with Dr. Melissa Quinn: Meds, ERP, and Integrative Care Explained

    Is Medication Right for Your OCD? A Psychiatrist Breaks Down SSRIs, Dosing, and What Actually Works If you've ever wondered whether medication could help your OCD or anxiety, or you've tried an SSRI and felt like "nothing worked," this episode is for you. Matt Codde, LCSW sits down with Dr. Melissa Quinn, a triple board certified psychiatrist who specializes in OCD treatment, for a full breakdown of how medication actually works, why so many people are underdosed, and how medication and therapy work together rather than against each other. Dr. Quinn walks through SSRIs, clomipramine, augmentation strategies, and common myths (including the cannabis conversation you don't want to miss), while Matt reframes ERP through the Restored Minds lens of emotional integration rather than symptom elimination. Dr. Melissa Quinn Details: 📍10850 Wilshire Boulevard, Suite 850, Los Angeles, CA 90024 📧admin@melissaquinnmd.com 📞424-999-9316 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand why OCD often requires higher medication doses than depression ✅Learn the difference between a treatment failure and an underdosed trial ✅See why medication is not a substitute for therapy, and how the two work together ✅Understand when benzodiazepines have a legitimate place in treatment ✅Learn why cannabis tends to worsen OCD symptoms rather than relieve them ✅See how tapering off medication safely actually works ✅Understand Matt's reframe of ERP as "Emotional Resistance Prevention" 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal: 📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to Unstuck Learn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life. 👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) Program Learn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root. 👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc 🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content. 👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461 ✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/book Follow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps• 00:00 What this episode is about• 00:53 Why Matt rarely does interviews, and why Dr. Quinn was the exception •03:03 The presentation begins: biological treatments for OCD • 06:58 Medication options: why SSRIs are the frontline treatment • 13:33 The #1 reason medication "doesn't work": wrong dose • 41:20 The cannabis conversation • 44:00 Redefining ERP as Emotional Resistance Prevention Disclaimer⚠️ This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  3. Jul 14

    You're Not Stuck, You're Arguing to Stay That Way

    Arguing for Your Limitations: 9 Self-Limiting Beliefs Keeping You Stuck in OCD, Anxiety & Fear If you feel like you've been "trying to heal" for years but keep landing in the same place, this episode is for you. Matt Codde, LCSW breaks down the most common ways we unconsciously build a case for why we can't change, grow, or heal, and why admitting "I was wrong" might be the most powerful phrase in your recovery. This isn't about blame. It's about awareness. Matt walks through nine self-limiting beliefs he's seen (and lived through himself) that keep people trapped in OCD, anxiety, fear loops, and chronic suffering, from blaming time and money to hiding behind personality, family, and spirituality. If you or someone you love has been stuck in the OCD or anxiety cycle and can't figure out why nothing seems to stick, this conversation will help you see what's really in the way. 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand why admitting "I was wrong" is one of the most healing phrases you can say to yourself ✅Learn the 9 most common self-limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in OCD and anxiety ✅See why blaming time, money, or intelligence is often a disguised fear of change ✅Understand how family and generational beliefs can quietly block your healing ✅Learn why perfectionism is fear wearing a more acceptable mask ✅See how "resourcefulness" matters more than resources when it comes to recovery ✅ Understand how to start recognizing these patterns in your own life 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal: 📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to Unstuck Learn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life.👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) ProgramLearn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root. 👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc 🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content. 👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/book Follow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 What This Episode Is About 01:10 The Healing Power of Admitting You Were Wrong 05:53 Limitation #1: "I Don't Have Time" 07:53 Limitation #2: Intelligence, Too Smart or Not Smart Enough 09:44 Limitation #3: "This Is Just Who I Am" 10:49 Limitation #4: The Past, "I Tried That, It Didn't Work" 12:02 Limitation #5: Family, Relationships & Environment 14:05 Limitation #6: Money & Resources 16:44 Limitation #7: Spiritualizing Your Suffering 18:21 Limitation #8: Control & Catastrophizing 18:57 Limitation #9: Perfectionism 19:48 How These Beliefs Keep You Stuck 21:03 Closing Thoughts Disclaimer ⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  4. Jul 7

