Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Podcast

International School of Temple Arts

Welcome to the Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Podcast. Exploring sacred sexuality, activating Life Force, and empowered transformation, these intimate conversations take you 'under the sheets' with Faculty from ISTA, the International School of Temple Arts.

  1. Aug 29

    You're going to die: get intimate with death

    What happens when we stop treating death as life’s great failure? In this conversation, Atilla Çidam explores what he calls an intimacy with death: a willingness to encounter aging, loss, heartbreak and impermanence rather than organizing our lives around their avoidance. His provocative idea of the “ecstasy of decay” asks whether the marks of time on the body might be approached with curiosity, tenderness and even celebration. The conversation moves through three kinds of death: the death of the body, the death of what we love, and the death of identity. Attila argues that facing impermanence can change how we love, loosening the impulse to grasp, manage and control the people around us. Rather than making life less precious, the knowledge that everything passes can make our participation in it more immediate and wholehearted. From tantric charnel-ground practices to contemporary transformational work, Simon Marvell and Atilla consider what it means to build the capacity to stay present with experiences we would rather escape. Their discussion ultimately expands beyond the personal: what might our communities, politics and economies look like if they were not built around a fear of death? For Attila, intimacy with death is fundamentally life-affirming: an invitation to recognise impermanence and commit more fully to being alive. About Atilla Çidam Atilla is an ISTA facilitator with a PhD in psychology whose earlier career involved designing programs with governments, the World Bank and UNICEF. He left that career to study dance, movement, Tantra and shamanism, shifting his work toward an integration of mind, body, emotion, soul and spirit. He is a co-founder of Dance Meets Tantra and Emergency Brotherhood, and his current work explores intimacy, transformation, embodiment and our relationship with death. In this episode Attila introduces three domains of intimacy with death: the impermanence of the body, the inevitable loss of what and whom we love, and the dissolution of the identities to which we cling.He describes an “Ecstasy of Decay” practice in which participants show one another where time has changed their bodies and are invited to admire and bless those signs of aging rather than reject them.Attila distinguishes pain from suffering, proposing that suffering emerges when we try to avoid painful realities rather than allowing ourselves to experience them.Discussing transformational spaces, he argues that participants should be empowered to choose their own “burn rate”: deciding how deeply and intensely they enter an initiatory process rather than having that intensity dictated by a facilitator.Speaking one day after the death of a close friend, Attila describes allowing grief, celebration, despair and gratitude to coexist, and how the loss strengthened his commitment to the life and work he feels called to.Support the show

  2. Aug 13

    Japan's Forgotten Sacred Sexual Rituals

    Imagine if sexuality wasn’t separate from spirituality, but woven into the sacred landscape itself? In this episode, Simon speaks with ISTA faculty member Aya Kamānakai about her journey to reconnect with the ancient sexual and spiritual traditions of Japan. Born in Japan but raised largely abroad, Aya describes how returning to facilitate ISTA trainings in her homeland opened an unexpected path back to her ancestry. She rediscovered a culture in which sexuality, spirituality, nature, and ritual have long been intertwined. Their conversation traverses Shinto animism, erotic shunga art, sacred phallic and vulvic shrines, sexual festivals, kami, ritual rope, queer and transgender expression, and Japanese understandings of sexuality as life force. Aya shares about traditions that remain alive today, from shrines dedicated to sexual deities to festivals where enormous phallic omikoshi are carried through the streets. Aya and Simon also explore what happens when cultures become disconnected from these traditions. They consider the effects of religious suppression, Westernisation and modernity, and ask what it might mean to recover ancestral knowledge without romanticising or bypassing the more difficult parts of our histories. Perhaps we’re living through a time of increased cultural remembering, Aya suggests. She invites you to become curious about your own ancestry, the land beneath your feet, and the forms of embodied and animist knowledge that may still exist beneath the surface of contemporary life. Support the show

  3. Feb 26

    Following Your Impulses with Komala Lyra

    Komala Lyra has been teaching the art of realness for decades. That might sound strange. Isn’t everything real? But Komala helps people distinguish between what is truly authentic for them and what comes from external expectations. She guides people to become sensitive to their inner experience, to what life is calling them toward, and to what is happening in their hearts and bodies. Following your impulses, she suggests, can lead you down the path of realness. In this episode, Komala speaks with Simon about how learning to trust those inner signals can open the door to a more liberated life. Along the way, she shares three powerful insights. When we listen to our impulses and say “yes” to them, we invite transformation. Ayurveda offers a framework for understanding how we digest not only food but also energy and experience. And when someone disappoints us, it can be a valuable opportunity to reflect on why we did not see it coming. These ideas may sound bold, even provocative, but Komala presents them with warmth, care, and deep humanity. She shares personal stories, including deciding to marry her partner after knowing him for just 24 hours, growing up in an environment where her body could move freely, and why she enjoys knitting, even in the height of summer. Simon and Komala also discuss her latest book, Intimacy: Ayurveda & Sexuality, as well as the immersive community experiences she hosts on her land in southern Portugal. Tune in for an intimate, thought-provoking, and joyful conversation. To learn more about Komala and her work, visit her links:  Website: https://www.komalalyra.com/ Land project, Monte California: https://www.montecalifornia.net/ Latest book: Intimacy: Ayurveda & Sexuality (2025) Instagram: @komalalyra And to learn more about ISTA, visit our website:  https://ista.life/ Or follow us on Instagram: @ista.community Support the show

