Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

Alissa Boyer
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Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are. New episodes every Tuesday!

  1. 1D AGO

    231. "Own Your Weird", Become Magnetic, & Stop Settling in Your Relationships w/ Case Kenny

    In this episode, Alissa sits down with writer and speaker Case Kenny for a conversation about self-expression, confidence, and what it really means to stop shrinking yourself. They explore why embracing your “cringe,” intensity, and nonconforming traits is actually magnetic, and why the fear of being judged keeps so many Highly Sensitive People playing small. The conversation expands into relationships. How to know if someone amplifies you, why “low maintenance” is often code for self-abandonment, and why we should aim to “settle up,” not settle down. This episode is an invitation to raise your standards, trust your essence, and choose relationships that expand you. In this episode, you'll learn: Why accepting judgment is more empowering than avoiding itHow your “cringe” attracts aligned peopleWhat confidence really is (a willingness to be uncomfortable)How to use regret as a decision filterThe difference between settling down and settling upWhy healthy relationships amplify who you already areThe truth about being “high maintenance” vs. having high standards Connect with Case Kenny: https://www.casekenny.com/ https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/ Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: a...

    46 min

  2. FEB 10

    230. Are you betraying yourself to keep the peace? An honest look at the relationships you're outgrowing

    Season 2.0 of the Not Too Sensitive Podcast is officially here, and Alissa is back after a much-needed break with a renewed vision for the show. In this episode, Alissa shares what shifted during her time away. Then from there, the conversation turns to one of the most common (and painful) patterns Highly Sensitive People experience in relationships: betraying themselves in order to keep the peace. Alissa breaks down how people-pleasing, over-giving, and self-silencing often stem from low self-worth and abandonment wounds, and why relationships that require you to abandon yourself were never sustainable to begin with. This episode is an honest invitation to take ownership of your role in relationship dynamics and to step fully into the version of yourself who no longer self-abandons for approval or safety. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why Alissa took a break and what inspired Season 2.0 of the podcastHow living as your future self changes what you attract and tolerateThe subtle ways HSPs betray themselves to avoid conflict or abandonmentWhy low self-worth fuels people-pleasing and over-giving patternsWhat it means to “teach people how to treat you” (without self-blame)Why some relationships fall apart when you stop self-abandoningHow choosing yourself becomes less painful than staying silentWhat reciprocal, aligned relationships actually require from you Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    28 min

  3. 12/23/2025

    229. Living in Alignment as an HSP (A Personal Reflection, Pod Updates, + What I See Coming in 2026)

    As 2025 comes to a close, Alissa shares a reflective and personal episode about endings, rebirth, and learning how to live in true alignment, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person. This year held profound milestones and massive shifts: signing a book deal, welcoming a new baby after pregnancy loss, navigating postpartum life while writing a book, and feeling the internal pull to realign how she shows up creatively and professionally. Alissa also shares what’s been lighting her up lately, from writing long-form essays on Substack to witnessing the depth, courage, and growth happening inside the Not Too Sensitive Club. At the heart of this conversation is a powerful reminder: alignment isn’t about forcing consistency. It’s about listening closely to what feels true now. In this episode, you’ll hear: Reflections on the major personal and professional shifts of 2025What it’s been like writing a book while postpartum and raising two young childrenWhy Substack has become a creative home for deeper, slower, more meaningful connectionHow the Not Too Sensitive Club supports identity, growth, and living as your future selfWhy Highly Sensitive People are uniquely suited for this next era of depth, authenticity, and connectionThe intuition-led decision to pause and reimagine the podcast before returning in 2026 Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    22 min

  4. 12/16/2025

    228. When You Can’t Stop Worrying What People Think of You

    In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking. She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s perceptions is essential for emotional freedom. Through personal stories and client experiences, Alissa explores why sensitive, empathetic people often end up shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and abandoning themselves in order to feel liked or safe, and what needs to change in order to stop that cycle for good. In this episode, you’ll hear: The difference between healthy empathy and self-erasing empathyWhy HSPs often feel responsible for how others reactHow obsessing over others’ perception slowly erodes your self-worthWhy shapeshifting to be liked never creates real connectionThe two core skills that free HSPs from external validation trapsWhat it looks like to feel safe being judged, misunderstood, or disliked Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    25 min