    Why Chasing Approval and Control Is Destroying You

    Nervous System Hijacked by Approval: Approval Addiction, Chronic Self Abandonment, and Chasing Control In this episode, Matt Codde, LCSW, explores what happens when your nervous system is hijacked by approval and you slowly slip into chronic self abandonment. He breaks down how approval addiction and tolerance for destruction quietly erode your sense of safety, shrink your world, and create the loss of authentic relationships—even while you look like “the good person” on the outside. Matt then turns to control, describing how we end up chasing a phantom called certainty and living in the illusion of playing God. He shows how fear convinces you that control equals safety, while in reality it leads to the erosion of creativity and spontaneity and a growing tolerance for destruction in your relationships, experiences, and everyday life. If you’re stuck in OCD, anxiety, people pleasing, or constant worry about what others think, this conversation will help you see the deeper fear loops behind your symptoms. It’s an invitation to stop abandoning yourself for approval and control, and begin living from authenticity, trust, and genuine connection.🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode✅ Understand what it means for your nervous system to be hijacked by approval.✅ Learn how chronic self abandonment develops through people pleasing and self rejection.✅ See why approval addiction leads to a quiet tolerance for destruction in your life.✅ Recognize how chasing a phantom called control keeps you stuck in fear and anxiety.✅ Explore the illusion of playing God and how it blocks trust in something deeper.✅ Discover how fear erodes creativity and spontaneity, shrinking your world.✅ Learn first steps to rebuild authentic relationships without abandoning yourself.🚀 Resources to Help You Heal:📥 FREE Recovery GuideStart your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance.👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to UnstuckLearn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life.👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) ProgramLearn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root.👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support:✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content.👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content:👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30✅ Ask a Question for a future episode:👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/bookFollow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media:🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us!⏱️ Timestamps00:00 — What this episode is about: nervous system hijacked by approval03:30 — Nervous system hijacked by approval and chronic self abandonment07:20 — Approval addiction, resentment, and loss of authentic relationships12:00 — Approval addiction and growing tolerance for destruction17:20 — Chasing a Phantom: the illusion of control and playing God23:30 — Erosion of creativity, spontaneity, and trust in life29:00 — Waking up from fear loops and choosing authenticity over approval and controlDisclaimer⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  5. Jul 2

    Why Your Anxiety Won't Go Away: The Secret Payoff of Fear

    The 5 Hidden Payoffs of Fear That Keep OCD and Anxiety Loops Running Most people assume fear is just something that happens to them. In this episode, Matt Codde, LCSW and founder of Restored Minds, explains why part of the mind actually believes it's benefiting from staying afraid, and why that belief is what keeps the fear loop running. Matt breaks down 5 "secondary gains", the hidden payoffs of safety, control, identity, pain avoidance, and self-justification that quietly convince you fear is protecting you. He walks through real examples (driving anxiety, health anxiety, relationship fears, money fears) showing how fear often creates the exact outcome it claims to prevent. If you've ever wondered why you can't just "stop worrying," this episode explains the piece that usually gets missed: you can't let go of fear until you're willing to let go of what you believe it's giving you. 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand the five secret "payoffs" your mind believes it's getting from staying afraid ✅ Learn why fear tends to create the very outcome it claims to prevent ✅ See why hypervigilance is the opposite of control, not a form of it ✅ Discover how pride and identity can quietly keep you attached to overthinking ✅ Recognize how staying in fear can be a shield against older, deeper pain ✅ Learn what "secondary gain" actually means and how to spot yours ✅ Understand the one shift that makes it possible to finally confront fear 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal: 📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to Unstuck Learn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life. 👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) Program Learn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root. 👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc 🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content. 👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/book Follow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps• 00:00 What This Episode Is About •02:44 Payoff #1: The Illusion of Safety •05:45 Payoff #2: The Illusion of Control •06:52 Payoff #3: The Pride of "Overthinking Better Than Everyone" •07:53 Payoffs #4 & #5: Avoiding Deeper Pain and Using Fear as an Excuse •10:49 Finding Your Own Secondary Gain Disclaimer ⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  6. Jun 30