  4. Jan 30

    Repair in relationships: the key to living in integrity with Mischa Byruck

    In this episode, men’s coach Mischa Byruck shares how we can use our biggest mistakes as catalysts for profound personal transformation.  For Mischa, coming to terms with our mistakes leads to a deeper understanding of what true integrity means. Integrity is not just about following rules, but about aligning your actions with your foundational values and being in wholeness with yourself. It is a nuanced, lifelong practice, not a state of perfection. And there are many life-enhancing benefits of this inner work: a sense of calm, satisfaction, and the ability to walk through the world with pride in how you're living.  But this process cannot be completed alone. Mischa underscores the importance of having accountability structures and being open to feedback from others to maintain this integrity. Whether you're looking to deepen your own self-awareness and authenticity, or seeking to support others in this journey, this episode offers valuable insights. Mischa’s expertise as a men's integrity coach, combined with his humble, relational approach, make this a must-listen for anyone interested in personal transformation and building a more whole, integrated life. About Mischa:  Mischa Byruck is a men's integrity coach who supports his clients to turn their biggest mistakes into their greatest opportunities for transformation. He also consults organizations to bring accountability, power awareness, and trauma-informed practices into leadership. Mischa is certified in somatic trauma therapy with extensive training in harm reduction, counseling, sexuality, and anti-racism. His clients include Sacred Sons, ISTA, kink.com, and DanceSafe. Support the show

  5. Jan 8

    Magick: listening to the current of life with Dane Tomas

    There are moments when effort ceases to have the effect it once did. When pushing, planning, and deciding create more tension than less. At these junctures, we can sense that the next step won’t come from thinking harder, but from listening more deeply. In this episode, Simon Marvell is joined by artist, creator, and transformational guide, Dane Tomas, for an exploration of how we can each embrace magick, release ourselves into sensitivity, and learn to listen to the current of life. Dane shares his understanding of magick not as spectacle or superstition, but as intentional action aligned with the deepest layers of self, cosmos, and consciousness. He guides us through the relationship between will and surrender, and the surprising overlap between the path of the magician and the path of the mystic. The conversation weaves through themes of cultural lineage and spiritual inheritance, questioning where our practices come from and what it means to work with traditions that genuinely fit our bodies, nervous systems, and lived realities. Dane reflects on his journey through Western esotericism, sex magic, shadow work, and non-dual practice, and on the moments where letting go of identity became a doorway to profound change. A central thread of the episode is listening to the current: learning to attune not just intellectually, but somatically and energetically, to what wants to move through us — in ritual, creativity, sexuality, and major life decisions. This episode invites a shift in orientation away from forcing clarity, and toward trusting the subtle movements already shaping our lives.    To learn more about Dane’s work, visit his links: 👉 https://www.danetomas.com/ 👉Instagram: @dane.tomas If you loved this episode, please rate the podcast and share it with your friends — it helps this work reach more people. To learn more about ISTA, visit our links: 👉 https://ista.life/ 👉 Instagram: @ista.community Support the show

  6. 12/17/2025

    The joy of others: unlocking compersion in relationships with Marie Thouin

    Does it genuinely make you happy when your partner is enjoying themselves on a trip with their other lover?  Or perhaps you’ve felt a sense of elation when a friend or colleague receives a well-deserved promotion or prestigious award?  If you’ve ever been uplifted by someone else’s positive experience, even when it doesn’t directly involve you, then you’ve encountered "compersion". In today’s episode, Usha Rose delves into the intriguing concept of compersion with guest Dr. Marie Thouin, the author of What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships, the first comprehensive scholarly work on this topic. While compersion is often associated with non-monogamous relationships, it’s clear that anyone can benefit from understanding and embracing this experience. You might be wondering: Is compersion an innate trait, or can it be cultivated?Can you feel jealousy and compersion simultaneously?Is compersion a requirement in non-monogamous relationships?We address these questions and explore: The six factors that enhance compersionHow compersion manifests differently across contexts and situations, and strategies for navigating these variationsCommon barriers to experiencing compersion and techniques for overcoming themHow compersion can serve as a guiding principle in relationships, fostering growth, connection, and intimacy You can learn more about Dr Marie Thouin on her website:  https://mariethouin.com/ Or follow her on IG:  @drmariethouin To learn more about ISTA visit our website:  https://ista.life/ Or follow us on social media:  @ista.community Support the show

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Welcome to the Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Podcast. Exploring sacred sexuality, activating Life Force, and empowered transformation, these intimate conversations take you 'under the sheets' with Faculty from ISTA, the International School of Temple Arts.

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