Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

Alissa Boyer
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Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are. New episodes every Tuesday!

  1. 6D AGO

    234. Emotional Trailblazers: Why The World Needs Sensitive People Right Now w/April Snow

    In this episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author April Snow to talk about writing books, being seen as a highly sensitive person, and building resilience in a world that isn’t always HSP-friendly. They share what it’s really like to write a full-length book (including the vulnerability of putting your words on a printed page), how confidence is built through discomfort, and why highly sensitive people are uniquely positioned to lead with empathy right now. From fawning and people-pleasing to navigating criticism, creative risks, and visibility online, this conversation is an honest look at what it takes to trust your voice, even when it feels scary. If you’ve ever held yourself back because you’re “too sensitive,” this episode will challenge that narrative in the best way. You’ll learn: Why highly sensitive people need more representation and resourcesThe healing power of being seen (especially after relational trauma)How to stop making visibility “about you” and anchor into purpose insteadWhy discomfort is unavoidable, and how to choose the empowering kindThe difference between confidence and arrogance for HSPsBuilding resilience without burning yourself outHow to create a “supportive bubble” that allows you to show up in the worldThe importance of reducing consumption to reconnect with your intuitionWhy HSPs are emotional leaders and changemakers in subtle but powerful ways Connect with April: https://www.sensitivestrengths.com https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths Sensitive Circles community: an online hub for HSPs to find meaningful connection without the noise of social media. https://www.sensitivestrengths.com/sensitive-circles Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    51 min

  2. MAR 3

    233. Stop Avoiding Hard Things (It’s Keeping You Stuck)

    In this solo episode, Alissa dives into a core pillar of her work: expanding your tolerance for discomfort as a highly sensitive person. She shares how she is navigating an intense season of motherhood with little sleep and full emotional capacity, while also watching clients move through their own challenging chapters. She explores what it actually takes for sensitive people to build resilience and thrive through life’s ebbs and flows. Alissa unpacks how a sensitive nervous system can default to overwhelm, avoidance, and self-doubt, and how those patterns quietly reinforce the belief that “I can’t handle this.” She challenges listeners to see discomfort not as proof of inadequacy, but as evidence of growth. In this episode, she shares: Why avoiding discomfort keeps you stuckThe subtle ways you weaken or build self-trust through your actionsThe “growth gap” between who you are and who you’re becomingWhy empowered action often feels uncomfortable at firstHow perspective, faith, and intentional thinking transform hard seasonsThe importance of choosing expansion over staying small Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    29 min

  3. FEB 24

    232. Overcoming Victimhood Mindset, Creative Expression, & Finding Your Voice as a Sensitive Soul w/ Bailey Creativity

    In this episode, Alissa sits down with her longtime Instagram friend Bailey for a deep and honest conversation about creativity, self-worth, friendship dynamics, and what it really means to be an empowered highly sensitive person. Bailey shares her journey of feeling like an outsider growing up, watering herself down to fit in, and eventually finding her voice through poetry. This episode is a powerful reminder that sensitivity is not a life sentence of overthinking and overwhelm. It’s a strength when you take ownership of your inner world and stop outsourcing your worth. What You’ll Learn: Why creativity is deeply healing for highly sensitive peopleThe difference between healthy validation and victim mentalityHow victim narratives can quietly keep you stuckWhy “hurt people hurt people” isn’t an excuse for poor boundariesHow to stop choosing friendships based on potentialThe empowering shift from “this is who I am” to “this is something I experience”Why waiting to be “fixed” keeps you from living nowHow taking ownership of your role in relationships creates freedom Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    56 min

  4. FEB 17

    231. "Own Your Weird", Become Magnetic, & Stop Settling in Your Relationships w/ Case Kenny

    In this episode, Alissa sits down with writer and speaker Case Kenny for a conversation about self-expression, confidence, and what it really means to stop shrinking yourself. They explore why embracing your “cringe,” intensity, and nonconforming traits is actually magnetic, and why the fear of being judged keeps so many Highly Sensitive People playing small. The conversation expands into relationships. How to know if someone amplifies you, why “low maintenance” is often code for self-abandonment, and why we should aim to “settle up,” not settle down. This episode is an invitation to raise your standards, trust your essence, and choose relationships that expand you. In this episode, you'll learn: Why accepting judgment is more empowering than avoiding itHow your “cringe” attracts aligned peopleWhat confidence really is (a willingness to be uncomfortable)How to use regret as a decision filterThe difference between settling down and settling upWhy healthy relationships amplify who you already areThe truth about being “high maintenance” vs. having high standards Connect with Case Kenny: https://www.casekenny.com/ https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/ Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    47 min