    Why OCD Keeps You Stuck: Victim Consciousness Explained

    Stop waiting for OCD and anxiety to change before you do — here's why the shift has to come from within first. If you've been stuck in the loop of OCD or anxiety for a long time, there's a good chance something deeper is keeping you there: victim consciousness. In this episode, Matt Codde, LCSW breaks down why seeing yourself as a victim to OCD, anxiety, or fear keeps you perpetuating the very state you want to escape. Real recovery isn't about finding the right technique or waiting for symptoms to disappear. It's about a fundamental shift in how you see yourself and your role in your own healing. Whether you've been struggling for months or years, this episode will challenge you to look honestly at the paradigm you're operating from and explain why consciousness, not circumstance, is where lasting change begins. Matt draws from real-world examples and his own personal experience to walk you through what it actually means to move from victim to someone actively claiming their own recovery. 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand what victim consciousness is and how it silently perpetuates OCD and anxiety ✅ Learn why waiting for external circumstances to change keeps you stuck in fear ✅ See why OCD recovery is not a linear process and how to stop approaching it that way ✅ Understand how your current state of consciousness creates your emotional reality ✅ Learn the internal shift required to stop sustaining a fearful state of being ✅ See why resistance to emotion is what keeps you stuck, not the emotion itself ✅ Understand how taking radical ownership unlocks a completely different experience of life 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal: 📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to Unstuck Learn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life. 👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) ProgramLearn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root. 👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc 🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content. 👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/book Follow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 What This Episode Is About: Victim Consciousness and OCD 00:34 Why You Have to Shift Internally First 02:24 The Self-Perpetuating Loop of Victim Identity 07:57 OCD Recovery Is Not a Disease to Cure 10:38 Ascension of Consciousness: Not Linear, Spectral 13:05 What Transcending Victim Consciousness Actually Looks Like Disclaimer ⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  7. Jun 23

    Why Stopping Reassurance Seeking Alone Won't Cure OCD

    If you have OCD or anxiety and you can't stop seeking reassurance, you are not alone and you are not broken. Whether it's Googling, calling loved ones, or mentally reviewing events over and over, reassurance seeking feels necessary in the moment. But it keeps you stuck. In this episode, Matt Codde, LCSW explains exactly why reassurance seeking is so hard to stop, and what you actually need to do instead. The problem is not willpower. The mistake most people make is trying to stop the behavior without addressing the inner emotional pressure that is driving it. When you just stop seeking reassurance without working on what is underneath, the anxiety doesn't go away. It shifts. You end up with a new theme, a new compulsion, or a new obsession, and the cycle continues. True recovery from OCD and anxiety means learning to confront and metabolize the emotions underneath the compulsion, not just stopping the behavior on the surface. This episode walks you through the core mindset shift that makes that possible. 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand why reassurance seeking is a symptom, not the root problem ✅ Learn why thoughts do not cause feelings and why that changes everything ✅ See why stopping compulsions without inner work leads to theme-shifting ✅ Understand the role of stored emotional pressure in OCD and anxiety ✅ Learn what it actually means to do the inner work in recovery ✅ See why all compulsive behaviors share the same emotional function ✅ Understand how to begin addressing the real source of your anxiety 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal: 📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to Unstuck Learn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life.👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) Program Learn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root. 👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc 🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content. 👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/book Follow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 What This Episode Is About: Reassurance Seeking and OCD 01:19 Why Cause-and-Effect Thinking About OCD Doesn't Work 02:21 Thoughts Are Secondary to Emotion 05:11 Why All Compulsive Behaviors Have the Same Root0 8:35 What Happens When You Just Stop the Behavior 09:30 The Inner Work That Actually Stops Reassurance Seeking Disclaimer ⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

