Marriage Lab

Aaron & Jenna Zint

Aaron and Jenna have been married for over a decade and love talking to people about their relationships, the messiness, the struggle and the victories in all of it. If you're married or planning on it, you can expect 1) Tools for the growth of your marriage and you personally 2) Hope for a healthy marriage no matter what you've experienced up to this point 3) Laughter and comfort when you say, "That's totally us!" and "We've been there!" If you've enjoyed our podcasts, would you consider financially supporting the show?We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps the Zints to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much!http://patreon.com/TheHabitLab

  1. Sep 7

    The trap of "Main character" energy

    Main character energy sounds empowering—but what happens when it follows us into marriage? In this episode, we’re talking about the subtle ways we can start viewing our spouse, our circumstances, and even our disappointments through the lens of the life I’m supposed to be happening.  We unpack how main character energy can keep us waiting for our “big break,” resenting the ordinary sacrifices of marriage, and missing the good life God is actually forming in us. Because the gospel offers us something much fuller, than a life where everything revolves around our happiness, fulfillment, and potential—and that might actually be really good news for our marriages. Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  2. Aug 26

    "I told you so..." is sabotaging your marriage

    What if “I told you so” is doing more damage in your marriage than you realize? What if it's actually reinforcing patterns you THINK it's dismantling?! In this episode, we explores how our need to be right—or to make sure our spouse “learns the lesson”—can quietly turn into over-functioning, control, and even boasting.  We’ll talk about giving your spouse back the dignity of learning, owning your half without managing theirs, and trusting that sometimes reality (and the Holy Spirit) can teach the lesson without your help. Because sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let yourself be right… quietly. Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  3. Aug 24

    Generosity: The Marriage Value We’ve Been Rethinking

    After studying generosity together, we started taking a closer look at our own relationship with money, possessions, and giving—and noticed a few things we didn’t expect. In this episode, we talk honestly about greed in a hyper-consumeristic world, the ways we’re each still growing, and how even something as good as “being a good steward” can sometimes become a reason to hold too tightly to what we have. This isn’t a polished lesson on generosity—it’s a conversation about what we’re noticing, confronting, and rethinking as we try to make generosity a deeper value in our lives and marriage. Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  4. Aug 5

    The Nerdy Path to Connection

    Most married couples want to feel connected—they're just exhausted. So connection often ends up looking like quietly watching TV together,  tackling hard conversations about conflict or pain,  or squeezing in the occasional date night (... if time, money, and childcare all cooperate.) But what if there's another path? In this episode, we talk about one of our fav connecting rhythms as a couple: learning together.  A short book.  A Bible study.  A topic we're curious about.  It's low stakes, doesn't require someone to be "the problem," and gives us something new to explore together. We've found that learning introduces fresh ideas, reveals sides of each other we hadn't seen before, and creates meaningful conversations that aren't built around stress, logistics, or conflict. Especially after years of marriage, it can feel like you've already heard all of your spouse's stories. Learning together creates new ones. If you're looking for a practical, inexpensive, and surprisingly connecting rhythm beyond date nights and difficult conversations, this episode is for you. Click here for the study on Generosity we mentioned.  Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  5. May 25

    User Error of Hope- if "have hope" feels like a chore

    What do you do when you’re losing hope in your marriage/a relationship? Not because you don’t love your spouse.  Not because you’re giving up.  But because the same painful patterns keep repeating, and you’re exhausted waiting for change. In this episode, we talk about why many of us misunderstand biblical hope, especially in relationships. We often treat hope like optimism, instant relief, or confidence our spouse will finally change. But what if hope was never meant to work that way? We explore why hope is not a feeling you wait for, but a perspective you cultivate, how to stay anchored when change feels slow, and why remembering God’s faithfulness matters in seasons of recurring pain. Because hope doesn’t always change your circumstances immediately, but it does change how you endure while waiting :)  Two Youtube Video Jenna refrenced about Hope:  #1 Video for "Remembering"  #2 Video for "Remembering" Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  6. May 7

    Never Enough: how your inner critic PRETENDS to be your coach

    Most people think the “never enough” voice in their head is the thing keeping them motivated. The voice that says: You should be doing more.You’re behind.You’re wasting time.You should be further along by now.But here’s the plot twist: that voice isn’t unique to you. Almost everyone hears it. The difference is not who hears it. The difference is who builds their life around it. The question is whether you’ve mistaken it for wisdom. In this episode, we unpack the sneaky way self-contempt disguises itself as responsibility, ambition, discipline, or drive. We talk about why so many people accidentally partner with an inner critic they think is helping them succeed—while constantly moving the finish line and dismissing their growth. We also explore: • why high-capacity people are especially vulnerable to this mindset • the difference between healthy conviction and chronic internal criticism • how the “never enough” voice fuels burnout, shame, comparison, and hopelessness • why progress becomes invisible when contempt is your measuring stick • how curiosity creates transformation more effectively than self-hatred ever will Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  7. Apr 13

    When you're emotionally raw, don't crowdsource your worth....

    Emotionally raw seasons can heighten everything—especially the desire to feel seen, known, and secure. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to build a preventative habit of anchoring your identity in God first, rather than turning to others to define your worth in vulnerable moments. Over time, you begin to realize that where you go for reassurance in hard seasons shapes not only your peace, but your relationships. This conversation is about learning to navigate those seasons with more stability, more clarity, and less unnecessary mess along the way. Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Click here for the interest list Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

  8. Apr 3

    Don't ask triggered people BIG questions

    Ever ask gradually big relationship question in the middle of an argument… and then regretted the answer? In this episode, we break down a common (but damaging) pattern: asking life-defining questions when someone is emotionally triggered. What it often looks like 👇 • “Why didn’t you invite me?” → “Do you have more fun with them?” → “So you don’t have fun with me?” → “Do you even enjoy being around me?” →“Do you even like me?” → “Are you happier without me?” → “Is something wrong with us?” → “Do you even want this relationship?” 😬 See how fast it escalates? We unpack: • Why triggered brains give exaggerated, painful answers • The “staircase” of escalation most couples fall into • The difference between curiosity vs. panic-driven questioning • What’s actually happening in your brain (emotional flooding + amygdala hijack) • Why you’re not “getting clarity”… you’re digging for pain And most importantly— the simple habit that protects your relationship: 👉 Don’t ask big questions when someone is triggered. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation more hurt than helped, this episode will give you a better path: pause → regulate → return to clarity. Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE Support the show ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here  >>> Become a sponsor of our shows This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much. Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!! patreon.com/TheHabitLab Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.  Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend! Links: Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

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Aaron and Jenna have been married for over a decade and love talking to people about their relationships, the messiness, the struggle and the victories in all of it. If you're married or planning on it, you can expect 1) Tools for the growth of your marriage and you personally 2) Hope for a healthy marriage no matter what you've experienced up to this point 3) Laughter and comfort when you say, "That's totally us!" and "We've been there!" If you've enjoyed our podcasts, would you consider financially supporting the show?We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps the Zints to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much!http://patreon.com/TheHabitLab

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