  5. FEB 10

    230. Are you betraying yourself to keep the peace? An honest look at the relationships you're outgrowing

    Season 2.0 of the Not Too Sensitive Podcast is officially here, and Alissa is back after a much-needed break with a renewed vision for the show. In this episode, Alissa shares what shifted during her time away. Then from there, the conversation turns to one of the most common (and painful) patterns Highly Sensitive People experience in relationships: betraying themselves in order to keep the peace. Alissa breaks down how people-pleasing, over-giving, and self-silencing often stem from low self-worth and abandonment wounds, and why relationships that require you to abandon yourself were never sustainable to begin with. This episode is an honest invitation to take ownership of your role in relationship dynamics and to step fully into the version of yourself who no longer self-abandons for approval or safety. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why Alissa took a break and what inspired Season 2.0 of the podcastHow living as your future self changes what you attract and tolerateThe subtle ways HSPs betray themselves to avoid conflict or abandonmentWhy low self-worth fuels people-pleasing and over-giving patternsWhat it means to “teach people how to treat you” (without self-blame)Why some relationships fall apart when you stop self-abandoningHow choosing yourself becomes less painful than staying silentWhat reciprocal, aligned relationships actually require from you Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    29 min

  6. 12/23/2025

    229. Living in Alignment as an HSP (A Personal Reflection, Pod Updates, + What I See Coming in 2026)

    As 2025 comes to a close, Alissa shares a reflective and personal episode about endings, rebirth, and learning how to live in true alignment, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person. This year held profound milestones and massive shifts: signing a book deal, welcoming a new baby after pregnancy loss, navigating postpartum life while writing a book, and feeling the internal pull to realign how she shows up creatively and professionally. Alissa also shares what’s been lighting her up lately, from writing long-form essays on Substack to witnessing the depth, courage, and growth happening inside the Not Too Sensitive Club. At the heart of this conversation is a powerful reminder: alignment isn’t about forcing consistency. It’s about listening closely to what feels true now. In this episode, you’ll hear: Reflections on the major personal and professional shifts of 2025What it’s been like writing a book while postpartum and raising two young childrenWhy Substack has become a creative home for deeper, slower, more meaningful connectionHow the Not Too Sensitive Club supports identity, growth, and living as your future selfWhy Highly Sensitive People are uniquely suited for this next era of depth, authenticity, and connectionThe intuition-led decision to pause and reimagine the podcast before returning in 2026 Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    24 min

  7. 12/16/2025

    228. When You Can’t Stop Worrying What People Think of You

    In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking. She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s perceptions is essential for emotional freedom. Through personal stories and client experiences, Alissa explores why sensitive, empathetic people often end up shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and abandoning themselves in order to feel liked or safe, and what needs to change in order to stop that cycle for good. In this episode, you’ll hear: The difference between healthy empathy and self-erasing empathyWhy HSPs often feel responsible for how others reactHow obsessing over others’ perception slowly erodes your self-worthWhy shapeshifting to be liked never creates real connectionThe two core skills that free HSPs from external validation trapsWhat it looks like to feel safe being judged, misunderstood, or disliked Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    27 min

  8. 12/09/2025

    227. You’re Holding More Than You Realize: How to Be Compassionate With Yourself When Life Feels Like a Lot

    This week’s episode is a gentle reminder for all of us: you’re doing more than you realize, and it’s okay to acknowledge it. 💛 Alissa dives into a practice that she often share with her 1:1 clients and in the Not Too Sensitive Club. The practice is all about zooming out on yourself to witness all that you’re holding and doing. This is especially helpful during busy seasons (hello, holidays!) when it’s easy to get stuck in the “what’s missing” or “I’m not enough” mindset. In this episode, you’ll hear: How to show yourself compassion in the middle of overwhelm.A simple visualization practice to observe yourself from the outside.Why self-compassion is so much more effective than self-criticism, especially for highly sensitive people.How small acts of noticing, validating, and softening toward yourself can shift your energy and make your day feel lighter. Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    19 min
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Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are. New episodes every Tuesday!

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