  8. Jun 16

    How to Be More Loving to Yourself to Break the OCD Cycle

    If you've been struggling with OCD or anxiety for a long time and feel like nothing is working, this episode may reveal why. Matt Codde, LCSW explains why self-rejection is one of the most overlooked barriers to healing, and how learning to be more loving toward yourself is not a self-help cliche, but a clinical cornerstone of lasting OCD recovery. This episode applies to anyone dealing with OCD, anxiety, chronic pain, or any pattern of internal resistance. Whether you are in active ERP therapy or just beginning to understand your OCD cycle, the message here is one that most people have never heard in quite this way. If you have spent years trying to eliminate thoughts, manage anxiety, or "get better" before giving yourself permission to rest, recover, or even feel okay, this one is for you. Matt walks through the specific ways people with OCD are unloving to themselves without realizing it, and what the path toward integration and true healing actually looks like 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand why self-rejection silently blocks OCD and anxiety healing, even when you are doing everything "right" ✅ Learn how the OCD cycle is rooted in resistance to normal human experiences, not the experiences themselves ✅ See why trying to heal so you can love yourself is the one mindset that guarantees the cycle continues ✅ Understand Carl Jung's concept of shadow integration and why acknowledging all parts of yourself is essential for recovery ✅ Learn how pride, isolation, and the "I can fix this myself" pattern are actually forms of self-rejection ✅ See how investing in yourself, seeking guidance, and treating yourself like a best friend are acts of healing, not weakness ✅ Understand why love is the ultimate healing field and what it actually means to begin shifting from self-rejection to self-acceptance 🚀 Resources to Help You Heal:📥 FREE Recovery Guide Start your journey to freedom from OCD and anxiety with expert tools and step-by-step guidance. 👉 Download now: https://www.restoredminds.com/start 📖 Get a Copy of Our Book: From Stuck to Unstuck Learn practical strategies to overcome fear and reclaim your life.👉 Buy now: https://a.co/d/1WEvonT 📘 Taking Back Control (TBC) Program Learn how to apply these principles daily and dissolve anxiety at the root.👉 Apply Now: https://www.restoredminds.com/tbc🎧 Subscribe & Connect for More Support: ✅ Subscribe to our YouTube channel for weekly episodes, tools, and coaching content .👉 https://www.youtube.com/restoredminds ✅ Leave a Review on your favorite platform to help others discover this life-changing content: 👉 Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3NJI2zD 👉 Spotify: https://spoti.fi/46AiT30 ✅ Ask a Question for a future episode: 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/assessments/2147654461✅ Download the Book – From Stuck to Unstuck 👉 https://www.restoredminds.com/bookFollow Matt Codde, LCSW on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattcodde.restoredminds/ 🔹 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/restoredminds/ 🔹 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthcodde.restoredminds 📸 If this episode helped you, share it on Instagram Stories and tag us! ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 What This Episode Is About 01:20 How OCD Makes You Unloving to Yourself 03:10 Why Resistance to Normal Experiences Is the Real Problem 05:15 The Thought Experiment: How Would You Treat Someone Else? 08:00 Jung, Maslow, and Integration of the Whole Self 14:00 Love Is the Ultimate Healing Field Disclaimer ⚠️This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Consult a licensed professional for personalized support.

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The Breaking Free from OCD, Anxiety & Stress Podcast is hosted by Matt Codde. Visit www.restoredminds.com/about to know more about Matt! In this podcast, you’re going to learn practical steps on the journey to recovery. In each episode, we will discuss common challenges and provide you with evidence-based strategies to help you overcome them. At Restored Minds, we believe that recovery is possible for everyone and it's our mission to give you the tools to help you build better mental health so you can become the best version of yourself.

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