  5. 12/09/2025

    227. You’re Holding More Than You Realize: How to Be Compassionate With Yourself When Life Feels Like a Lot

    This week’s episode is a gentle reminder for all of us: you’re doing more than you realize, and it’s okay to acknowledge it. 💛 Alissa dives into a practice that she often share with her 1:1 clients and in the Not Too Sensitive Club. The practice is all about zooming out on yourself to witness all that you’re holding and doing. This is especially helpful during busy seasons (hello, holidays!) when it’s easy to get stuck in the “what’s missing” or “I’m not enough” mindset. In this episode, you’ll hear: How to show yourself compassion in the middle of overwhelm.A simple visualization practice to observe yourself from the outside.Why self-compassion is so much more effective than self-criticism, especially for highly sensitive people.How small acts of noticing, validating, and softening toward yourself can shift your energy and make your day feel lighter. Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    18 min

  6. 12/02/2025

    226. If You’re Tired of Asking “What’s Wrong With Me?”, Listen to This

    This week’s episode is a little different in the best way! Alissa is sharing a raw, unfiltered audio drop straight from Lucky Girl Radio, the private chat inside The Not Too Sensitive Club where she opens up about her personal growth, lived experiences, and the inner work she’s navigating in real time. In this behind-the-scenes glimpse, Alissa explores what it looks like to improve yourself from a place of self-acceptance rather than shame. She shares a recent real-life moment where she noticed a part of herself she wants to strengthen, and how she lovingly coached herself through it without spiraling into “what’s wrong with me?” energy. What You’ll Learn What it looks like to adopt a true growth mindset as a highly sensitive personWhy self-improvement rooted in shame keeps you stuckHow to notice growth opportunities without making them mean something negative about youA real-life example of Alissa catching an old pattern, and choosing a different responseThe difference between “I have something to work on” and “something is wrong with me” Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    19 min

  7. 11/25/2025

    225. Life Is Your Classroom: How to Enjoy the Holidays More as an HSP

    In this episode, Alissa offers a refreshing, grounded reframe for navigating holiday gatherings, especially when you’re a highly sensitive person anticipating old triggers, complicated family dynamics, or emotionally draining interactions. Instead of bracing yourself or rehearsing every response, she invites you to see these moments as a kind of “spiritual assignment” or gentle experiment: an opportunity to practice confidence, curiosity, boundaries, and self-regulation in real time. This perspective doesn’t dismiss the pain, history, or lived experience behind these moments. Instead, it provides a lighter, more empowered way to move through them so you can show up as the version of yourself you’re becoming. What You’ll Learn: Why holidays and family dynamics often feel overwhelming for highly sensitive peopleHow to bring a sense of levity and curiosity into emotionally charged situationsA powerful reframe for viewing triggering moments as opportunities instead of threatsWhy confidence and self-trust grow through discomfort, not in perfect environmentsWays to reward and support yourself after challenging interactions Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    17 min

  8. 11/18/2025

    224. What To Do When Someone Makes You Feel Small (Stop Shrinking + Start Carrying Yourself With Confidence)

    In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful behind-the-scenes moment from the very first Not Too Sensitive Club call, where the group explored how to use triggers as opportunities for healing instead of evidence that something is “wrong” with you. Through a real client example, she breaks down exactly how to move from blaming, spiraling, or shutting down to curiosity, self-validation, and empowered action. This conversation offers a grounded, compassionate reminder that being highly sensitive doesn’t mean you’re fragile. It means you have a deeper invitation to grow, self-advocate, and trust your own worth. What You’ll Learn: How to shift from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this showing me?”The essential first step in working with any triggerThe difference between self-validation and relying on others to feel worthyWhy confidence can feel like “arrogance” for HSPs — and how to reframe itA guiding question to help you choose the most empowered response Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    22 min
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Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are. New episodes every Tuesday!

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